Not sure what to do about my sister's approach with my mom

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First, thanks everyone for the thoughts and prayers!

They are working! I've been praying a lot, too.

My mom is still on a ventilator, and lightly sedated,

but she is comfortable, and things are looking up for

her (though she is still is very sick, so they are

warning us things could change in the wrong

direction).

My mom is improving, her blood counts are better and

kidney function is better, heart is fine, etc.

The nurse today, thought she saw my look at her, and

so she asked her if she was comfortable, and she

nodded yes! The nurse then asked her to squeeze her

hand, and she could. This is a wonderful, welcomed

improvement.

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I do have a big challenge, though.

My sister has the power of attorney for healthcare for

my mom. She's been supportive of giving my mom the

best care, antibiotics, sepsis drugs, the ventilator,

and so forth.

However, she is now telling me she wants to terminate

my mom's life! She is not willing to go a month or

two so that my mom has the chance of fully recovering.

This is in spite of the fact that my mom is getting

better.

I know this is a very difficult problem, and if my mom

were terminal, or brain-dead, I would agree. But my

mom is getting better, and I cannot understand my

sister's reluctance to give my mom every chance.

She says mom didn't want to be like Terri Schiavo. I

agree! No one wants to linger like Ms. Schiavo.

However, if my mom improves to the point of making her

own decisions (perhaps not far away), she may chose

not to continue, or perhaps to continue.

It would be so nice just to be on the same page with

my sister, who has been supportive up until now.

So...

Any suggestions or similar situations that have been

resolved would GREATLY be appreciated. Thanks!!!

PS Sorry to be 'off the air', so to speak.

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