Re: [Tap 'n B Free] need help

[Guest guest]

What about, " Even though I don't feel like eating " or

" even " though I don't feel like fixing a meal " ? IOW,

try to bypass the reasons, as you are not sure what

they are, and just deal with the problem.

Pepper

--- mhauffJ@... wrote:

> Hello. I'm asking for ideas from all of you since

> I'm stuck on something.

>

> The problem is that I'm having trouble eating,

> in the sense of not going

> and fixing myself food even though I'm hungry, such

> as for several days having

> skipped lunch and then simply not being able to

> force myself into the kitchen

> to make anything for dinner or even a snack (and in

> spite of my rational mind

> saying " Go fix food, silly " ).

[Guest guest]

Hi Marcia,

At the moment I'm working with people who are trying to stop eating so much

rather than not eating but I think the same thing might be happening with you. I

find that all the EFT statements you have are true, and correct and you probably

have understood what lies behind this problem and this is what is blocking you.

Maybe you realize that with EFT this problem will be solved and that is scary

because it means change...a lot of change in your relationship with your family,

with yourself and your life in general. With people who are trying to lose

weight, I've found that when we hit the right EFT statements the weight seems to

pile on and people complain that they are eating more than before. I've seen

that two things work to break this barrier. 1. Make sure you are bringing the

SUDs level down to zero for all those blocks. If not then the whole problem

which caused you not to eat before is working even harder because the problem

has surfaced. and 2. Tap for 'eventhough I'm afraid that EFT is going to

work...' or 'Eventhough I don't want to be rid of this problem...' I hope that

helps somewhat

Yesim

[Tap 'n B Free] need help

Hello. I'm asking for ideas from all of you since I'm stuck on something.

The problem is that I'm having trouble eating, in the sense of not going

and fixing myself food even though I'm hungry, such as for several days having

skipped lunch and then simply not being able to force myself into the kitchen

to make anything for dinner or even a snack (and in spite of my rational mind

saying " Go fix food, silly " ).

This comes in the midst of a tense time about family issues (mother

across country broke hip; sibling and I disagree about my role in caring for

her)

and has arisen from time to time in the past also when dealing with family

issues. I've gotten as far as to see the lack of emotional nourishment in my

early years being graphically illustrated in lifelong problems involving

malnutrition, everything from celiac disease, to intestinal infections, to

these bouts

of simply not being able to propel myself into the kitchen to prepare food.

[Guest guest]

Thank you for ideas on the problem of not being able to fix food for myself.

I've continued to puzzle over what makes this flare up and had some new ideas

which were obvious to me once I saw them, such as the intermittent wish to

disappear. I had always seen this in relation to either depression or wanting to

escape family troubles when young, and it had never occurred to me that

perhaps some level of my body or mind is indeed following my wish. Also

remembered

a number of unhappy scenes that have happened at meal times which I had not

placed in any larger context.

And... I think you're right that there's an element of not wanting to

shed the problem. I have to admit that being extremely skinny and somewhat

childlike in appearance often brings concern from people, which on one hand irks

me,

when I consider myself an adult and capable person, but also feeds the part

anxious for caring.

There is much tapping ahead, I see, and I welcome any further ideas.

Marcia

[Guest guest]

Hi Marcia

It strikes me that there may be some guilt in there about your role with

your mother as a carer. Have you tried that aspect of your eating issues.

Maybe this ties into a core issue. Were you made to feel guilty if you

thought of yourself first and expected more food?

I would also pursue the 'deserve' issue maybe there is some emotional charge

left with that one!

Hope these suggestions are of use!

Take care

>From: mhauffJ@...

>Reply-EmotionalFreedomTechniques

>EmotionalFreedomTechniques

>Subject: [Tap 'n B Free] need help

>Date: Tue, 31 Aug 2004 04:52:03 EDT

>

>Hello. I'm asking for ideas from all of you since I'm stuck on something.

>

> The problem is that I'm having trouble eating, in the sense of not

>going

>and fixing myself food even though I'm hungry, such as for several days

>having

>skipped lunch and then simply not being able to force myself into the

>kitchen

>to make anything for dinner or even a snack (and in spite of my rational

>mind

>saying " Go fix food, silly " ).

