Guest guest Posted August 13, 2001 Report Share Posted August 13, 2001 Nic was invited to a birthday party this weekend. The child was from his Friday (typical) school. Nic is the only SN kid there. It was being held at Tiny Tumbler's (kinda like Gymboree). I was leery about taking but really wanted to go. I thought it would be good for him socially. I called the mom and asked how structured it would be. She really wasn't sure but said bring him anyway and we'd play it by ear. Bob volunteered to go with, which made me happy that I'd have some help. Well, it was VERY structured but I went in with him to help out. Well, the instructor wasn't including Nic (at first). We were sitting right there with the rest of the kids and she told everyone what to do (except us) I had to ask " where do you want Nic " . Some of the other moms were in with their kids too. After about 20 minutes I decided Nic could just play by himself and I shadowed him the whole time. I was getting so frustrated....kids were knocking him down, butting in line, pushing...one kid even said " out of my way scum " . When I would redirect him he would kick and scream and hit me. I got absolutely NO help from Bob. He stood and talked with the birthday boy's father. I finally removed him and asked Bob to take him in but his response was " I'm not chasing him around " . I was so pissed. I asked what the & ^%#$ he came for then....this is usually NOT like him at all! He is usually a big help. Some of those kids needed their parents shadowing them but they all just stood around talking, letting their kids run amok but had the nerve to eye me about Nic's behavior. The bday boy's mom was very nice so I thanked her for the invite (but silently vowed never to do this again) and said we had to leave. I was so stressed . I cried as soon as we got in the car. Bob says " why are you crying because Nic's isn't normal like the other kids? well get over it " That made me even more mad...I haven't spoken to him since. I'm not entirely sure why I cried...maybe just to relieve the stress...partly because of Nic's behavior....his disability...I guess for allot of reasons ........ Bob's comment was soo hurtful, tho..... I thanked him for his emotional support.... I just needed to get this off my chest.thanks for listening. Di, mom to Jake(18,nda) and 4 (DS) Pennsylvania Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 13, 2001 Report Share Posted August 13, 2001 Nic was invited to a birthday party this weekend. The child was from his Friday (typical) school. Nic is the only SN kid there. It was being held at Tiny Tumbler's (kinda like Gymboree). I was leery about taking but really wanted to go. I thought it would be good for him socially. I called the mom and asked how structured it would be. She really wasn't sure but said bring him anyway and we'd play it by ear. Bob volunteered to go with, which made me happy that I'd have some help. Well, it was VERY structured but I went in with him to help out. Well, the instructor wasn't including Nic (at first). We were sitting right there with the rest of the kids and she told everyone what to do (except us) I had to ask " where do you want Nic " . Some of the other moms were in with their kids too. After about 20 minutes I decided Nic could just play by himself and I shadowed him the whole time. I was getting so frustrated....kids were knocking him down, butting in line, pushing...one kid even said " out of my way scum " . When I would redirect him he would kick and scream and hit me. I got absolutely NO help from Bob. He stood and talked with the birthday boy's father. I finally removed him and asked Bob to take him in but his response was " I'm not chasing him around " . I was so pissed. I asked what the & ^%#$ he came for then....this is usually NOT like him at all! He is usually a big help. Some of those kids needed their parents shadowing them but they all just stood around talking, letting their kids run amok but had the nerve to eye me about Nic's behavior. The bday boy's mom was very nice so I thanked her for the invite (but silently vowed never to do this again) and said we had to leave. I was so stressed . I cried as soon as we got in the car. Bob says " why are you crying because Nic's isn't normal like the other kids? well get over it " That made me even more mad...I haven't spoken to him since. I'm not entirely sure why I cried...maybe just to relieve the stress...partly because of Nic's behavior....his disability...I guess for allot of reasons ........ Bob's comment was soo hurtful, tho..... I thanked him for his emotional support.... I just needed to get this off my chest.thanks for listening. Di, mom to Jake(18,nda) and 4 (DS) Pennsylvania Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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