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Laurie,

This is wonderful! And, how often have WE been up at midnight? I can relate.

Marie

>

> Going thru old IPADD files today, adding some and purging old out of date

files, and came across this old essay written by the adult sister of a 50-some

year old with autism. One of the best-written, thought-provoking stories I've

ever read. And, of course, it happens to conclude with one of my favorite

themes, the importance of community helping to create jobs and meaningful lives

for our adults with significant disabilities. I hope I have even half the

energy and drive of this 89-year old mother in the story, who never gives up.

It's long, but worth a read if you have the time.

>

> Breakfast At Midnight

>

> Adults with cognitive disabilities should be able to have jobs to lead useful

lives-

>

> and we know what's needed to make it happen.

>

> by Judy Karasik

>

> It 's after eleven o 'clock on a Friday night, and my mother (Joan)

>

> has beaten me at Scrabble, as usual. As I close up the board, Joan reaches

into a

>

> drawer, pulls out a piece of paper folded in thirds, and hands it over. " See

what

>

> you think of it, " she says, taking a sip of late-night whiskey.

>

> I see that she's drafted a brochure for families of people with cognitive

disabilities-

>

> families like us-to encourage them to seek out vocational placements for

>

> their disabled family members. My mother's been an advocate, lobbying and

>

> working on policy for the past fifty-five years. She's starting to teach me

the ropes.

>

> As I flatten out the homemade trifold, we hear the sound of rushing water.

>

> " What's that? " I ask.

>

> " 's taking a shower, " my mother replies. " He's starting his day. "

>

> " He's starting his day? " I ask.

>

> " He's been going to bed earlier and earlier, " my mother replies. " He gets up

>

> around ten-thirty or eleven at night, takes a shower, gets dressed, and stays

up

>

> playing records, watching TV, and, I believe, occasionally sleeping. "

>

> " How noisy is he? " I ask.

>

> " It's not too bad, " Joan says. " I had to come downstairs last night and ask

him to

>

> turn down the sound, but mostly I sleep through it. "

>

> My mother is a very hearty eighty-nine-year-old, but she looks tired.

>

> A Difficult Visit

>

> This has been an especially difficult visit with my brother

>

> , who has lived with autism and mental retardation the whole of his

>

> fifty-nine years. I wouldn't be playing late-night Scrabble except for the

fact

>

> that is here, and Mom needs company, under the circumstances.

>

> Dave visits Joan once a month, usually for a long weekend, and twice a year

for

>

> extended periods like this week. He comes to Mom's house from where he lives-

>

> it's still hard for me to call it his home-in a townhouse about twenty minutes

>

> away with two other men who also have autism. They coexist, each in his own

>

> quiet autistic spin. We're lucky to have found a program that includes

residential

>

> placement; many people in his generation with cognitive disabilities live with

>

> family, including more than 700,000 of them whose caretakers are parents age

>

> sixty or older. 's residential counselor takes him grocery shopping, and

a vocational

>

> counselor takes him to a thrift shop where he volunteers twice a week for

>

> a few hours. We're working on getting him a job. He has a daily walk, a weekly

>

> dance where he sees friends. He doesn't do much else.

>

> What really wants to do are his writing and his shows. And that's what

>

> he gets to do at Mom's. writes. In his room at our mother's house,

>

> maintains a dresser drawer filled with stacks of paper. Sheet after sheet with

summaries

>

> of television shows, mostly from the 1950s and 1960s. He writes and reads

>

> through the stacks and rearranges the paper.

>

> also performs television shows. Since we were children, he has performed

>

> Superman shows, walking through the house, taking all the parts, with dialogue

>

> apparently selected at random, fragments of actual shows. " Gee, Jimmy, do

>

> you think the killer's in Mr. White's office? " " What do you think, Miss Lane? "

>

> He performs interview shows like Meet the Press. My brother sits at the dinner

table

>

> with a water glass at his elbow-he keeps track of the total number of shows

>

> on a given visit by the count of water glasses on the dining room

sideboard-and

>

> perfectly captures the cadence of wonk talk, although the actual words don't

>

> make much sense:

>

> " Mr. Ambassador, should we attempt an intervention in the Middle East? "

>

> " Well, the United States is ready, powerful, and likely to remain so. "

>

> A Private Colony Of Mirrors

>

> 's out of the shower, dressed, and headed to the kitchen.

>

> " Speaking of , " my mother says, " and speaking of jobs, have you heard

>

> back from the job developer? "

>

> At 's annual individual plan meeting two months earlier, the group

(consisting

>

> of , Joan, me, 's residential coordinator, his vocational

coordinator,

>

> and an independent advocate) had decided that an opening at a local big-box

>

> store would be a good possibility for . Once I'd gotten the official

paperwork,

>

> I'd followed up, to be sure that something was actually done to see that the

>

> job was still there and if was a good fit. He'd had a job like this one

several

>

> years back-and done brilliantly, promoted from working in the storeroom to

>

> working on the shop floor with customers-but the place had closed.

>

> I shake my head. " I started with the vocational director, she referred me to

the

>

> job developer, I left a message, I sent an e-mail, and I haven't heard

anything back, "

>

> I say. " It's been a week since I e-mailed. I was planning to call again

Monday. "

>

> " Do you think we should go out there and meet with them? " Mom asks.

>

> Then we hear trouble in the kitchen. I head in the direction of the noise.

>

> 's spilled about half a box of cornflakes. That's unlike him; he knows

how

>

> to get his breakfast. I grab a broom and sweep up while my brother stands at

the

>

> sink gulping down a bowl of cereal, as though he can't eat fast enough.

>

> " Slow down, Dave, " I say.

>

> He puts the bowl in the sink and twiddles his fingers, then rakes his scalp.

>

> " You're Wilbur! " he says, which means he's annoyed with me.

>

> " I just worry that you're eating your cereal too fast, " I explain. At the

dinner table

>

> recently, has been eating so rapidly that I've been afraid he'd be sick.

I

>

> hadn't understood why he was so anxious to finish and leave the table, but if

he's

>

> been getting up at eleven, no wonder he wants to get to bed before

seven-thirty.

>

> " The invisible cereal, " he says, speaking, as he often does, in the code of

, his

>

> forehead furrowing. " You're Wilbur! Wilbur the mischievous monkey! "

>

> I shrug and empty the dustpan.

>

> disappears and a few moments later the sound of a record popular in the

>

> 1960s-by an Australian named Rolf -blasts its chords from his room.

>

> " Dave, turn that down, " my mother calls to him.

>

> " Wilbur! " replies, but the sound fades to a reasonable level.

>

> What's eating him? I wonder. Thinking about Joan's whiskey, I go to the

cupboard

>

> for a glass for me. The shelf is empty. I look out into the dining room. I

hadn't

>

> noticed earlier, but every glass in the house is out, filled with water,

glinting in the

>

> light, crowding the sideboard, a private colony of mirrors, refracting

near-transparent

>

> shards of energy back and forth among themselves.

>

> I don't know entirely what all this means, but it doesn't feel good. 's

accelerating;

>

> he lines up his programs months in advance, the programs that soothe him

>

> and that his autism thrives on. He's doing more and more of them, and the

evidence

>

> of the glasses makes me think that he's dreaming of an infinite and

unachievable

>

> number of shows. He's trading day for night, living in a universe that

includes only

>

> his papers, the shows, his well-worn records. Very little is getting through.

>

> And it's not making him happy. He digs the grooves deeper, but he's not

getting

>

> the satisfaction he needs. It is as though the repetition is a drug, and he's

building

>

> tolerance to it. He wants more and more, and he's getting less and less.

