RE: being made to feel guilty....

[Guest guest]

Hi , I have been in your shoes many times.. Guilt can be overwhelming.

Some little help on the meals.. try planning your meals ahead of time..Sit

down with the family and get some ideas of what they will all like and then

take some time out and plan a weeks worth of menus and go by that. Maybe make a

few weeks worth and then rotate them.. When I did work. I had to be very

orgainized. There was no extra energy after work to plan and put together a

meal

or do anything for that matter. I love using my crock pot. There are great

cookbooks out there for just crock pots.. Also they make some really good all

together frozen meals these days. I Do whats is best for you...Good luck...

Carol

[Guest guest]

I have been married for 38 years and its only been in the last 2 or 3 that my

CMT has really gotten to me. My family just doesn't get it most of the time,

they are used to me doing everything all of the time, yes I have spoiled them

and now I am paying. I am always in pain and they don't seem to realize it and

when I may moan over something they will ask what is wrong and I just look at

them...... When I got my AFOs then the help really stopped. I felt like now

that I can move around and do so much more that's much less than anyone needs

to do. My husband bought me a Robot vacuum cleaner last year and it is

wonderful and a life saver but for some reason he cant see that the floor needs

mopped and I cant stand having to ask. As far as the cooking he tells me not to

worry he will just get something to eat, that's the problem he only feeds

himself.

I guess we all have issues we have to cope with along with our pain and

impairments.....try to let go of guilt, its a personal thing and can eat your

lunch. Just realize that is his issue.

In OK

[Guest guest]

Honestly, our policy here is this: if everything lays on my shoulders,

and it doesn't get done, either do it yourself or deal. I take 10

credit hours at school and I putter after four kids. When I met my

husband, I told him straight up, probably our second date, that I have a

disability. I had been told at that time that I would be in a wheel

chair in my 30's and that I shouldn't have children. I even showed him

my ugly feet. I figured this is one hell of a litmus test. He passed

and he is an excellent husband and father.

I know that I have been extremely blessed. But I have also been

extremely intolerant of complaints from his camp. I felt like dog food

for a long time and I won't accept that in my marriage. Marriage is not

the forum for beating someone down.

Lorna

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