AND Mike

[Guest guest]

Gosh -- we sure DO have a lot in common!!! I

knew we did when we started writing to each other, but

now I see we have even MORE in common!!

Thank you so much for writing what you did. As

pathetic as this may sound, Mike actually made me tear

up with what he said. He really does love you and that

was SO nice to hear. I am forwarding your message to

's e-mail so he can read it.

and I are at a point where we dont know what to

do. If someone could say " OK - you will be better

in...5 months " , we could deal. It's this not knowing

that I think is the most frustrating. I always thought

our marriage was strong, but we have never had to face

something like this before. It is very scary!

Anyhow, just wanted to thank you, both, again. I will

write back to you, privatley....dont worry....I still

have your letter here, knowing I have to reply! I just

havent had the time. Bye for now

--Michele U.

--- oobadooba <oobadooba@...> wrote:

> From: " oobadooba " <oobadooba@...>

>

> My husband and I weren't married even a year when I

> got too ill to work in

> 94. We almost got a divorce .It was aweful.This

> illness can tear you apart

> from each other or make you closer. You are on the

> same team. It is

> stressful,but your marriage vows include " in

> sickness and in health " . Find

> a good counselor you trust who won't blame you for

> being ill.Obviously it

> isn't your fault you are ill. My husband has

> something to say too. I am

> forcing him to say it...Kidding. Good luck

>

> , This is Mike, 's husband. I just

> want to send a message to

> your husband about our marriage. We have been

> married for five years

> earlier this month, four of those years were with

cfs

> and it is stronger

> than most and it is because of cfs. We were in the

> same position that you

> guys are in, arguing alot and such, I actually left

> for a week! that is

> something I will be ashamed of for the rest of my

> life.

> My point is, that the time that you guys would have

> spent " doing " things

> which require physical exertion that your body

simply

> won't allow can be

> spent getting to know each other, I mean REALLY know

> each other. I don't

> think and I really knew each other for the

> first two years of our

> relationship. Now we can talk about anything at any

> time, and we have this

> unbelievable trust, the kind that really has to be

> developed. Another good

> thing about cfs is the longer your lovely wife has

to

> sleep, the more time

> you have to watch her and think about the woman

> inside the " less than

> healthy " body.

>

>

> for what it's worth,

>

> Mike

>

> counselor or social

> worker on Long Island, NY

>

>

> >From: Michele Umbach <musharina73@...>

> >

> >

> >Hi all. Sorry if this is a bit off topic, but I

> dont

> >know where else to turn. Does anyone know of a

> >counselor or social worker in Long Island, New

York?

> I

> >got sick exactly 1 year after I was married (have

> been

> >sick 9 1/2 months now) and my husband and I are

> really

> >starting to argue a lot. We both think it would be

> >good if we went and spoke to someone. My problem is

> >that I dont know anyone. I am not about to go to

> >someone who doesnt believe that CFS and Fibro

exist,

> so

> >that is my dilemma. Anyone have any suggestions??

> >

> >Thanks again!! -- Michele U.

>

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