>

> This comes in the midst of a tense time about family issues (mother

>across country broke hip; sibling and I disagree about my role in caring

>for her)

>and has arisen from time to time in the past also when dealing with family

>issues. I've gotten as far as to see the lack of emotional nourishment in

>my

>early years being graphically illustrated in lifelong problems involving

>malnutrition, everything from celiac disease, to intestinal infections, to

>these bouts

>of simply not being able to propel myself into the kitchen to prepare food.

>

> This evening I tried tapping with a variety of set-up phrases,

>including

> Even though I won't go fix food...

> Even though I don't deserve to eat...

> Even though my family wouldn't care if I starve to death...

> and some phrases about some part of me trying to get my attention, but

>not

>knowing what to do to fix it.

>

> I would welcome any suggestions you might have to help me find out

>what's

>getting in the way and/or how to work my way through it. Best wishes,

>Marcia

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

You might want to try this.

Pick one of those unhappy scenes and give it a name,

like a movie, " Dinner is Misery " , just as an example.

Come up with a set up phrase, " Even though 'Dinner is

Misery' makes me feel.... " and play the scene in your

head as you tap, and rate your emotional response to

it on a scale of 1 to 10. 1 being no response, 10

being as if it was happening all over again. Tap until

you don't react very strongly, a 2 or 1.

Pepper

--- mhauffJ@... wrote:

> Thank you for ideas on the problem of not being able

> to fix food for myself.

> I've continued to puzzle over what makes this flare

> up and had some new ideas

> which were obvious to me once I saw them, such as

> the intermittent wish to

> disappear. I had always seen this in relation to

> either depression or wanting to

> escape family troubles when young, and it had never

> occurred to me that

> perhaps some level of my body or mind is indeed

> following my wish. Also remembered

> a number of unhappy scenes that have happened at

> meal times which I had not

> placed in any larger context.

[Guest guest]

What are you feeling guilty about?

[Guest guest]

> Tapping away at the suggestions. I've now tapped for

the " movie " of

> " The Christmas Dinner, " which I think helped, as well as some

other mealtime

> scenes. I'm doing a bit better on the eating problem at the

moment, but have

> slipped into rather bad general depression

>

> For the question of guilt, probably the biggest issue is of

being a wuss,

> feeling incapable and like a nuisance because of various special

needs (such

> as allergies, depression, and sensory integration problems), which

my family

> members don't grasp. I had made a lot of progress on these things,

but the

> current family crisis seems to have set me back considerably.

Marcia

>

You might try: Even though my family doesn't understand my special

needs I can take care of and love myself

Even though it seems I am a nuisance I can heal and lovingly take

care of myself.

Just some suggestions that might take the edge off the family issues

then working on the allergies, depression to heal and love yourself.

LeRoy

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Have you considered going to an EFT practitioner?

There are many listed on the web site. I did, and got

a lot of help in just one session!

Pepper

--- mhauffJ@... wrote:

> Tapping away at the suggestions. I've now

> tapped for the " movie " of

> " The Christmas Dinner, " which I think helped, as

> well as some other mealtime

> scenes. I'm doing a bit better on the eating

> problem at the moment, but have

> slipped into rather bad general depression

>

> For the question of guilt, probably the biggest

> issue is of being a wuss,

> feeling incapable and like a nuisance because of

> various special needs (such

> as allergies, depression, and sensory integration

> problems), which my family

> members don't grasp. I had made a lot of progress on

> these things, but the

> current family crisis seems to have set me back

> considerably. Marcia

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you for the further ideas to work on. I've been busy tapping.

The medical intuitive whom I go to finally got back from her vacation and

we met yesterday. She doesn't do EFT herself, but said emphatically that all

I've been doing with it is helping. She did some pranic healing and NLP and

we're hoping those will help to lift the depression some. So far, so good.

I'll be putting it all to the test very soon, going to look after my mom

for 3 weeks as she recovers from a broken hip. Into the thick of the family

situations, so I'll be busy tapping for all that arises. Fortunately, my mom is

open to my doing energy things on her, if all she has to do is just sit in

her chair. I can Reiki, and surrogate tap, and experiment with anything that

might speed her recovery. Wish us luck. Marcia