Guest guest Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 I don't know about anywhere else, but in Iowa if they don't attend at least half the classes in school they get a GED and not a high school diploma. This bothered me. Anyone else have these issues?From: miranda.flemming <miranda.flemming@...>Subject: homeschooling?Autism and Aspergers Treatment Date: Thursday, June 17, 2010, 6:19 AM I have just written a hub (article) about how I am considering homeschooling my AS son. Comments welcome. Miranda http://hubpages.com/hub/Why-I-am-Considering-Homeschooling-my-Child Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 my son's story is similar to your son. i live in the usa. i took both my kids out of public school and homeschooled them thru on online program. it worked out well. i met other moms who helped me to keep my parttime job. once you get into the homeschooling world, you might be amazed how many families do it and the resources that are outnthere. my kids had better social opportunities than they ever did in public school. they were in a band for homeschoolers that was exceptional. i tried it for one year. my son learned to love learning. the stress went away and it brought happiness back to our family again. in the meantime, i decided to look for an appropriate school setting and get on wait lists, which gave me time to find the right school for him. that took three years. the online school will provide a teacher for you as support. you will be amazed what a relief it might bring to both you and your son. From: miranda.flemming <miranda.flemming>Subject: homeschooling?Autism and Aspergers TreatmentDate: Thursday, June 17, 2010, 6:19 AM I have just written a hub (article) about how I am considering homeschooling my AS son. Comments welcome.Mirandahttp://hubpages. com/hub/Why- I-am-Considering -Homeschooling- my-Child Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 A BRILLIANTHOMESCHOOLING PAGE...sandradodd.com From: miranda.flemming <miranda.flemming>Subject: homeschooling?Autism and Aspergers TreatmentDate: Thursday, June 17, 2010, 6:19 AM I have just written a hub (article) about how I am considering homeschooling my AS son. Comments welcome.Mirandahttp://hubpages. com/hub/Why- I-am-Considering -Homeschooling- my-Child Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 thanks for the encouragement that it worked out well for you. I feel comforted that there is an excellent distance learning program that can be tailored to my son's needs and there will be support and opportunities to practise social skills. My son is at breaking point. I have grave concerns for his mental health. I know it would be difficult and I would need to have timetable in place, but I know he needs to learn life skills too and we can incorporate things like meal preparation as learning opportunities too. Miranda > > > From: miranda.flemming <miranda.flemming> > Subject: homeschooling? > Autism and Aspergers Treatment > Date: Thursday, June 17, 2010, 6:19 AM > > > Â > > I have just written a hub (article) about how I am considering homeschooling my AS son. Comments welcome. > > Miranda > > http://hubpages. com/hub/Why- I-am-Considering -Homeschooling- my-Child > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 I just added a pros and cons table for each options. It seems to be financial security and concerns about my mental health vs the mental health, education and well-being of my son Miranda > > > From: miranda.flemming <miranda.flemming> > Subject: homeschooling? > Autism and Aspergers Treatment > Date: Thursday, June 17, 2010, 6:19 AM > > > Â > > I have just written a hub (article) about how I am considering homeschooling my AS son. Comments welcome. > > Miranda > > http://hubpages. com/hub/Why- I-am-Considering -Homeschooling- my-Child > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 my son was very anxious and depressed too. within a month, those disappeared and he really went back to his love for learning that he had developed before he ever went to school. I found that there were a lot of homeschool clubs. We even created a couple of our own clubs. We found a hobby shop that agreed to host a handful of boys to teach them how to put models together from an older gentleman that wanted to share his expertise. Then, we also did cooking classes from Whole Foods that were great. There are art classes, music classes, gym classes, etc., specifically designed for homeschoolers and once you meet a couple other moms, you will automatically hear about them from those moms. If you are at your absolute wits end, then you might be amazed to try it. I just looked at it from the point of view that it was only one year and then I could try something else. I ended up doing it for three years and they were the best three years I had as a mom with my kids. I will always be grateful for those years. I took a lot of criticism from family, friends and strangers who seemed to think they know more about my child than I do. In the long run, I think they were jealous that I had taken on the commitment of something larger than life for my child. That is like a vocation or a calling to do something so unselfish as to sacrifice your personal time to help your child overcome his/her disability. That is no small task, but you will reap the rewards and so will your child. And, if it doesn't work out, well then you know you tried your best and it didn't work. No loss, just gain! Good luck. From: miranda.flemming <miranda.flemming@...>Subject: Re: homeschooling?Autism and Aspergers Treatment Date: Thursday, June 17, 2010, 8:40 PM thanks for the encouragement that it worked out well for you. I feel comforted that there is an excellent distance learning program that can be tailored to my son's needs and there will be support and opportunities to practise social skills. My son is at breaking point. I have grave concerns for his mental health. I know it would be difficult and I would need to have timetable in place, but I know he needs to learn life skills too and we can incorporate things like meal preparation as learning opportunities too. Miranda> > > From: miranda.flemming <miranda.flemming>> Subject: homeschooling?