Guest guest Posted October 7, 2010 Report Share Posted October 7, 2010 Well, to my amazement, he came in to the office this afternoon and apologized...and it was after another of the faculty members " mentioned " that it was inappropriate and to think about me...I think he saw my face at the department meeting this morning and realized that was upsetting to me. So I DO feel a lot better, at least on that front. Thank you everyone for your suggestions and ideas! I was going to perhaps wait a day or 2 and talk with him if something didn't happen before. There's still a bunch of other things going on in that office that aren't that great, but I think it's just stuff I have to suck up and deal with because, well, with the economy being the way it is, we have no other choices. At least that fiasco, for right now, is taken care of. Speaking about jobs -- and job interviews. How do you guys go to them, what do you say, how do you (if you do) disclose your dwarfism (other than the obvious)? Meg On Thu, Oct 7, 2010 at 6:25 PM, LISA DiNardo <ctfrogger@...> wrote: > > > I would tell the person how you feel so it doesn't happen again. > > Some people just don't get it but when you speak up and say how you feel, > hopefully he finally will. > > Good Luck! > > > > > > > > > ------------------------------ > dwarfism ; adultlps ; > SED-Kniest ; womenwithdwarfism > From: megzeg@... > Date: Thu, 7 Oct 2010 13:36:57 -0400 > Subject: [sED] Question > > > > > Hi All -- > > I'm a bit upset today at work. We had our monthly department meeting, and > as someone was telling a joke, the CHAIR brought up something about midget > wrestling (not sure where in the heck that came into the picture), then > about how he referred to someone as " midget " because he was shorter, and > used his hands as to say " he was this tall " . Seriously, I'm pretty upset. > I've been here 3 years now, and told everyone, don't use the M word, use > little person, preferably. the M word is derogatory. The thing is, it was > said in a derogatory way. I was about to speak up and say " please do not > use that term " . Everyone here knows me, they know what I'm studying in > school as well and that you don't say " disabled " , you say " physically > challenged " , or whether something is/is not " accessible " . > > I'm just trying to figure out if I should try to sit down with the chair > and explain what was said should not have been said...or just try to move > on. I think a reason I'm so upset is because I'm already having a bunch of > problems here, I'm wondering if it is related to the dwarfism or not....but > I certainly don't feel respected (even went to HR about the matter). This > it the first time in 3.5 years that I heard the term used. The thing that > upsets me is I'm not around them all the time...I feel stuck in the > " dungeon " ...at my desk, just " answering phones " or what not...so now I feel > I've lost all respect for some of these people, because I thought they were > all different - professionals! Heck, they are educators. What are they > teaching their students about diversity? > > *sigh* > > Well, my rant's over now. Just thought I would see what to do next. > > > > -- > I'm not short. I'm built low to the ground for speed and accuracy! > > " Life is 10 percent what you make it and 90 percent how you take it. " > > There is no such thing as an underestimate of average intelligence. > - Henry > > To be stupid, selfish, and have good health are three requirements for > happiness, though if stupidity is lacking, all is lost. > - Gustave Flaubert > > > > -- I'm not short. I'm built low to the ground for speed and accuracy! " Life is 10 percent what you make it and 90 percent how you take it. " There is no such thing as an underestimate of average intelligence. - Henry To be stupid, selfish, and have good health are three requirements for happiness, though if stupidity is lacking, all is lost. - Gustave Flaubert Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 7, 2010 Report Share Posted October 7, 2010 Hi , That is such a shame and goes beyond him using the m word but why he felt it was appropriate to make fun of any group of people. Obviously he is book smart but not people smart. As far as applying for a job, unless it's a physically demanding job, why does our dwarfism matter at all??? Why would anyone bring it up when it has nothing to do with the job description or skills that are needed. If I were an HR recruiter and someone told me I'd think " who cares? " - ________________________________ From: Tolliver <megzeg@...> SED-Kniest Cc: dwarfism ; adultlps ; womenwithdwarfism Sent: Thu, October 7, 2010 6:02:21 PM Subject: Re: [sED] Question Well, to my amazement, he came in to the office this afternoon and apologized...and it was after another of the faculty members " mentioned " that it was inappropriate and to think about me...I think he saw my face at the department meeting this morning and realized that was upsetting to me. So I DO feel a lot better, at least on that front. Thank you everyone for your suggestions and ideas! I was going to perhaps wait a day or 2 and talk with him if something didn't happen before. There's still a bunch of other things going on in that office that aren't that great, but I think it's just stuff I have to suck up and deal with because, well, with the economy being the way it is, we have no other choices. At least that fiasco, for right now, is taken care of. Speaking about jobs -- and job interviews. How do you guys go to them, what do you say, how do you (if you do) disclose your dwarfism (other than the obvious)? Meg On Thu, Oct 7, 2010 at 6:25 PM, LISA DiNardo <ctfrogger@...> wrote: > > > I would tell the person how you feel so it doesn't happen again. > > Some people just don't get it but when you speak up and say how you feel, > hopefully he finally will. > > Good Luck! > > > > > > > > > ------------------------------ > dwarfism ; adultlps ; > SED-Kniest ; womenwithdwarfism > From: megzeg@... > Date: Thu, 7 Oct 2010 13:36:57 -0400 > Subject: [sED] Question > > > > > Hi All -- > > I'm a bit upset today at work. We had our monthly department meeting, and > as someone was telling a joke, the CHAIR brought up something about midget > wrestling (not sure where in the heck that came into the picture), then > about how he referred to someone as " midget " because he was shorter, and > used his hands as to say " he was this tall " . Seriously, I'm pretty upset. > I've been here 3 years now, and told everyone, don't use the M word, use > little person, preferably. the M word is derogatory. The thing is, it was > said in a derogatory way. I was about to speak up and say " please do not > use that term " . Everyone here knows me, they know what I'm studying in > school as well and that you don't say " disabled " , you say " physically > challenged " , or whether something is/is not " accessible " . > > I'm just trying to figure out if I should try to sit down with the chair > and explain what was said should not have been said...or just try to move > on. I think a reason I'm so upset is because I'm already having a bunch of > problems here, I'm wondering if it is related to the dwarfism or not....but > I certainly don't feel respected (even went to HR about the matter). This > it the first time in 3.5 years that I heard the term used. The thing that > upsets me is I'm not around them all the time...I feel stuck in the > " dungeon " ...at my desk, just " answering phones " or what not...so now I feel > I've lost all respect for some of these people, because I thought they were > all different - professionals! Heck, they are educators. What are they > teaching their students about diversity? > > *sigh* > > Well, my rant's over now. Just thought I would see what to do next. > > > > -- > I'm not short. I'm built low to the ground for speed and accuracy! > > " Life is 10 percent what you make it and 90 percent how you take it. " > > There is no such thing as an underestimate of average intelligence. > - Henry > > To be stupid, selfish, and have good health are three requirements for > happiness, though if stupidity is lacking, all is lost. > - Gustave Flaubert > > > > -- I'm not short. I'm built low to the ground for speed and accuracy! " Life is 10 percent what you make it and 90 percent how you take it. " There is no such thing as an underestimate of average intelligence. - Henry To be stupid, selfish, and have good health are three requirements for happiness, though if stupidity is lacking, all is lost. - Gustave Flaubert Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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