Guest guest Posted December 29, 2007 Report Share Posted December 29, 2007 I second that! These e-mails are many but I read almost EVERY one. It eases my recurrent anxiety of craziness. I'm in constant pain and only 33 with 3 children, 15, 5, & 3. I worry how can I possibly live like this until they are grown? The WHY part is the worst but knowing I have others out there that can relate helps me keep going day in and day out! THANK YOU AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN! Rae Ann In a message dated 12/29/2007 5:30:31 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, christina-777@... writes: THANK GOD WE HAVE A NETWORK OF FRIENDS ON LINE TO REACH OUT TO. I KNOW IT ISN'T THE SAME AS HAVING FRIENDS IN PERSON TO HUG YOU AND LET YOU CRY ON THEIR SHOULDER, BUT I THINK WE ALL ARE COMING ALONG FAST AS FRIENDS AROUND HERE. WE LOVE EACH MEMBER AND CARE FOR EACH ONE OF YOU. CHRISTINAMichele Townsend <mtownsend29comcast (DOT) net> wrote: But sometimes you don't have good friends and such to rely on. That is the situation that I found myself in, having become quite a recluse, only spending time helping my daughter and then recuperating to help her again. If you do not have a support system, or they are more of a stressor to you, then this may be helpful to you as it was to me for several years. I have not been for a few years, but my stressors have become manageable with daily talks with the Lord and relying on Him for everything. This too comes with practice and can go hand in hand with a therapist to talk to. Until you get it sorted out, a therapist who is paid to listen to you and help you reflect on helping you sort out your life until you feel you can handle it with the Lord's help may be just what you need. Preferably a Christian based one but anyone who does not put down what you believe will be helpful if they listen. Hugs, Michele - Nana & DayCare provider toTwins is and , 18mos., Zachary, 3 yrs.,Ethan, 7 yrs., and Tony, 11 yrs. Re: psychologist they have provided absolutely nothing for me that good friends and groups like this one haven't been able to do better... and i agree if you have a positive attitude and recognize that there will be good days and bad you're already doing well... blessed be liz See AOL's top rated recipes and easy ways to stay in shape for winter. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 29, 2007 Report Share Posted December 29, 2007 I agree that the quantity of emails is approaching overwhelming, and I've taken to lurking more than anything. I, unfortunately, haven't found online support to be sufficient. It is definitely helpful to have others to confide in, whine to and pass along research information to. But this isn't the same as the friend who could come by and help you when you've crashed for a period. I used to have a couple of those until I remarried and moved 3 1/2 years ago. I moved away from where I worked and had to give up great colleagues as well. Since I relapsed just as we got married (though I'm fairly recovered now), I haven't gone back out into the work world. That has left me feeling quite stranded because all I have to rely on is my husband. And personally I think that puts way too great a burden on him. But such is life. Janice --- raeannturner@... wrote: > I second that! > > These e-mails are many but I read almost EVERY one. > It eases my recurrent > anxiety of craziness. I'm in constant pain and only > 33 with 3 children, 15, > 5, & 3. I worry how can I possibly live like this > until they are grown? The > WHY part is the worst but knowing I have others out > there that can relate > helps me keep going day in and day out! > > THANK YOU AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN! > > Rae Ann > > > In a message dated 12/29/2007 5:30:31 A.M. Eastern > Standard Time, > christina-777@... writes: > > > > > THANK GOD WE HAVE A NETWORK OF FRIENDS ON LINE TO > REACH OUT TO. I KNOW IT > ISN'T THE SAME AS HAVING FRIENDS IN PERSON TO HUG > YOU AND LET YOU CRY ON THEIR > SHOULDER, BUT I THINK WE ALL ARE COMING ALONG FAST > AS FRIENDS AROUND HERE. WE > LOVE EACH MEMBER AND CARE FOR EACH ONE OF YOU. > > CHRISTINA > > Michele Townsend <mtownsend29@mtownsend29> wrote: > > > > But sometimes you don't have good friends and such > to rely on. That is the > situation that I found myself in, having become > quite a recluse, only > spending time helping my daughter and then > recuperating to help her again. If you > do not have a support system, or they are more of a > stressor to you, then this > may be helpful to you as it was to me for several > years. I have not