[DESC Script & TAT Allergy Clearing] Mastering the Masculine Self - Assertiveness: Part IV - DESC Script + TAT Allergy Clearing

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Mastering the Masculine Self - Assertiveness: Part IV - DESC Script +

TAT Allergy Clearing

Mastering the Masculine Self - Assertiveness:

Part IV - DESC Script + TAT Allergy

Clearing

Many of you may remember from her

previous case history posted to the list.

In case you’d like to refer back,

here’s the link to the previous posts on the EFT list:

Energyflows - Part I: Manifests a

Job, a Vehicle and More..

In_Joy/message/10911

Energyflows - Part II:

Frees Both Herself and Her Father's Soul after His Death

In_Joy/message/10912

Energyflows - Part III:

Manifested Blender, not yet the Bank Loan...still practicing Expectancy

In_Joy/message/10976

This time, called me, it was

about a challenge she faced at work. There was a colleague at work who

would make critical comments about her in front of others, and she found herself

really annoyed and bothered by this. She wanted to confront her colleague

about her behavior and get her to stop doing this, as it embarrassed her to be

criticized publicly.

We started with a Kalos Process in which I

had her speak to her colleague. However, the method I use with my clients

is slightly altered now – but the difference it makes is

tremendous. I got her to speak to the higher self of the person

concerned, encircling both herself and her colleague in their individual

“Holy Spirit bubbles”. This way, it is not an ego to ego

dialog, but a connection at a much higher level of consciousness – more

heart to heart or soul to soul.

At first, ’s dialogue was

very angry in content and tone: “Please leave me alone. Stop

causing trouble. Mind your own business.”

Then I suggested that she might want to

use something I’d learnt in my assertiveness classes, a DESC Script, an

acronym for Describe-Emotion-Specify-Consequence. You Describe the

behavior in the other person that is bothersome, then the Emotion it generates

in yourself, then Specify what you’d like the other to do, and what the

Consequence would be for that new specific behavior you’d like them to

adopt.

She came up with this DESC SCRIPT:

DESCRIBE

+ EMOTION: “When you tell me

I’m not allowed to wear jeans in front of others, it makes me feel

embarrassed.”

SPECIFY: “I’d like you to pull me aside and tell me in

private.”

CONSEQUENCE

(POSITIVE): “If you do, I will

appreciate that.”

CONSEQUENCE

(NEGATIVE): “If you embarrass

me again, I’m going to tell my manager – you are not allowed to

disrespect me. It’s the Code of Conduct at work.”

PREFERENCE: “I’d prefer it if we settled it between

ourselves.”

Next she had her colleague speak back to her

(this is done in session through the client herself, and we continued the

dialog with both in their Holy Spirit bubbles), and this is what her colleague

then said in response:

“OK, I won’t speak to you in

front of everyone. If I have an issue with you, I’ll pull you

aside.”

But there were more strong emotions to

come, and another DESC script came across from :

DESCRIBE

+ EMOTION: “When you speak as

if you know everything, it makes me feel that you are phony and catty, and I

feel like avoiding you.”

SPECIFY

+ CONSEQUENCE: “If you could

please speak to me like an adult, without putting up a front of superiority, I

wouldn’t be so repulsed and it would be easier for me to work with

you.”

Her colleague replied (in the process):

“I apologize. I didn’t realize that’s how you

felt. I’ll make sure that I don’t speak to you like that in

front of people.”

To which responded,

“I’d like you to speak to me with respect and dignity.”

At this juncture, I tested

’s boundaries and cords with this person. She was

still only at 10% boundaries with her colleague, which meant that she was still

giving 90% of her power away to her buttons - the buttons that got pushed in

her interactions with her, the buttons this woman triggered in her. So I knew

there was something much more powerful at work here. Something deeper than a

DESC Script response was needed. I could get her to cut cords with this

woman, but it would not be as permanent a solution, because the problem would

eventually return. I decided to help her clear this on a deeper level.

I noticed she still had a very strong

reaction to this person. I wondered if she had an allergy to her. I

muscle-tested that. Yes, the allergy to this lady tested at 80%.

Pretty high. Often when people can’t get along (and it can happen

with even those who are closest to you, when you are triggered!!!), it is

because there is an unhealed allergy to that person. So we cleared that

in an in-depth TAT Allergy Clearing Process. Many deep emotions

came up for : anger and hatred towards herself, jealousy with

“guys like her”. said, “She has a way with people.

She plays them like a fiddle!! She uses her power. You can see right

through her.” As she did Step 4 in TAT - cleared all the places in her

body, mind and life where the problem was stored, she remembered feelings of

“everything that happened in school”. She said, “People

made fun of me. It embarrassed me.” She found herself having

aggressive-passive patterns where she attracted negative attention, but in fact

wanted approval and positive attention. As you read on, you will see how

this pattern reflects in the second part of this case history, in her

connection with “Ben”.

[Continued in Part V]

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