Change in plans

[Guest guest]

I'm really sorry gang...... I wish I could attend, but right now, due to this

" new " situation that's arised, I won't have the money to go on my own. Gasoline

will be costly, the hotel room will be expensive and having to drive with two

children for more than 4 hours by myself is going to be a bit much. It's

probably better that I wait until Savannah is a bit older anyways.

LOL..... it's 3:30 a.m. and Sav is awake, which is very unusual for her..... me

too..... I'm usually dreaming right at this moment.

Judi

Re: Change in plans

Awww, Judi !!

I, for one, am disappointed :-(

Patty

[Guest guest]

Hey Stacie,

You sure have been thru the ringer with all of this. I sure hope they get their act together soon for your sake. So many of us are wishing you well and if there is anything we can do for you then let us know. If we lived closer, I am sure you would have many visitors and we would be in the hospitals face!

Big Hugz to you,

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[Guest guest]

Wow. I had just pushed the button to send this post and my husband walked into the room. He pointed out that if I went with him today, I would probably miss Bible study tonight, and besides, he said, he didn't want me to be uncomfortable. This is a major change...he really never considers my comfort. I am flabbergasted, and not just a little relieved that I'm not getting in that car in a few minutes. Like I said: Wow.

Pam

Re: Hello, this is how I feel today., 5/27/2009, 8:00 am

I'm going on an 8-hour car drive with my husband today, we'll be leaving in a few minutes. I'm dreading it. He's going to Knoxville, TN (from Salisbury, NC) to pick up some tractor part or something, and I agreed to go with him so he wouldn't have to do the whole trip alone. I wish I hadn't said I'd go.

I guess I better drop the pessimism and decide that I'm going to have a great time. Mind over matter. Just to be safe, though, please say a prayer for me.

Pam

[Guest guest]

Thank

goodness!!!! So a nice quiet day for you instead J

I hope you enjoy it!

Sherry in PA

From:

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Behalf Of Pam Horne

Sent: Wednesday, May 27, 2009 8:02 AM

Subject: Change in plans

Wow.

I had just pushed the button to send this post and my husband walked into

the room. He pointed out that if I went with him today, I would probably

miss Bible study tonight, and besides, he said, he didn't want me to be

uncomfortable. This is a major change...he really never considers my

comfort. I am flabbergasted, and not just a little relieved that I'm not

getting in that car in a few minutes. Like I said: Wow.

Pam

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Original Message -----

From: Pam Horne

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Sent: Wednesday, May 27,

2009 7:49 AM

Subject: Re:

Hello, this is how I feel today., 5/27/2009, 8:00 am

I'm

going on an 8-hour car drive with my husband today, we'll be leaving in a few

minutes. I'm dreading it. He's going to Knoxville, TN (from Salisbury,

NC) to pick up some tractor part or something, and I agreed to go with him so

he wouldn't have to do the whole trip alone. I wish I hadn't said I'd go.

I

guess I better drop the pessimism and decide that I'm going to have a great

time. Mind over matter. Just to be safe, though, please say a

prayer for me.

Pam

[Guest guest]

Hi Pam,

That is great. I'm glad you didn't have to go, but I'm even more glad that he put your needs above his. I know that our husbands often miss that boat. I have been praying for your marriage and that your husband would show more concern and interest in you and your needs after our discussion the other day and your comment to Sue.Just out of curiosity, (you can say its none of my business) is your husband a Christian also? I ask, because mine is not and I think that is part of the reason for his selfishness.

G

From: Pam Horne <pmarshall@...>Subject: Change in plans Date: Wednesday, May 27, 2009, 8:01 AM

Wow. I had just pushed the button to send this post and my husband walked into the room. He pointed out that if I went with him today, I would probably miss Bible study tonight, and besides, he said, he didn't want me to be uncomfortable. This is a major change...he really never considers my comfort. I am flabbergasted, and not just a little relieved that I'm not getting in that car in a few minutes. Like I said: Wow.

Pam

Re: Hello, this is how I feel today., 5/27/2009, 8:00 am

I'm going on an 8-hour car drive with my husband today, we'll be leaving in a few minutes. I'm dreading it. He's going to Knoxville, TN (from Salisbury, NC) to pick up some tractor part or something, and I agreed to go with him so he wouldn't have to do the whole trip alone. I wish I hadn't said I'd go.

I guess I better drop the pessimism and decide that I'm going to have a great time. Mind over matter. Just to be safe, though, please say a prayer for me.