>

> It's not that can't connect. A few nights earlier on this visit, our

friends

>

> Peg and Mike had come to dinner. I invited them in part because they know

about

>

> and are relaxed, curious, and big-hearted people. They are both

political

>

> junkies and love the idea of his talk shows; they are charmed that knows

the

>

> middle name of every congressional representative and senator who has served

in

>

> his lifetime. In addition, since Peg's mother has developed substantial

dementia

>

> during the past decade, they are used to fielding the occasional bizarre

comment

>

> and moving right along.

>

> That evening, the conversation went well, and it included . He stayed

>

> through dessert, didn't get to bed until almost ten o'clock, and slept until

five the

>

> next morning.

>

> Needing A Job And Friends

>

> It 's clear what needs. He needs a job and friends, and he probably

>

> shouldn't be living with other people with autism. He needs regular contact

>

> with people whose social skills are superior to his own. He's happier when

he's

>

> connected. And strong evidence indicates that people like my brother have a

contribution

>

> to make in the workplace and as friends. I can say this because society

>

> has made progress on successfully integrating people like .

>

> When was growing up in the 1950s, people like him were either kept at

>

> home or locked up in places where they were treated like infants (if their

families

>

> had money) or like animals (if their families did not have money).

stayed at

>

> home until his thirties, on what could be called a typical life path for

someone in

>

> his generation. Then he lived in a facility in the remote countryside, which

was

>

> state of the art-until society realized that people like were already

remote

>

> enough. Now he lives on an ordinary street in suburbia, near my mother and me.

>

> That's good-but when you look closely, you can see that it's not enough. In

this

>

> setting, the only nondisabled people knows are his family and the

professionals

>

> and paraprofessionals employed by his organization. So he retreats.

>

> 's life pales compared to the opportunities of subsequent generations of

>

> autistic children. This is largely because in 1974, when was twenty-six,

the

>

> federal government enacted the legislation now known as IDEA (the Individuals

>

> with Disabilities Education Act), and students with developmental disabilities

>

> were guaranteed entry into the public schools.

>

> That was thirty-three years ago, and thanks to the law on the one hand and

advocates

>

> on the other, each year greater numbers of children with disabilities have

>

> entered public school, greater numbers of teachers and administrators have

>

> learned how to teach them-and they have discovered that there are many more

>

> aptitudes, skills, and abilities inside these students than they had imagined.

>

> While the teachers grow to understand how the human brain-in all its

astonishing

>

> variation-works in our population, people with disabilities grow to understand

>

> the " typical " world. Surrounded by children who are interacting " typically, "

>

> motivated by the virtually universal urge to conform to peer norms, they

>

> learn the rules of " typical " communication. In after-school activities,

volunteer

>

> programs, and worship, they share experiences with " typical " children-and

their

>

> presence, in turn, enables inexperienced " typical " kids and adults to get over

their

>

> fears and prejudices.

>

> Many young citizens with disabilities have been provided with a free and equal

>

> education. Society has spent a great deal of money to educate our family

members.

>

> The question that remains, however, is: What happens to them-and to our

investment-

>

> after graduation?

>

> Getting The Right Job Placements

>

> Effective job placements exist. A range of limited resources and several

>

> decades of work have created gains that were unimaginable in my

>

> brother's youth. Today, disability job developers do the hard work of

developing

>

> relationships with a wide range of employers: chain video and drug stores,

>

> restaurants, offices, hospitals, retail outlets. After job placements, job

coaches

>

> gradually diminish supports as natural supports from colleagues and coworkers

>

> develop. Public awareness grows every time consumers become familiar with an

>

> " atypical " employee-and they'll see that employee again, because these

employees

>

> have often proved to be more reliable workers with longer tenure in jobs.

>

> By restructuring jobs, employers free up other employees from tasks such as

>

> preparing mailings, making photocopies, unpacking supplies and putting them

>

> away, filling copier trays and inserting toner, making coffee, setting up

rooms for

>

> meetings, recycling, shelving books in libraries.

>

> Sometimes people with severe developmental disabilities have outbursts or

>

> other behavior that disturbs and worries shoppers and coworkers. But many

employers

>

> report benefits to morale that they think balance those risks. They report

>

> that these " atypical " employees are sociable, enthusiastic, punctual, and

cheerful.

>

> There's a successful placement at our local grocery store. A man with

developmental

>

> disabilities is one of the guys who bag groceries and, when needed, helps get

>

> the groceries out to customers' cars. He's probably in his mid-twenties. His

language

>

> is heavily ritualistic, but he is fully a part of the team. His job has a

measure

>

> of predictability yet requires flexibility. He had a job coach for a while,

and now

>

> his coworkers continue to look out for him, but he does his job and carries

his

>

> weight. And everybody in the neighborhood knows him and talks with him.

>

> The problem is that he's the only person with a job like that in my world,

despite

>

> the fact that the public school system is producing qualified young graduates

>

> every year. Right now, an astonishing 90 percent of all people with

developmental

>

> disabilities are unemployed. These expensive public educations have enabled

>

> them to develop " typical " behavior, but the system for integrating them into

the

>

> workforce is piecemeal and improvisatory.

>

> Breakfast At Midnight

>

> I know well ; he's my brother. And I think that could have

>

> done a job like that, if he'd started early enough. I believe that if he had

more

>

> connections to people outside his family and beyond his circle of caretakers,

he

>

> would be happier and many times more productive.

>

> What happened to -and others like him-was a crime. In the past, we

>

> isolated people like and then accused them of being incapable of having

a

>

> normal conversation or appropriate social skills. We didn't let people like

him go

>

> to public school, and then we drew the conclusion that they couldn't learn how

to

>

> read or write or count. We didn't make the effort to be friendly to people

like my

>

> brother, to show them how we like to interact, and then we feared that they

would

>

> be likely to do something abrupt, frightening, and dangerous. We didn't give

our

>

> s opportunities to connect-and then thought it was only a sign of their

>

> oddness that they turned to the night, alone in a private world.

>

> Now we have educated several generations of these Americans-but we haven't

>

> created the policies and systems that enable them to have jobs. It's not their

fault

>

> that they don't have jobs, it's ours. Let's imagine them as workers, since

we've prepared

>

> them to be workers, and figure out how to open the door so that employment

>

> is an assumption, not an exception. My mother has taught me that change

>

> happens because of advocacy at the local level and policy work at the top. I'm

calling

>

> 's job developer, my mom is writing her brochure, but we need more.

>

> To start with policy: Right now, people like must deliberately earn

below

>

> minimum wage, working few hours or at a low wage, never accumulating enough

>

> capital to start saving, to keep their income at a low enough level for

eligibility for

>

> the essential supports of Supplemental Security Income (SSI) and Medicaid.

This

>

> gigantic disincentive to work prevents them from growing as employees and from

>

> building financial assets, both of which they deserve as working adults. In

addition,

>

> because this system stunts hours and achievement, agencies are unable to

>

> build the critical mass needed for strong workforce programs, and employers

and

>

> human resource departments never experience the full potential of including

this

>

> portion of our population as a regular part of the workforce. One way to break

this

>

> cycle of dependency would be to make it easy for people with cognitive

disabilities

>

> to have one foot in the public benefits world and another in the private

income

>

> world, at least for a period while they develop the skills to keep themselves

gainfully

>

> employed and the savings to ensure their permanent independence.

>

> As for systems: We need conversations among business, labor, disability

agencies,

>

> and human resource professionals in both the private and public sectors.

>

> These experts need to imagine a world in which our educated young people with

>

> disabilities get jobs, develop financial independence, and live right

alongside the

>

> rest of us-and then figure out what they have to do to create the systems that

can

>

> make that happen. They can examine needs, including liability issues,

supervision,

>

> and job restructuring, especially in public agencies. They can figure out the

fair

>

> way to give hiring preference to people with disabilities in selected job

categories.

