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Thanks for your input and advice, sue and . Today is not much better than yesterday. Nate(my husband) and i had a talk after Noah was put to bed and agreed that we are not in synch at all anymore and we do not know what to do.He basically admitted that our marriage, our relationship and me were not his main priority. He said Noah was(which is good) and his job/desire for own restaurant are his priorities. He works his but off for a job at the sacrifice of his family and then they drop him for whatever reason or he quits from dissatisfaction and I support us til he goes back again. Its the same thing over and over and he thinks its not wrong becasue he is planning for Noah's future. That would be great if he was consistent and also thought abtou his family when making decisions. I really thought hard and regarding my commnet /belief that as a protestant Christian, God hates divorce and it isnt really approved of except in

physical abuse and in the case of a believer married to a nonbeliever(like us)- if the non believer leaves. It feels like he already left since I and our relationship are not prorities. Basically we are on the back burner and he expects me to be okay with that. I do not know what is giong to happen on Sat, but he is going to ahve to really say something or show me something to prove that it can get any better or I dont think I willl be wiling to even try counselling again. Christmas is going to be a happy charade jsut for Noah's sake. Hope everyone else has a better Christmas.

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Hi all,

Although I slept well, my back feels tight and I try not to take my generic Flexeril aka cyclobenzaprine unless I really need them. I may just take a couple of tramadol for the pain today and see how that helps.

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Hi G.,

I pray things will work out between you two for the better, or may God's will prevail, after all it's in His hands now. I've sent up a prayer for you dear, just know you have a friend in me.

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From: Gaduyon <noerzmom@...>Subject: Re: Hello, this is how I feel today., 12/24/2009, 8:00 am Date: Thursday, December 24, 2009, 9:14 AM

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Thanks for your input and advice, sue and . Today is not much better than yesterday. Nate(my husband) and i had a talk after Noah was put to bed and agreed that we are not in synch at all anymore and we do not know what to do.He basically admitted that our marriage, our relationship and me were not his main priority. He said Noah was(which is good) and his job/desire for own restaurant are his priorities. He works his but off for a job at the sacrifice of his family and then they drop him for whatever reason or he quits from dissatisfaction and I support us til he goes back again. Its the same thing over and over and he thinks its not wrong becasue he is planning for Noah's future. That would be great if he was consistent and also thought abtou his family when making decisions. I really thought hard and regarding my commnet /belief that as a protestant Christian, God hates divorce and it isnt really approved of except in

physical abuse and in the case of a believer married to a nonbeliever( like us)- if the non believer leaves. It feels like he already left since I and our relationship are not prorities. Basically we are on the back burner and he expects me to be okay with that. I do not know what is giong to happen on Sat, but he is going to ahve to really say something or show me something to prove that it can get any better or I dont think I willl be wiling to even try counselling again. Christmas is going to be a happy charade jsut for Noah's sake. Hope everyone else has a better Christmas.

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I just love it when they are predicting tornado's. there is no way to tell where they are and ixcept in the ditch yuch, no hwere to go.lol like the old drills for the hydrogen bomb. put your head under your desks. ha ha ha We get a few, yearly , but they are small and short lived. I'm not getting in e ditch w/ those snakes. alligators spiders and whatevea! karen in Louisiana

--K aren , my dad always told me" When in doubt, act like a lady. You will never be sorry for the outcome."Cause you know I am a hot head. lol ital.

My motto was"whatever was good for my kid was the right thing for me also.

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Thanks Kim, I think I'm gonna need all the prayers and friennds I can get.

Carolina K

From: Gaduyon <noerzmom (DOT) com>Subject: Re: Hello, this is how I feel today., 12/24/2009, 8:00 amDate: Thursday, December 24, 2009, 9:14 AM

Hi

Thanks for your input and advice, sue and . Today is not much better than yesterday. Nate(my husband) and i had a talk after Noah was put to bed and agreed that we are not in synch at all anymore and we do not know what to do.He basically admitted that our marriage, our relationship and me were not his main priority. He said Noah was(which is good) and his job/desire for own restaurant are his priorities. He works his but off for a job at the sacrifice of his family and then they drop him for whatever reason or he quits from dissatisfaction and I support us til he goes back again. Its the same thing over and over and he thinks its not wrong becasue he is planning for Noah's future. That would be great if he was consistent and also thought abtou his family when making decisions. I really thought hard and regarding my commnet /belief that as a protestant Christian, God hates divorce and it isnt really approved of except in

physical abuse and in the case of a believer married to a nonbeliever( like us)- if the non believer leaves. It feels like he already left since I and our relationship are not prorities. Basically we are on the back burner and he expects me to be okay with that. I do not know what is giong to happen on Sat, but he is going to ahve to really say something or show me something to prove that it can get any better or I dont think I willl be wiling to even try counselling again. Christmas is going to be a happy charade jsut for Noah's sake. Hope everyone else has a better Christmas.

