[Self-Appreciation] KIND WORDS - Enhancing Self-Image

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KIND WORDS

Enhancing Self-Image

You're a really nice person!

The author wishes to remain anonymous

Edited by Shmuel Greenbaum

Printed with Permission of http://www.PartnersInKindness.org

I am an

administrative assistant, and I know I appreciate when I receive a compliment

for being helpful. So I have been making a point to compliment vendors,

salespeople, etc. when they have been kind and helpful. I tell them,

" You're a really nice person! " and also tell them that I appreciate

their help. Whenever possible, I let their supervisor know as well.

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" Enhancing Self-Image "

From Kindness: Making

a Difference in People's Lives: Formulas, stories, and insights

By Zelig Pliskin

Printed with Permission of Shaar Press

The way one

views oneself is one of the most important factors in what one will accomplish

throughout life. What you believe about yourself will either be conducive for

living a joyous life or diametrically opposite. People with a low self-image

severely limit themselves and their entire quality of life will be lowered.

They are more likely to be needlessly intimidated by what others say or think.

They won’t develop their skills and talents as much as they could. They

won’t accomplish as much as they would if they had a more enhanced

self-image.

Self-image is a choice. It is a choice that is often not looked at as a choice.

Our entire life history, especially our childhood, has a powerful effect on how

we choose to view ourselves. The messages we heard from our parents about who

we are had a major impact on us. The messages we heard from our family and

close friends influenced us as did the messages we heard from people we met

just once in passing. Some messages had a greater impact and others a more

minor one. But all messages impacted on us. It is still our own decision about

how we will view ourselves that is the key to how we define who we are.

While any individual can upgrade his or her self-image on their own, it is

often more effective if an objective outsider shares with us a view of

ourselves that enhances our self-image.

A person with a limiting self-image, will not readily accept your positive

statements. Just mouthing the right words, " I think you are a wonderful

person, " may or may not have meaning. First, you need to really feel that

this is true. " Words that come from the heart enter the heart. "

Second, that person needs to be made to feel that what you say is valid.

When you say things to boost someone’s self-image, he may respond,

" You are just saying this to make me feel good. " It’s quite

obvious that you’re not saying this to make the person feel bad. But you

must really believe and feel what you are saying. Then you can sincerely say,

" I’m saying these positive things about you because they are true.

And yes, I confess. I want you to feel better. "

Believe in your own intrinsic value. When you have a deep and intense belief in

the infinite value of each human being, the way you interact with others will

automatically have a positive influence on their feelings about themselves. So

every time you see your image in a mirror realize that you and every other

human have fabulous worth. Integrating this yourself will enable you to spread

this concept among others.

Be patient. Anyone who has had a low self-image all his life might not be open

to making an immediate change in self-perception. At times one brief

conversation might be the turning point for this person. Be prepared to have

many conversations. How many? As many as it takes.

A friend related the following to me:

I recall seeing someone who radiated

confidence and self-assurance in a modest way. This wasn’t how he looked

just six months before.

" You look great, " I told him. " Did anything special happen to

you? "

" Nothing that special, " he replied. " But I did hear one sentence

that was obvious, but somehow when I heard it this time it had a great effect

on me. I attended a lecture and the speaker said, ‘Your level of

accomplishment is dependent on your self-image. And your self-image is whatever

you decide it will be. " ‘If it’s my decision, then I will

decide right now that my value to myself is infinite. I feel this now and I guess

it shows.``

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