>

> We have done half the job for the IDEA generation. People with a wide range of

>

> developmental disabilities are now publicly educated. The next step is jobs.

There

>

> is no point in paying for public educations and raising the expectations of

Americans

>

> like my brother and their families if we don't imagine-and don't put

sufficient

>

> resources into-integrating our s into public life. Without this next

>

> step, they will lose the ground they've gained. Without this next step, they

could

>

> all end up eating breakfast at midnight.

>

>

> N a r r a t i v e M a t t e r s

>

> HEALTH A F FA I R S ~ Vo l u m e 2 6 , Nu m b e r 5 1 4 3 1

>

> DOI 10.1377/hlthaff.26.5.1431 ©2007 Project HOPE-The People-to-People Health

Foundation, Inc.

>

> Judy Karasik (karasik@...) is a writer and consultant. She lives in Silver

Spring, land, and Vitolini,

>

> Italy. With her brother, cartoonist Karasik, she wrote The Ride Together:

A Brother and Sister's

>

> Memoir of Autism in the Family (Washington Square Press, 2003).

>

>

>

>

>

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Wow, it is definitely worth reading. I can relate to much of it with

except that doesn't do the midnight thing and types his stories instead of

writing them out now, he used to write them in pencil. He also had stacks of

papers but now keeps them neatly in a 4 " " green " binder because it's his

favorite color.

H.

Breakfast at Midnight

Going thru old IPADD files today, adding some and purging old out of date files,

nd came across this old essay written by the adult sister of a 50-some year old

ith autism. One of the best-written, thought-provoking stories I've ever read.

nd, of course, it happens to conclude with one of my favorite themes, the

mportance of community helping to create jobs and meaningful lives for our

dults with significant disabilities. I hope I have even half the energy and

rive of this 89-year old mother in the story, who never gives up. It's long,

ut worth a read if you have the time.

Breakfast At Midnight

Adults with cognitive disabilities should be able to have jobs to lead useful

ives-

and we know what's needed to make it happen.

by Judy Karasik

It 's after eleven o 'clock on a Friday night, and my mother (Joan)

has beaten me at Scrabble, as usual. As I close up the board, Joan reaches into

drawer, pulls out a piece of paper folded in thirds, and hands it over. " See

hat

you think of it, " she says, taking a sip of late-night whiskey.

I see that she's drafted a brochure for families of people with cognitive

isabilities-

families like us-to encourage them to seek out vocational placements for

their disabled family members. My mother's been an advocate, lobbying and

working on policy for the past fifty-five years. She's starting to teach me the

opes.

As I flatten out the homemade trifold, we hear the sound of rushing water.

" What's that? " I ask.

" 's taking a shower, " my mother replies. " He's starting his day. "

" He's starting his day? " I ask.

" He's been going to bed earlier and earlier, " my mother replies. " He gets up

around ten-thirty or eleven at night, takes a shower, gets dressed, and stays up

playing records, watching TV, and, I believe, occasionally sleeping. "

" How noisy is he? " I ask.

" It's not too bad, " Joan says. " I had to come downstairs last night and ask him

o

turn down the sound, but mostly I sleep through it. "

My mother is a very hearty eighty-nine-year-old, but she looks tired.

A Difficult Visit

This has been an especially difficult visit with my brother

, who has lived with autism and mental retardation the whole of his

fifty-nine years. I wouldn't be playing late-night Scrabble except for the fact

that is here, and Mom needs company, under the circumstances.

Dave visits Joan once a month, usually for a long weekend, and twice a year for

extended periods like this week. He comes to Mom's house from where he lives-

it's still hard for me to call it his home-in a townhouse about twenty minutes

away with two other men who also have autism. They coexist, each in his own

quiet autistic spin. We're lucky to have found a program that includes

esidential

placement; many people in his generation with cognitive disabilities live with

family, including more than 700,000 of them whose caretakers are parents age

sixty or older. 's residential counselor takes him grocery shopping, and a

ocational

counselor takes him to a thrift shop where he volunteers twice a week for

a few hours. We're working on getting him a job. He has a daily walk, a weekly

dance where he sees friends. He doesn't do much else.

What really wants to do are his writing and his shows. And that's what

he gets to do at Mom's. writes. In his room at our mother's house,

maintains a dresser drawer filled with stacks of paper. Sheet after sheet with

ummaries

of television shows, mostly from the 1950s and 1960s. He writes and reads

through the stacks and rearranges the paper.

also performs television shows. Since we were children, he has performed

Superman shows, walking through the house, taking all the parts, with dialogue

apparently selected at random, fragments of actual shows. " Gee, Jimmy, do

you think the killer's in Mr. White's office? " " What do you think, Miss Lane? "

He performs interview shows like Meet the Press. My brother sits at the dinner

able

with a water glass at his elbow-he keeps track of the total number of shows

on a given visit by the count of water glasses on the dining room sideboard-and

perfectly captures the cadence of wonk talk, although the actual words don't

make much sense:

" Mr. Ambassador, should we attempt an intervention in the Middle East? "

" Well, the United States is ready, powerful, and likely to remain so. "

A Private Colony Of Mirrors

's out of the shower, dressed, and headed to the kitchen.

" Speaking of , " my mother says, " and speaking of jobs, have you heard

back from the job developer? "

At 's annual individual plan meeting two months earlier, the group

consisting

of , Joan, me, 's residential coordinator, his vocational coordinator,

and an independent advocate) had decided that an opening at a local big-box

store would be a good possibility for . Once I'd gotten the official

aperwork,

I'd followed up, to be sure that something was actually done to see that the

job was still there and if was a good fit. He'd had a job like this one

everal

years back-and done brilliantly, promoted from working in the storeroom to

working on the shop floor with customers-but the place had closed.

I shake my head. " I started with the vocational director, she referred me to the

job developer, I left a message, I sent an e-mail, and I haven't heard anything

ack, "

I say. " It's been a week since I e-mailed. I was planning to call again Monday. "

" Do you think we should go out there and meet with them? " Mom asks.

Then we hear trouble in the kitchen. I head in the direction of the noise.

's spilled about half a box of cornflakes. That's unlike him; he knows how

to get his breakfast. I grab a broom and sweep up while my brother stands at the

sink gulping down a bowl of cereal, as though he can't eat fast enough.

" Slow down, Dave, " I say.

He puts the bowl in the sink and twiddles his fingers, then rakes his scalp.

" You're Wilbur! " he says, which means he's annoyed with me.

" I just worry that you're eating your cereal too fast, " I explain. At the dinner

able

recently, has been eating so rapidly that I've been afraid he'd be sick. I

hadn't understood why he was so anxious to finish and leave the table, but if

e's

been getting up at eleven, no wonder he wants to get to bed before seven-thirty.

" The invisible cereal, " he says, speaking, as he often does, in the code of

avid, his

forehead furrowing. " You're Wilbur! Wilbur the mischievous monkey! "

I shrug and empty the dustpan.

disappears and a few moments later the sound of a record popular in the

1960s-by an Australian named Rolf -blasts its chords from his room.

" Dave, turn that down, " my mother calls to him.

" Wilbur! " replies, but the sound fades to a reasonable level.

What's eating him? I wonder. Thinking about Joan's whiskey, I go to the cupboard

for a glass for me. The shelf is empty. I look out into the dining room. I

adn't

noticed earlier, but every glass in the house is out, filled with water,

linting in the

light, crowding the sideboard, a private colony of mirrors, refracting

ear-transparent

shards of energy back and forth among themselves.

