Re: [HeidiLiane] Pain vs Sex (a serious but laughable subject)

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Oh he gets sooooo upset by this. The funny, stand up comedian in him just flies out and the serious little boy comes in. I can deal with the body pain but it is the internal pain that I seem to have acquired with this illness. I have every product to help as well. Then the days afterward are terrible. I was never like this. I do not know why this go with the IT we have. I like sex. I find this very distressing. I also have a young husband that finds me very desirable and is not ready to hang up that part of our relationship.

Still when everyone posts it adds some humor to a subject that makes it not so insurmountable and makes me smile. Thank you, thank you for that.

Hugs,

Sue

From: Palm <southernyankee7457@...>Subject: [HeidiLiane] Pain vs SexHeidiLiane Date: Wednesday, January 14, 2009, 9:05 AM

,_Pam,

I had to chuckle at your post, because it is a subject I had not seen on here before, but probably most of us can relate. I'm lucky in that my husband and I have worked out all the "kinks" in our marriage (with the help of the Lord) and we realize that "sex does NOT equal love"! Although that part of our marriage is still very important to him, and not so important to me, he realizes that just having me here with him is what is important.

He still puts in his "requests" for a little TLC, and I put forth a good effort when running is no longer an option. We now laugh about it, and it is no longer a subject I dread for him to mention. It is hard to be serious when one of the partners involved is constantly saying, "ow, ow, ow".

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I will send up a prayer asking that He allow you some time off from the fibro so you can be your best for the Expo. And I am with you on the just-get-up-and-do-it theory. Someone on this board (I apologize that I can't remember who) once said that even though she was usually in pain and rarely felt like having sex, if her husband wanted to, she went ahead and did it anyhow. Her thoughts were that she was going to be in pain anyhow, so why make her husband suffer for it? I thought it was an excellent attitude and I immediately adopted it as my own. It does give hubby a better attitude, I will say that.

Anyhow, I think that's just another example of just doing it whether you feel up to it or not. I think that usually works in our favor.

Pam H

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