Guest guest Posted November 17, 2004 Report Share Posted November 17, 2004 Send this to Oprah; this can be the one that gets us on the show. They like real. I was inspired! Your buddy-in-arms, Bayard At 09:03 AM 11/16/2004, you wrote: >Bayard, good idea, Oprah has good information here, at least what I have >read, I get upset when I read about this, even if it is not going on right >now, and even if I do know how to stop it now. I walked away from that and >what I have now is: My life, no one controlling it except me, no one >trying to make me second guess myself in order to cause confusion, no one >angry all the time, no one pressuring me, no threats of what’s going to >happen if, no one hitting things to use fear to gain control. Post >Traumatic stress syndrome, I believe, is what it was, I had to hide a lot >of the stuff I was doing and reading about, if he found out he would >become upset, and something wrong would happen, there was no communication >from there. I was angry, confused and afraid. I would jump everytime I >heard my name. I tried to end this relationship, and he had no belief that >I was serious, he believed I was angry and would come around; he would not >leave, for two years (of Hell, sorry). Still a little bitter at times >about things, but I want it to go away. I decided I had to move out and in >the middle of all of this Immunics steps into my life. Bayard, Frannie, >Keily, Grey, et al, on the sly, I get on the computer, carefully erasing >my tracts as him finding out any of this would be a trigger. Believe me he >knew it was over; I had made myself quite clear. He knew about Immunics, >because how could I not try, I truly believe that I had tried everything >else by this time or I would not have considered divorce. I was afraid >for the children at this time, real or imagined, both. Escalated by my >fear yes. I do not trust this man anymore, nor do I know who he has >become. There could be many reasons, but I can’t fix this or tolerate it, >I must leave. I tested through lessons, afraid to call or talk to anyone >except a few very trusted friends, but I had my finger test my connection >to God, God loves me and will protect me, I know that. It came down to >choice and decision and a plan. It took me three days to get to the bank, >I advised them of my situation. I told them my assets, I was honest; I >have a job and a truck that is it. I could not touch any money that we >already gained together as he could take my house. Wow, 20 minutes to >freedom, that’s what it felt like to me. I was preapproved, go buy a house >and call and let me know about it they told me. >Wow. There is a small novel between there and the now. He is still around, >and can test. But refuses to use it, believes it, believes he doesn’t need >it, whatever, and however. He has changed, I still do not trust him enough >to have a personal relationship with him, and he has stopped being >“nasty”. He will not seek council, because he has had bad experiences with >them in the past, abuse as a child too, by his father, he is not allowed >to tell, but has opened up about some of it. >He has let a lot go. Anyways we are getting along now, he is doing nothing >wrong, He is looking after the kids in my home for me at night while I >work, He has told me that he realizes what has gone on and where we are >and my life is my own, to do with what I want, He wants to be with the >kids and be part of their life as much as I do. He is around more than I >am comfortable with sometimes, and I am constantly working on solutions. >Like I have to get out more and let him look after the children for me, as >he seems to be here a lot, I should take advantage of this. All I know is >immunics takes this turmoil away from me. I have learned a lot of life >lessons during the past 17 years and am grateful, I was iron thrown on the >fire to become steel. >Blessings >Moiselle >Oprah sites on abuse and relationships and divorce. >-Emotional abuse. >http://www.oprah.com/index.jhtml?_requestid=2040786 >- Abusive relationships >http://www.oprah.com/relationships/relationships_landing.jhtml >-Divorce >http://www.oprah.com/relationships/subsection_landing.jhtml?section=Breakups/Di\ vorce & subsection=Breakups/Divorce >- Relationship and 10 red flags. This is the section I wanted to see. >http://www.oprah.com/relationships/subsection_landing.jhtml?section=Couplehood & \ subsection=Dating Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2005 Report Share Posted January 5, 2005 Send this to Oprah; this can be the one that gets us on the show. They like real. I was inspired! Your buddy-in-arms, Bayard At 09:03 AM 11/16/2004, you wrote: >Bayard, good idea, Oprah has good information here, at least what I have >read, I get upset when I read about this, even if it is not going on right >now, and even if I do know how to stop it now. I walked away from that and >what I have now is: My life, no one controlling it except me, no one >trying to make me second guess myself in order to cause confusion, no one >angry all the time, no one pressuring me, no threats of what's going to >happen if, no one hitting things to use fear to gain control. Post >Traumatic stress syndrome, I believe, is what it was, I had to hide a lot >of the stuff I was doing and reading about, if he found out he would >become upset, and something wrong would happen, there was no communication >from there. I was angry, confused and afraid. I would jump everytime I >heard my name. I tried to end this relationship, and he had no belief that >I was serious, he believed I was angry and would come around; he would not >leave, for two years (of Hell, sorry). Still a little bitter at times >about things, but I want it to go away. I decided I had to move out and in >the middle of all of this Immunics steps into my life. Bayard, Frannie, >Keily, Grey, et al, on the sly, I get on the computer, carefully erasing >my tracts as him finding out any of this would be a trigger. Believe me he >knew it was over; I had made myself quite clear. He knew about Immunics, >because how could I not try, I truly believe that I had tried everything >else by this time or I would not have considered divorce. I was afraid >for the children at this time, real or imagined, both. Escalated by my >fear yes. I do not trust this man anymore, nor do I know who he has >become. There could be many reasons, but I can't fix this or tolerate it, >I must leave. I tested through lessons, afraid to call or talk to anyone >except a few very trusted friends, but I had my finger test my connection >to God, God loves me and will protect me, I know that. It came down to >choice and decision and a plan. It took me three days to get to the bank, >I advised them of my situation. I told them my assets, I was honest; I >have a job and a truck that is it. I could not touch any money that we >already gained together as he could take my house. Wow, 20 minutes to >freedom, that's what it felt like to me. I was preapproved, go buy a house >and call and let me know about it they told me. >Wow. There is a small novel between there and the now. He is still around, >and can test. But refuses to use it, believes it, believes he doesn't need >it, whatever, and however. He has changed, I still do not trust him enough >to have a personal relationship with him, and he has stopped being > " nasty " . He will not seek council, because he has had bad experiences with >them in the past, abuse as a child too, by his father, he is not allowed >to tell, but has opened up about some of it. >He has let a lot go. Anyways we are getting along now, he is doing nothing >wrong, He is looking after the kids in my home for me at night while I >work, He has told me that he realizes what has gone on and where we are >and my life is my own, to do with what I want, He wants to be with the >kids and be part of their life as much as I do. He is around more than I >am comfortable with sometimes, and I am constantly working on solutions. >Like I have to get out more and let him look after the children for me, as >he seems to be here a lot, I should take advantage of this. All I know is >immunics takes this turmoil away from me. I have learned a lot of life >lessons during the past 17 years and am grateful, I was iron thrown on the >fire to become steel. >Blessings >Moiselle >Oprah sites on abuse and relationships and divorce. >-Emotional abuse. >http://www.oprah.com/index.jhtml?_requestid=2040786 >- Abusive relationships >http://www.oprah.com/relationships/relationships_landing.jhtml >-Divorce >http://www.oprah.com/relationships/subsection_landing.jhtml? section=Breakups/Di\ vorce & subsection=Breakups/Divorce >- Relationship and 10 red flags. This is the section I wanted to see. >http://www.oprah.com/relationships/subsection_landing.jhtml? section=Couplehood & \ subsection=Dating Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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