Ugh

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wow.....I don't have any pearls of wisdom on this one, but since you have set

the punishment, I wouldn;t now tell her she os only grounded for a few weeks-let

her sweat it for a few days and then maybe mention that if she is good (like a

good behaviour bond likething) then she may do one thing she wants-if she can

gradually earn your trust and she has been good, then let her off. But by

telling her now she isnt grounded, she may not believe you next time....stick to

your guns She will probably respect you more in years to come of you don't

go " soft " now....... JMHO

sue wong wrote:

> Hi,

> Any pearls of wisdom for this one?! I have just grounded Naomi (10, NDA)

> for the rest of November (shes lucky it wasn't the rest of the year!), she

> doesn't go anywhere or see anyone outside of school hours unless she has to

> go somehwhere with me. No gym, Tuesday club, or fencing lessons. worse she

> has to come and sit thro tims gym classes and competitions over the next

> month much to her dismay. I went to my purse today to take £10 out to buy

> fireworks, its bonfire night here (archaic tradition of burning effigies of

> guy fawkes and other unpopular famous people!!). The £10 note was gone and

> the fiver had been moved to another part of my purse so I knew someone had

> taken it. To her credit (and the reason I was leniant on the grounding!)

> she handed back the tenner after I had said very loudly several times to no

> one in particular that 10 quid was missing and I knew it had been taken not

> lost. I then sent her to her room for the rest of the day so that I didn't

> kill her. PLease tell me this is a one off, she says it is which is why I

> have been I think a little harsh becoz I want her to be sure that it is a

> serious wrong doing and that it is an arrestable offence to steal money from

> people, just becoz its me she stole from doesn't make it less serious.

>

> Sue wong

>

>

[Guest guest]

I see nothing wrong with the way you handled the situation, Sue.

granny

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God loves everyone, but probably prefers " fruits

of the spirit " over " religious nuts " .

http://home.earthlink.net/~bspyle

ugh

> Hi,

> Any pearls of wisdom for this one?! I have just grounded Naomi (10, NDA)

> for the rest of November (shes lucky it wasn't the rest of the year!), she

> doesn't go anywhere or see anyone outside of school hours unless she has

to

> go somehwhere with me. No gym, Tuesday club, or fencing lessons. worse

she

> has to come and sit thro tims gym classes and competitions over the next

> month much to her dismay. I went to my purse today to take £10 out to buy

> fireworks, its bonfire night here (archaic tradition of burning effigies

of

> guy fawkes and other unpopular famous people!!). The £10 note was gone

and

> the fiver had been moved to another part of my purse so I knew someone had

> taken it. To her credit (and the reason I was leniant on the grounding!)

> she handed back the tenner after I had said very loudly several times to

no

> one in particular that 10 quid was missing and I knew it had been taken

not

> lost. I then sent her to her room for the rest of the day so that I

didn't

> kill her. PLease tell me this is a one off, she says it is which is why I

> have been I think a little harsh becoz I want her to be sure that it is a

> serious wrong doing and that it is an arrestable offence to steal money

from

> people, just becoz its me she stole from doesn't make it less serious.

>

> Sue wong

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I think Leis has a good suggestion. Grounding for the entire month may have

been a little extreme, but now you're both stuck with it. The option of

earning back trust and a few rewards for being trustworthy is a very

reasonable way to handle it. I would also definitely wait at least a week

into the grounding before making any changes.

This is in some ways a good opportunity for you to give her an understanding

of how the ground lies--it will only get harder as she gets older and does

even more stuff you don't want her to do! ;o)

Judi

Re: ugh

wow.....I don't have any pearls of wisdom on this one, but since you have

set

the punishment, I wouldn;t now tell her she os only grounded for a few

weeks-let

her sweat it for a few days and then maybe mention that if she is good (like

a

good behaviour bond likething) then she may do one thing she wants-if she

can

gradually earn your trust and she has been good, then let her off. But by

telling her now she isnt grounded, she may not believe you next

time....stick to

your guns She will probably respect you more in years to come of you

don't

go " soft " now....... JMHO

sue wong wrote:

> Hi,

> Any pearls of wisdom for this one?! I have just grounded Naomi (10, NDA)

> for the rest of November (shes lucky it wasn't the rest of the year!), she

> doesn't go anywhere or see anyone outside of school hours unless she has

to

> go somehwhere with me. No gym, Tuesday club, or fencing lessons. worse

she

> has to come and sit thro tims gym classes and competitions over the next

> month much to her dismay. I went to my purse today to take £10 out to buy

> fireworks, its bonfire night here (archaic tradition of burning effigies

of

> guy fawkes and other unpopular famous people!!). The £10 note was gone

and

> the fiver had been moved to another part of my purse so I knew someone had

> taken it. To her credit (and the reason I was leniant on the grounding!)

> she handed back the tenner after I had said very loudly several times to

no

> one in particular that 10 quid was missing and I knew it had been taken

not

> lost. I then sent her to her room for the rest of the day so that I

didn't

> kill her. PLease tell me this is a one off, she says it is which is why I

> have been I think a little harsh becoz I want her to be sure that it is a

> serious wrong doing and that it is an arrestable offence to steal money

from

> people, just becoz its me she stole from doesn't make it less serious.