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/La I'm sorry you are experiencing storms. I hate tornados and hurricanes. My house was flooded in a hurricane in 99 and my car was totaled a year and a half in a tornado.

Regarding waht your dad said-- I guess slapping wasn't a being a lady too much huh?

Carolina K

From: s.special1 <karens.special1@...>Subject: Re: Hello, this is how I feel today., 12/24/2009, 8:00 am Date: Thursday, December 24, 2009, 11:22 AM

I just love it when they are predicting tornado's. there is no way to tell where they are and ixcept in the ditch yuch, no hwere to go.lol like the old drills for the hydrogen bomb. put your head under your desks. ha ha ha We get a few, yearly , but they are small and short lived. I'm not getting in e ditch w/ those snakes. alligators spiders and whatevea! karen in Louisiana

--K aren , my dad always told me" When in doubt, act like a lady. You will never be sorry for the outcome."Cause you know I am a hot head. lol ital.

My motto was"whatever was good for my kid was the right thing for me also.

-=-=-----=-= -=-=-==-= ((( = = ))) -=-=-=-=-=== -== Wish I had eggnog w/ some bourbon personally . lol. i hate storms.and so do the chihuahuas.. lol merry christmas everybody.It' s one day in 365. karen /la

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Hi everyone and welcome to the new members! I'm sorry haven't been on again, really having bad times with this pain and working with a new doctor and he has ordered new testing and agrees there is so much more happening and he's going forth to find out. I can no longer dress myself including putting on a bra, driving is pretty much out for now. I try to drive when I think I can, and of course, the depression is worse; pain gets worse, depression gets worse. Anyway not going to go into details, we're all sick and hurt and I'll get through it, just glad I have a new doctor so hopefully he won't be so lacks like my other pain doc.

Mainly wanted to get on and wish you all a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! With love and hugs to all, please be healthy and HAPPY!

Sue, you'll be happy to know that I've put my foot down, being as sick as I am and will no longer be the punching bag for my family and have told them so, including Mark. There are no maybe's anymore or sitting and waiting for things to be done! I'm tired and don't deserve the poor treatment nor will I take it anymore and once that happens I'm hoping that their respect for me will follow.

Love to you all. Again, happy holidays! Hopefully in the new year things will change for the better, but will take time. /FL

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Hi

I am sorry that your family circumstances are not happier. Especially at

this time of year. I think you are an amazing woman. How you manage to

live a full life while battling with fibro and all of the other

pressures you are under. Since kindness is a choice (a choice to give

the best of ourself to another) it is sad for you, and Noah, who

understands everything - that your husband chooses to treat you so

unkindly. You don't need to hear from me that you deserve better...that

you deserve stability and happiness. You clearly know that. Since change

changes everything I hope the news you hear on Saturday will somehow be

a catalyst for positive changes you are hoping for.

As for religious reasons/duties binding women to unhappy and sometimes

dangerous marriages. There are also non-religious women who do the same.

I think in the majority of cases it will be found that having a child is

the glue that binds/imprisons women in thankless/reckless marriages. On

a very deep level we wish for the father of our child to support and

protect us. To provide a safe, stable environment. When they do not live

up to our ideal we hope (and sometimes never give up hoping) that they

will revert to being our knight in shining armour.

I hope, pray, and wish you luck in your search for a solution to the

crcumstances you are faced with. I also agree with everything the ladies

have advised you. Enjoy your time with Noah, and loved ones over

Christmas as much as you can.

