Re: Re: My father broke his hip

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In a message dated 4/22/2004 5:03:27 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

smithsac@... writes:

Where I used to dwell on things I can no longer do, I now realize there are

very important things I can do.

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, what a beautiful post and so true. I've saved the above quote from you

and will try to revisit it when I get down in spirits for times when we can't

do what we used to do. We may never personally see how prayers are answered,

but in the eternal we will. :-) God bless you for sharing this.

BTW everyone, today was the birthday of our 14th grandchild, a girl, Caroline

. Just thought I'd share that with you. No need for congrats....I

still get excited about little babies. :-)

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In a message dated 4/23/2004 1:01:59 PM Pacific Standard Time,

jturner@... writes:

The nurse even wanted me to give him his pills

Wow! When I was in the hospital, the nurses wouldn't even give me my pills,

unless there was a 'witness' there to watch. Golly! this is the first I have

heard of nurses trying to get someone else to give the pills. How sad.

Sending you my best wishes!

K

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Thanks so much, . That was very comforting. Too tired to e-mail much

now. My Dad is hallucinating all the time now from Alzheimer's and

Parkinson's. At least he's too weak and frail from the broken hip to get

out of bed and wander which was the big problem before. He's being moved to

a nursing home in Sonoma today. I will go up there on Sunday and sit with

him and see how the facility is. I'm mostly worried will they feed him

enough because he can't feed himself right now. I fed him dinner last

night. The nurse even wanted me to give him his pills. They fob absolutely

everything they can possibly can off on the families. I was firm that I

didn't know how to do that. There is a skill to giving pills to a

completely infirm person. It's very sad. I'll do the best by him that I

can.

Love and exhaustion,

Janet in SF

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Well, K, this is a Kaiser hospital, and that's Kaiser for you. When he had

open heart surgery a couple years ago, I thought I would get a little break

immediately after surgery when he was in Cardiac ICU. Hah! I remember I

was on my feet for 12 hours straight in the Cardiac ICU. It triggered a big

flare of arthritis. Yep, at Kaiser the families are in the ICU, you're

practically in the operating room, that's what they're like. I'm real

concerned about the convalescent hospital he's being moved to, because right

now he needs so much help with eating. I will see this weekend what they're

like and if he's being fed. That's what I'm most focused on right now, does

my father have food and liquids? I don't want him on a ventilator, but I do

want him to have liquids and nutrition right up until the end.

Thanks for everyone's encouragement!

Janet in SF