manners

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Does calling someone stupid make you feel better sara?

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Does calling someone stupid make you feel better sara?

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Kiersten,

Hugs. No clue but wanted to let you know you are not alone. Nick will tell men

with facial hair they need to shave, rub bald men's heads and tell fat men they

are fat like Santa Claus. I get so embarrassed. I tell him constantly that is

inappropriate and to apologize; unfortunately, the people he does this to tend

to respond with " Oh, that's okay. " and Nick takes it to mean that it is okay

that he has done whatever not that the " it's okay " is a " Mom it's cool, I think

he doesn't know better. " (Oh, and Nick is 18, so I'm eager to hear if anyone

has managed to train it out of their child.)

Cari Shepard

cmancari@...

Manners

I am a bit disappointed in myself & my inability to instill in Alden some other

" manners " that seem to be lacking.

He knows how to behave in many social situations. He uses " Please & Thank You " .

He is able to sit through a movie, a full musical, or concerts of all genres. He

knows these things. We are able to go out to a fancy restaurant. I have always

taken my children out & practiced proper manners for various venues. That has

not been a problem!

What IS a problem is Alden's brutal honesty of his own observations of the

world.

For instance:

" Is there a baby in there? " , said to a rotund man.

" You look like an alien! " , said to my sensitive nephew who has a long,

triangular shaped face.

I have spoken to him in words he understands. I have play-acted roles. He knows,

to some extent, what a compliment is. Yet at times when things like this come

out of his mouth, I can tell that he isn't being mean or anything but it always

shocks me because I cannot know, number one, when this will occur and two, he

just isn't getting it!

What am I doing wrong? Will he get this in time & I am just expecting too much?

Any advice is appreciated. He is 10 now & I don't want him to hurt others'

feelings!

Thanks in advance. Kiersten.

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Kenzie is 17...NO FILTER at ALL! She says what she thinks...I would love ot

know if there is a way to FILTER what they say!!!...But then again...they

are HONEST!!!!

Manners

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> I am a bit disappointed in myself & my inability to instill in Alden some

> other " manners " that seem to be lacking.

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> He knows how to behave in many social situations. He uses " Please & Thank

> You " . He is able to sit through a movie, a full musical, or concerts of

> all genres. He knows these things. We are able to go out to a fancy

> restaurant. I have always taken my children out & practiced proper manners

> for various venues. That has not been a problem!

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> What IS a problem is Alden's brutal honesty of his own observations of the

> world.

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> For instance:

> " Is there a baby in there? " , said to a rotund man.

> " You look like an alien! " , said to my sensitive nephew who has a long,

> triangular shaped face.

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> I have spoken to him in words he understands. I have play-acted roles. He

> knows, to some extent, what a compliment is. Yet at times when things like

> this come out of his mouth, I can tell that he isn't being mean or

> anything but it always shocks me because I cannot know, number one, when

> this will occur and two, he just isn't getting it!

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> What am I doing wrong? Will he get this in time & I am just expecting too

> much?

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> Any advice is appreciated. He is 10 now & I don't want him to hurt others'

> feelings!

> Thanks in advance. Kiersten.

> Sent from my iPhone

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You are doing nothing wrong, so stop beating yourself up. He will learn

eventually. Be patient.

Granny

On Wednesday, July 18, 2012, Hancock <Fancymom@...> wrote:

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> Kenzie is 17...NO FILTER at ALL! She says what she thinks...I would love

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> know if there is a way to FILTER what they say!!!...But then again...they

> are HONEST!!!!

> Manners

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>> I am a bit disappointed in myself & my inability to instill in Alden some

>> other " manners " that seem to be lacking.

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>> He knows how to behave in many social situations. He uses " Please & Thank

>> You " . He is able to sit through a movie, a full musical, or concerts of

>> all genres. He knows these things. We are able to go out to a fancy

>> restaurant. I have always taken my children out & practiced proper

manners

>> for various venues. That has not been a problem!

>>

>> What IS a problem is Alden's brutal honesty of his own observations of

the

>> world.

>>

>> For instance:

>> " Is there a baby in there? " , said to a rotund man.

>> " You look like an alien! " , said to my sensitive nephew who has a long,

>> triangular shaped face.

>>

>> I have spoken to him in words he understands. I have play-acted roles. He

>> knows, to some extent, what a compliment is. Yet at times when things

like

>> this come out of his mouth, I can tell that he isn't being mean or

>> anything but it always shocks me because I cannot know, number one, when

>> this will occur and two, he just isn't getting it!

>>

>> What am I doing wrong? Will he get this in time & I am just expecting too

>> much?

>>

>> Any advice is appreciated. He is 10 now & I don't want him to hurt

others'

>> feelings!

>> Thanks in advance. Kiersten.

>> Sent from my iPhone

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[Guest guest]

Many of our children do not have a filter and have to be taught what is

appropriate and inappropriate. Social stories are a great resource. Carol

gray is the guru and you can find many online.

Kathy

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