Re: Hello, New to this group - son 17mo DS,LSHD, daughter 3 1/2

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In a message dated 8/2/01 6:40:39 AM Central Daylight Time,

bchowland4@... writes:

> Does anyone have advice on how to balance Caitlin's need for security

> (she's not being kicked out of the nest again) with her ability to

> move on. She is very caring and loving to Bobby - rarely ever

> jealous. Still she becomes upset when I have to leave for doctor

> visits, even though she has bonded with our babysitter.

HI

My two (youngest) girls are two years apart lol you could never tell this by

looking at them lol Kaite is in puberty and Sara is still my young lady.

I really had my work cut out for me, balancing all of my kids when Sara was

small. You see I had two middle schoolers too. I did take each out on their

own little day outings. Kaite seemed to go everywhere I went with Sara, EI,

Dr. visits ect...... I didn't have a sitter for her. I think this really

helped with any jealousy issues that arose.

Kaites, now 12 and shows no signs (so far) as having issues of moving on.

She's quite independent and mature.........Now her older sister (age 22)

doesn't want to move on Heehee she's moving back in this week lololol She's

also the one who turned down a full scholarship years ago for a college she

thought was to far away from " Sara " yeah right lol

Kathy mom to Sara 9

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In a message dated 8/2/01 6:40:39 AM Central Daylight Time,

bchowland4@... writes:

> Does anyone have advice on how to balance Caitlin's need for security

> (she's not being kicked out of the nest again) with her ability to

> move on. She is very caring and loving to Bobby - rarely ever

> jealous. Still she becomes upset when I have to leave for doctor

> visits, even though she has bonded with our babysitter.

HI

My two (youngest) girls are two years apart lol you could never tell this by

looking at them lol Kaite is in puberty and Sara is still my young lady.

I really had my work cut out for me, balancing all of my kids when Sara was

small. You see I had two middle schoolers too. I did take each out on their

own little day outings. Kaite seemed to go everywhere I went with Sara, EI,

Dr. visits ect...... I didn't have a sitter for her. I think this really

helped with any jealousy issues that arose.

Kaites, now 12 and shows no signs (so far) as having issues of moving on.

She's quite independent and mature.........Now her older sister (age 22)

doesn't want to move on Heehee she's moving back in this week lololol She's

also the one who turned down a full scholarship years ago for a college she

thought was to far away from " Sara " yeah right lol

Kathy mom to Sara 9

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,

Hi and welcome to the group. This group is very friendly, informative,

sometimes funny and usually heartwarming.

Anyway since you asked about your non DS child, I will tell you a little

about my 7 year old, non DS child and all the patience he has had to endure

over the years. Well since he did not have a disability, I had to find

quality, affordable day care since he was 3 months old. I had a private baby

sitter that I paid a fourtune for. At 18 months we found a full time day

care that was run by my cousin, who has a school for special needs kids, but

opened the day care for her staff's kids so she took because he was her

cousin and charged me what she charged her staff.

OK that worked fine. Until pre school. Which here in NY, was only 1/2 a day

at the public schools. So he went from full day day care to 1/2 day pre -K

and a sitter for the afternoon. Which also worked because his best friend

went to the sitter also.

The worse was when he started K and I couldnt be there. Im a teacher also so

we both had school at the same time. Well it took some time, but he finally

adjusted fine.

OK, since I am off for the summer, I spend alot of time with both my kids and

Sept is very hard for us. Especially jesse because amanda went to day camp

many summers and and I got to hang out together doing mom and son stuff.

We moan and groan about school starting again alot. But after a while we all

adjust. also has alot of doctor's appts and most of the time jesse is

with us unless i can arrange a play date for him (that's what we call them

here ). And his patience is usually incredible.

I know how hard it is to cut those strings and give to each child equally.

Believe me, i'm sure you do your best and your kids are doing fine because of

it.

So all this and not one word of advice! LOL

~ mom to almost 11 DS and 7

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,

Hi and welcome to the group. This group is very friendly, informative,

sometimes funny and usually heartwarming.

Anyway since you asked about your non DS child, I will tell you a little

about my 7 year old, non DS child and all the patience he has had to endure

over the years. Well since he did not have a disability, I had to find

quality, affordable day care since he was 3 months old. I had a private baby

sitter that I paid a fourtune for. At 18 months we found a full time day

care that was run by my cousin, who has a school for special needs kids, but

opened the day care for her staff's kids so she took because he was her

cousin and charged me what she charged her staff.

OK that worked fine. Until pre school. Which here in NY, was only 1/2 a day

at the public schools. So he went from full day day care to 1/2 day pre -K

and a sitter for the afternoon. Which also worked because his best friend

went to the sitter also.

The worse was when he started K and I couldnt be there. Im a teacher also so

we both had school at the same time. Well it took some time, but he finally

adjusted fine.

OK, since I am off for the summer, I spend alot of time with both my kids and

Sept is very hard for us. Especially jesse because amanda went to day camp

many summers and and I got to hang out together doing mom and son stuff.

We moan and groan about school starting again alot. But after a while we all

adjust. also has alot of doctor's appts and most of the time jesse is

with us unless i can arrange a play date for him (that's what we call them

here ). And his patience is usually incredible.

I know how hard it is to cut those strings and give to each child equally.

