Re: School blues or maybe my mood lol

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The teachers and aids do not have a right to inflict on these kids their

opnions of the parents , the reasonthey probably are seems to me to be thinking

on these teachers part that itis ok to say these things infront of these kids

cause they feel these kids don't comprhend what is being said, Well have news

for them Darran's ears may be small in size but he hears everything that is said

even if he doesn't act like he does, I would be going to the Principle with this

, These actions need to be brought to his(her ) attention. This is inapproprate

behavior on these educators parts.

Carolyn - Darran 18ds

Re: School blues or maybe my mood lol

Hi all-

I am soooo tired of getting negative things written in the communication book

for .

Or the teacher will write nothing at all- so I play the guessing game.... Did

she eat???

did she do her assignments?? did she ask to potty??? etc... So I tell the

teacher in the book

how important communication is and she writes back " I dont have time to

write-and as it

is, it has taken me 15 minutes away from the kids to write this. " The

teacher tells me

gets too much one to one attention ( meaning therapies- speech,o.t., and

p.t.) I told her

I worked so hard to instill selfesteem in (something I never had) and I

will be damn

if anyone tries to break her spirit!!!) I lost trust in the teacher and the

system. The communication book has now become a means to write negatives. I

stopped writing in it.

One day I observed the class, listening to the teacher and the aides making

rude and mean comments about the kids parents- and I could only imagine what

they say about me and

this is happening in front of the children!!!!! There is so much that I

worry about

every day. Forgive me for spilling my guts but I feel so alone and I love my

girls so very

much and only want a good education and not have them babysat. I want

teachers who

believe in and so they can be productive members of society with

approp.

social skills. So if this qualifies me as a " MOM FROM HELL " so be it!!!!

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Jill,

I think we all know of situations where poeple are successful and attribute

that to their environment which certainly has an impact on it. I struggled

with what was best for my daughter. She attended early childhood classes of

some type fromt he age of 5 weeks. She was " integrated for preschool in a

public school. She started kindergarten at my home school and remained in a

regular class until this year. She truly had friends. She was invited to

play, to movies, to swim, to sleepovers, etc. She invited them to our house

(and she doesn't talk!!!! She uses sign language and an augmentative

communication device). She kept in touch with chldren that she had been in

class with when she wanted to. We moved to CA from IL in May - she misses

her friends a lot. They miss her - they e-mail her, they call her, they

write to her and 2 of them came separately to CA to visit this summer! So

while some children do not truly make friends , some do. I am so grateful

that she has learned and experienced true friendship.

She has not made friends here yet. She is in a self-contained class for 2

periods a day. " We " invited a friend from he self-contained class over one

day - it was fine but neither child has asked for it since. (my

daughter) still asks for her " old " friends. She tells me she wants to go on

an airplane to see them and sleep at their house! I pray she makes true

friends here. I regret the loss the most about our move. I will try to help

facilitate the initial meeting by having a pool party at our home when our

pool is finished. I plan to invite all of the kids in her classes (each

class separately) to have fun in in informal setting. My hope is that they

will see her as someone they can go bowling with, swim with, go to the movies

or mall with.

I think we as parents need to do what we feel is best for our children. And

sometimes we will make mistakes. I have tried to go with my gut feeling for

the last 13 years. And I have done alright. I believ inclusion has worked

and was the appropriate educational setting for but I would not

judge another parent for making a different decision. We all have to do what

we think is best. Our children, times, and circumstances are all different.

My thoughts are with you as you make all of these hard decisions. I know I

was soooooo emotional trying to figure out what was best for my daughter!

That's the beauty of this list.....people are here to support one another,

not judge. Kathy

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Re: School blues or maybe my mood lol

> I wonder how similar these statements are to the ones that were used in

the

> past to justify institutionalizing children and adults with down syndrome?

>

> Karyn, running from the flames

*chuckle* Great comeback, Karyn!

granny

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" Beautiful that war and all its deeds of carnage must

in time be utterly lost. " -- Walt Whitman

http://www.bspyle.com/granny.html

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, I agree with you there It never does end. But our reward is see our

kids happy...

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