Couple of probs in paradise/need advice

[Guest guest]

Well, I knew it wouldn't last forever, but I could hope, couldn't I? There is a

para (I call them aides) in the sped classroom who is a real witch with a B and

she looks for things to criticize the kids about. I have observed her doing

this many times and today she started in on and he got so upset that he

was self-abusing. It was something very small that he was doing (stomping his

feet at the bowling alley) but it escalated after the rest of the staff kept

after him. He was so upset that he was yelling and trying to bang his head by

the time I got there. He hasn't done this in years. I almost said " Keep that

woman away from my son. " She shouldn't have anything to do with him anyway. He

has his own para.

After all this at the bowling alley, he laid down in the seat on the bus.

Instead of asking him if he felt unwell, they created a power struggle and said

" It's against the rules " blah blah blah. It would have been simple to say,

" Miss Cook (para) will sit by you and you can lean on me if you feel ill

. " GEEZ

We had to reschedule his IEP meeting (Monday) for another day because we

will be traveling back here after a family Christmas party. How do I tell them

I would rather she NOT discipline (even verbally) my son. I don't like her at

all. She shouldn't be around kids who need self-esteem boosts, not constant

criticism. I'm about as diplomatic as General Patton. Also, I want to ask for

a different kind of IQ test. They used the Leiter but is there any other that

tests strengths, not just weaknesses??

Any help would be appreciated.

Elaine

[Guest guest]

Well, I knew it wouldn't last forever, but I could hope, couldn't I? There is a

para (I call them aides) in the sped classroom who is a real witch with a B and

she looks for things to criticize the kids about. I have observed her doing

this many times and today she started in on and he got so upset that he

was self-abusing. It was something very small that he was doing (stomping his

feet at the bowling alley) but it escalated after the rest of the staff kept

after him. He was so upset that he was yelling and trying to bang his head by

the time I got there. He hasn't done this in years. I almost said " Keep that

woman away from my son. " She shouldn't have anything to do with him anyway. He

has his own para.

After all this at the bowling alley, he laid down in the seat on the bus.

Instead of asking him if he felt unwell, they created a power struggle and said

" It's against the rules " blah blah blah. It would have been simple to say,

" Miss Cook (para) will sit by you and you can lean on me if you feel ill

. " GEEZ

We had to reschedule his IEP meeting (Monday) for another day because we

will be traveling back here after a family Christmas party. How do I tell them

I would rather she NOT discipline (even verbally) my son. I don't like her at

all. She shouldn't be around kids who need self-esteem boosts, not constant

criticism. I'm about as diplomatic as General Patton. Also, I want to ask for

a different kind of IQ test. They used the Leiter but is there any other that

tests strengths, not just weaknesses??

Any help would be appreciated.

Elaine