Re: Tantrums and Communication

[Guest guest]

I'm very new here, and actually haven't gotten the diagnosis yet, but my son (2

on the 25th of this month) shows all the signs. He's being evaluated on Nov 26.

These links will be a big help.

Another thing that maybe someone here can help with. I'm home with on a

daily basis, and want to do what I can to promote his language development with

play, like which songs or games should we be playing, etc? Anything I SHOULDN'T

do that might stifle any attempts at talking, etc.

Thanks for any help.

ellen

In Memory Of Those Lost

September 11, 2001

>The following links below addresses common behavior challenges and

>suggestions for helping your child through these difficult times. Hope

>this helps some.

>Best Wishes,

> Mustafa

>Mom to Khalid (almost 15), Jadd (7.6) and Danya 10

Tantrums as Communication

http://www.thefamily.com/parenting/tantrum.html

The truth aboout Temper Tantrums

http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/behavior/tantrums.html

Tantrums and Communication

http://babyparenting.about.com/library/weekly/aa071800a.htm?terms=tantrums

Three and Throwing Tantrums

http://babyparenting.about.com/gi/dynamic/offsite.htm?site=http%3A%2F%2Ffamily.g\

o.com%2Fraisingkids%2Fchild%2Fdev%2Fexpert%2Fdony18faattitude%2Fdony18faattitude\

..html

Temper Tantrums

http://babyparenting.about.com/msubtantrums.htm

Communicating with Your Child

http://babyparenting.about.com/library/blLang2.htm

Helping toddlers through their tantrums

ttp://babyparenting.about.com/gi/dynamic/offsite.htm?site=http://www.boston.com/\

globe/columns/meltz/092597.htm

Behaviors

http://babyparenting.about.com/sitesearch.htm?TopNode=999 & SUName=babyparenting & m\

eta=rs & terms=Behaviors

Practicing Temper Tantrums

http://babyparenting.about.com/library/weekly/blstory.htm?terms=tantrums

Sesameworkshop: Anger

http://babyparenting.about.com/gi/dynamic/offsite.htm?site=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.ctw.\

org%2Fbabyworkshop%2Flibrary%2Farticle%2F0%2C3170%2CMzk2Miw1OTUwMQ%3D%3D%2C00.ht\

ml

Social Skills And The Special-Needs Child

http://babyparenting.about.com/gi/dynamic/offsite.htm?site=http%3A%2F%2Ffamily.g\

o.com%2Fraisingkids%2Fchild%2Fdev%2Fexpert%2Fdony18faattitude%2Fdony18faattitude\

..html

Book Review: First Aid for Tantrums

http://babyparenting.about.com/library/weekly/aa022899.htm?terms=frustration+

[Guest guest]

Thanks for all the links! Just wanted to let everyone know

that you may have to cut and paste some of the longer ones. But while I was

here-thought I'd send out something interesting I found from a child's

perspective on behavior!-

[Guest guest]

Hi ann!

Since you are not sure whether your child is apraxic or not-here is

some basic information that can help to encourage healthy language

development in your child. There are many more suggestions for " at home "

things you can do to help for speech delays, as well as suggestions for those

children who have speech disorders as well.

Is your child in Early Intervention through the state? They would

know where your child is developmentally and could offer suggestions

as to what is appropriate. You can also seek " homework " from private

therapists. Speech Pathologists (or Occupational Therapists, etc)

will typically give you " homework " that you can do together with your

child as well.

Good luck on November 26th! Is the evaluation with an SLP or a

neurodevelopmental pediatrician? It's good to have both at some

point. Since you say your child has " all the signs " , you can ask

your pediatrician for a referral to a neurodevelopmental doctor who

is knowledgeable about apraxia and autism so that he/she can rule out

or confirm any diagnosis, and look for the neurological " soft signs "

like hypotonia which frequently exist along with multifaceted

communication disorders -signs that also benefit from Early Intervention.

[Guest guest]

Hello my grandaughter has a wonderful speech therapist and she plays alot of

games with her and reads books.I do the same at home.A real good game is

Barnyard Bingo.It helps with words sounds and colors. She is esp. working on 2

word sentences. She says not to worry so much about the words being clear

yet. She says just get the words out and then work on the rest. She also has

her working on blowing whistles and bubbles to strebgther oral muscles. And

instead of when Leylah wants something, letting her just whine.She asks her

to use " her words " .And again even if its not the right words, atleast she's

attempting. I hope this helps some,Deb

[Guest guest]

--- In @y..., " ellen Weinberg " <weinberg@l...>

wrote:

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>what I can to promote his language development with play, like which

songs or games should we be playing, etc?

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ellen:

Welcome! My son, , turned 3 in Sept. and is apraxic. Almost

all of our major breakthroughs have come through music. He

began 'working' with his therapists and became less resistant when he

began a group session where they sang finger plays. After the second

session I caught him " singing " (/read 'signing') to himself in the

car on the way home. I make up words to simple songs using his name

to get over resistance ( " The on the Bus " , " Pa-Pa- will you

eat your dinner/Yes Mom, Yes Mom so I don't get any

thinner " , " Where's my , Where's my , time to get dressed "

and so forth).

Last week we got from the library one of the Wee Sing videos and that

has become a favorite. With these new songs to sing around the house

we have chased away more of the tantrums and resistance. I use our

songs and the video as incentives for compliance.

Margaret...'s Mom

[Guest guest]

Ellen,

videos are our FAVORITE reward for anything.

Music helps our daughter speak like nothing other!

>Deb (PA)

--- mags102@... wrote:

> >what I can to promote his language development with

> play, like which

> songs or games should we be playing, etc?