Love & hugs

Carlene

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better than yesterday. Nate(my husband) and i had a talk after Noah was

put to bed and agreed that we are not in synch at all anymore and we do

not know what to do.He basically admitted that our marriage, our

relationship and me were not his main priority. He said Noah was(which

is good) and his job/desire for own restaurant are his priorities. He

works his but off for a job at the sacrifice of his family and then they

drop him for whatever reason or he quits from dissatisfaction and I

support us til he goes back again. Its the same thing over and over and

he thinks its not wrong becasue he is planning for Noah's future. That

would be great if he was consistent and also thought abtou his family

when making decisions. I really thought hard and regarding my commnet

/belief that as a protestant Christian, God hates divorce and it isnt

really approved of except in physical abuse and in

> the case of a believer married to a nonbeliever(like us)- if the non

believer leaves. It feels like he already left since I and our

relationship are not prorities. Basically we are on the back burner and

he expects me to be okay with that. I do not know what is giong to

happen on Sat, but he is going to ahve to really say something or show

me something to prove that it can get any better or I dont think I willl

be wiling to even try counselling again. Christmas is going to be a

happy charade jsut for Noah's sake. Hope everyone else has a better

Christmas.

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Hi - I missed your posts but understand how bad you feel. I hope

you new doctor helps you to decrease the pain so that you will feel less

exhausted from it all.

BTW It is Christmas morning over here. And even though there is a cool

breeze it is shaping up to be a scorcher! No wonder Santa does his

drop-offs at night. As he and the reindeer would have heat strokes if

they had to deliver during the day. LoL From mid-day it will be

air-conditioners to the rescue. It must be great to have a white

Christmas.

Merry Christmas, and Happy New Year to you and yours. Enjoy the holiday

season and take good care. Hoping for a healthier, prosperous 2010

especially for you.

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Oh - Just the thought of a tornado runs chills up my spine. I have

seen US television footage of the destruction they cause. Hope you don't

get any tornadoes or really bad storms either over Christmas and New

Year. Sorry to hear about the other awful things that happened in your

neighbourhood recently. Stay safe and well as you can. Wishing you and

your family a Merry Christmas and happy holiday season.

Love & hugs

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Hi Carlene,

Thanks for you words of advice. Its really weird right now. We are sleeping apart and everything is really peaceful because we are both kind of on our best most cordial behavior right now with each other putting on the shiny happy Christmas face for Noah, but its so sad, becasue their a sense that change(good or bad) is impending . It feels really eery and I would like to jsut sleep through Christmas and tell everyone to stay home. I can't obviously because it would ruin Noah's Christmas, but that is what I feel like doing- that and crying a bit.I keep trying to think if its worth it to keep trying again and last time we were separated, I could find some happy times in my mond that made me want to keep trying. this time, however, each good time we have is tempered with an argument we had during the same event. sorry to keep venting. It jsut keeps coming out when I write to y'all.

Carolina

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From: Carlene <carlene.grimshaw@...>Subject: Re: Hello, this is how I feel today., 12/24/2009, 8:00 am Date: Thursday, December 24, 2009, 4:48 PM

Hi I am sorry that your family circumstances are not happier. Especially atthis time of year. I think you are an amazing woman. How you manage tolive a full life while battling with fibro and all of the otherpressures you are under. Since kindness is a choice (a choice to givethe best of ourself to another) it is sad for you, and Noah, whounderstands everything - that your husband chooses to treat you sounkindly. You don't need to hear from me that you deserve better...thatyou deserve stability and happiness. You clearly know that. Since changechanges everything I hope the news you hear on Saturday will somehow bea catalyst for positive changes you are hoping for.As for religious reasons/duties binding women to unhappy and sometimesdangerous marriages. There are also non-religious women who do the same.I think in the majority of cases it will be found that having a child isthe

glue that binds/imprisons women in thankless/reckless marriages. Ona very deep level we wish for the father of our child to support andprotect us. To provide a safe, stable environment. When they do not liveup to our ideal we hope (and sometimes never give up hoping) that theywill revert to being our knight in shining armour.I hope, pray, and wish you luck in your search for a solution to thecrcumstances you are faced with. I also agree with everything the ladieshave advised you. Enjoy your time with Noah, and loved ones overChristmas as much as you can.Love & hugsCarlene>> Hi> Thanks for your input and advice, sue and