Believe me, i'm sure you do your best and your kids are doing fine because of

it.

So all this and not one word of advice! LOL

~ mom to almost 11 DS and 7

[Guest guest]

,

Hi and welcome to the group. This group is very friendly, informative,

sometimes funny and usually heartwarming.

Anyway since you asked about your non DS child, I will tell you a little

about my 7 year old, non DS child and all the patience he has had to endure

over the years. Well since he did not have a disability, I had to find

quality, affordable day care since he was 3 months old. I had a private baby

sitter that I paid a fourtune for. At 18 months we found a full time day

care that was run by my cousin, who has a school for special needs kids, but

opened the day care for her staff's kids so she took because he was her

cousin and charged me what she charged her staff.

OK that worked fine. Until pre school. Which here in NY, was only 1/2 a day

at the public schools. So he went from full day day care to 1/2 day pre -K

and a sitter for the afternoon. Which also worked because his best friend

went to the sitter also.

The worse was when he started K and I couldnt be there. Im a teacher also so

we both had school at the same time. Well it took some time, but he finally

adjusted fine.

OK, since I am off for the summer, I spend alot of time with both my kids and

Sept is very hard for us. Especially jesse because amanda went to day camp

many summers and and I got to hang out together doing mom and son stuff.

We moan and groan about school starting again alot. But after a while we all

adjust. also has alot of doctor's appts and most of the time jesse is

with us unless i can arrange a play date for him (that's what we call them

here ). And his patience is usually incredible.

I know how hard it is to cut those strings and give to each child equally.

Believe me, i'm sure you do your best and your kids are doing fine because of

it.

So all this and not one word of advice! LOL

~ mom to almost 11 DS and 7

[Guest guest]

,

Hi and welcome to the group. This group is very friendly, informative,

sometimes funny and usually heartwarming.

Anyway since you asked about your non DS child, I will tell you a little

about my 7 year old, non DS child and all the patience he has had to endure

over the years. Well since he did not have a disability, I had to find

quality, affordable day care since he was 3 months old. I had a private baby

sitter that I paid a fourtune for. At 18 months we found a full time day

care that was run by my cousin, who has a school for special needs kids, but

opened the day care for her staff's kids so she took because he was her

cousin and charged me what she charged her staff.

OK that worked fine. Until pre school. Which here in NY, was only 1/2 a day

at the public schools. So he went from full day day care to 1/2 day pre -K

and a sitter for the afternoon. Which also worked because his best friend

went to the sitter also.

The worse was when he started K and I couldnt be there. Im a teacher also so

we both had school at the same time. Well it took some time, but he finally

adjusted fine.

OK, since I am off for the summer, I spend alot of time with both my kids and

Sept is very hard for us. Especially jesse because amanda went to day camp

many summers and and I got to hang out together doing mom and son stuff.

We moan and groan about school starting again alot. But after a while we all

adjust. also has alot of doctor's appts and most of the time jesse is

with us unless i can arrange a play date for him (that's what we call them

here ). And his patience is usually incredible.

I know how hard it is to cut those strings and give to each child equally.

Believe me, i'm sure you do your best and your kids are doing fine because of

it.

So all this and not one word of advice! LOL

~ mom to almost 11 DS and 7

[Guest guest]

, it sounds like you're doing a wonderful job!

I've heard good things about the book Siblings Without Rivalry

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0380799006/ref=ase_inktomicom-20/102-

2930145-1464909, and when I was looking it up on Amazon, ran into another

highly rated book called Loving Each One Best

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0553378341/ref=sim_books/102-2930145-

1464909

Dave Wetherow

http://www.community-works.net

[Guest guest]

, it sounds like you're doing a wonderful job!

I've heard good things about the book Siblings Without Rivalry

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0380799006/ref=ase_inktomicom-20/102-

2930145-1464909, and when I was looking it up on Amazon, ran into another

highly rated book called Loving Each One Best

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0553378341/ref=sim_books/102-2930145-

1464909

Dave Wetherow

http://www.community-works.net

[Guest guest]

Sorreee... the URLs for the books I mentioned get split by the e-mail

programs. You'll need to do a bit of creative cutting and pasting to make

the connection (or just go to http://www.amazon.com and search on the

titles).

>I've heard good things about the book Siblings Without Rivalry

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0380799006/ref=ase_inktomicom-20/102-

2930145-1464909, and when I was looking it up on Amazon, ran into another

highly rated book called Loving Each One Best

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0553378341/ref=sim_books/102-2930145-

1464909

Dave Wetherow

http://www.community-works.net

Click reply to all for messages to go to the list. Just hit reply for

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[Guest guest]

Sorreee... the URLs for the books I mentioned get split by the e-mail

programs. You'll need to do a bit of creative cutting and pasting to make

the connection (or just go to http://www.amazon.com and search on the

titles).

>I've heard good things about the book Siblings Without Rivalry

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0380799006/ref=ase_inktomicom-20/102-

2930145-1464909, and when I was looking it up on Amazon, ran into another

highly rated book called Loving Each One Best

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0553378341/ref=sim_books/102-2930145-

1464909

Dave Wetherow

http://www.community-works.net

Click reply to all for messages to go to the list. Just hit reply for

messages to go to the sender of the message.