Guest guest Posted August 8, 2000 Report Share Posted August 8, 2000 , Please send the story of your homebirth (you can send it to my email address if you don't want to send to the loop). I am planning my first homebirth with my third child in January and would love to hear how it goes for you. I wish you all the best. Shepherd ________________________________________________________________ YOU'RE PAYING TOO MUCH FOR THE INTERNET! Juno now offers FREE Internet Access! Try it today - there's no risk! For your FREE software, visit: http://dl.www.juno.com/get/tagj. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 8, 2000 Report Share Posted August 8, 2000 Mine is posted online. http://www.melyssa.com/brenna/090699.html It was long and painful, but the best and most empowering life changing event of my life, and have no doubts in my mind of doing it the same way next time. Mel Re: 's Home Birth,Please send the story of your homebirth (you can send it to my emailaddress if you don't want to send to the loop). I am planning my firsthomebirth with my third child in January and would love to hear how it goes for you. I wish you all the best. Shepherd________________________________________________________________YOU'RE PAYING TOO MUCH FOR THE INTERNET!Juno now offers FREE Internet Access!Try it today - there's no risk! For your FREE software, visit:http://dl.www.juno.com/get/tagj. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 9, 2000 Report Share Posted August 9, 2000 I think having home births is absolutely wonderful, and I'm so amazed that you all do it! When I had my babies I didn't know of such thing, and I had a terrible time. But I also have a friend whose baby died a year ago in a home birth, waiting 2 days after her water broke. So I don't know what to think. On the one hand are your wonderful stories and experiences, and on the other hand, is my friend who blames herself for having a home birth. I myself had a C-section with my first and a horrible vacuum extraction/forcep delivery with my second. They were such horrible experiences that my husband didn't want to see me go through them again, and we will be having no more children. I regret this somewhat because I love children and would have a boatload if I could. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 9, 2000 Report Share Posted August 9, 2000 , I don't have a bit of guilt. I did the best I could with the information I had at the time. And I have two very handsome, kind and loving sons to show for it. Karla in Indiana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 9, 2000 Report Share Posted August 9, 2000 I didn't actively study Bradley but I did have the book which I read through to get ideas on positions and stuff, it did help (sometimes!). Towards the end I don't think anything would have helped. I felt like I was going to die. LOL Mel ><< http://www.melyssa.com/brenna/090699.html >> >Dear Mel, >God, i loved your story!!!!! I found myself living every moment with you! I >had a natural Bradley birth in a birthing center with my twin girls. I felt >like super woman!!!! And to be able to look into the clear, unmedicated eyes >of my daughters was priceless. I didnt have such a hard or long labor, but i >remember that spaced out feeling and the elation at pushing them out and >holding them in my arms and nursing them. >I dont know if you did, but try the bradley method next time. You exercise >all through it. I was up cleaning house three days after their birth, not >because i had too, but i just felt so damn good!!!! >Thanks for your story, >Christin > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 9, 2000 Report Share Posted August 9, 2000 My home birth was short and very intesnse (7 hours active labour, 45 minutes transition, 15 minutes of pushing), but as soon as the baby was born I wanted to do it again! I felt like I was so strong, like there wasn't anything in the world I couldn't do after accomplishing that! It was also a good example of how having the right caregivers made all the difference in the world. I had contractions off and on for a week and a half (not painful at all, just emotionally draining) before my water broke, which was 54 hours before Mischa was actually born. Luckily I had very patient midwives who kept checking on me and the baby after my membranes broke (they did home visits once or twice a day to check my temp, her heart rate). I went into labour shortly after being told that my midwife was booking a consult with an OB for me the next day. If I had had standard medical care, I would have been told to go into the hospital when my water broke, nothing would have happened, they would have put me on a pit drip. If it worked, I probably would have had an epidural, since I would have been immobilized and labour's always more painful with pitocin. If it didn't work (which is very likely since she wasn't ready to be born for another 2 days) they would have sectioned me after several hours. It may not have gone like this, but I've seen this scenario countless times. The only intervention I had was an episiotomy (imagine that - that was the absolute last thing I was worried about happening!) because M's heart rate dropped to 70 a few times during pushing and they waited until the absolute last minute before cutting. I don't regret that they cut, although once she was born she lifted her head, stuck out her tongue and looked around. She was just fine! She lost an Apgar point for not crying! Anyway, , having a home birth was so wonderful and I was so glad not to have to get up during active labour to go to the hospital where I would have had annoying nurses, doctors and students asking me the same questions over and over again while I trying to labour. At home I was allowed to just do my own thing, proceed at my own pace, and just being able to curl up in bed and fall asleep with my partner and our new baby afterwards was the best feeling in the world (now I'm starting to get teary). I can't wait for my second home birth, in January also. We'll have to compare stories. mel@... wrote: Mine is posted online.http://www.melyssa.com/brenna/090699.html It was long and painful, but the best and most empowering life changing event of my life, and have no doubts in my mind of doing it the same way next time.Mel -----Original Message----- From: S Shepherd <jennifershepherd@...> Vaccinationsegroups <Vaccinationsegroups> Date: Tuesday, August 08, 2000 3:16 PM Subject: Re: 's Home Birth , Please send the story of your homebirth (you can send it to my email address if you don't want to send to the loop). I am planning my first homebirth with my third child in January and would love to hear how it goes for you. I wish you all the best. Shepherd ________________________________________________________________ YOU'RE PAYING TOO MUCH FOR THE INTERNET! Juno now offers FREE Internet Access! Try it today - there's no risk! For your FREE software, visit: http://dl.www.juno.com/get/tagj. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 9, 2000 Report Share Posted August 9, 2000 I think the important thing to remember is that every situation is different, and who knows if your friend would have lost her baby if she had been in the hospital. Remember that lots of babies die or are injured in hospital births, but you never hear about them because it happens all the time. When you hear about a baby dying at a home birth, it's because it's so rare. Also, so much depends on the care the woman is receiving and the judgment calls that are made. If the caregiver doesn't have good jugment, it doesn't matter where the baby is born. Of course, sometimes things just go wrong, no matter where the birth was or who the caregiver was, and there is nothing that could be done. It just cracks me up (actually, it makes me sad) when women have horrible experiences in the hospital, like a C/S, and they say, thank goodness I was in the hospital. They don't realize that it was becasue they were in the hospital that they had the C/S. Of course, sometimes it really was necessary and life saving, but more often than not, it wasn't. I hope that you have been able to heal emotionally from your experiences. No matter what kind of birth you have, it's a life-changing experience, and you have to be able to reconcile what happened and feel ok about the decisions you made without carrying guilt and remorse with you for the rest of your life. selahdream@... wrote: > I think having home births is absolutely wonderful, and I'm so amazed that > you all do it! When I had my babies I didn't know of such thing, and I had a > terrible time. But I also have a friend whose baby died a year ago in a home > birth, waiting 2 days after her water broke. So I don't know what to think. > On the one hand are your wonderful stories and experiences, and on the other > hand, is my friend who blames herself for having a home birth. I myself had > a C-section with my first and a horrible vacuum extraction/forcep delivery > with my second. They were such horrible experiences that my husband didn't > want to see me go through them again, and we will be having no more children. > I regret this somewhat because I love children and would have a boatload if > I could. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 9, 2000 Report Share Posted August 9, 2000 I'm glad. A lot of women blame themselves for how things turned out. selahdream@... wrote: > , > I don't have a bit of guilt. I did the best I could with the information I > had at the time. And I have two very handsome, kind and loving sons to show > for it. > Karla in Indiana > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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