Re: In the dark

[Guest guest]

In the dark

Hello " Charlotte " ,

Unaccustomed as I am to the role of " agony aunt " , I guess that you have

several options open to you:

If your boyfriend has mobile phone, you could telephone him, text him or

perhaps e-mail him, to ask him how he's feeling.

Or if you feel that these are inappropriate (as I would), you could write

him a really nice love-letter, and tell him how you feel about him.

Now, I'm surmising about the unwritten word here, but if there is a problem

between you, where one of you believes that this illness has been contacted

from the other; and perhaps via intermediate sexual contact with another

person, then this is something that you really must discuss between you.

If you wish to prove that you do not have chlamydia, (or other STDs), then

you may offer to show him your piece of paper, and he may wish to show you

his.

At very least I think that a polite and friendly telephone call, or a letter

conceived along similar lines, would be a good place to start.

So, I wish you luck with that Charlotte.

[Guest guest]

> My boyfriend of 3 years has been diagnosed with RS and it was

> initially thought to have been triggered by Chlamydia.

Well, guessing what triggered it is a futile exercise. So many things can

trigger RS and Chlamydia is only one of them.

Right now, your boyfriend probably is trying to come to grips with RS, not an

easy thing, as most of us know.

Give him some time, but the advice about a nice letter is good. Corresponding

by letter is a good way to help both of you.

Blessings

+Dave

" Everyday I beat my own previous record for number of consecutive days I've

stayed alive. "

[Guest guest]

I fear that he either blames me or is afraid I will feel sorry for

him. He is highly educated, but unfortunately very proud as well.

He is 33 years old and was suffering from severe urinary infection

and conjunctivitis in both eyes and was in and out of the Hospital

for a week with little to no relief with the antibiotics. He asked

me not to communicate with him by any means soon after the

diagnosis. Last year he had surgery for a fistula possibly due to

Crohns disease and he was comfortable discussing it with me. We even

joked about it at times. Is Reiter's Syndrome so much worse thatit

would cause him to want me out of his life? Do Crohns and RS go hand

in hand? I'm scared he will get angry at me for pushing myselfon

him, but I also want him to know that I care about him.

I greatly appreciate everyone's thoughtful advise and support. I

will send a simple and kind letter via regular mail and then let it

be.

This is truly a helpful site.

Thanks again,

Houston Texas

[Guest guest]

Good on you for having the mind to want to be there for your partner

a part of it may be that your partner doesn't wants to save you from the

future you would join him in

i initially thought it may be a Chlamydia'l infection that triggered it for

me

i would say that i had had root canal surgery in the same year (2002)

and i have travelled lots and had many injections of which i think might

have had been worse than the chance of infection/malaria/typhoid...

from 'in the dark' to having a lightbulb of an idea to 'lite-up your

mind' -is where i'm trying to help you get

within your words to him -tell him of nutritional foods you have heard

-which if not to cure -could hopefully help him through his day to day life

as its everyday which he'll wake

he possibly feels as though as he's not doing much -he'll seem

un-interesting to anyone who does normal things in their normal lives

hope you get thru to him

as you by your actions are worthy of the love you feel for him -returned

its a long road but wearing loose trainers and an easy smile i hope you both

get to hold hands again

Rich Orange ...xxx...