Guest guest Posted August 13, 2004 Report Share Posted August 13, 2004 Both my parents have died within the last 3 years. My dad was murdered by his ex-girlfriend and my mom had lupus and heart problems. I had panic attacks before they died though but they were getting better and then after my mom's death they got worse again Charisse Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 13, 2004 Report Share Posted August 13, 2004 OMG!!! Your poor dad!!!! Poor you!!! Gees, I think anyone would go off the deep end after experiencing that! I probably would have been locked up for murdering her shortly afterwards. Marcia On Aug 13, 2004, at 2:15 PM, charchar1974 wrote: Both my parents have died within the last 3 years. My dad was murdered by his ex-girlfriend and my mom had lupus and heart problems. I had panic attacks before they died though but they were getting better and then after my mom's death they got worse again Charisse Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 13, 2004 Report Share Posted August 13, 2004 Both my parents have died within the last 3 years. My dad was murdered by his ex-girlfriend and my mom had lupus and heart problems. I had panic attacks before they died though but they were getting better and then after my mom's death they got worse again Charisse Charisse, Im so sorry to hear that. I thnink you told the group about your dad back when but I had no idea your mom was so sick. Im so sorry for your losses. Im going to try Lexapro as soon as I move...again, (long story) I will start the Lexapro after that. I will keep you posted. Terry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2004 Report Share Posted August 17, 2004 I know how that goes. I was closest to my dad too, who died first, but then I had to take care of mom, who could hardly function without him. Then she died pretty suddenly in April, and I had been taking care of her for 3 years, and then we had to sell the house, and we found a buyer so soon, and within 2 months, my childhood was gone and there was nothing. My brother was accusing me of being greedy and taking advantage of him. Then the panic attacks started, once there was nothing left to do. Nothing to keep my mind occupied. I've forced myself to face my losses and deal with them, and I went off medication and was doing fairly well, then my husband's boss and owner of his business died suddenly at 60, and it started again. I've had an awful time with worrying about my health and facing my own mortality. I've been so convinced that I'll have a heart attack, since I ended up in the emergency room with the first panic attack thinking I was having a heart attack. Kathy > I lost my " rock " when I lost my dad. He was always > there for me, and I knew nothing could really, very > seriously go wrong when he was around to run to. Now > he's not, and my mom is not always that much help. My > dad ALWAYS was, and very non-judgementally too. So, I > feel more " on my own " than I did before; and will be > even more so in the future when my mom is also " not > here. " She's 86 and has a heart condition, so who > knows how much longer she'll be around? Then, I will > only have my sister to depend on and she's a big ol' > Flake in the Sky most of the time! > > All this, creates MUCHO anxiety as you can probably > imagine! > > --Diane > > --- Kathy <nFan@e...> wrote: > > > I don't know why they would start after a parent > > dies, but they seem > > to. Maybe we just feel really alone or something > > after we lose our > > parents. I've been trying to face thier loss, I was > > doing well with > > no meds, then my husband's boss died. It's made me > > face my own > > mortality, and that's hardest for me. > > > > Kathy > > > > > > > Wow, that's REALLY interesting. My panic attacks > > > started after my DAD DIED. Ironic. > > > > > > --Diane > > > > > > --- Kathy <nFan@e...> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > My panic attacks started after my mom died too. > > I > > > > had never had them > > > > before, though, although I get depressed easily. > > I > > > > just hate this > > > > and it seems so hard to focus on anything but > > the > > > > panic attacks. I > > > > worry about my heart alot, because I ended up in > > the > > > > emergency room > > > > thinking I was having a heart attack, and I just > > > > can't seem to get > > > > past that. I hope the Lexapro helps. > > > > > > > > Kathy > > > > > > > > I was off > > > > > the Serzone for almost 2 years and still doing > > > > well up until my mom > > > > > died and then my panic and anxiety all flooded > > > > back. Now I'm in a > > > > > horrendous spot with it. I have become > > borderline > > > > agoraphobic > > > > > myself. I still work but I have panic attacks > > at > > > > work often. I > > > > > probably didn't give Xanax a fair chance but > > it > > > > just seemed too > > > > > strong compared to the Ativan. Maybe I'd like > > it > > > > more now. It > > > > > seemed to take about 45 mins to kick