Everyone who ever betrayed you

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When people betray you they develop, after-the-fact, an elaborate

architecture of reasons why it was the right thing to do. While this

is not necessarily everybody -- some people pride themselves on coming

from pure evil -- it is what you can generally expect to encounter if

you ever discuss a betrayal with somebody who did it. They'll launch

into " why. "

And -- be honest with yourself -- you probably do the same thing. My

particular variation on this is a litany, which I call " they weren't

good enough. " My justification for not doing better is that they

weren't good enough, or doing well enough, for me to do better. For

all of us, these approaches are a real stumbling block to developing

ourselves. We justify our bad behaviors, and they persist forever.

A good question to ask about this is, " Do I have any justifying

architectures for betrayals? "

If yes, explore the first few thoroughly before removing them. Well,

they may not actually " remove " -- if you explore them, and see through

them though, they may disappear. It is therefore my guess that you'll

have to explore many of them thoroughly, if you want to make any

headway with this.

But the most important thing is telling yourself a flat truth to

yourself about your betrayal. The architectures will disappear

without you exploring them if you can do that. It will also be easier

to understand and get the exact nature of the betrayal by exploring

the architecture, which is based on it. So the architecture, viewing

it, may be the " way in " to the betrayal, and to removing the negative

effects.

Our betrayals hurt us more than anybody else. They get over them. We

carry them with us forever, until we do this kind of activity. Having

betrayed somebody compromises your immune system, and makes you

vulnerable to a pathology called conditions. Conditions are one of

the last three pathologies that an immuner has to address to have a

reasonably functioning immune system, and are covered in this Skill:

http://www.wayimmune.org/colleague/0lesson/0non.htm

What can you do to help somebody who has so completely sealed

themselves off from you inside one of these betrayal-justifying

architectures? You can't really be in relationship with them anymore,

because in justifying the previous betrayal they're also INADVERTENTLY

JUSTIFYING FUTURE ONES. Once this gets started, your person will tend

to betray you over and over and over again. So the first thing you

need to do is put a safe distance between you and them, BEFORE YOU

START THINKING ABOUT HOW TO HELP THEM.

Once you've done that, what do you to help them?

Immunics.

You can tell them about immunics. You can do immunics on them from a

distance. You can even take a walk with them to do immunics. Just

don't discuss the betrayal till they're in the calm clear place.

And don't have further entanglement with them until you have observed

them do enough immunics, and they have made enough clear statements

about their previous betrayal of you, so that being with them is like

being with a brand-new person who never betrayed you at all.

Your friend, Bayard

Keely has converted this to a lesson. It is in the Skill " Respond

From Your Spirit. " http://www.wayimmune.org/colleague/0lesson/0spr.htm