I don't know entirely what all this means, but it doesn't feel good. 's

ccelerating;

he lines up his programs months in advance, the programs that soothe him

and that his autism thrives on. He's doing more and more of them, and the

vidence

of the glasses makes me think that he's dreaming of an infinite and unachievable

number of shows. He's trading day for night, living in a universe that includes

nly

his papers, the shows, his well-worn records. Very little is getting through.

And it's not making him happy. He digs the grooves deeper, but he's not getting

the satisfaction he needs. It is as though the repetition is a drug, and he's

uilding

tolerance to it. He wants more and more, and he's getting less and less.

It's not that can't connect. A few nights earlier on this visit, our

riends

Peg and Mike had come to dinner. I invited them in part because they know about

and are relaxed, curious, and big-hearted people. They are both political

junkies and love the idea of his talk shows; they are charmed that knows

he

middle name of every congressional representative and senator who has served in

his lifetime. In addition, since Peg's mother has developed substantial dementia

during the past decade, they are used to fielding the occasional bizarre comment

and moving right along.

That evening, the conversation went well, and it included . He stayed

through dessert, didn't get to bed until almost ten o'clock, and slept until

ive the

next morning.

Needing A Job And Friends

It 's clear what needs. He needs a job and friends, and he probably

shouldn't be living with other people with autism. He needs regular contact

with people whose social skills are superior to his own. He's happier when he's

connected. And strong evidence indicates that people like my brother have a

ontribution

to make in the workplace and as friends. I can say this because society

has made progress on successfully integrating people like .

When was growing up in the 1950s, people like him were either kept at

home or locked up in places where they were treated like infants (if their

amilies

had money) or like animals (if their families did not have money). stayed

t

home until his thirties, on what could be called a typical life path for someone

n

his generation. Then he lived in a facility in the remote countryside, which was

state of the art-until society realized that people like were already

emote

enough. Now he lives on an ordinary street in suburbia, near my mother and me.

That's good-but when you look closely, you can see that it's not enough. In this

setting, the only nondisabled people knows are his family and the

rofessionals

and paraprofessionals employed by his organization. So he retreats.

's life pales compared to the opportunities of subsequent generations of

autistic children. This is largely because in 1974, when was twenty-six,

he

federal government enacted the legislation now known as IDEA (the Individuals

with Disabilities Education Act), and students with developmental disabilities

were guaranteed entry into the public schools.

That was thirty-three years ago, and thanks to the law on the one hand and

dvocates

on the other, each year greater numbers of children with disabilities have

entered public school, greater numbers of teachers and administrators have

learned how to teach them-and they have discovered that there are many more

aptitudes, skills, and abilities inside these students than they had imagined.

While the teachers grow to understand how the human brain-in all its astonishing

variation-works in our population, people with disabilities grow to understand

the " typical " world. Surrounded by children who are interacting " typically, "

motivated by the virtually universal urge to conform to peer norms, they

learn the rules of " typical " communication. In after-school activities,

olunteer

programs, and worship, they share experiences with " typical " children-and their

presence, in turn, enables inexperienced " typical " kids and adults to get over

heir

fears and prejudices.

Many young citizens with disabilities have been provided with a free and equal

education. Society has spent a great deal of money to educate our family

embers.

The question that remains, however, is: What happens to them-and to our

nvestment-

after graduation?

Getting The Right Job Placements

Effective job placements exist. A range of limited resources and several

decades of work have created gains that were unimaginable in my

brother's youth. Today, disability job developers do the hard work of developing

relationships with a wide range of employers: chain video and drug stores,

restaurants, offices, hospitals, retail outlets. After job placements, job

oaches

gradually diminish supports as natural supports from colleagues and coworkers

develop. Public awareness grows every time consumers become familiar with an

" atypical " employee-and they'll see that employee again, because these employees

have often proved to be more reliable workers with longer tenure in jobs.

By restructuring jobs, employers free up other employees from tasks such as

preparing mailings, making photocopies, unpacking supplies and putting them

away, filling copier trays and inserting toner, making coffee, setting up rooms

or

meetings, recycling, shelving books in libraries.

Sometimes people with severe developmental disabilities have outbursts or

other behavior that disturbs and worries shoppers and coworkers. But many

mployers

report benefits to morale that they think balance those risks. They report

that these " atypical " employees are sociable, enthusiastic, punctual, and

heerful.

There's a successful placement at our local grocery store. A man with

evelopmental

disabilities is one of the guys who bag groceries and, when needed, helps get

the groceries out to customers' cars. He's probably in his mid-twenties. His

anguage

is heavily ritualistic, but he is fully a part of the team. His job has a

easure

of predictability yet requires flexibility. He had a job coach for a while, and

ow

his coworkers continue to look out for him, but he does his job and carries his

weight. And everybody in the neighborhood knows him and talks with him.

The problem is that he's the only person with a job like that in my world,

espite

the fact that the public school system is producing qualified young graduates

every year. Right now, an astonishing 90 percent of all people with

evelopmental

disabilities are unemployed. These expensive public educations have enabled

them to develop " typical " behavior, but the system for integrating them into the

workforce is piecemeal and improvisatory.

Breakfast At Midnight

I know well ; he's my brother. And I think that could have

done a job like that, if he'd started early enough. I believe that if he had

ore

connections to people outside his family and beyond his circle of caretakers, he

would be happier and many times more productive.

What happened to -and others like him-was a crime. In the past, we

isolated people like and then accused them of being incapable of having a

normal conversation or appropriate social skills. We didn't let people like him

o

to public school, and then we drew the conclusion that they couldn't learn how

o

read or write or count. We didn't make the effort to be friendly to people like

y

brother, to show them how we like to interact, and then we feared that they

ould

be likely to do something abrupt, frightening, and dangerous. We didn't give our

s opportunities to connect-and then thought it was only a sign of their

oddness that they turned to the night, alone in a private world.

Now we have educated several generations of these Americans-but we haven't

created the policies and systems that enable them to have jobs. It's not their

ault

that they don't have jobs, it's ours. Let's imagine them as workers, since we've

repared

them to be workers, and figure out how to open the door so that employment

is an assumption, not an exception. My mother has taught me that change

happens because of advocacy at the local level and policy work at the top. I'm

alling

's job developer, my mom is writing her brochure, but we need more.

To start with policy: Right now, people like must deliberately earn below

minimum wage, working few hours or at a low wage, never accumulating enough

capital to start saving, to keep their income at a low enough level for

ligibility for

the essential supports of Supplemental Security Income (SSI) and Medicaid. This

gigantic disincentive to work prevents them from growing as employees and from

building financial assets, both of which they deserve as working adults. In

ddition,

because this system stunts hours and achievement, agencies are unable to

build the critical mass needed for strong workforce programs, and employers and

human resource departments never experience the full potential of including this

portion of our population as a regular part of the workforce. One way to break

his

cycle of dependency would be to make it easy for people with cognitive

isabilities

to have one foot in the public benefits world and another in the private income

world, at least for a period while they develop the skills to keep themselves

ainfully

employed and the savings to ensure their permanent independence.

As for systems: We need conversations among business, labor, disability

gencies,

and human resource professionals in both the private and public sectors.

These experts need to imagine a world in which our educated young people with

disabilities get jobs, develop financial independence, and live right alongside

he

rest of us-and then figure out what they have to do to create the systems that

an

make that happen. They can examine needs, including liability issues,

upervision,

and job restructuring, especially in public agencies. They can figure out the

air

way to give hiring preference to people with disabilities in selected job

ategories.