> Autism and Aspergers Treatment> Date: Thursday, June 17, 2010, 6:19 AM> > > Â > > I have just written a hub (article) about how I am considering homeschooling my AS son. Comments welcome.> > Miranda> > http://hubpages. com/hub/Why- I-am-Considering -Homeschooling- my-Child> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 I'm homeschooling both of my boys. My 10-year-old with aspergers and my youngest (7) who is not on the spectrum. It has worked out really well for us. Here in California, there are tons of families opting to homeschool, and there are a lot of options for homeschoolers: Park groups; gym classes for homeschoolers; a homeschool band in which my son takes violin. It's opened up a whole new world for my children. There also are a lot of aspergers children being homeschooled, because the schools were not meeting their needs and/or bullying, etc. If you have any questions, I'd be happy to answer them and share all the resources I've collected. Lora >> my son's story is similar to your son. i live in the usa. i took both my kids out of public school and homeschooled them thru on online program. it worked out well. i met other moms who helped me to keep my parttime job. once you get into the homeschooling world, you might be amazed how many families do it and the resources that are outnthere. my kids had better social opportunities than they ever did in public school. they were in a band for homeschoolers that was exceptional. i tried it for one year. my son learned to love learning. the stress went away and it brought happiness back to our family again. in the meantime, i decided to look for an appropriate school setting and get on wait lists, which gave me time to find the right school for him. that took three years. the online school will provide a teacher for you as support. you will be amazed what a relief it might bring to both you and your son.> Hotmail is redefining busy with tools for the New Busy. Get more from your inbox. See how. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 This is not a personal criticism, just an observation. Quite a number of mothers whom I know are anti-homeschooling because those who do homeschool have given them the impression that they think anyone who does not homeschool has consciously and deliberately chosen not to do something they know is best for their children for selfish reasons. Most mothers seem to be offended by that. I think it is important that we all present options we have tried as simply that: options that can be tried. If they work, that's great, If they don't, we try something else. But whether it is homeschooling, diet, supplements, exercise, or whatever, we should try to avoid giving the impression that those who choose not to go that way are somehow defective as parents. We all live with limitations, and sometimes we simply aren't able to do what we would like to do, or things we believe would be ideal. On 18/06/2010 12:09 PM, Wittman wrote:  my son was very anxious and depressed too. within a month, those disappeared and he really went back to his love for learning that he had developed before he ever went to school. I found that there were a lot of homeschool clubs. We even created a couple of our own clubs. We found a hobby shop that agreed to host a handful of boys to teach them how to put models together from an older gentleman that wanted to share his expertise. Then, we also did cooking classes from Whole Foods that were great. There are art classes, music classes, gym classes, etc., specifically designed for homeschoolers and once you meet a couple other moms, you will automatically hear about them from those moms. If you are at your absolute wits end, then you might be amazed to try it. I just looked at it from the point of view that it was only one year and then I could try something else. I ended up doing it for three years and they were the best three years I had as a mom with my kids. I will always be grateful for those years. I took a lot of criticism from family, friends and strangers who seemed to think they know more about my child than I do. In the long run, I think they were jealous that I had taken on the commitment of something larger than life for my child. That is like a vocation or a calling to do something so unselfish as to sacrifice your personal time to help your child overcome his/her disability. That is no small task, but you will reap the rewards and so will your child. And, if it doesn't work out, well then you know you tried your best and it didn't work. No loss, just gain! Good luck. From: miranda.flemming <miranda.flemming > Subject: Re: homeschooling? Autism and Aspergers Treatment Date: Thursday, June 17, 2010, 8:40 PM  thanks for the encouragement that it worked out well for you. I feel comforted that there is an excellent distance learning program that can be tailored to my son's needs and there will be support and opportunities to practise social skills. My son is at breaking point. I have grave concerns for his mental health. I know it would be difficult and I would need to have timetable in place, but I know he needs to learn life skills too and we can incorporate things like meal preparation as learning opportunities too. Miranda > > > From: miranda.flemming <miranda.flemming> > Subject: homeschooling? > Autism and Aspergers Treatment > Date: Thursday, June 17, 2010, 6:19 AM > > >  > > I have just written a hub (article) about how I am considering homeschooling my AS son. Comments welcome. > > Miranda > > http://hubpages. com/hub/Why- I-am-Considering -Homeschooling- my-Child > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 were all those activities expensive? We will have restricted income if we attempt homeschooling Miranda > > > > > > From: miranda.flemming <miranda.flemming> > > Subject: homeschooling? > > Autism