>

> Sue wong

>

>

[Guest guest]

> You caught the " wanted " I am sure. What ended up in my sack was a double

> quarter pounder with cheese. Yeah, gotta love them.

When I cave, it's usually for a Big Mac. That's why it's so dangerous for me

to even go near a MickeyD's. When I *do* go, like if Henry asks me to grab

him some burgers, I make sure I have the exact amount that I need in my

pocket and nothing else or else I *would* grab one, no matter how well I had

been doing on my food plan up to that point. It's just a compulsion, like an

addict's fix.

>.... now I

> know why is so skinny LOL!!

Well, also admits he had to walk 2 miles to *get* to the Sub shop he

ate at, so he would be walking 4 miles each meal.

Sue in NJ

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Cancer Survivors Forego Medical Care Because of Cost

Elsevier Global Medical News. 2009 Feb 3, P Wendling

Slightly more than 2 million cancer survivors in the United States forego

necessary medical care because of cost concerns, and Hispanics and

African-Americans are twice as likely to do so, new research suggests.

Using the annual National Health Interview Survey database for 2003-2006,

investigators identified 6,602 adult cancer survivors and 104,364 individuals

with no history of cancer. During the survey, individuals were specifically

asked if, during the past 12 months, there was a time when they needed medical

care but did not get it because they could not afford it.

The overall prevalence of forgoing care because of cost among cancer survivors

was 8% for general medical care, 10% for prescription medication, 11% for dental

care, and 3% for mental health care, lead author E. Weaver, Ph.D., and

associates reported Feb. 4 at the American Association for Cancer Research

conference on the science of health care disparities.

Based on this analysis, " slightly more than 2 million cancer survivors did not

get the medical care that they needed because of cost, " Dr. Weaver, a cancer

prevention fellow at the National Cancer Institute, said in an interview. There

are 12 million cancer survivors in the United States, according to the most

recent NCI Surveillance, Epidemiology, and End Results (SEER) data through 2007.

" Access to medical care is vitally important to this population, and we need to

find ways of increasing their access to needed medical services, " she said.

" Short of that, physicians should be aware that a significant number of cancer

survivors are not getting care, and should make efforts to hook them up with

free or low-cost services. "

When compared with white survivors, Hispanic survivors were more likely to forgo

medical care (odds ratio, 1.55), prescription medications (OR, 2.14) and dental

care (OR, 2.31). African-American survivors were more likely than white

survivors to forgo prescription medications (OR, 1.87) and dental care (OR,

1.57).

" The reason for this [underutilization] is largely due to insurance coverage

rates, because when you adjust for coverage status and education, the disparity

disappears, " she said.

In all, 12.5% of the 3,141 cancer survivors who were younger than 65 years had

no insurance coverage, compared with 20% of those of a similar age without a

history of cancer.

After adjusting the data for health insurance status, education, and non-cancer

related comorbidities, none of the interactions between cancer history and

ethnicity was significant in the 3,461 survivors aged 65 years and older - a

population almost entirely covered by the national Medicare program.

After adjustment, Hispanics aged younger than 65 years without a history of

cancer were significantly less likely than their white counterparts to forgo

medications (OR, 0.76) and dental care (OR, 0.74), but this pattern reversed for

cancer survivors, Dr. Weaver said. Younger Hispanic cancer survivors were

significantly more likely to forgo prescriptions (OR, 1.19) and dental care (OR,

1.31), compared with young white survivors.

Younger Hispanic cancer survivors may perceive such services, which are

typically paid out of pocket, as being less important than seeing a physician,

Dr. Weaver said. Some suggest that Hispanics in the general population are less

likely to forgo health care services because of the " healthy immigrant effect. "

This hypothesis has been suggested as an explanation for lower rates of many

chronic diseases - including breast, cervical, and ovarian cancers - in recent

immigrants, although this health advantage seems to disappear as time residing

in the United States increases, she said.

Dr. Weaver acknowledged that the number of ethnic minority survivors in the

sample was small, but said it is possible to extrapolate the findings to

American cancer survivors because the population-based National Health Interview

Survey is representative of the general population at large, and it oversamples

the number of blacks and Hispanics.

The study was limited by a lack of information on the survivors' treatment

status, she said. What was known is that 59% of survivors were more than 5 years

post diagnosis at the time of the survey, 36% were 1-5 years post diagnosis, and

5% were less than 1 year since diagnosis.

The time since diagnosis was not significantly related to the forgoing of

medical care, but should be studied further because of the potential for cancer

recurrence and chemotherapy side effects (such as heart failure) to emerge over

time.

" We need more research to look at cancer survivors who are at different points

in the survival trajectory to understand what the financial barriers to care are

at each of these points, because they might differ, " Dr. Weaver said. " Something

we're extremely concerned about in the [NCI's] Office of Cancer Survivorship is

the occurrence of late effects of cancer and its treatment. That could be one

explanation for why survivors are in need of care years after their diagnosis. "

The study was supported by the NCI. The investigators disclosed no conflicts of

interest.

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Doesn't it suck when you go to try something new and it bombs. AND your tummy feels like a bomb went off. That happened with me and crystal light orange flavored. YUGH. Hope you feel better.

N.H.