We have done half the job for the IDEA generation. People with a wide range of

developmental disabilities are now publicly educated. The next step is jobs.

here

is no point in paying for public educations and raising the expectations of

mericans

like my brother and their families if we don't imagine-and don't put sufficient

resources into-integrating our s into public life. Without this next

step, they will lose the ground they've gained. Without this next step, they

ould

all end up eating breakfast at midnight.

a r r a t i v e M a t t e r s

HEALTH A F FA I R S ~ Vo l u m e 2 6 , Nu m b e r 5 1 4 3 1

DOI 10.1377/hlthaff.26.5.1431 ©2007 Project HOPE-The People-to-People Health

oundation, Inc.

Judy Karasik (karasik@...) is a writer and consultant. She lives in

ilver Spring, land, and Vitolini,

Italy. With her brother, cartoonist Karasik, she wrote The Ride Together: A

rother and Sister's

Memoir of Autism in the Family (Washington Square Press, 2003).

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Breakfast at Midnight

 

Going thru old IPADD files today, adding some and purging old out of date files,

and came across this old essay written by the adult sister of a 50-some year old

with autism. One of the best-written, thought-provoking stories I've ever read.

And, of course, it happens to conclude with one of my favorite themes, the

importance of community helping to create jobs and meaningful lives for our

adults with significant disabilities. I hope I have even half the energy and

drive of this 89-year old mother in the story, who never gives up. It's long,

but worth a read if you have the time.

Breakfast At Midnight

Adults with cognitive disabilities should be able to have jobs to lead useful

lives-

and we know what's needed to make it happen.

by Judy Karasik

It 's after eleven o 'clock on a Friday night, and my mother (Joan)

has beaten me at Scrabble, as usual. As I close up the board, Joan reaches into

a

drawer, pulls out a piece of paper folded in thirds, and hands it over. " See

what

you think of it, " she says, taking a sip of late-night whiskey.

I see that she's drafted a brochure for families of people with cognitive

disabilities-

families like us-to encourage them to seek out vocational placements for

their disabled family members. My mother's been an advocate, lobbying and

working on policy for the past fifty-five years. She's starting to teach me the

ropes.

As I flatten out the homemade trifold, we hear the sound of rushing water.

" What's that? " I ask.

" 's taking a shower, " my mother replies. " He's starting his day. "

" He's starting his day? " I ask.

" He's been going to bed earlier and earlier, " my mother replies. " He gets up

around ten-thirty or eleven at night, takes a shower, gets dressed, and stays up

playing records, watching TV, and, I believe, occasionally sleeping. "

" How noisy is he? " I ask.

" It's not too bad, " Joan says. " I had to come downstairs last night and ask him

to

turn down the sound, but mostly I sleep through it. "

My mother is a very hearty eighty-nine-year-old, but she looks tired.

A Difficult Visit

This has been an especially difficult visit with my brother

, who has lived with autism and mental retardation the whole of his

fifty-nine years. I wouldn't be playing late-night Scrabble except for the fact

that is here, and Mom needs company, under the circumstances.

Dave visits Joan once a month, usually for a long weekend, and twice a year for

extended periods like this week. He comes to Mom's house from where he lives-

it's still hard for me to call it his home-in a townhouse about twenty minutes

away with two other men who also have autism. They coexist, each in his own

quiet autistic spin. We're lucky to have found a program that includes

residential

placement; many people in his generation with cognitive disabilities live with

family, including more than 700,000 of them whose caretakers are parents age

sixty or older. 's residential counselor takes him grocery shopping, and a

vocational

counselor takes him to a thrift shop where he volunteers twice a week for

a few hours. We're working on getting him a job. He has a daily walk, a weekly

dance where he sees friends. He doesn't do much else.

What really wants to do are his writing and his shows. And that's what

he gets to do at Mom's. writes. In his room at our mother's house,

maintains a dresser drawer filled with stacks of paper. Sheet after sheet with

summaries

of television shows, mostly from the 1950s and 1960s. He writes and reads

through the stacks and rearranges the paper.

also performs television shows. Since we were children, he has performed

Superman shows, walking through the house, taking all the parts, with dialogue

apparently selected at random, fragments of actual shows. " Gee, Jimmy, do

you think the killer's in Mr. White's office? " " What do you think, Miss Lane? "

He performs interview shows like Meet the Press. My brother sits at the dinner

table

with a water glass at his elbow-he keeps track of the total number of shows

on a given visit by the count of water glasses on the dining room sideboard-and

perfectly captures the cadence of wonk talk, although the actual words don't

make much sense:

" Mr. Ambassador, should we attempt an intervention in the Middle East? "

" Well, the United States is ready, powerful, and likely to remain so. "

A Private Colony Of Mirrors

's out of the shower, dressed, and headed to the kitchen.

" Speaking of , " my mother says, " and speaking of jobs, have you heard

back from the job developer? "

At 's annual individual plan meeting two months earlier, the group

(consisting

of , Joan, me, 's residential coordinator, his vocational coordinator,

and an independent advocate) had decided that an opening at a local big-box

store would be a good possibility for . Once I'd gotten the official

paperwork,

I'd followed up, to be sure that something was actually done to see that the

job was still there and if was a good fit. He'd had a job like this one

several

years back-and done brilliantly, promoted from working in the storeroom to

working on the shop floor with customers-but the place had closed.

I shake my head. " I started with the vocational director, she referred me to the

job developer, I left a message, I sent an e-mail, and I haven't heard anything

back, "

I say. " It's been a week since I e-mailed. I was planning to call again Monday. "

" Do you think we should go out there and meet with them? " Mom asks.

Then we hear trouble in the kitchen. I head in the direction of the noise.

's spilled about half a box of cornflakes. That's unlike him; he knows how

to get his breakfast. I grab a broom and sweep up while my brother stands at the

sink gulping down a bowl of cereal, as though he can't eat fast enough.

" Slow down, Dave, " I say.

He puts the bowl in the sink and twiddles his fingers, then rakes his scalp.

" You're Wilbur! " he says, which means he's annoyed with me.

" I just worry that you're eating your cereal too fast, " I explain. At the dinner

table

recently, has been eating so rapidly that I've been afraid he'd be sick. I

hadn't understood why he was so anxious to finish and leave the table, but if

he's

been getting up at eleven, no wonder he wants to get to bed before seven-thirty.

" The invisible cereal, " he says, speaking, as he often does, in the code of

, his

forehead furrowing. " You're Wilbur! Wilbur the mischievous monkey! "

I shrug and empty the dustpan.

disappears and a few moments later the sound of a record popular in the

1960s-by an Australian named Rolf -blasts its chords from his room.

" Dave, turn that down, " my mother calls to him.

" Wilbur! " replies, but the sound fades to a reasonable level.

What's eating him? I wonder. Thinking about Joan's whiskey, I go to the cupboard

for a glass for me. The shelf is empty. I look out into the dining room. I

hadn't

noticed earlier, but every glass in the house is out, filled with water,

glinting in the

light, crowding the sideboard, a private colony of mirrors, refracting

near-transparent

shards of energy back and forth among themselves.

I don't know entirely what all this means, but it doesn't feel good. 's

accelerating;

he lines up his programs months in advance, the programs that soothe him

and that his autism thrives on. He's doing more and more of them, and the

evidence

of the glasses makes me think that he's dreaming of an infinite and unachievable

number of shows. He's trading day for night, living in a universe that includes

only

his papers, the shows, his well-worn records. Very little is getting through.

And it's not making him happy. He digs the grooves deeper, but he's not getting

the satisfaction he needs. It is as though the repetition is a drug, and he's

building

tolerance to it. He wants more and more, and he's getting less and less.