and Aspergers Treatment > > Date: Thursday, June 17, 2010, 6:19 AM > > > > > >  > > > > I have just written a hub (article) about how I am considering homeschooling my AS son. Comments welcome. > > > > Miranda > > > > http://hubpages. com/hub/Why- I-am-Considering -Homeschooling- my-Child > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 I must say that I would prefer not to go down this route and I do not judge people that don't homeschool. I have preconceptions about homeschooling too, but am now considering it seriously because my boy is not coping in mainstream school. Miranda > > > > > > > > > From: miranda.flemming <miranda.flemming> > > > Subject: homeschooling? > > > Autism and Aspergers Treatment > > > Date: Thursday, June 17, 2010, 6:19 AM > > > > > > > > > Â > > > > > > I have just written a hub (article) about how I am considering > > homeschooling my AS son. Comments welcome. > > > > > > Miranda > > > > > > http://hubpages. <http://hubpages./> com/hub/Why- > > I-am-Considering -Homeschooling- my-Child > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 trying to reduce his anxiety is a priority. Two options I see is meds plus special accomodations at school or homeschooling. Since his anxiety is tied up with school and so young, we're reluctant to use meds. I'm not sure what other options there are. Has anyone managed to help their young child work through their anxiety about school quickly and successfully? Meds won't help with sensory issues? Miranda > > > > > > > > > From: miranda.flemming <miranda.flemming> > > > Subject: homeschooling? > > > Autism and Aspergers Treatment > > > Date: Thursday, June 17, 2010, 6:19 AM > > > > > > > > > Â > > > > > > I have just written a hub (article) about how I am considering > > homeschooling my AS son. Comments welcome. > > > > > > Miranda > > > > > > http://hubpages. <http://hubpages./> com/hub/Why- > > I-am-Considering -Homeschooling- my-Child > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 I do think if you're going to homeschool, it is a good thing to be passionate about it. You will be making sacrifices to doing it. IAlso, it's common for a child who has been in school, at first, to not want to do anything at home. And with autism children, it's very hard not to have the structure anymore at first. But they love homeschooling-- take breaks when they want, eat when they need to, rest, stay with a subject, or change a subject. They have a teacher who praises them and wants the most from them. They get to let you know what they want to learn, what they understand, you can go at their pace. They get individualized attention. Their learning experiences are diverse. Wonderful way to build self-esteem. You can spend a lot of money homeschooling, or be creative. Make your own curriculum-- go to www.worldbook.com (it's been a long time for me, so not sure what's still there). They have a year by year what kids should learn guide, and believe me most places are not as thorough as that in requirements. What Fawn couldn't do, my daughter, we created an exercise just to expose her. Field trips are a great way to learn. There are classes to take at museums, churches, etc. We had a good arrangement if we couldn't afford a class, we got scholarships. Or we could get ours for free by bringing in 3 others. We put on a lot of classes, and Fawn enjoyed passing out the materials. Find other parents in your area. And take turns teaching classes, making groups, organizing park activities, etc. Can find lots of neat things to do related to a subject online, too. Use library books instead of buying books. Another wonderful thing about homeschooling is you can stretch it out over all year, and take more days off inbetween. You can take it with you to travel, and learn where you're travelling, take in opportunities there. And there are opportunities around the house to teach lessons, like fractions in cooking, measuring, etc. Nina -- Nina Forest autismlearning@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 I hear what you're saying, . But I must add that most of the bias about homeschooling goes the other way. Those of us that homeschool are much more likely to be criticized than those that do not. Believe me, I have to answer questions from people on a daily basis. I haven't seen anyone on the list that has given the "impression that they think anyone who does not homeschool has consciously and deliberately chosen not do do something they know is best for their children for selfish reasons". Date: Fri, 18 Jun 2010 12:36:10 +1000Subject: Re: Re: homeschooling? This is not a personal criticism, just an observation. Quite a number of mothers whom I know are anti-homeschooling because those who do homeschool have given them the impression that they think anyone who does not homeschool has consciously and deliberately chosen not to do something they know is best for their children for selfish reasons. Most mothers seem to be offended by that. I think it is important that we all present options we have tried as simply that: options that can be tried. If they work, that's great, If they don't, we try something else. But whether it is homeschooling, diet, supplements, exercise, or whatever, we should try to avoid giving the impression that those who choose not to go that way are somehow defective as parents. We all live with limitations, and sometimes we simply aren't able to do what we would like to do, or things we believe would be ideal. Hotmail has tools for the New Busy. Search, chat and e-mail from your inbox. Learn more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 Miranda, You can request that your son be given breaks when needed in school. They should have a quiet room that he can retreat to when he feels overwhelmed. I also had a friend who had her son's IEP written so that she got the lesson plans from the teacher in advance, so that she could go over the information with her son. This helped when he missed chunks of time in his class in order