a different School issue

[Guest guest]

I feel kind of bad writing because I'm actually experiencing some good stuff

with school but problems at home.

First off, my foster son is in fifth grade this year. His school pushes

integration as much as possible. This has always been difficult for my guy

but this year he is in his reg. ed. classroom for everything but math. He is

tolerating it. He is using the bathroom independently and is doing well

there. He has had some behavior issues but they have been dealt with and they

move on. Everything is going great there. Same teacher as last year, same

aide.

Now the problem is that he doesn't want to go to school. He does just fine in

the a.m. until he is almost ready for school then he will get upset, undress

(knows you can't leave the house naked), wet his pants (just toilet trained

last year), and just generally get awful. He does all this while saying " no

school " . I truly believe that this is an issue of transition and that he

doesn't truly hate school. He comes home from school in a good mood. He talks

about the stuff he does at school. 90% of his school day is spent doing what

is expected.

Anyway, he is my foster son and there are attachment issues here. I'm also

due to have a baby in 6 weeks or so and that, I'm sure, causes some more

issues for him But, any ideas on getting him to school without this upset?

This a.m. when he started I just walked him out to the car and took him to

school. Of course we had to drive around for 1/2 hour until school opened but

better than him totally undressing and being late again. When we got there he

had to go and change his own clothes so no reinforcement there. I have been

taking away after school snack for this but that is so removed from the

behavior that it isn't making an impact.

This is so frustrating since I know he is so proud of himself for what he is

doing at school. I think most of this is directed at me, I could just turn

into someone else for a few weeks it might go away. Unfortunately, my husband

can't stay home from work every a.m. to get him to school.

I want him to eventually take his cab (district provided since bus riding

doesn't work for him) to school but right now that isn't possible.

ARGGhHHHH!!!! Ideas?????

Karyn