[Tap 'n B Free] Re: neils, glyn, fanny

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> Hi

> I liked some of the questions you had, Nels, down below, but

> is that enough?

>

> Warmly,

> Lyn

> > 1. Who Are You?

> > 2. Where did you come from?

> > 3. Where are you going?

> > 4. Who is going with you?

Hi Lyn,

No, I believe there is more to it than that. But you might be amazed

at how often - when helping another person - their situation involves

one or more of these four questions!

For example the first question can relate anywhere from simply

knowing a person's name and present status, to such things as someone

who is very sensitive to advice or very fearful of change and a

myriad of other items about the person, all the way up to such things

as how they view themselves as a human being and what they consider

to be their life purpose. In shamanism it is considered extremely

important that a person feels that their life has MEANING.

Now the second question, can include everything from a person's

address, to their family, cultural, religious, and educational

background and all the way through past abusive and other painful

physical and mental experiences and even dietary habits.

The third question of course relates mostly to what a person's

expectations are, both from the healing standpoint and where they

want to go with their life. This can reveal a whole gamut of

resistances and blockages. Perhaps the person is firmly attached to

their inifirmities!

And the last question has to do mostly with relationships. Unhealthy

relationships can lead to all kinds of emotional and physical

challenges. Just take the incidence of divorce for example. Many

people get a divorce when they find out after several years that they

are not compatible with their partner. And this may be the result of

neither person knowing themselves very well prior to the marriage -

let alone knowing the other person. So they made a decision regarding

question number four, before they knew the answer to question number

one!

Finally I find that delving into these questions is a great way to

build rapport, if you do it in a truly caring and loving way. As you

know, rapport is all about truly caring for the other person and

plays a huge role in healing. I am reminded of a quote that

Covey of Seven Habits fame uses when teaching teachers.

" I don't care how much you know, until I know how much you care. "

In my own personal experience, I have discovered that the more

clearly I can answer these four questions, the more inner peace I

achieve.

Also they are very easy to remember and keep in mind as you learn

from a person what their challenges are. I really feel they are the

four biggest questions we are seeking answers for at our deepest

levels of being.

Try it and see how it works for you!

Blessings, Nels