Pam

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

Thank you so much for your prayers. In answer to your question, my husband is a Christian. He grew up with a Daddy who was a Baptist minister, although now we are Presbyterian. He has lived in a Christian household his entire lilfe and has always been active in a church. I have noticed, however, that he often does not practice what he preaches. In Sunday School and Bible study, he can recite scripture and provide in-depth commentary about scripture, but when we leave the church, he forgets about it quickly. Lately I have been commenting on that. He becomes angry when I bring it up, but at least I know I have put the thought in his mind.

Once again, thank you for your prayers. I'm sure it helped keep me from having to take that trip yesterday.

Pam

Change in plans Date: Wednesday, May 27, 2009, 8:01 AM

Wow. I had just pushed the button to send this post and my husband walked into the room. He pointed out that if I went with him today, I would probably miss Bible study tonight, and besides, he said, he didn't want me to be uncomfortable. This is a major change..he really never considers my comfort. I am flabbergasted, and not just a little relieved that I'm not getting in that car in a few minutes. Like I said: Wow.

Pam

[Guest guest]

I will continue to pray for you both. There is one advantage that you have over me. Since your husband is a christian, maybe some time after you pray about it, if the Lord leads you, you could mention to him that sometimes you are concerned that he may feel like his needs aren't being met(I'm sure they are, but it makes it less finger pointing) and ask him if he will pray with you that both of you can work on listening to one another and trying to be more supportive. Its possible that he will be willing and even if he thinks its all you- if he is praying with you, God may work in both of you. I don't really have that option yet since my husband is not a believer. I have to do the praying for us both. Just a thought.

Blessings,

From: Pam Horne <pmarshallnc (DOT) rr.com>Subject: Change in plansDate: Wednesday, May 27, 2009, 8:01 AM

Wow. I had just pushed the button to send this post and my husband walked into the room. He pointed out that if I went with him today, I would probably miss Bible study tonight, and besides, he said, he didn't want me to be uncomfortable. This is a major change..he really never considers my comfort. I am flabbergasted, and not just a little relieved that I'm not getting in that car in a few minutes. Like I said: Wow.

Pam

[Guest guest]

Thank you , that's a very good idea and I'm going to try it.

My sister has been a non-believer since the 70s when she married a professed athiest. Twenty-seven years later they finally divorced, but by then she was solidly brain-washed. About a year ago I repeated to her something that I had read: "I would rather believe and find out in the end that I was wrong, than to not believe and find out in the end that they were right." It made her stop and think. And eventually it got her to reading the Bible a little bit. She still has a long way to go, but at least she's now on the right road.

There are those who claim that this way of thinking is not real faith, and maybe to begin with it's not. But anything that will turn a non-believer's head is OK with me, and eventually the make-believe faith will turn into real faith. It's worth a try on your husband.

I will pray for your marriage also; thank you for your continued prayers for mine.

Pam

PS. I learned later that this quote is called "Pascal's Gambit," and it is very deep in complexity. If you are interested, you can read more about it here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pascal's_wager

Change in plansDate: Wednesday, May 27, 2009, 8:01 AM

Wow. I had just pushed the button to send this post and my husband walked into the room. He pointed out that if I went with him today, I would probably miss Bible study tonight, and besides, he said, he didn't want me to be uncomfortable. This is a major change..he really never considers my comfort. I am flabbergasted, and not just a little relieved that I'm not getting in that car in a few minutes. Like I said: Wow.

Pam

[Guest guest]

Thank so much. I have said similar things to him. He just isn't ready to admit it yet. I ahve seen growth though. He began with I don't believe in God. then he moved to I hate God.(not good, but you can't hate something that doesn't exist) now, he says he doesn't hate God, but he thinks God hates him, because of things that he has had happen to him. He doesn't understand that God doesn't casue those things, he just allows them. I really think that my son may be the one who will reach him one day. Already, he ends up singing Jesus Loves Me, reading bible stories and occasionally doing night night prayers, jsut because Noah asks him to. I giggle inside every time I hear him read Noah a bible story or verse or sing the song. : ) I think God is working on him in little bits.

I'm sorry about your sister, but I'm glad that she is making steps back. I will keep her in prayer as well.

KG

From: Pam Horne <pmarshallnc (DOT) rr.com>Subject: Change in plansDate: Wednesday, May 27, 2009, 8:01 AM

Wow. I had just pushed the button to send this post and my husband walked into the room. He pointed out that if I went with him today, I would probably miss Bible study tonight, and besides, he said, he didn't want me to be uncomfortable. This is a major change..he really never considers my comfort. I am flabbergasted, and not just a little relieved that I'm not getting in that car in a few minutes. Like I said: Wow.

Pam