your unvax child and new borns

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Hi all,

A scenario has been forming in my mind lately that i have not encountered but

will at some point. It is really worrrying me, and i wondered how other

people deal with this:

If friends etc who strongly believe in vaxxes have a new baby and you have an

unvaxx duaghter, what does one do about exposing ones unvaxx toddler to the

smaller baby/ newborn.

For example, say the toddler/ older child were to have picked up the

pertussis or measles bug, and was still asymptomatic before being

symptomatic, you might not know that he/she had it. and thinking your child

is fine, you expose her to the newborn.

im told that you are contagious for things when you first catch them even

before becoming symptomatic. so ones unvaxx child could expose a tiny baby to

something without us knowing which would be awful.

the older child who is unvaxx and more healthy could survive pertussis but a

new born who is already perhaps partially vaxxed, and compromised and so

young, and also with very down the line medical parents (ie using antibiotics

etc) would not necessarily survive and what a terrible situation. In the

worst case scenario if someones baby were to die of pertussis and your child

gave it to them, can you imagine the litigation and lack of support from

people. One would be tarred and feathered here in the usa, not to mention how

terrible one would feel!

has this ever happened? what is the best way to go about this with friends

newborns, including ones own newborn, with older unvaxx children. is it best

to keep ones children away, but one cannot always do this like if there is a

newborn in the line at the grocery store etc.

I may be over-reacting to this, but a nurse/ doula I know, who suprisingly

believes strongly in vaccinations, said that her young child was exposed to

the measles virus before she was old enough to have the MMR. the child with

measles was totally unvaccinated and the nurse's young baby was extremely

sick. she said she was not prepared for how sick her child was and got a big

fright. and this is why she now pushes vaccinations when before she did not.

I would love to hear other peoples comments or experiences.

Kim