to take sensory breaks. If I think of some other ideas, I'll write some more later. I'm a little incoherent right now, because my son kept me up all night because of his stomach virus. Let's hope I (and he) can get a full night's rest. Take care,Lora Autism and Aspergers Treatment From: miranda.flemming@...Date: Fri, 18 Jun 2010 03:16:22 +0000Subject: Re: homeschooling? trying to reduce his anxiety is a priority. Two options I see is meds plus special accomodations at school or homeschooling. Since his anxiety is tied up with school and so young, we're reluctant to use meds. I'm not sure what other options there are. Has anyone managed to help their young child work through their anxiety about school quickly and successfully? Meds won't help with sensory issues? Miranda The New Busy think 9 to 5 is a cute idea. Combine multiple calendars with Hotmail. Get busy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 all those things appeal to me and I think will work well with my son. Currently, I do use home activities like cooking to teach fractions and we borrow library books in his special interests (a current one is tornadoes). I think his self-esteem is a bit down the tubes at the moment with continually failing socially etc. We can get an exemption from distance school fees because of disability. Their curriculum is flexible eg can take advanced classes if able in some subjects Miranda > > I do think if you're going to homeschool, it is a good thing to > be passionate about it. You will be making sacrifices to doing > it. IAlso, it's common for a child who has been in school, at > first, to not want to do anything at home. And with autism > children, it's very hard not to have the structure anymore at > first. But they love homeschooling-- take breaks when they want, > eat when they need to, rest, stay with a subject, or change a > subject. They have a teacher who praises them and wants the most > from them. They get to let you know what they want to learn, what > they understand, you can go at their pace. They get > individualized attention. Their learning experiences are > diverse. Wonderful way to build self-esteem. You can spend a > lot of money homeschooling, or be creative. Make your own > curriculum-- go to [1]www.worldbook.com (it's been a long time > for me, so not sure what's still there). They have a year by year > what kids should learn guide, and believe me most places are not > as thorough as that in requirements. What Fawn couldn't do, my > daughter, we created an exercise just to expose her. Field trips > are a great way to learn. There are classes to take at museums, > churches, etc. We had a good arrangement if we couldn't afford a > class, we got scholarships. Or we could get ours for free by > bringing in 3 others. We put on a lot of classes, and Fawn > enjoyed passing out the materials. Find other parents in your > area. And take turns teaching classes, making groups, organizing > park activities, etc. Can find lots of neat things to do related > to a subject online, too. Use library books instead of buying > books. Another wonderful thing about homeschooling is you can > stretch it out over all year, and take more days off inbetween. > You can take it with you to travel, and learn where you're > travelling, take in opportunities there. And there are > opportunities around the house to teach lessons, like fractions > in cooking, measuring, etc. > > Nina > > References > > 1. http://www.worldbook.com/ > -- > Nina Forest > autismlearning@... > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 I have suggested the school do that. I'm not sure how many hours he will be entitled to from special needs carer also. Is so painfully slow to get anything done. And of course, he's made up his mind that he hates school. Being rigid, it's hard to change his mind I have got the book out of the libary " the explosive child " - understanding and parenting easily frustrated,chronically inflexible children - that's my boy Miranda > > > Miranda, > > You can request that your son be given breaks when needed in school. They should have a quiet room that he can retreat to when he feels overwhelmed. I also had a friend who had her son's IEP written so that she got the lesson plans from the teacher in advance, so that she could go over the information with her son. This helped when he missed chunks of time in his class in order to take sensory breaks. > > > > If I think of some other ideas, I'll write some more later. I'm a little incoherent right now, because my son kept me up all night because of his stomach virus. Let's hope I (and he) can get a full night's rest. > > > > Take care, > Lora > > > > Autism and Aspergers Treatment > From: miranda.flemming@... > Date: Fri, 18 Jun 2010 03:16:22 +0000 > Subject: Re: homeschooling? > > > > > > trying to reduce his anxiety is a priority. Two options I see is meds plus special accomodations at school or homeschooling. Since his anxiety is tied up with school and so young, we're reluctant to use meds. I'm not sure what other options there are. Has anyone managed to help their young child work through their anxiety about school quickly and successfully? Meds won't help with sensory issues? > > Miranda > > > > _________________________________________________________________ > The New Busy think 9 to 5 is a cute idea. Combine multiple calendars with Hotmail. > http://www.windowslive.com/campaign/thenewbusy?tile=multicalendar & ocid=PID28326:\ :T:WLMTAGL:ON:WL:en-US:WM_HMP:042010_5 > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 anyone had success with keeping their explosive, anxious child that with sensory issues (mostly hearing) and auditory processing issues at school with a quiet place to escape to and any other strategies? He hates school. I am really concerned that I won't cope having him home 24/7 Miranda > > > > > > Miranda, > > > > You can request that your son be given breaks when needed in school. They should have a quiet room that he can retreat to when