It's not that can't connect. A few nights earlier on this visit, our

friends

Peg and Mike had come to dinner. I invited them in part because they know about

and are relaxed, curious, and big-hearted people. They are both political

junkies and love the idea of his talk shows; they are charmed that knows

the

middle name of every congressional representative and senator who has served in

his lifetime. In addition, since Peg's mother has developed substantial dementia

during the past decade, they are used to fielding the occasional bizarre comment

and moving right along.

That evening, the conversation went well, and it included . He stayed

through dessert, didn't get to bed until almost ten o'clock, and slept until

five the

next morning.

Needing A Job And Friends

It 's clear what needs. He needs a job and friends, and he probably

shouldn't be living with other people with autism. He needs regular contact

with people whose social skills are superior to his own. He's happier when he's

connected. And strong evidence indicates that people like my brother have a

contribution

to make in the workplace and as friends. I can say this because society

has made progress on successfully integrating people like .

When was growing up in the 1950s, people like him were either kept at

home or locked up in places where they were treated like infants (if their

families

had money) or like animals (if their families did not have money). stayed

at

home until his thirties, on what could be called a typical life path for someone

in

his generation. Then he lived in a facility in the remote countryside, which was

state of the art-until society realized that people like were already

remote

enough. Now he lives on an ordinary street in suburbia, near my mother and me.

That's good-but when you look closely, you can see that it's not enough. In this

setting, the only nondisabled people knows are his family and the

professionals

and paraprofessionals employed by his organization. So he retreats.

's life pales compared to the opportunities of subsequent generations of

autistic children. This is largely because in 1974, when was twenty-six,

the

federal government enacted the legislation now known as IDEA (the Individuals

with Disabilities Education Act), and students with developmental disabilities

were guaranteed entry into the public schools.

That was thirty-three years ago, and thanks to the law on the one hand and

advocates

on the other, each year greater numbers of children with disabilities have

entered public school, greater numbers of teachers and administrators have

learned how to teach them-and they have discovered that there are many more

aptitudes, skills, and abilities inside these students than they had imagined.

While the teachers grow to understand how the human brain-in all its astonishing

variation-works in our population, people with disabilities grow to understand

the " typical " world. Surrounded by children who are interacting " typically, "

motivated by the virtually universal urge to conform to peer norms, they

learn the rules of " typical " communication. In after-school activities,

volunteer

programs, and worship, they share experiences with " typical " children-and their

presence, in turn, enables inexperienced " typical " kids and adults to get over

their

fears and prejudices.

Many young citizens with disabilities have been provided with a free and equal

education. Society has spent a great deal of money to educate our family

members.

The question that remains, however, is: What happens to them-and to our

investment-

after graduation?

Getting The Right Job Placements

Effective job placements exist. A range of limited resources and several

decades of work have created gains that were unimaginable in my

brother's youth. Today, disability job developers do the hard work of developing

relationships with a wide range of employers: chain video and drug stores,

restaurants, offices, hospitals, retail outlets. After job placements, job

coaches

gradually diminish supports as natural supports from colleagues and coworkers

develop. Public awareness grows every time consumers become familiar with an

" atypical " employee-and they'll see that employee again, because these employees

have often proved to be more reliable workers with longer tenure in jobs.

By restructuring jobs, employers free up other employees from tasks such as

preparing mailings, making photocopies, unpacking supplies and putting them

away, filling copier trays and inserting toner, making coffee, setting up rooms

for

meetings, recycling, shelving books in libraries.

Sometimes people with severe developmental disabilities have outbursts or

other behavior that disturbs and worries shoppers and coworkers. But many

employers

report benefits to morale that they think balance those risks. They report

that these " atypical " employees are sociable, enthusiastic, punctual, and

cheerful.

There's a successful placement at our local grocery store. A man with

developmental

disabilities is one of the guys who bag groceries and, when needed, helps get

the groceries out to customers' cars. He's probably in his mid-twenties. His

language

is heavily ritualistic, but he is fully a part of the team. His job has a

measure

of predictability yet requires flexibility. He had a job coach for a while, and

now

his coworkers continue to look out for him, but he does his job and carries his

weight. And everybody in the neighborhood knows him and talks with him.

The problem is that he's the only person with a job like that in my world,

despite

the fact that the public school system is producing qualified young graduates

every year. Right now, an astonishing 90 percent of all people with

developmental

disabilities are unemployed. These expensive public educations have enabled

them to develop " typical " behavior, but the system for integrating them into the

workforce is piecemeal and improvisatory.

Breakfast At Midnight

I know well ; he's my brother. And I think that could have

done a job like that, if he'd started early enough. I believe that if he had

more

connections to people outside his family and beyond his circle of caretakers, he

would be happier and many times more productive.

What happened to -and others like him-was a crime. In the past, we

isolated people like and then accused them of being incapable of having a

normal conversation or appropriate social skills. We didn't let people like him

go

to public school, and then we drew the conclusion that they couldn't learn how

to

read or write or count. We didn't make the effort to be friendly to people like

my

brother, to show them how we like to interact, and then we feared that they

would

be likely to do something abrupt, frightening, and dangerous. We didn't give our

s opportunities to connect-and then thought it was only a sign of their

oddness that they turned to the night, alone in a private world.

Now we have educated several generations of these Americans-but we haven't

created the policies and systems that enable them to have jobs. It's not their

fault

that they don't have jobs, it's ours. Let's imagine them as workers, since we've

prepared

them to be workers, and figure out how to open the door so that employment

is an assumption, not an exception. My mother has taught me that change

happens because of advocacy at the local level and policy work at the top. I'm

calling

's job developer, my mom is writing her brochure, but we need more.

To start with policy: Right now, people like must deliberately earn below

minimum wage, working few hours or at a low wage, never accumulating enough

capital to start saving, to keep their income at a low enough level for

eligibility for

the essential supports of Supplemental Security Income (SSI) and Medicaid. This

gigantic disincentive to work prevents them from growing as employees and from

building financial assets, both of which they deserve as working adults. In

addition,

because this system stunts hours and achievement, agencies are unable to

build the critical mass needed for strong workforce programs, and employers and

human resource departments never experience the full potential of including this

portion of our population as a regular part of the workforce. One way to break

this

cycle of dependency would be to make it easy for people with cognitive

disabilities

to have one foot in the public benefits world and another in the private income

world, at least for a period while they develop the skills to keep themselves

gainfully

employed and the savings to ensure their permanent independence.

As for systems: We need conversations among business, labor, disability

agencies,

and human resource professionals in both the private and public sectors.

These experts need to imagine a world in which our educated young people with

disabilities get jobs, develop financial independence, and live right alongside

the

rest of us-and then figure out what they have to do to create the systems that

can

make that happen. They can examine needs, including liability issues,

supervision,

and job restructuring, especially in public agencies. They can figure out the

fair

way to give hiring preference to people with disabilities in selected job

categories.

We have done half the job for the IDEA generation. People with a wide range of

developmental disabilities are now publicly educated. The next step is jobs.

There

is no point in paying for public educations and raising the expectations of

Americans

like my brother and their families if we don't imagine-and don't put sufficient

resources into-integrating our s into public life. Without this next

step, they will lose the ground they've gained. Without this next step, they

could

all end up eating breakfast at midnight.

N a r r a t i v e M a t t e r s

HEALTH A F FA I R S ~ Vo l u m e 2 6 , Nu m b e r 5 1 4 3 1

DOI 10.1377/hlthaff.26.5.1431 ©2007 Project HOPE-The People-to-People Health

Foundation, Inc.