. Today is not muchbetter than yesterday. Nate(my husband) and i had a talk after Noah wasput to bed and agreed that we are not in synch at all anymore and we donot know what to do.He basically admitted that our marriage, ourrelationship and me were not his main priority. He said Noah was(whichis good) and his job/desire for own restaurant are his priorities. Heworks his but off for a job at the sacrifice of his family and then theydrop him for whatever reason or he quits from dissatisfaction and Isupport us til he goes back again. Its the same thing over and over andhe thinks its not wrong becasue he is planning for Noah's future. Thatwould be great if he was consistent and also thought abtou his familywhen making decisions. I really thought hard and regarding my commnet/belief that as a protestant Christian, God hates divorce and it isntreally approved of except in physical abuse and in>

the case of a believer married to a nonbeliever( like us)- if the nonbeliever leaves. It feels like he already left since I and ourrelationship are not prorities. Basically we are on the back burner andhe expects me to be okay with that. I do not know what is giong tohappen on Sat, but he is going to ahve to really say something or showme something to prove that it can get any better or I dont think I willlbe wiling to even try counselling again. Christmas is going to be ahappy charade jsut for Noah's sake. Hope everyone else has a betterChristmas.>> >>>>> From: > Subject: Hello, this is how I feel today.,12/24/2009, 8:00 am> > Date: Thursday, December 24, 2009, 7:43 AM>>>>>>>>> #yiv105245949 a {color:#0066CC; text-decoration: none;}> #yiv105245949 {text-align: center;font- family:Arial; }> #yiv105245949.propertyname{ text-align: right;font- size:13px; color:7A8180; vertical- alig\n:top;white- space:nowrap; }> #yiv105245949.propertyvalue{ text-align: left;font- size:13px; vertical- align:top; }> #yiv105245949 .divider{width: 5px;}> #yiv105245949 #main

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Dear KAren,

I'm sorry to hear that you are still having such a hard time and are in so much pain stil. I am proud of you for standing up to your family. I hope that they will provide better support for you. I'm also really glad to hear that you ahve a new Dr who is delving further into things. I hope that he will be able to provide significant help for you. Take care and hav a blessed Christmas

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Let the tears flow as it is the best thing you can do for you

right now. Based on your words " theirs a sense that change (good or bad)

is impending. " Whether you stay together or not, intuitively, it seems

that the current negative marital pattern is coming to an end. And that

is a good thing - a partial resolution. Because change will give you the

space you need to be able to think things through more clearly. With

friends here who love you - you know you can enjoy support and

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Thank you so much and Merry Christmas to you. Yes I am desperately hoping this doctor will do wonders or at least guide me. He has already started me and have tried one other thing, which didn't work and has just introduced another med to alternate my pain meds with My family (kids 22 20) and husband claim to understand but don't help, snide remarks and thinks I can do so much more. It felt really good to speak my peace and demand respect first and I'm sticking to it. I'm just tired and I know everyone understands. Holiday hugs /FLSent from my BlackBerry® smartphone with SprintSpeedFrom: Gaduyon <noerzmom@...>Date: Thu, 24 Dec 2009 15:51:12 -0800 (PST)< >Subject: Re: Hello, this is how I feel today., 12/24/2009, 8:00 am Dear KAren, I'm sorry to hear that you are still having such a hard time and are in so much pain stil. I am proud of you for standing up to your family. I hope that they will provide better support for you. I'm also really glad to hear that you ahve a new Dr who is delving further into things. I hope that he will be able to provide significant help for you. Take care and hav a blessed Christmas Carolina KFrom: <>Subject: Hello, this is how I feel today., 12/24/2009, 8:00 amDate: Thursday, December 24, 2009, 7:43 AMReminder from: Group Title: Hello, this is how I feel today. Date: Thursday December 24, 2009Time: 8:00 am - 8:00 pm Repeats: This event repeats every day.Notes: Good day to everyone. Tell us how you feel today. We really want to know. Get reminders on your mobile, Messenger, and email.Edit reminder optionsCopyright © 2009 | Terms of Service | Privacy Policy

