Guest guest Posted September 7, 1999 Report Share Posted September 7, 1999 My son still has verbal stims, but interestingly the largest reduction in verbal stim behavior came from Fast ForWord. It's like it corrected an impaired hearing issue that seemed to decrease the stims. We also have a rule that " you can only say the same thing twice. " He actually thinks this is a funny rule, going back to the original time we set it when he kept saying, " dog, a best friend. " So now I prompt, " how many times can you say something over and over? " and he says, " two times. " Then he'll laugh and start saying " dog, a best friend...... " just to tease me. Stims ARE aggravating. They are the last behavior to leave because they are so much part of the children's life and even if they cause tremendous grief in the household, they are still a source of relaxing. We all stim on something. I twirl my hair all the time and I rub my feet together when I fall asleep. But it is easy for me to stop...for these kids, no way! Take a deep breath and try to relax. I know exactly how you are feeling. It is so frustrating and can really get under your skin. Also, have you tried a social story? Does your son read and understand stories? If so, try writing a simple story of appropriate times to stim. If you are lost about what I am saying, write me back and I will try to write a story for you. Becky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 1999 Report Share Posted September 7, 1999 Hi, My 14 year old daughter talks to herself constantly!!!! Its like there are 4 people in her room at all times. I pop my head in and ask her who she talking to.... of course she answers " No one " . Any ideas or programs that can help this? I'm going crazy telling, asking and demanding she stops talking to herself. Thanks for letting me vent, Dale Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 1999 Report Share Posted September 7, 1999 Dale Like I suggested to Trina, have you tried social stories? Becky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 1999 Report Share Posted September 7, 1999 Increasing the SSRI helped control the stimming in my son; also in addition to redirecting, we teach a socially appropriate " stim " ---ie my son loves to bounce balls, so we taught him to shoot baskets (with a lot of dribbling in between); the best thing we ever got my stimmy child is an expensive item , but WORTH every penny. It's a full sized trampoline , with the mesh sides, so he can't fall off---he stims to his heart's content out there, and other " regular " kids like to join him Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 1999 Report Share Posted September 7, 1999 I have a 14 year old son who does the same thing; when it's getting to me, I use it to start conversation with him, pulling answers out with repeateded questions from me, prompting his answers etc.---this is very difficult for him---so he quits the nonsense talking to himself to avoid another conversation with me! kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 8, 1999 Report Share Posted September 8, 1999 In a message dated 99-09-07 20:17:06 EDT, you write: << I have a 14 year old son who does the same thing; when it's getting to me, I use it to start conversation with him, pulling answers out with repeateded questions from me, prompting his answers etc.---this is very difficult for him---so he quits the nonsense talking to himself to avoid another conversation with me! kate >> Good tip Kate, I'll try anything..... Thanks, Dale Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 1999 Report Share Posted September 9, 1999 From Bounds: Two things that we have had some success with is one, joint compression. Start with the knuckle joints, hold the child's finger's firmly and press the joint together about 10 times then work your way up the arm -wrist, elbow, shoulders. Do the same with the legs. You might also try getting some light wrist and ankle weights and put them on your child when he or she is particularly active/distracted. Stemming seems to be the child's attempt to get sensory feedback from his/her body. These two practices provide that stimulus and help to calm them. You might also try brushing arms legs and back with a hand-held brush not too stiff (hard plastic) and not to soft (fiber) Brush in the same direction for about a minute on each extremity then the back. The challenge with this is to get a stemming child to stay still for it but it can be done. Just some suggestions. If you aren't or haven't seen an Occupational Therapist you should. They can give you lots of ideas on how to address this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 1999 Report Share Posted September 9, 1999 >>> <Kkscharste@...> 09/07/99 08:12PM >>> From: Kkscharste@... Increasing the SSRI helped control the stimming in my son; also in addition to redirecting, we teach a socially appropriate " stim " ---ie my son loves to bounce balls, so we taught him to shoot baskets (with a lot of dribbling in between); the best thing we ever got my stimmy child is an expensive item , but WORTH every penny. It's a full sized trampoline , with the mesh sides, so he can't fall off---he stims to his heart's content out there, and other " regular " kids like to join him Kate --------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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