Judy Karasik ( karasik@... ) is a writer and consultant. She lives in

Silver Spring, land, and Vitolini,

Italy. With her brother, cartoonist Karasik, she wrote The Ride Together: A

Brother and Sister's

Memoir of Autism in the Family (Washington Square Press, 2003).

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I have Judy Karasik and her brother Karasik's book, " The Ride Together "

about their family. I see from Amazon that it's now in paperback:

http://www.amazon.com/Ride-Together-Brother-Sisters-Memoir/dp/0743423372/ref=sr_\

1_7?s=books & ie=UTF8 & qid=1287758268 & sr=1-7

It's an interesting book, especially for parents who want to get some thoughts

about sibling perspectives.

A caution: One of 's residences in young adulthood was very negative, and

the family did not realize it for a while. If that aspect of the story would

distress you right now, then wait to read the book.

-Gail

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Subject: Breakfast at Midnight

Going thru old IPADD files today, adding some and purging old out of date files,

and came across this old essay written by the adult sister of a 50-some year old

with autism. One of the best-written, thought-provoking stories I've ever read.

And, of course, it happens to conclude with one of my favorite themes, the

importance of community helping to create jobs and meaningful lives for our

adults with significant disabilities. I hope I have even half the energy and

drive of this 89-year old mother in the story, who never gives up. It's long,

but worth a read if you have the time.

Breakfast At Midnight

Adults with cognitive disabilities should be able to have jobs to lead useful

lives-

and we know what's needed to make it happen.

by Judy Karasik

It 's after eleven o 'clock on a Friday night, and my mother (Joan)

has beaten me at Scrabble, as usual. As I close up the board, Joan reaches into

a

drawer, pulls out a piece of paper folded in thirds, and hands it over. " See

what

you think of it, " she says, taking a sip of late-night whiskey.

I see that she's drafted a brochure for families of people with cognitive

disabilities-

families like us-to encourage them to seek out vocational placements for

their disabled family members. My mother's been an advocate, lobbying and

working on policy for the past fifty-five years. She's starting to teach me the

ropes.

As I flatten out the homemade trifold, we hear the sound of rushing water.

" What's that? " I ask.

" 's taking a shower, " my mother replies. " He's starting his day. "

" He's starting his day? " I ask.

" He's been going to bed earlier and earlier, " my mother replies. " He gets up

around ten-thirty or eleven at night, takes a shower, gets dressed, and stays up

playing records, watching TV, and, I believe, occasionally sleeping. "

" How noisy is he? " I ask.

" It's not too bad, " Joan says. " I had to come downstairs last night and ask him

to

turn down the sound, but mostly I sleep through it. "

My mother is a very hearty eighty-nine-year-old, but she looks tired.

A Difficult Visit

This has been an especially difficult visit with my brother

, who has lived with autism and mental retardation the whole of his

fifty-nine years. I wouldn't be playing late-night Scrabble except for the fact

that is here, and Mom needs company, under the circumstances.

Dave visits Joan once a month, usually for a long weekend, and twice a year for

extended periods like this week. He comes to Mom's house from where he lives-

it's still hard for me to call it his home-in a townhouse about twenty minutes

away with two other men who also have autism. They coexist, each in his own

quiet autistic spin. We're lucky to have found a program that includes

residential

placement; many people in his generation with cognitive disabilities live with

family, including more than 700,000 of them whose caretakers are parents age

sixty or older. 's residential counselor takes him grocery shopping, and a

vocational

counselor takes him to a thrift shop where he volunteers twice a week for

a few hours. We're working on getting him a job. He has a daily walk, a weekly

dance where he sees friends. He doesn't do much else.

What really wants to do are his writing and his shows. And that's what

he gets to do at Mom's. writes. In his room at our mother's house,

maintains a dresser drawer filled with stacks of paper. Sheet after sheet with

summaries

of television shows, mostly from the 1950s and 1960s. He writes and reads

through the stacks and rearranges the paper.

also performs television shows. Since we were children, he has performed

Superman shows, walking through the house, taking all the parts, with dialogue

apparently selected at random, fragments of actual shows. " Gee, Jimmy, do

you think the killer's in Mr. White's office? " " What do you think, Miss Lane? "

He performs interview shows like Meet the Press. My brother sits at the dinner

table

with a water glass at his elbow-he keeps track of the total number of shows

on a given visit by the count of water glasses on the dining room sideboard-and

perfectly captures the cadence of wonk talk, although the actual words don't

make much sense:

" Mr. Ambassador, should we attempt an intervention in the Middle East? "

" Well, the United States is ready, powerful, and likely to remain so. "

A Private Colony Of Mirrors

's out of the shower, dressed, and headed to the kitchen.

" Speaking of , " my mother says, " and speaking of jobs, have you heard

back from the job developer? "

At 's annual individual plan meeting two months earlier, the group

(consisting

of , Joan, me, 's residential coordinator, his vocational coordinator,

and an independent advocate) had decided that an opening at a local big-box

store would be a good possibility for . Once I'd gotten the official

paperwork,

I'd followed up, to be sure that something was actually done to see that the

job was still there and if was a good fit. He'd had a job like this one

several

years back-and done brilliantly, promoted from working in the storeroom to

working on the shop floor with customers-but the place had closed.

I shake my head. " I started with the vocational director, she referred me to the

job developer, I left a message, I sent an e-mail, and I haven't heard anything

back, "

I say. " It's been a week since I e-mailed. I was planning to call again Monday. "

" Do you think we should go out there and meet with them? " Mom asks.

Then we hear trouble in the kitchen. I head in the direction of the noise.

's spilled about half a box of cornflakes. That's unlike him; he knows how

to get his breakfast. I grab a broom and sweep up while my brother stands at the

sink gulping down a bowl of cereal, as though he can't eat fast enough.

" Slow down, Dave, " I say.

He puts the bowl in the sink and twiddles his fingers, then rakes his scalp.

" You're Wilbur! " he says, which means he's annoyed with me.

" I just worry that you're eating your cereal too fast, " I explain. At the dinner

table

recently, has been eating so rapidly that I've been afraid he'd be sick. I

hadn't understood why he was so anxious to finish and leave the table, but if

he's

been getting up at eleven, no wonder he wants to get to bed before seven-thirty.

" The invisible cereal, " he says, speaking, as he often does, in the code of

, his

forehead furrowing. " You're Wilbur! Wilbur the mischievous monkey! "

I shrug and empty the dustpan.

disappears and a few moments later the sound of a record popular in the

1960s-by an Australian named Rolf -blasts its chords from his room.

" Dave, turn that down, " my mother calls to him.

" Wilbur! " replies, but the sound fades to a reasonable level.

What's eating him? I wonder. Thinking about Joan's whiskey, I go to the cupboard

for a glass for me. The shelf is empty. I look out into the dining room. I

hadn't

noticed earlier, but every glass in the house is out, filled with water,

glinting in the

light, crowding the sideboard, a private colony of mirrors, refracting

near-transparent

shards of energy back and forth among themselves.

I don't know entirely what all this means, but it doesn't feel good. 's

accelerating;

he lines up his programs months in advance, the programs that soothe him

and that his autism thrives on. He's doing more and more of them, and the

evidence

of the glasses makes me think that he's dreaming of an infinite and unachievable

number of shows. He's trading day for night, living in a universe that includes

only

his papers, the shows, his well-worn records. Very little is getting through.

And it's not making him happy. He digs the grooves deeper, but he's not getting

the satisfaction he needs. It is as though the repetition is a drug, and he's

building

tolerance to it. He wants more and more, and he's getting less and less.