in and > > then > > > > it was very > > > > suddenly > > > > > and then it wore off very suddenly about 3 or > > 4 > > > > hours later and I > > > > > woke up panicking again. That doesn't happen > > with > > > > Ativan. It's > > > > more > > > > > mild when it comes on and leaves if that makes > > any > > > > sense. Love > > > > > Charisse > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2004 Report Share Posted August 17, 2004 Your scenario is exactly what might happen to me, and what I dread. I am hoping, both selfishly and because I love her, that my mom lives for a long, long time. She is good company, and her heart problems aren't too bad so far (she's on NINE medications, though!). Once she's gone, I really will only have my sister. And I am afraid I can see her and I fighting over the furniture. I already know that I am getting the house, and that she's resentful about that. --Diane --- Kathy <nFan@...> wrote: > I know how that goes. I was closest to my dad too, > who died first, > but then I had to take care of mom, who could hardly > function without > him. Then she died pretty suddenly in April, and I > had been taking > care of her for 3 years, and then we had to sell the > house, and we > found a buyer so soon, and within 2 months, my > childhood was gone and > there was nothing. My brother was accusing me of > being greedy and > taking advantage of him. Then the panic attacks > started, once there > was nothing left to do. Nothing to keep my mind > occupied. I've > forced myself to face my losses and deal with them, > and I went off > medication and was doing fairly well, then my > husband's boss and > owner of his business died suddenly at 60, and it > started again. > I've had an awful time with worrying about my health > and facing my > own mortality. I've been so convinced that I'll > have a heart attack, > since I ended up in the emergency room with the > first panic attack > thinking I was having a heart attack. > > Kathy > > > I lost my " rock " when I lost my dad. He was > always > > there for me, and I knew nothing could really, > very > > seriously go wrong when he was around to run to. > Now > > he's not, and my mom is not always that much help. > My > > dad ALWAYS was, and very non-judgementally too. > So, I > > feel more " on my own " than I did before; and will > be > > even more so in the future when my mom is also > " not > > here. " She's 86 and has a heart condition, so who > > knows how much longer she'll be around? Then, I > will > > only have my sister to depend on and she's a big > ol' > > Flake in the Sky most of the time! > > > > All this, creates MUCHO anxiety as you can > probably > > imagine! > > > > --Diane > > > > --- Kathy <nFan@e...> wrote: > > > > > I don't know why they would start after a parent > > > dies, but they seem > > > to. Maybe we just feel really alone or > something > > > after we lose our > > > parents. I've been trying to face thier loss, I > was > > > doing well with > > > no meds, then my husband's boss died. It's made > me > > > face my own > > > mortality, and that's hardest for me. > > > > > > Kathy > > > > > > > > > > Wow, that's REALLY interesting. My panic > attacks > > > > started after my DAD DIED. Ironic. > > > > > > > > --Diane > > > > > > > > --- Kathy <nFan@e...> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > > > My panic attacks started after my mom died > too. > > > I > > > > > had never had them > > > > > before, though, although I get depressed > easily. > > > I > > > > > just hate this > > > > > and it seems so hard to focus on anything > but > > > the > > > > > panic attacks. I > > > > > worry about my heart alot, because I ended > up in > > > the > > > > > emergency room > > > > > thinking I was having a heart attack, and I > just > > > > > can't seem to get > > > > > past that. I hope the Lexapro helps. > > > > > > > > > > Kathy > > > > > > > > > > I was off > > > > > > the Serzone for almost 2 years and still > doing > > > > > well up until my mom > > > > > > died and then my panic and anxiety all > flooded > > > > > back. Now I'm in a > > > > > > horrendous spot with it. I have become > > > borderline > > > > > agoraphobic > > > > > > myself. I still work but I have panic > attacks > > > at > > > > > work often. I > > > > > > probably didn't give Xanax a fair chance > but > > > it > > > > > just seemed too > > > > > > strong compared to the Ativan. Maybe I'd > like > > > it > > > > > more now. It > > > > > > seemed to take about 45 mins to kick in > and > > > then > > > > > it was very > > > > > suddenly > > > > > > and then it wore off very suddenly about 3 > or > > > 4 > > > > > hours later and I > > > > > > woke up panicking again. That doesn't > happen > > > with > > > > > Ativan. It's > > > > > more > > > > > > mild when it comes on and leaves if that > makes > > > any > > > > > sense. Love > > > > > > Charisse > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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