To L

[Guest guest]

Hey ,

Sorry for your troubles. I was touched by your ability to be brave and

share your feelings about this situation with us. Take a little time to

grieve the loss of the friendship you had. Hopefully your feelings of loss

and sadness will clear up shortly. The one thing I know for sure (as Oprah

likes to say) is that since the diagnosis of CML I found I can no longer

afford the " luxury " of getting too hung up emotionally on anyone or

anything. I work on avoiding " toxic " friendships, or " toxic " environments.

However, it is still a " work in progress " . It isn't easy learning how to

" let go " , but the feeling of freedom that comes when you get it right is

amazing. If there was any lesson to be learned from your relationship with

this person, accept it, but then move on. Keep the good stuff, get rid of

the " toxic " stuff. Then " trust the emergence " of what can come into your

life now that the " space " taken up by the negativity of the situation has

been cleared away and ready for something new.

Go out to the jazz fest today and treat yourself right. In time and when

you are ready, practice being happy. Remember, you are basically a very

good person, a talented writer and a caring friend. J.K. Rowling was on

welfare, a single mom and living in a dire situation when she started to

write the Harry Potter books. And then of course, always remember -

" Success is the best revenge " . Maybe you can write a novel about the entire

situation, maybe it will become a best seller - I promise to buy the first

book!

Love & Peace and all best wishes for good things to follow!

Cheryl