Re: [Tap 'n B Free] You Bet EFT Works

[Guest guest]

Hi Judy,

Thanks so much for your reply. This is pretty much

exactly the situation I am facing and my inability to

make a decision is driving me crazy! I'm really

thrashing around with this. I will certainly keep

tapping!

All the best, Jo

--- Judith White Pertet <jwhite_pertet@...>

wrote:

> Hi Jo,

>

> I had to end a three-year relationship this past

> month. Using EFT, I came

> to my decision more quickly, and was able to get

> through the process much

> more easily than in the past. While I'm definitely

> not ready to start

> dating again, that's only because I'm working on

> myself, not because I am

> angry or upset about the breakup.

>

> Just keep tapping, Judy

[Guest guest]

Hi Jo,

Here's some of what I did in getting over my failed relationship. Try it

for yourself.

1. Although I am angry with myself for (staying) (putting up with what I

don't want) (wasting my precious time) (wasting my life) (letting other

opportunities pass me by), etc., I deeply ....

2. Although I don't think this relationship will work ...

3. Although I am scared to start again ...

4. Although I'm angry that I have to start again ...

Then, I did some choice work. I choose to be OK with what happens; I choose

to look at new opportunities, etc.

I also started to daydream and think about all the things I WANTED!! and

would love to have in a new relationship -- I encourage you to do this.

You'll walk around with the boggest grin on your face. People will start to

ask you what's up and, by the way, my smile has even started attracting new

and interesting strangers to me.

I am just starting now to actively look at how this relationship was like my

others that failed and how, in certain ways, it echoes the not so good

relationship with my father. I will be working on this in the days ahead.

Good luck. And, if you need any help, just e-mail me.

Judy

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[Guest guest]

> Hi Judy,

>

> Thanks so much for your reply. This is pretty much

> exactly the situation I am facing and my inability to

> make a decision is driving me crazy! I'm really

> thrashing around with this. I will certainly keep

> tapping!

>

Well, have you identified those aspects of the relationship that are

so unacceptable to you that you are thinking of ending it? Maybe

tap on those, see what happens, if more comes to the surface. Maybe

you have already talked till you're blue about change or compromise

and it doesn't get better? I do not believe that romantic

relationships are so important, if they are holding us back, and we

have asked for change and it hasn't happened after much asking, that

the decision to leave should be that difficult. If this person wants

you in their life, they must be willing to make real steps to change

those things that are making you want to go. And the steps must be

concrete or the behavior returns. Maybe he should be tapping too,

on those unbearable characteristics THAT he must be willing to admit

and take responsibility for. Unless you're just deeply bored and

have a gut feeling that he is not one for you..then, you know. But,

financial reasons are bad reasons to stay, so are ideas that you

won't ever find someone else to love you. And loving him is a bad

reason to stay if you have no evidence/little evidence that he

returns your love. Does he treat you well and make you feel good

about yourself and compliment your goals? Do you feel free to be

the best you can be? Does he give you a sense of freedom, period?

[Guest guest]

Hi jdkristina,

You gave me a lot to think about! I have indeed

identified some of the aspects that make me unhappy

and am working through them. There's not much chance

of him tapping, though - he doesn't share my interest

in anything " alternative " !! I guess you may be right,

I do have a gut feeling that it isn't right but, when

I approach the idea of leaving, many many fears come

up (interestingly, financial reasons are very low down

the list) - these are on my list of things to tap for!

I think I have a lot of aspects to work on here, but

am quite excited at the thought of applying EFT - I

have nothing to lose! Thank you for your reply and for

taking an interest.

all the best,

Jo

--- jdkristina <kristinac2539@...> wrote:

---------------------------------

> Hi Judy,

>

> Thanks so much for your reply. This is pretty much

> exactly the situation I am facing and my inability

to

> make a decision is driving me crazy! I'm really

> thrashing around with this. I will certainly keep

> tapping!

>

Well, have you identified those aspects of the

relationship that are

so unacceptable to you that you are thinking of ending

it? Maybe

tap on those, see what happens, if more comes to the

surface. Maybe

you have already talked till you're blue about change

or compromise

and it doesn't get better?