he feels overwhelmed. I also had a friend who had her son's IEP written so that she got the lesson plans from the teacher in advance, so that she could go over the information with her son. This helped when he missed chunks of time in his class in order to take sensory breaks. > > > > > > > > If I think of some other ideas, I'll write some more later. I'm a little incoherent right now, because my son kept me up all night because of his stomach virus. Let's hope I (and he) can get a full night's rest. > > > > > > > > Take care, > > Lora > > > > > > > > Autism and Aspergers Treatment > > From: miranda.flemming@ > > Date: Fri, 18 Jun 2010 03:16:22 +0000 > > Subject: Re: homeschooling? > > > > > > > > > > > > trying to reduce his anxiety is a priority. Two options I see is meds plus special accomodations at school or homeschooling. Since his anxiety is tied up with school and so young, we're reluctant to use meds. I'm not sure what other options there are. Has anyone managed to help their young child work through their anxiety about school quickly and successfully? Meds won't help with sensory issues? > > > > Miranda > > > > > > > > _________________________________________________________________ > > The New Busy think 9 to 5 is a cute idea. Combine multiple calendars with Hotmail. > > http://www.windowslive.com/campaign/thenewbusy?tile=multicalendar & ocid=PID28326:\ :T:WLMTAGL:ON:WL:en-US:WM_HMP:042010_5 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 I know being a parent is tough, especially with children such as ours. But first we must accept these children as gifts and not as difficulties. They have difficulties, yes, but they can be worked around. There is a learning style out there that will make your son like school again, someone just hasnt found the key yet. Finding the right 'key' is the plan. The auditory/ sensory issues could be more controlled in a home setting, as could more one on one learning to help him enjoy school more.A great book is "The big WHAT NOW Book of Learning Styles" by Carol BarnierShe was a homeschooler and was scared as well, but came up with fun and exciting ways of learning, and then put those ways into this great book.If you need any more information or need to contact me direct, I am the President of a nonprofit called The Asperger Child Inc at wwww.TheAspergerChild.org From: miranda.flemming <miranda.flemming@...>Autism and Aspergers Treatment Sent: Fri, June 18, 2010 3:41:35 AMSubject: Re: homeschooling? anyone had success with keeping their explosive, anxious child that with sensory issues (mostly hearing) and auditory processing issues at school with a quiet place to escape to and any other strategies? He hates school. I am really concerned that I won't cope having him home 24/7 Miranda > > > > > > Miranda, > > > > You can request that your son be given breaks when needed in school. They should have a quiet room that he can retreat to when he feels overwhelmed. I also had a friend who had her son's IEP written so that she got the lesson plans from the teacher in advance, so that she could go over the information with her son. This helped when he missed chunks of time in his class in order to take sensory breaks. > > > > > > > > If I think of some other ideas, I'll write some more later. I'm a little incoherent right now, because my son kept me up all night because of his stomach virus. Let's hope I (and he) can get a full night's rest. > > > > > > > > Take care, > > Lora > > > > > > > > Autism and Aspergers Treatment > > From: miranda.flemming@ > > Date: Fri, 18 Jun 2010 03:16:22 +0000 > > Subject: Re: homeschooling? > > > > > > > > > > > > trying to reduce his anxiety is a priority. Two options I see is meds plus special accomodations at school or homeschooling. Since his anxiety is tied up with school and so young, we're reluctant to use meds. I'm not sure what other options there are. Has anyone managed to help their young child work through their anxiety about school quickly and successfully? Meds won't help with sensory issues? > > > > Miranda > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________________ > > The New Busy think 9 to 5 is a cute idea. Combine multiple calendars with Hotmail. > > http://www.windowslive.com/campaign/thenewbusy?tile=multicalendar & ocid=PID28326::T:WLMTAGL:ON:WL:en-US:WM_HMP:042010_5 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 Great advice From: Baer <amandabaer76@...>Autism and Aspergers Treatment Sent: Fri, June 18, 2010 4:39:15 AMSubject: Re: Re: homeschooling? I know being a parent is tough, especially with children such as ours. But first we must accept these children as gifts and not as difficulties. They have difficulties, yes, but they can be worked around. There is a learning style out there that will make your son like school again, someone just hasnt found the key yet. Finding the right 'key' is the plan. The auditory/ sensory issues could be more controlled in a home setting, as could more one on one learning to help him enjoy school more.A great book is "The big WHAT NOW Book of Learning Styles" by Carol BarnierShe was a homeschooler and was scared as well, but came up with fun and exciting ways of learning, and then put those ways into this great book.If you need any more information or need to contact me direct, I am the President of a nonprofit called The Asperger Child Inc at wwww.TheAspergerChil d.org From: miranda.flemming <miranda.flemming>Autism and Aspergers TreatmentSent: Fri, June 18, 2010 3:41:35 AMSubject: Re: homeschooling? anyone had success with keeping their explosive, anxious child that with sensory issues (mostly hearing) and auditory processing issues at school with a quiet place to escape to and any other strategies? He hates school. I am really concerned that I won't cope having him home 24/7 Miranda > > > > > > Miranda, > > > > You can request that your son be given breaks when needed in school. They should have a quiet room that he can retreat to when he feels overwhelmed. I also had