>

> --------------------------\

> ellen:

> Welcome! My son, , turned 3 in Sept. and is

> apraxic. Almost

> all of our major breakthroughs have come through

> music. He

> began 'working' with his therapists and became less

> resistant when he

> began a group session where they sang finger plays.

> After the second

> session I caught him " singing " (/read 'signing') to

> himself in the

> car on the way home. I make up words to simple

> songs using his name

> to get over resistance ( " The on the Bus " ,

> " Pa-Pa- will you

> eat your dinner/Yes Mom, Yes Mom so I don't get any

> thinner " , " Where's my , Where's my , time

> to get dressed "

> and so forth).

>

> Last week we got from the library one of the Wee

> Sing videos and that

> has become a favorite. With these new songs to sing

> around the house

> we have chased away more of the tantrums and

> resistance. I use our

> songs and the video as incentives for

> compliance.

>

> Margaret...'s Mom

[Guest guest]

Hi Everyone,

My 4 1/2 year old apraxic son loves music but can't sing. He can't say the

words when they all run together. He just does a sort of humming. Does

anyone else have this problem? Or is this more a symptom of his hyptonia?

[Guest guest]

,

It sounds like your son might really like the " Time to Sing " CD. It was

made in cooperation with the Pittsburgh Symphony Orchestra, especially for

apraxic kids. Hammer was the speech pathologist behind it. It's got

some great arrangements of favorite children's songs at an easy, slow tempo.

If you searched for the Pittsburgh Symphony Orchestra website, I'm sure

you'd be able to find out how to order it.

Best wishes,

Ann

Re: [ ] Re: Tantrums and Communication

> Hi Everyone,

> My 4 1/2 year old apraxic son loves music but can't sing. He can't say

the

> words when they all run together. He just does a sort of humming. Does

> anyone else have this problem? Or is this more a symptom of his hyptonia?

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hey -

Have you heard of the " Time to Sing " CD? The concept of this CD is to slow down

the pace of popular children's songs to enable children with speech problems to

sing along, while simultaneously maintaining musical integrity and professional

quality.

This project was started by2 parents of children with apraxia - a speech and

language professional was a consultant, and Moricz, music director of

Mr. Rodger's Neighborhood also contributed.

Both of my son's LOVE this CD as they can both sing with it and actually keep up

with the words and the tempo. My 4 year old (who has apraxia of speech) used to

hate music and cover his ears when he heard it. I think it was because he

couldn't sing along and wasn't very coordinated to dance. He is now learning to

love music - and especially loves this CD. We both sing as loud as we can and

dance!!

You can order the CD here:

http://www.pittsburghsymphony.org/time2sing.html

Carnell

North Carolina

www.verbaldyspraxia.com

Re: [ ] Re: Tantrums and Communication

Hi Everyone,

My 4 1/2 year old apraxic son loves music but can't sing. He can't say the

words when they all run together. He just does a sort of humming. Does

anyone else have this problem? Or is this more a symptom of his hyptonia?

[Guest guest]

Hi ellen -

My son was diagnosed when he was 2 1/2 and here are some things that we did:

We played with mirrors - I put mirrors on his level all through the house and we

would make faces at one another in them and really exaggerate our mouths.

Recently my now 4 year old got in trouble at preschool for sticking his tongue

out - I had to tell the teacher that is a good thing and very much accepted in

our house!! I am having to teach him now that he shouldn't do that at " work "

(that is what he calls school) - I guess I am one of the only mothers who jumps

up and down when my son sticks his tongue out at me!!!

Simple Puzzles - my son has always been a wiz at puzzles so I purchased the ones

where each piece is an object or animal - I would say " ball " and he would have

to attempt to say " ball " before I would give him the piece to put in the puzzle.

I NEVER expected perfection - just an attempt - ANY attempt. Sometimes if we

were having a bad day and he looked at me in a certain way, I would give him the

piece because I would swear he was saying it telepathically!!

Toy microphones - we purchased toy microphones - some were only 1 dollar at the

dollar store, some came as part of a tape player. We would sit on the floor and

say silly things - " BE BA " " OO AA " - Usually whatever his SLP was working with

him on we would work on at home. His daddy did this with him while he was

playing with him at night.

LOVED rough housing so his daddy would make things up for him to say

before he would pick him up and throw him around ( just playing of course - but

we discovered that some rough play was essential for him because of his sensory

integration - without it he would have trouble calming down to go to sleep).

One day the magic word would be " GO " - the next day " 1, 2, 3 " - and so on. Once

again - we worked with what his SLP gave us.

In the beginning we mainly worked on signing - but the same principal. Try to

make it fun for your son, whatever he enjoys you can incorporate speech into.

Don't expect perfection - Having fun and laughing is half the therapy - if he

associates it with fun, then he will want to continue. Also - we would only do

these exercises a few minutes many times a day. Don't expect to sit down with

him for 30 minutes and have him concentrate and " talk " - we would do 5 minutes

here, 5 minutes there. We would do the mirror things whenever we happened to

pass one of our many mirrors. After a while, I would find him in his room

making faces by himself in his mirror!!!

I hope this helps a little. A great catalog to look at is superduperinc - they

have great toys and ideas for speech - their website is www.superduperinc.com

You can have them send you a free catalog.

Have Fun!!

Carnell

North Carolina

www.verbaldyspraxia.com

>I'm very new here, and actually haven't gotten the diagnosis yet, but my son

(2 on the 25th of this month) shows all the signs. He's being evaluated on Nov

26. These links will be a big help.

>Another thing that maybe someone here can help with. I'm home with

on a daily basis, and want to do what I can to promote his language development

with play, like which songs or games should we be playing, etc? Anything I

SHOULDN'T do that might stifle any attempts at talking, etc.

>Thanks for any help.

>ellen