[One_EFT Healing Highrise] Re: surrogate tapping

June 5, 2006

Hi, Jo, good question..and one that's been asked many times on the list, so

do a search for the word " surrogate " on the archived messages and see what

comes up.

Lovely answer, Jef.thank you for your input, and yes, it often works well on

one's closest relationships, and it is extremely helpful in times of stress.

Since he's right there, I often ask my husband permission - and say

something like, " I notice you are stressed out right now. May I work

surrogately on you? " and he'll often say yes. Sometimes we are angry with

each other, and he'll still say " yes. " I guess he has also learned how

effective it is after repeated use. For some reason it works extremely well

when he's in the shower, and I'm working on him surrogately!!! Recently, I

haven't had to do any surrogate work on him at all. The need for it

gradually dwindles too.

It's also good for crying babies on planes, etc.but make sure that you are

feeling good before you take on someone else's energy to work on. Sometimes

these days, if I've feeling too jetlagged myself, I won't bother with EFT -

I'll do something more physical (instead of EFT) like giving the parent the

suggestion of letting a child suck on something while landing - it helps

release the ear pressure.and often the child will stop crying.

Surrogate work is very good, but you need to know how to keep your own

boundaries intact while doing it, and also not to violate other people's

boundaries. I usually ask the Higer Self of the person concerned - and if I

get a " Yes " , I proceed. If I get a " No " , I don't. One must respect

boundaries.

If you find yourself still holding on to remnants of the other person's

energy, then you need to release it and hand it back fully at the end. Make

sure you are free of their energy - muscle test to check if you are

clear.otherwise send it back.or release it into the Universe.

Hope that helps add to your list of answers to this question.

May I ask in what context you'd like to use it? Perhaps if the question is

more focused, so can the answer be more tailored to your needs.

Warmly,

Dayu

Moderator,

One_EFT forum

June 5, 2006

Hi Dayu, how can you send back remnants of the other person's energy?

Thank you!

Warmly, Angi

<If you find yourself still holding on to remnants of the other person's

energy, then you need to release it and hand it back fully at the end. Make

sure you are free of their energy - muscle test to check if you are

clear.otherwise send it back.or release it into the Universe.

.....

Warmly,

Dayu>

June 5, 2006

Hi thanks for your responses, I had read about the surrogate tapping and

wondered how it would work. I shall have to give it a try to see what the

affects are.

Now I know how it can be used I could use it on my daughter, who likes to do

tapping but gets bored with the sequences. So she is someone I could use it

with. Likewise my husband if he has issues I can use it for him if we are both

present (and he agrees) and he can carry on what he is doing and I can tap for

him.. although ultimately I suppose he should be learning how to speed up his

tapping so he does it automatically for himself. My son already does it for

himself (he is 10) and shows his friends at school if they are distressed.

I suppose it's something to be tried before believing fully.

I shall have a look on the search through the posts.

Thanks again

I also use EFT a little with my clients (I do hypnotheraopy, psychotherapy and

NLP) and some clients porbably wouldn#t feel comfortable doing the tapping. I

could suurogate tap, with higher self permission... just a thought.

Jo

" Be all you can be "

RE: [One_EFT Healing Highrise] Re: surrogate tapping

Hi, Jo, good question..and one that's been asked many times on the list, so

do a search for the word " surrogate " on the archived messages and see what

comes up.

> SNIPPED <

May I ask in what context you'd like to use it? Perhaps if the question is

more focused, so can the answer be more tailored to your needs.

Warmly,

Dayu

Moderator,

One_EFT forum

June 5, 2006

Hi Jef, thanks for your reply. I have never done surrogate tapping before so I

shall give it a whirl with one of the family. What interested me from your post

was that you mention muscle testing. Do you mean kinesiology testing and how

would you do this in a surrogate way?

Thanks Jo

" Be all you can be "

June 5, 2006

>

> Hi Jef, thanks for your reply. I have never done surrogate tapping

> before so I shall give it a whirl with one of the family.

You might find that you get some rather interesting results )

> What interested me from your post was that you mention muscle

> testing. Do you mean kinesiology testing and how would you do this

> in a surrogate way?

Yes, kinesiology testing. How I do this is by imagining myself as my

wife and I then ask, " Do more? " or " Done? " What I use to muscle test

is called the donut method. You take your middle finger and thumb and

make a donut out of them -- like making an O.K. except you use your

middle finger instead of you index finger. Then you use your index

finger and thumb on your other hand to try and pry apart the donut. I

saw this on the Steps Towards Becoming the Ultimate Therapist DVD and

found it to be my prefered method of doing surrogate muscle testing.

Also, I like it because I can do it anytime and anyplace without other

people looking at you funny ) Very discrete.

Another technique I like to add is that, a lot of times, I simply tune

into my own intuition to get an answer. I find that the answer to many

of the questions come back almost before I finish asking the question.

This is even more discrete than the donut method and something that's

well suited for public places. I usually use this when I'm in a casino

and am looking for a machine to play. To date, I haven't lost a nickle

and have walked out of the place dollars ahead ;O) Granted, I'm not a

big time gambler as I limit myself to $5.00 a visit, once every two

weeks. And could care less about whether I win or lose.

Give those two techniques a try and see what you think.

-Jef

June 5, 2006

I had a funny moment earlier. I've wanted a second hand colour laser printer for

a while. It's in my special wish list folder (master key/ the secret). Today I

really felt " lucky " and up popped a message earlier. I have got it. so I guess

if I do the eft I shall be lucky too ;o)

I have used the kinesiology for a number of things, including what bothers me

and what food/makeup affects me. with huge success and you are right. It is very

discrete. I am quite excited to have a go, but the kids are in bed now and I

don't know if anything is bothering them today, they seem fairly happy.

The only time I have ever been to a casino I walked in and my grandad had given

me some money. I put it in the machine and it paid out BIG time! about 800

dollars the bells went off and I thought, " what have I done?? " the lady came to

check the machine. so I asked my mum to sit and play the one next to me. she put

two coins in and her buzzer went off, 700 dollars... very exciting for two

english people ) but I feel lucky... I coild now do with a few £'s to poay for

the laser printer hee hee!

seriously though. I am going to use the surrogate thing a lot I can see that.

Thanks VERY much!!!!! Today was my lucky day