a friend who had her son's IEP written so that she got the lesson plans from the teacher in advance, so that she could go over the information with her son. This helped when he missed chunks of time in his class in order to take sensory breaks. > > > > > > > > If I think of some other ideas, I'll write some more later. I'm a little incoherent right now, because my son kept me up all night because of his stomach virus. Let's hope I (and he) can get a full night's rest. > > > > > > > > Take care, > > Lora > > > > > > > > Autism and Aspergers Treatment > > From: miranda.flemming@ > > Date: Fri, 18 Jun 2010 03:16:22 +0000 > > Subject: Re: homeschooling? > > > > > > > > > > > > trying to reduce his anxiety is a priority. Two options I see is meds plus special accomodations at school or homeschooling. Since his anxiety is tied up with school and so young, we're reluctant to use meds. I'm not sure what other options there are. Has anyone managed to help their young child work through their anxiety about school quickly and successfully? Meds won't help with sensory issues? > > > > Miranda > > > > > > > > ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _ > > The New Busy think 9 to 5 is a cute idea. Combine multiple calendars with Hotmail. > > http://www.windowsl ive.com/campaign /thenewbusy? tile=multicalend ar & ocid=PID28326: :T:WLMTAGL: ON:WL:en- US:WM_HMP: 042010_5 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 The reason I'm terrified is because he is so rigid and easily frustrated. He blows up over nothing. I'm just being honest that I find it very hard (and his behaviour is very difficult). But I am doing my best as a parent to try and understand and help him Miranda > > > > > > > > > Miranda, > > > > > > You can request that your son be given breaks when needed in school. They should have a quiet room that he can retreat to when he feels overwhelmed. I also had a friend who had her son's IEP written so that she got the lesson plans from the teacher in advance, so that she could go over the information with her son. This helped when he missed chunks of time in his class in order to take sensory breaks. > > > > > > > > > > > > If I think of some other ideas, I'll write some more later. I'm a little incoherent right now, because my son kept me up all night because of his stomach virus. Let's hope I (and he) can get a full night's rest. > > > > > > > > > > > > Take care, > > > Lora > > > > > > > > > > > > Autism and Aspergers Treatment > > > From: miranda.flemming@ > > > Date: Fri, 18 Jun 2010 03:16:22 +0000 > > > Subject: Re: homeschooling? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > trying to reduce his anxiety is a priority. Two options I see is meds plus special accomodations at school or homeschooling. Since his anxiety is tied up with school and so young, we're reluctant to use meds. I'm not sure what other options there are. Has anyone managed to help their young child work through their anxiety about school quickly and successfully? Meds won't help with sensory issues? > > > > > > Miranda > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________________ > > > The New Busy think 9 to 5 is a cute idea. Combine multiple calendars with Hotmail. > > > http://www.windowslive.com/campaign/thenewbusy?tile=multicalendar & ocid=PID28326:\ :T:WLMTAGL:ON:WL:en-US:WM_HMP:042010_5 > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 1. Stay calm.2. Both of you need quite time.3. Find what his strengths are and reward those strengths, dont punish the negatives.4. Frustration leads to aggravation leads to an attack. Try to find the stimuli that is causing the frustration and wean it out altogether.5. Take time outs for both of you, but not in a negative way. Say "We both need some time by ourselves, you can do what you want for 15 minutes and so will I, and then we will get back on task, okay." Goes with #26. Repetitiveness and routine is key. Make it fun with whatever he enjoys, whether it is calendars, schedules, funny lesson plans ahead of time; be creative until you find what key fits his lock the best!! Then keep that key and don't lose it.7. Stay calm.8. Keep a monotone voice, a sweet voice, with these children. They tend to react better with it. Explain what they have done wrong AFTER the meltdown has occurred. Not during. Give them time to calm down as well. See #5. Use this during a meltdown.Homeschooling is difficult because a parent doesnt get the 'break' that they are used to getting. BUT, if they can make learning fun, the child can excel and so can the parent!!From: miranda.flemming <miranda.flemming@...>Autism and Aspergers Treatment Sent: Fri, June 18, 2010 5:54:40 AMSubject: Re: homeschooling? The reason I'm terrified is because he is so rigid and easily frustrated. He blows up over nothing. I'm just being honest that I find it very hard (and his behaviour is very difficult). But I am doing my best as a parent to try and understand and help him Miranda > > > > > > > > > Miranda, > > > > > > You can request that your son be given breaks when needed in school. They should have a quiet room that he can retreat to when he feels overwhelmed. I also had a friend who had her son's IEP written so that she got the lesson plans from the teacher in advance, so that she could go over the information with her son. This helped when he missed chunks of time in his class in order to take sensory breaks. > > > > > > > > > > > > If I think of some other ideas, I'll write some more later. I'm a little incoherent right now, because my son kept me up all night because of his stomach virus. Let's hope I (and he) can get a full night's rest. > > > > > > > > > > > > Take care, > > > Lora > > > > > > > > > > > > Autism and Aspergers Treatment > > > From: miranda.flemming@ > > > Date: Fri, 18 Jun 2010 03:16:22 +0000 > > > Subject: Re: homeschooling? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > trying to reduce his anxiety is a priority. Two options I see is meds plus special accomodations at school or homeschooling. Since his anxiety is tied up with school and so young, we're reluctant to use meds. I'm not sure what other options there are. Has anyone managed to help their young child work through their anxiety about school quickly and successfully? Meds won't help with sensory issues? > > > > > > Miranda > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________________ > > > The New Busy think 9 to 5 is a cute idea. Combine multiple calendars with Hotmail. > > > http://www.windowslive.com/campaign/thenewbusy?tile=multicalendar & ocid=PID28326::T:WLMTAGL:ON:WL:en-US:WM_HMP:042010_5 > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 Great answer , With the reward for positive behavior, I worked with a student who I feel was on the spectrum but was undiagnosed. He loved to build things, so I used his desire to build as a reward for doing classwork when he was asked to do it. There were times when he'd flat refuse to do anything and I'd play the waiting game with him. This young man built a super sonic jet out of oaktag and put in his own details, an orange train and many other neat ideas he had in his head. He was rewarded with time to build only after he did his work. All of his idea were tied into a book he had read and needed to show and share his understanding of what he had read. RhodaFrom: Baer <amandabaer76@...>Autism and Aspergers Treatment Sent: Fri, June 18, 2010 7:52:49 AMSubject: Re: Re: homeschooling? 1. Stay calm.2. Both of you need quite time.3. Find what his strengths are and reward those strengths, dont punish the negatives.4. Frustration leads to aggravation leads to an attack. Try to find the stimuli that is causing the frustration and wean it out altogether.5. Take time outs for both of you, but not in a negative way. Say "We both need some time by ourselves, you can do what you want for 15 minutes and so will I, and then we will get back on task, okay." Goes with #26. Repetitiveness and routine is key. Make it fun with whatever he enjoys, whether it is calendars, schedules, funny lesson plans ahead of time; be creative until you find what key fits his lock the best!! Then keep that key and don't lose it.7. Stay calm.8. Keep a monotone voice, a sweet voice, with these children. They tend to react better with it. Explain what they have done wrong AFTER the meltdown has occurred. Not during. Give them time to calm down as well. See #5. Use this during a meltdown.Homeschooling is difficult because a parent doesnt get the 'break' that they are used to getting. BUT, if they can make learning fun, the child can excel and so can the parent!!From: miranda.flemming <miranda.flemming>Autism and Aspergers Treatment@ groups. comSent: Fri, June 18, 2010 5:54:40 AMSubject: Re: homeschooling? The reason I'm terrified is because he is so rigid and easily frustrated. He blows up over nothing. I'm just being honest that I find it very hard (and his behaviour is very difficult). But I am doing my best as a parent to try and understand and help him Miranda > > > > > > > > > Miranda, > > > > > > You can request that your son be given breaks when needed in school. They should have a quiet room that he can retreat to when he feels overwhelmed. I also had a friend who had her son's IEP written so that she got the lesson plans from the teacher in advance, so that she could go over the information with her son. This helped when he missed chunks of time in his class in order to take sensory breaks. > > > > > > > > > > > > If I think of some other ideas, I'll write some more later. I'm a little incoherent right now, because my son kept me up all night because of his stomach virus. Let's hope I (and he) can get a full night's rest. > > > > > > > > > > > > Take care, > > > Lora > > > > > > > > > > > > Autism and Aspergers Treatment > > > From: miranda.flemming@ > > > Date: Fri, 18 Jun 2010 03:16:22 +0000 > > > Subject: Re: homeschooling? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > trying to reduce his anxiety is a priority. Two options I see is meds plus special accomodations at school or homeschooling. Since his anxiety is tied up with school and so young, we're reluctant to use meds. I'm not sure what other options there are. Has anyone managed to help their young child work through their anxiety about school quickly and successfully? Meds won't help with sensory issues? > > > > > > Miranda > > > > > > > > > > > > ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _ > > > The New Busy think 9 to 5 is a cute idea. Combine multiple calendars with Hotmail. > > > http://www.windowsl ive.com/campaign /thenewbusy? tile=multicalend ar & ocid=PID28326: :T:WLMTAGL: ON:WL:en- US:WM_HMP: 042010_5 > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 all the things nina suggests are so true. we were able to take trips as a family to different places---history museums, events, different cities and my kids learned a lot from that. also, just remember on the bad days that no one loves your child like you do. there are so many talented and caring teachers in the school, but they still dont love your child like you do. trust your instincts and don't be hard on yourself on the off days. my child has aspergers and nonverbal learning disorder, but we just took it slow and easy and he grew intellectually by leaps and bounds. i discovered his learning styles and he accelerated beyond his talents. then, now that he is in a school again, i know how he learns so i can help the teachers there solve problems about him. renee From: miranda.flemming <miranda.flemming@...