Where did i go wrong,etc? why does it hurt. need feedback.

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regarding this 56 year old man below. but i do have Christian groups... I can

explain why i am a part of that group if you want. i am thnking about leaving it

not saved singles.

If you can't read this i can resend it.

I need you to do me a favor if you would. And i need you to understand why i

did something.

I talk to three women outside of the group not knowing that the group were

friends to each other and I not knowing if the 56 year old would stay in the

group or not beucase he told me he would leave. the group.. I sent emails to the

group asking about what he had done to me and men in general -mostly about men

in general and saying how hurt i was etc when i am.. still hurting.. and i did

respond to some of his emails in the group but but he did respond to mine and

then i ask him a question being vague and hypothetically and he responded but i

haven't read it yet it is called an open letter to the group. I need you tor ead

this below first-I was wondering if you can read it and tell me if he is

attacking me. It is called Open letter to Judith-the female moderator claims

which she talks to him that i am in the wrong-would you be willing to take a

peak at the letter?

I dont need a therapist. I did not contact the guy he contact me.. and very

soon

after I joined the group. I thought that was kind of odd. He didnt'

tell me up front that he was separating from his wife and planning on

moving away from her. He told me this was a mentoring typing thing.

not a friendship of any kind. He offered to pay my way to mvoe out of

my relative house. but no where near him but then later on i said

something and then he said something about moving near me.. He

offered me money to move but i did not give him my specific address.

After I ask him if it what type of interaction this was after about a

week of conversation-he then accused me of being romantically

interested in him. also when before our online conversations invovled

in me being detailed which he didn't have a problem with initially he

then said that he coudln't handle the detail and said unless it was a

major issue not to contact him. then after I cleared the air on sat

the tenth and after I got the email i contact him to help me

understand the confusion on my part as to why he said one thing and

did another... only becuase i was experiencing confusion and not

understanding what was going on ....

It has been ended since the 11th. but he is still in the same group i

am in currently as of this writing. the 27th. I am not sure i want to

stay in the group.. I did not know that the ones that are in there

are friends with others so even the moderator that is a single woman

is siding with him and not me over what has transpired. I have been

told he is a jerk and i am struggling to reconcile good and bad

feelings about him.. Mainly beucase of what the input he gave helped

and there is no way for me to explain that because i am not sure

how..

the main reason why i ask for feedback is beucase of his behavior and

also the wife thing and why he .... acted the way he did confused and

hurt. he knows i have been hurt but unless and he says he has read

the informative stuff about me on the group-learned how hurt he made

me.

I have not ever had this kind of experience online before and the

other guys online have not acted this way that have responded to my

offer of talking outside of the group. this was odd from the

beginning. I had a bad feeling about this after about 3 days. but

down played it. Not sure why now.

A woman told me that she would not let him IM her but she still sends

email cards to him the last i asked.

there is a woman that is married that says she has an unusual

interaction with him but that to me strikes as odd. if he is leaving

his wife... that to me was a warning sign.. too. Is it not?

I am 38.

Judiths

Judith s

USA.

email is: judith9086@...

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