Re: support group case consider......

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Dear Mr and all,This must be strange indeed,yes the counselor was sincere but sincerely wrong,he didnt make a good followup of the client ,he lost him and only found him so he thought of continue with counseling but the bus was not a good place,please get some qualified Christian counselor to help this Man maybe Areverend do you know any qualified minster who can make an appointment to this mans home.Maybe the mans expectations have not been met.May God help both the counselor and the man ,i wish the counselor would know that this man has inlaws too and need more privacy which is costy and very good for counselors to mainatain, Afew can do that even people with Phd in counseling can mess,Blessings to you.Tom

OchukaFrom: ouma chege <oumaouko@...> Sent: Wed, March 30, 2011 1:48:51 AMSubject: support group case

Case Study 2 - Support Group The man was one of the first to start attending this

support group meeting. He had earlier come for counseling. He is a married HIV+

man. For many years he has been unable to deal with his feelings of attraction

towards women at the same time being HIV+. Through his youth he was in denial

and refused to acknowledge his sexual preference and feelings towards ladies.

When later he did he thought of it as a sin and himself a sinner. Around two years ago a strange thing started to happen.

Often at work, the man would be unable to focus on work and got overwhelmed by

a sense of loss and depression. The man was counseled for a period of time, during

which they were able to share more about issues such as denial, discrimination,

stigma, guilt, camouflage etc. as feelings many HIV+ men struggle with while

growing up and that these were not unique to him. While he understood the

logic, he could not get past his state of emotional disturbance. Over a period of

time the counselor realized he had never met HIV+ people like him and discussed

issues common with them. He was referred to a support group. After he started attending the support group, he got

the opportunity to express his anguish and helplessness openly in front of

other HIV+ men. This eased off the pressure a bit. He gradually became a

regular and active member of the group. He takes the meetings very seriously

and uses them as an opportunity to express himself, as also to hear other

people and connect with their experiences. Around seven months after starting to attend the

support group, the man is almost totally free of his depression. He continues

to come regularly for the meetings and acknowledges the role of a support group

in helping him overcome his problem. Recently however, the man got caught up in a

difficult situation. He was traveling in a public transport bus with his

brother in law and suddenly came face to face with the counselor. The counselor

expressed great enthusiasm at this surprise encounter and asked the man how he

was doing emotionally and why he had not attended the support group meeting the

previous week. The man was at a loss for words since his brother in law was

standing besides him. He avoided the questions as best he could and bid the

counselor a quick farewell.

[Guest guest]

Dear Mr and all,This must be strange indeed,yes the counselor was sincere but sincerely wrong,he didnt make a good followup of the client ,he lost him and only found him so he thought of continue with counseling but the bus was not a good place,please get some qualified Christian counselor to help this Man maybe Areverend do you know any qualified minster who can make an appointment to this mans home.Maybe the mans expectations have not been met.May God help both the counselor and the man ,i wish the counselor would know that this man has inlaws too and need more privacy which is costy and very good for counselors to mainatain, Afew can do that even people with Phd in counseling can mess,Blessings to you.Tom

OchukaFrom: ouma chege <oumaouko@...> Sent: Wed, March 30, 2011 1:48:51 AMSubject: support group case

Case Study 2 - Support Group The man was one of the first to start attending this

support group meeting. He had earlier come for counseling. He is a married HIV+

man. For many years he has been unable to deal with his feelings of attraction

towards women at the same time being HIV+. Through his youth he was in denial

and refused to acknowledge his sexual preference and feelings towards ladies.

When later he did he thought of it as a sin and himself a sinner. Around two years ago a strange thing started to happen.

Often at work, the man would be unable to focus on work and got overwhelmed by

a sense of loss and depression. The man was counseled for a period of time, during

which they were able to share more about issues such as denial, discrimination,

stigma, guilt, camouflage etc. as feelings many HIV+ men struggle with while

growing up and that these were not unique to him. While he understood the

logic, he could not get past his state of emotional disturbance. Over a period of

time the counselor realized he had never met HIV+ people like him and discussed

issues common with them. He was referred to a support group. After he started attending the support group, he got

the opportunity to express his anguish and helplessness openly in front of

other HIV+ men. This eased off the pressure a bit. He gradually became a

regular and active member of the group. He takes the meetings very seriously

and uses them as an opportunity to express himself, as also to hear other

people and connect with their experiences. Around seven months after starting to attend the

support group, the man is almost totally free of his depression. He continues

to come regularly for the meetings and acknowledges the role of a support group

in helping him overcome his problem. Recently however, the man got caught up in a

difficult situation. He was traveling in a public transport bus with his

brother in law and suddenly came face to face with the counselor. The counselor

expressed great enthusiasm at this surprise encounter and asked the man how he

was doing emotionally and why he had not attended the support group meeting the

previous week. The man was at a loss for words since his brother in law was

standing besides him. He avoided the questions as best he could and bid the

counselor a quick farewell.