Guest guest Posted March 10, 2006 Report Share Posted March 10, 2006 << Date: Fri, 10 Mar 2006 11:39:48 -0000 From: " " <gypsyqueen1968@...> Subject: support? my husband has already started (I've had good fills before) the behavior I feared. he is " forgetting " that I can't eat bread, rushing meals and making " innocent " comments about how he misses having pancakes with me in the morning. the other day he went on and on and on about how we should've discovered this one brand of biscuit (the one he was eating at the time) before I got my band refilled because it is so delicious. I'm in the throes of trying to lose 100 lbs!!!! at the very same time, he'll make comments about how the heartrate monitor I bought recently hasn't moved from it's spot on the kitchen table since I got it. i know I shoud've used it by now, but how is cajoling and shaming me going to help? meanwhile, he's practically torturing me with food. suggestions?>> Hi , I'm so sorry you're having to go through this painful situation, you're not alone. Have you sat down and talked with him about how you're feeling? I know I had to be very FIRM with my dear hubby's " subconscious attempts " to thwart my progress on a few occasions. At one point I even told him I was starting to feel unloved and uncared for because he'd bring home certain food items that would obviously sabotage my band. Looking back on this now I realize he wasn't really doing this on purpose but rather had to learn some new skills regarding our new " family lifestyle " and consider that I loved myself enough not to die over food;-) He knew I had heart palpitations, etc. etc... and one day when he brought home a chocolate cake I sternly let him know that even though I loved him, I didn't love him enough to let him tempt or kill me with this type of " mindless affection " . He's coming along better with my insistence that he keep his junk food away from the house..the man has now gained 30 pounds since I was banded!!! My husband has never dared to say anything about the dust that gathers on my exercise equipment on occasion..but you might firmly talk to your husband about the shame/guilt trip. He may not realize how you feel.. I'll keep your situation in my prayers;-) Kem in Eugene - 49 pounds Dr. Neal 8.6.04 <º)))>< Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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