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So so sorry you're going thru this right now. Although no time is the right time to go through marital problems, this time of the year doesn't help. I wish you the best. Hugs /FLSent from my BlackBerry® smartphone with SprintSpeedFrom: Gaduyon <noerzmom@...>Date: Thu, 24 Dec 2009 15:46:54 -0800 (PST)< >Subject: Re: Re: Hello, this is how I feel today., 12/24/2009, 8:00 am Hi Carlene, Thanks for you words of advice. Its really weird right now. We are sleeping apart and everything is really peaceful because we are both kind of on our best most cordial behavior right now with each other putting on the shiny happy Christmas face for Noah, but its so sad, becasue their a sense that change(good or bad) is impending . It feels really eery and I would like to jsut sleep through Christmas and tell everyone to stay home. I can't obviously because it would ruin Noah's Christmas, but that is what I feel like doing- that and crying a bit.I keep trying to think if its worth it to keep trying again and last time we were separated, I could find some happy times in my mond that made me want to keep trying. this time, however, each good time we have is tempered with an argument we had during the same event. sorry to keep venting. It jsut keeps coming out when I write to y'all. CarolinaKFrom: Carlene <carlene.grimshaw >Subject: Re: Hello, this is how I feel today., 12/24/2009, 8:00 am Date: Thursday, December 24, 2009, 4:48 PM Hi I am sorry that your family circumstances are not happier. Especially atthis time of year. I think you are an amazing woman. How you manage tolive a full life while battling with fibro and all of the otherpressures you are under. Since kindness is a choice (a choice to givethe best of ourself to another) it is sad for you, and Noah, whounderstands everything - that your husband chooses to treat you sounkindly. You don't need to hear from me that you deserve better...thatyou deserve stability and happiness. You clearly know that. Since changechanges everything I hope the news you hear on Saturday will somehow bea catalyst for positive changes you are hoping for.As for religious reasons/duties binding women to unhappy and sometimesdangerous marriages. There are also non-religious women who do the same.I think in the majority of cases it will be found that having a child istheglue that binds/imprisons women in thankless/reckless marriages. Ona very deep level we wish for the father of our child to support andprotect us. To provide a safe, stable environment. When they do not liveup to our ideal we hope (and sometimes never give up hoping) that theywill revert to being our knight in shining armour.I hope, pray, and wish you luck in your search for a solution to thecrcumstances you are faced with. I also agree with everything the ladieshave advised you. Enjoy your time with Noah, and loved ones overChristmas as much as you can.Love & hugsCarlene>> Hi> Thanks for your input and advice, sue and. Today is not muchbetter than yesterday. Nate(my husband) and i had a talk after Noah wasput to bed and agreed that we are not in synch at all anymore and we donot know what to do.He basically admitted that our marriage, ourrelationship and me were not his main priority. He said Noah was(whichis good) and his job/desire for own restaurant are his priorities. Heworks his but off for a job at the sacrifice of his family and then theydrop him for whatever reason or he quits from dissatisfaction and Isupport us til he goes back again. Its the same thing over and over andhe thinks its not wrong becasue he is planning for Noah's future. Thatwould be great if he was consistent and also thought abtou his familywhen making decisions. I really thought hard and regarding my commnet/belief that as a protestant Christian, God hates divorce and it isntreally approved of except in physical abuse and in>the case of a believer married to a nonbeliever( like us)- if the nonbeliever leaves. It feels like he already left since I and ourrelationship are not prorities. Basically we are on the back burner andhe expects me to be okay with that. I do not know what is giong tohappen on Sat, but he is going to ahve to really say something or showme something to prove that it can get any better or I dont think I willlbe wiling to even try counselling again. Christmas is going to be ahappy charade jsut for Noah's sake. 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Same here, Carlene, it'll be in the 80's in the a.m. and I already have my air on since this a.m. We are supposed to have another cold front by the beginning of the week. Thanks for your encouragement. Merry Christmas to you. Hugs /FL

From: Carlene <carlene.grimshaw@...>Subject: Re: Hello, this is how I feel today., 12/24/2009, 8:00 am Date: Thursday, December 24, 2009, 5:49 PM

Hi - I missed your posts but understand how bad you feel. I hopeyou new doctor helps you to decrease the pain so that you will feel lessexhausted from it all.BTW It is Christmas morning over here. And even though there is a coolbreeze it is shaping up to be a scorcher! No wonder Santa does hisdrop-offs at night. As he and the reindeer would have heat strokes ifthey had to deliver during the day. LoL From mid-day it will beair-conditioners to the rescue. It must be great to have a whiteChristmas.Merry Christmas, and Happy New Year to you and yours. Enjoy the holidayseason and take good care. Hoping for a healthier, prosperous 2010especially for you.Love & hugsCarlene>>> From: > Subject: Hello, this is how I feel today.,12/24/2009, 8:00 am> > Date: Thursday, December 24, 2009, 7:43 AM