been > for a few years, but my stressors have become > manageable with daily talks with > the Lord and relying on Him for everything. This > too comes with practice > and can go hand in hand with a therapist to talk to. > Until you get it sorted > out, a therapist who is paid to listen to you and > help you reflect on helping > you sort out your life until you feel you can handle > it with the Lord's help > may be just what you need. Preferably a Christian > based one but anyone who > does not put down what you believe will be helpful > if they listen. > Hugs, Michele - Nana & DayCare provider to > Twins is and , 18mos., Zachary, 3 yrs., > Ethan, 7 yrs., and Tony, 11 yrs. > > > Re: psychologist > > > they have provided absolutely nothing for me that > good friends and groups > like this one haven't been able to do better... and > i agree if you have a > positive attitude and recognize that there will be > good days and bad you're > already doing well... > > blessed be > liz > > > > > > > > > > > > > **************************************See AOL's top > rated recipes > (http://food.aol.com/top-rated-recipes?NCID=aoltop00030000000004) > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Never miss a thing. Make your home page. http://www./r/hs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 29, 2007 Report Share Posted December 29, 2007 I find that I don't talk to my friends about this much, if ever. I know they are supportive, but they really don't understand. I do, after all, look fairly healthy. My husband wants to understand, but I don't think he has the wherewithall to do it. Some people have compassion, some don't. So I find this group very helpful. I read all the emails, but I too have taken to lurking more than participating. Still, just knowing that everybody out there knows how I feel.... it's comforting. Pam Re: psychologist> > > they have provided absolutely nothing for me that> good friends and groups > like this one haven't been able to do better... and> i agree if you have a > positive attitude and recognize that there will be> good days and bad you're > already doing well...> > blessed be> liz> > > > > > > > > > > > > **************************************See AOL's top> rated recipes >(http://food.aol.com/top-rated-recipes?NCID=aoltop00030000000004)> __________________________________________________________Never miss a thing. Make your home page. http://www./r/hs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 29, 2007 Report Share Posted December 29, 2007 Acutally, i find myself as well taking less and less to family and friends about this. Part of that is that i feel they just get over burdened since it is such a constant part of life.. but the other side of it is to talk about is to think and dwell on it and i would rather not focus on it and adapt.. i don't want people to think of me as the condition because i'm constantly talking about.. i mention a really bad day and that's about it.. it seems in a way that this has helped because i've been able to keep my mind on other things rather then fibro and how horrible i feel.. so groups like this one are where i come to discuss these issues.. i think it would be great to have local group that actually meets, but this can be difficult with fibro people and those that are available do not meet at times i can attend... whatever works i guess blessed be lizPam Horne <pmarshall@...> wrote: I find that I don't talk to my friends about this much, if ever. I know they are supportive, but they really don't understand. I do, after all, look fairly healthy. My husband wants to understand, but I don't think he has the wherewithall to do it. Some people have compassion, some don't. So I find this group very helpful. I read all the emails, but I too have taken to lurking more than participating. Still, just knowing that everybody out there knows how I feel.... it's comforting. Pam Re: psychologist> > > they have provided absolutely nothing for me that> good friends and groups > like this one haven't been able to do better... and> i agree if you have a > positive attitude and recognize that there will be> good days and bad you're > already doing well...> > blessed be> liz> > > > > > > > > > > > > **************************************See AOL's top> rated recipes >(http://food.aol.com/top-rated-recipes?NCID=aoltop00030000000004)> __________________________________________________________Never miss a thing. Make your home page. http://www./r/hs Never miss a thing. Make your homepage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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