>Subject: Re: homeschooling?Autism and Aspergers Treatment Date: Friday, June 18, 2010, 12:23 AM all those things appeal to me and I think will work well with my son. Currently, I do use home activities like cooking to teach fractions and we borrow library books in his special interests (a current one is tornadoes). I think his self-esteem is a bit down the tubes at the moment with continually failing socially etc.We can get an exemption from distance school fees because of disability. Their curriculum is flexible eg can take advanced classes if able in some subjectsMiranda>> I do think if you're going to homeschool, it is a good thing to> be passionate about it. You will be making sacrifices to doing> it. IAlso, it's common for a child who has been in school, at> first, to not want to do anything at home. And with autism> children, it's very hard not to have the structure anymore at> first. But they love homeschooling-- take breaks when they want,> eat when they need to, rest, stay with a subject, or change a> subject. They have a teacher who praises them and wants the most> from them. They get to let you know what they want to learn, what> they understand, you can go at their pace. They get> individualized attention. Their learning experiences are> diverse. Wonderful way to build self-esteem. You can spend a> lot of money homeschooling, or be creative. Make your own> curriculum-- go to [1]www.worldbook.com (it's been a long time> for me, so not sure what's still there). They have a year by year> what kids should learn guide, and believe me most places are not> as thorough as that in requirements. What Fawn couldn't do, my> daughter, we created an exercise just to expose her. Field trips> are a great way to learn. There are classes to take at museums,> churches, etc. We had a good arrangement if we couldn't afford a> class, we got scholarships. Or we could get ours for free by> bringing in 3 others. We put on a lot of classes, and Fawn> enjoyed passing out the materials. Find other parents in your> area. And take turns teaching classes, making groups, organizing> park activities, etc. Can find lots of neat things to do related> to a subject online, too. Use library books instead of buying> books. Another wonderful thing about homeschooling is you can> stretch it out over all year, and take more days off inbetween.> You can take it with you to travel, and learn where you're> travelling, take in opportunities there. And there are> opportunities around the house to teach lessons, like fractions> in cooking, measuring, etc.> > Nina> > References> > 1. http://www.worldbook.com/> -- > Nina Forest> autismlearning@...> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 when i post my comments, i want to make sure that i say i do so with the attitude "to each his own". i have been on all sides before---public schools, private schools, online schools, homeschool. what works for one might not work for another, but please do not misjudge my attitude. it is a calling that a mother has because he child is struggling or could benefit from an educational option. if a parent choses not to homeschool, i make no judgement against them. however, when i chose to homeschool, even those in my own family were judgemental against it. you have to give parents who are thinking about it support and encouragement and not judgement. From: Lora JB <lorajjb@...>Subject: RE: Re: homeschooling?Autism and Aspergers Treatment Date: Friday, June 18, 2010, 12:15 AM I hear what you're saying, . But I must add that most of the bias about homeschooling goes the other way. Those of us that homeschool are much more likely to be criticized than those that do not. Believe me, I have to answer questions from people on a daily basis. I haven't seen anyone on the list that has given the "impression that they think anyone who does not homeschool has consciously and deliberately chosen not do do something they know is best for their children for selfish reasons". Date: Fri, 18 Jun 2010 12:36:10 +1000Subject: Re: Re: homeschooling? This is not a personal criticism, just an observation. Quite a number of mothers whom I know are anti-homeschooling because those who do homeschool have given them the impression that they think anyone who does not homeschool has consciously and deliberately chosen not to do something they know is best for their children for selfish reasons. Most mothers seem to be offended by that. I think it is important that we all present options we have tried as simply that: options that can be tried. If they work, that's great, If they don't, we try something else. But whether it is homeschooling, diet, supplements, exercise, or whatever, we should try to avoid giving the impression that those who choose not to go that way are somehow defective as parents. We all live with limitations, and sometimes we simply aren't able to do what we would like to do, or things we believe would be ideal. Hotmail has tools for the New Busy. Search, chat and e-mail from your inbox. Learn more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2010 Report Share Posted June 18, 2010 most activities around my area are quite reasonable. some are even free. also, our online school had its own activity calendar for days to meet at parks to socialize, our books, supplies, internet service, computers were all provided free of charge by our online school as was the curriculum. the local libraries and museums often have homeschool activities as do churches sometimes, you will find many resources that are not expensive. plus, what i found is that i was not constantly writing checks to pay for things at school and did not have to send lunch money or pack a lunch----which actually saved us money in the long run. renee From: miranda.flemming <miranda.flemming@...>Subject: Re: homeschooling?Autism and Aspergers Treatment Date: Thursday, June 17, 2010, 10:57 PM were all those activities expensive? We will have restricted income if we attempt homeschoolingMiranda> > > > > > From: miranda.flemming <miranda.flemming>> > Subject: homeschooling?> > Autism and Aspergers Treatment> > Date: Thursday, June 17, 2010, 6:19 AM> > > > > >  > > > > I have just written a hub (article) about how I am considering homeschooling my AS son. Comments welcome.> > > > Miranda> > > > http://hubpages. com/hub/Why- I-am-Considering -Homeschooling- my-Child> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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