It's not that can't connect. A few nights earlier on this visit, our

friends

Peg and Mike had come to dinner. I invited them in part because they know about

and are relaxed, curious, and big-hearted people. They are both political

junkies and love the idea of his talk shows; they are charmed that knows

the

middle name of every congressional representative and senator who has served in

his lifetime. In addition, since Peg's mother has developed substantial dementia

during the past decade, they are used to fielding the occasional bizarre comment

and moving right along.

That evening, the conversation went well, and it included . He stayed

through dessert, didn't get to bed until almost ten o'clock, and slept until

five the

next morning.

Needing A Job And Friends

It 's clear what needs. He needs a job and friends, and he probably

shouldn't be living with other people with autism. He needs regular contact

with people whose social skills are superior to his own. He's happier when he's

connected. And strong evidence indicates that people like my brother have a

contribution

to make in the workplace and as friends. I can say this because society

has made progress on successfully integrating people like .

When was growing up in the 1950s, people like him were either kept at

home or locked up in places where they were treated like infants (if their

families

had money) or like animals (if their families did not have money). stayed

at

home until his thirties, on what could be called a typical life path for someone

in

his generation. Then he lived in a facility in the remote countryside, which was

state of the art-until society realized that people like were already

remote

enough. Now he lives on an ordinary street in suburbia, near my mother and me.

That's good-but when you look closely, you can see that it's not enough. In this

setting, the only nondisabled people knows are his family and the

professionals

and paraprofessionals employed by his organization. So he retreats.

's life pales compared to the opportunities of subsequent generations of

autistic children. This is largely because in 1974, when was twenty-six,

the

federal government enacted the legislation now known as IDEA (the Individuals

with Disabilities Education Act), and students with developmental disabilities

were guaranteed entry into the public schools.

That was thirty-three years ago, and thanks to the law on the one hand and

advocates

on the other, each year greater numbers of children with disabilities have

entered public school, greater numbers of teachers and administrators have

learned how to teach them-and they have discovered that there are many more

aptitudes, skills, and abilities inside these students than they had imagined.

While the teachers grow to understand how the human brain-in all its astonishing

variation-works in our population, people with disabilities grow to understand

the " typical " world. Surrounded by children who are interacting " typically, "

motivated by the virtually universal urge to conform to peer norms, they

learn the rules of " typical " communication. In after-school activities,

volunteer

programs, and worship, they share experiences with " typical " children-and their

presence, in turn, enables inexperienced " typical " kids and adults to get over

their

fears and prejudices.

Many young citizens with disabilities have been provided with a free and equal

education. Society has spent a great deal of money to educate our family

members.

The question that remains, however, is: What happens to them-and to our

investment-

after graduation?

Getting The Right Job Placements

Effective job placements exist. A range of limited resources and several

decades of work have created gains that were unimaginable in my

brother's youth. Today, disability job developers do the hard work of developing

relationships with a wide range of employers: chain video and drug stores,

restaurants, offices, hospitals, retail outlets. After job placements, job

coaches

gradually diminish supports as natural supports from colleagues and coworkers

develop. Public awareness grows every time consumers become familiar with an

" atypical " employee-and they'll see that employee again, because these employees

have often proved to be more reliable workers with longer tenure in jobs.

By restructuring jobs, employers free up other employees from tasks such as

preparing mailings, making photocopies, unpacking supplies and putting them

away, filling copier trays and inserting toner, making coffee, setting up rooms

for

meetings, recycling, shelving books in libraries.

Sometimes people with severe developmental disabilities have outbursts or

other behavior that disturbs and worries shoppers and coworkers. But many

employers

report benefits to morale that they think balance those risks. They report

that these " atypical " employees are sociable, enthusiastic, punctual, and

cheerful.

There's a successful placement at our local grocery store. A man with

developmental

disabilities is one of the guys who bag groceries and, when needed, helps get

the groceries out to customers' cars. He's probably in his mid-twenties. His

language

is heavily ritualistic, but he is fully a part of the team. His job has a

measure

of predictability yet requires flexibility. He had a job coach for a while, and

now

his coworkers continue to look out for him, but he does his job and carries his

weight. And everybody in the neighborhood knows him and talks with him.

The problem is that he's the only person with a job like that in my world,

despite

the fact that the public school system is producing qualified young graduates

every year. Right now, an astonishing 90 percent of all people with

developmental

disabilities are unemployed. These expensive public educations have enabled

them to develop " typical " behavior, but the system for integrating them into the

workforce is piecemeal and improvisatory.

Breakfast At Midnight

I know well ; he's my brother. And I think that could have

done a job like that, if he'd started early enough. I believe that if he had

more

connections to people outside his family and beyond his circle of caretakers, he

would be happier and many times more productive.

What happened to -and others like him-was a crime. In the past, we

isolated people like and then accused them of being incapable of having a

normal conversation or appropriate social skills. We didn't let people like him

go

to public school, and then we drew the conclusion that they couldn't learn how

to

read or write or count. We didn't make the effort to be friendly to people like

my

brother, to show them how we like to interact, and then we feared that they

would

be likely to do something abrupt, frightening, and dangerous. We didn't give our

s opportunities to connect-and then thought it was only a sign of their

oddness that they turned to the night, alone in a private world.

Now we have educated several generations of these Americans-but we haven't

created the policies and systems that enable them to have jobs. It's not their

fault

that they don't have jobs, it's ours. Let's imagine them as workers, since we've

prepared

them to be workers, and figure out how to open the door so that employment

is an assumption, not an exception. My mother has taught me that change

happens because of advocacy at the local level and policy work at the top. I'm

calling

's job developer, my mom is writing her brochure, but we need more.

To start with policy: Right now, people like must deliberately earn below

minimum wage, working few hours or at a low wage, never accumulating enough

capital to start saving, to keep their income at a low enough level for

eligibility for

the essential supports of Supplemental Security Income (SSI) and Medicaid. This

gigantic disincentive to work prevents them from growing as employees and from

building financial assets, both of which they deserve as working adults. In

addition,

because this system stunts hours and achievement, agencies are unable to

build the critical mass needed for strong workforce programs, and employers and

human resource departments never experience the full potential of including this

portion of our population as a regular part of the workforce. One way to break

this

cycle of dependency would be to make it easy for people with cognitive

disabilities

to have one foot in the public benefits world and another in the private income

world, at least for a period while they develop the skills to keep themselves

gainfully

employed and the savings to ensure their permanent independence.

As for systems: We need conversations among business, labor, disability

agencies,

and human resource professionals in both the private and public sectors.

These experts need to imagine a world in which our educated young people with

disabilities get jobs, develop financial independence, and live right alongside

the

rest of us-and then figure out what they have to do to create the systems that

can

make that happen. They can examine needs, including liability issues,

supervision,

and job restructuring, especially in public agencies. They can figure out the

fair

way to give hiring preference to people with disabilities in selected job

categories.

We have done half the job for the IDEA generation. People with a wide range of

developmental disabilities are now publicly educated. The next step is jobs.

There

is no point in paying for public educations and raising the expectations of

Americans

like my brother and their families if we don't imagine-and don't put sufficient

resources into-integrating our s into public life. Without this next

step, they will lose the ground they've gained. Without this next step, they

could

all end up eating breakfast at midnight.

N a r r a t i v e M a t t e r s

HEALTH A F FA I R S ~ Vo l u m e 2 6 , Nu m b e r 5 1 4 3 1

DOI 10.1377/hlthaff.26.5.1431 ©2007 Project HOPE-The People-to-People Health

Foundation, Inc.

Judy Karasik (karasik@...) is a writer and consultant. She lives in

Silver Spring, land, and Vitolini,

Italy. With her brother, cartoonist Karasik, she wrote The Ride Together: A

Brother and Sister's

Memoir of Autism in the Family (Washington Square Press, 2003).

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