Update on my pathetic life

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In a message dated 11/10/00 11:24:22 AM Eastern Standard Time,

bspyle@... writes:

<< dry

shoulders and a closed mouth (shut up, Timbo). >>

Yeah right... ;-)

lol, nancy

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Hi everybody,

I have a few minutes this morning, so I thought I would update you all.

I am filing for legal separation on Monday. My dh has many medical

problems that he didn't tell me about before we married. Actually, his

ex-wife was the one who clued me in on how serious everything really

was.

I have tried my best for the last 4 years to tolerate the way I have

been treated. I am ridiculed for my opinions. I am undermined with

everything I try to do for my kids. I have no help, no partner, no one

to share my life with. (Sorry, Granny, I know I ended a sentence with a

preposition). I have not been touched, not just sexually, but a kiss, a

touch of the hand, etc., for almost 4 years now. I have emotional

support. I am called names because I started taking Prozac. (Loony,

idiot).

Two weeks ago, he was furious yet again. I had always thought it was his

medical condition that caused these outburst. But now, I wonder.

He told me that he hated me more than anyone he had ever known. He said

that he wished I was dead, that he ought to kill me himself. My

daughters heard every word of it.

Kate asked me that night what I was going to do. When I said about what,

she replied, " Surely you don't mean to live with someone who wants you

dead? " Wise child.

After a fierce battle with my conscious, I have reached the decision

that I want this over. I have told him I am filing and he said he would

move out. I am really afraid of what he might do now.

Sorry for this outpouring, but I really need you guys right now. Maybe

I'm looking for someone to give me absolution, I don't know. I just know

that we will be happier without the constant worry of setting him off on

another fit of rage.

Thanks for listening,

Sue mom to Kate 11 and Karrie 4 w/ds

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Sue,

You end your sentences any way you wish. You have not been in a marriage

these past four years, but an abusive relationship. Do not beat yourself up

about it. If you were a Catholic, you could get an annulment with no

problems. Your conscience should be clear; you are the victim here. Get out

of there before someone gets hurt. We're here for you, Luv. Email me

privately if you need to dump on someone. Granny has a sympathetic ear, dry

shoulders and a closed mouth (shut up, Timbo).

Hugs,

granny

---

God loves everyone, but probably prefers " fruits

of the spirit " over " religious nuts " .

http://home.earthlink.net/~bspyle

Update on my pathetic life

> Hi everybody,

> I have a few minutes this morning, so I thought I would update you all.

> I am filing for legal separation on Monday. My dh has many medical

> problems that he didn't tell me about before we married. Actually, his

> ex-wife was the one who clued me in on how serious everything really

> was.

> I have tried my best for the last 4 years to tolerate the way I have

> been treated. I am ridiculed for my opinions. I am undermined with

> everything I try to do for my kids. I have no help, no partner, no one

> to share my life with. (Sorry, Granny, I know I ended a sentence with a

> preposition). I have not been touched, not just sexually, but a kiss, a

> touch of the hand, etc., for almost 4 years now. I have emotional

> support. I am called names because I started taking Prozac. (Loony,

> idiot).

> Two weeks ago, he was furious yet again. I had always thought it was his

> medical condition that caused these outburst. But now, I wonder.

> He told me that he hated me more than anyone he had ever known. He said

> that he wished I was dead, that he ought to kill me himself. My

> daughters heard every word of it.

> Kate asked me that night what I was going to do. When I said about what,

> she replied, " Surely you don't mean to live with someone who wants you

> dead? " Wise child.

> After a fierce battle with my conscious, I have reached the decision

> that I want this over. I have told him I am filing and he said he would

> move out. I am really afraid of what he might do now.

> Sorry for this outpouring, but I really need you guys right now. Maybe

> I'm looking for someone to give me absolution, I don't know. I just know

> that we will be happier without the constant worry of setting him off on

> another fit of rage.

> Thanks for listening,

> Sue mom to Kate 11 and Karrie 4 w/ds

>

>

>

>

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speaks the truth, Sue. Listen to her. Get help and get it now!

granny

---

God loves everyone, but probably prefers " fruits

of the spirit " over " religious nuts " .

http://home.earthlink.net/~bspyle

Re: Update on my pathetic life

> In a message dated 11/10/2000 10:49:52 AM Eastern Standard Time,

sue@...

> writes:

>

> << I am really afraid of what he might do now.

> Sorry for this outpouring, but I really need you guys right now. >>

>

>

> Sue,

>

> Listen up dear...if you came to me where I work, I would refer you to

the

> local Domestic Violence Center ASAP!!!! The most lethal time of a

domestic

> violence situation is at the time of seperation. Stay out of the kitchen

and

> bedroom if he is there. Does he own any guns? You may want to stay in a

> shelter until after you file your petition and the court orders him out.

The

> verbal and emotional abuse he has inflicted on you can be seen as child

abuse

> (emotional abuse) to the children. Some of the most messed up kids I have

> worked with came from simular homes. Your needs counseling..the

> domestic violence center may offer that in house with other kids like

.

> You want to make sure feels secure and that she knows you are

> safe....also you don't want her to marry someone simular which often

happens.

>

>

>

>

>

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I'm sending this to the list for right now. I cried when I read the

sheer number of posts you sent to me. Such support! I'm going to try to

answer each individually, but it may take a little time...

I am truly terrified as the time comes closer. How am I going to support

us? I still have one year of college left. I already have a job after I

get my degree and then will earn enough to support us in comfort. But

how do I pay for daycare, tuition (my scholarship didn't cover it all),

let alone all our living expenses?

Yesterday morning, I gave another presentation on ds. On my way home, I

got to thinking that I was just blowing it all out of proportion. I

could stick it out another year. I was so overwhelmed with doubt...

Then I got home. Enough said, huh?

Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. I'm going to use them a lot

to get through these next few weeks...

Sue mom to Kate 11 and Karrie 4 w/ds

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In a message dated 11/11/2000 10:06:45 AM Eastern Standard Time, sue@...

writes:

<< I already have a job after I

get my degree and then will earn enough to support us in comfort. But

how do I pay for daycare, tuition (my scholarship didn't cover it all),

let alone all our living expenses? >>

Sue,

Go and talk to a social worker with your local DSS. I have in the past

had women come into me who were facing simular situations. Each agency has

different programs, etc. For instance, if you were in my county you may

qualify for transitional housing until you get on your feet. Daycare may be

covered as well. Please don't feel you have to send me a personal

message....I don't think anyone here expects that anyway Just take care

of yourself and your little ones.

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 11/11/2000 10:06:45 AM Eastern Standard Time, sue@...

writes:

<< I already have a job after I

get my degree and then will earn enough to support us in comfort. But

how do I pay for daycare, tuition (my scholarship didn't cover it all),

let alone all our living expenses? >>

Sue,

Go and talk to a social worker with your local DSS. I have in the past

had women come into me who were facing simular situations. Each agency has

different programs, etc. For instance, if you were in my county you may

qualify for transitional housing until you get on your feet. Daycare may be

covered as well. Please don't feel you have to send me a personal

message....I don't think anyone here expects that anyway Just take care

of yourself and your little ones.