RE: [Tap 'n B Free] Digest Number 1149

[Guest guest]

I feel strongly that a one year old child is not refusing to breathe. You

probably had a physical breathing problem. My niece had a problem where her

trachea would just close up. She was put on a 24 hour monitor. They said she

would out grow it which she did. Your mother could have thought you were

doing it on purpose but you were probably not. When you hold your breath,

you eventually will pass out and start breathing on your own.

I think it is interesting that the doctor supposedly told your mother to

hold you at the top of the stairs. Why would that be? It would have the same

effect in getting you to start breathing by slapping you on the back any

where in the house unless the purpose was to scare you. Which it probably

did.

If you were holding your breath on purpose, you had a reason. One year old

children don't have very much power in the family. This might have been a

way to control your world which seemed out of control to you. But I really

think you were not doing it on purpose.

Hypnosis could take you back to the event and soothe that small child.

Carol

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[Guest guest]

Thank you so much Carol. I am following my intuition at the moment and a lot of

what you say I have asked myself. Like - why? So you have confirmed my own

judgements on the issue.

I did have whooping cough - I caught it when I had just been born and nearly

died. I nearly died with rheumatic fever at about the age of 9 also. It left

me with a heart murmur which disappeared totally in later years. The doctor's

first diagnosis for this one was 'growing pains'. In my early twenties, my

father fell from the garage roof and shortly after I was diagnosed with

diabetes. Throughout my life, I realise now I have had reoccurring

panic/anxiety attacks when I cannot control a situation and then can't breathe.

These occurred at my dad's 2nd marriage after my mum died. I felt I was being

strangled and as he came to say his vows I just got the intinct to run!! As far

away from the situation as I could get and then I breathed again. I also had an

attack at my grandma's funeral - I felt very close to her.

I opened this up to my father - not in a confrontational way. I have distanced

him and my family all my life - it is a coping strategy, along with

disassociation - I moved and for a while just left the email link open. He

wanted to know what the problem was - so I thought what the heck - here goes.

He is amazed that I remember all of this - he is a scientist and can't explain

any of this. He still keeps on bringing my will up in all of this. He never

liked it that I was very strong willed and still doesn't today, or so I feel

anyway. I feel they tried to suppress my will, I was also always creative but

he didn't like that either. There is tonnes of this stuff - I am just trying to

be selective. At 40, I want my will back and feel very strongly it is mine to

have back. He can take or leave that.

I appreciate your help, I need to understand what they and I have done.

Carol <Carol@...> wrote:

I feel strongly that a one year old child is not refusing to breathe. You

probably had a physical breathing problem. My niece had a problem where her

trachea would just close up. She was put on a 24 hour monitor. They said she

would out grow it which she did. Your mother could have thought you were

doing it on purpose but you were probably not. When you hold your breath,

you eventually will pass out and start breathing on your own.

I think it is interesting that the doctor supposedly told your mother to

hold you at the top of the stairs. Why would that be? It would have the same

effect in getting you to start breathing by slapping you on the back any

where in the house unless the purpose was to scare you. Which it probably

did.

[Guest guest]

Hi

On reading your E-mail these thoughts came to me.

It would seem you felt you were never accepted for who you were and could

not express yourself in the way you wanted to. That would go along with the

breathing - the fact that you felt suppressed and could not breathe, feeling

choked up and restrained. Did you feel you deserved to be heard? Were you

told that your opinions did not count?

Perhaps you need to do some tapping around your Dad and his disapproval of

your strong will and creative talent.

Maybe your Dad felt threatened by both of these!

A tapping suggestion could be:

Even though my Dad didn't accept me for who I was and I felt choked by his

comments and could not be the person I knew I could be I totally and deeply

love, accept and forgive myself and forgive my Dad as he did not have the

resources to love me and accept me and felt threatened by my strong will and

talents.

I hope this is on the right track, but it is just a suggestion, you know if

it fits with your map of the world. You said there is tons of stuff, so you

need a place to start and then work from there.

Take care

>

>>

>I did have whooping cough - I caught it when I had just been born and

>nearly died. I nearly died with rheumatic fever at about the age of 9

>also. It left me with a heart murmur which disappeared totally in later

>years. The doctor's first diagnosis for this one was 'growing pains'. In

>my early twenties, my father fell from the garage roof and shortly after I

>was diagnosed with diabetes. Throughout my life, I realise now I have had

>reoccurring panic/anxiety attacks when I cannot control a situation and

>then can't breathe. These occurred at my dad's 2nd marriage after my mum

>died. I felt I was being strangled and as he came to say his vows I just

>got the intinct to run!! As far away from the situation as I could get and

>then I breathed again. I also had an attack at my grandma's funeral - I

>felt very close to her.

[Guest guest]

> >

> > That would be true. Throughout I was told I lacked the

> confidence/academic ability of my younger sister - I had several

> blocks early in life - breathing, talking, walking correctly,

> releasing habits such as sucking the thumb, cognitive processing

> etc. It was all a self fulfilling prophecy - I did turn out to be

> quite weak in some academic areas - I was creative and practical

> but

> when I tried to do that type of stuff - he stepped in again - and

> then said 'no you're capable of more'. He went to extraordinary

> lengths to block my path - like phoning the local college to sit in

>

> an interview with me and discuss the drawbacks of doing a practical

>

> course at tech instead of doing 'A' levels.Weirdly - he seemed to

> totally change his expectations of me when it became apparent I

> had 'no ambitions' - these were his words to describe the creative

> route I wanted to take. And boy did I lash out then! Teenage

> rebellion.

> >

> > You are right my opinions didn't count, I wasn't allowed to

> argue/discuss issues. He made all the decisions and was always

> right

> and still is. A model of a very authoritative parent - although he

> could also be very manipulative in persuading you otherwise. If you

>

> understand what I am trying to say.

> >

> > I think your tapping advice is very good, an immediate start. >

>

> > Thanks again

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Hi everyone,

>

>

> > I have read a lot this afternoon. EFT is beginning to make so

> much

> sense - I seriously am hooked. Maybe - I don't need longer term

> therapy. I will see - I have faith that the basic recipe will work!

>

> I accept the points about energy imbalances. I think it is logical

> that these imbalances will manifest themselves in several ways.

> >

> > I believe the whooping cough and other illnesses left an

> imbalance

> of energy which still causes anxiety attacks, depression etc. There

>

> is probably more to it than just this, but the EFT has given me the

>

> tool to explore this. It's a shame that the conventional medical

> profession makes things so complex. And that they lack common sense

>

> in many ways.

> >

> > I have been studying an introductory course to science this year

> -

> a foundation for a degree course/A levels. One of the units was

> about energy. I remember my father harping on - that 'energy is a

> very measurable product ( to be measured in Kilojoules etc) - a

> result of a chemical or physical reaction' - blah blah!! True in

> it's own right, there is no disputing that but it is more than

> that.

> I have always known that but couldn't put it into words. He didn't

> seem to have an appreciation of the flow of it, that it can move -

> in

> a kind of circuit. For example - the energy of thoughts, words,

> actions. My grandma always used to say what goes round comes round.

>

> If you give out bad energy - it will come back to you bad. The

> older

> ones had a wisdom, they just knew? Why oh why do some put limits on

>

> their thinking? Why do some try to fit everything into a rigid,

> rational, objective scientific model. I feel EFT and this concept

> of

> energy is an expanding, cutting edge hypothesis!

> >

> > I am being very philosophical, this is so wide reaching. Thank

> you

> for your patience everyone who has advised and guided me.

> >

> >

> >

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi everyone

I said I would keep you all posted, so here goes. My EFT is

working.

I kind of thought, the affirmation was the crux of the success of

this. I'll take you through my thought process. First, I decided I

needed to be very specific/ and yet broad with the issue. The issue -

to me was how I felt about both my parents and their effect on my

upbringing. I felt it was important to locate the specific feeling

I was targeting too. At this moment in time, I felt it was

disempowerment. I very strongly feel I lost my will, my power

throughout this - so that is what I identified.

I believe there is a time line on an issue. I plotted a horizontal

line across the page. On the left, I put the beginning, the passive

bit of actually living the situation. Moving from left to right,

the next event was the post trauma reaction which lasted about 10

years if I am honest. That was feelings of sadness, depression -

continually reinforcing what I had learnt from others to myself -

again and again. The reoccuring theme! Then there was

the 'realisation' - I believe at this point the light shines

through. 'No, I am not going to accept this', I said to myself -

the anger, the rebellion, the persistence - I am going to get to the

bottom of this. From that, understanding developed - the who, the

when, the where. I have left the why out - my understanding of

emotional freedom is that you don't need that - you are just aiming

to unblock it. Having worked through all of that - the product of

the process = disempowerment. Therefore - the affirmation was

" Even though I feel disempowered by my upbringing, I deeply and

completely accept myself " .

Simple - done. Then I just followed Craig's manual. My

suspicions are that if you are not ready for this technique you

won't be able to identify the feelings and the facts about the

situation. Maybe this would determine the success of it.

I would be interested in anybody's opinion on my interpretation.

Being very new at this, it would be useful to know that my

foundations are sound.

[Guest guest]

Hi

You are very welcome!

It sounds to me that you have come up with your own answers and ideas about

what to tap on. Good luck!

Let me know how you get on.

Take care

>

>

> > >

> > > That would be true. Throughout I was told I lacked the

> > confidence/academic ability of my younger sister - I had several

> > blocks early in life - breathing, talking, walking correctly,

> > releasing habits such as sucking the thumb, cognitive processing

> > etc. It was all a self fulfilling prophecy - I did turn out to be

> > quite weak in some academic areas - I was creative and practical

> > but

> > when I tried to do that type of stuff - he stepped in again - and

> > then said 'no you're capable of more'.

[Guest guest]

Hi ;

It is amazing how a simple statement collapses a deep emotion that has been

buried for so long. I had similar experience about my parents; when I tapped "

Even though I still wanting my parents love, I deeply and profoundly love and

accept myself " . Instantly, I felt relief physically and emotionally.

Congradulation to you too.

Warmly regards

Sardar

julie1542 <julie1542@...> wrote:

Hi everyone

I said I would keep you all posted, so here goes. My EFT is

working.