Re: [Tap 'n B Free] Mixing EFT with other modalities

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Hi Grant:

--- Grant Connolly <grant@...> wrote:

> Hi Lyn

>

> Yes, I agree with much of what you say concerning

> emotions, and also think

> of them them as form of energy. The impatient person

> I wrote about

> illustrates a pattern that I see with people who

> seem to hang on to

> behaviours that don't seem to benefit them in the

> current life they are

> living.

It would make sense since they were caught in the

middle of something that was rather traumatic to them.

They've most likely been trying to solve the problem

and achieve what they wanted to begin with. The worst

thing to be stuck with is an old goal where you have

layers of old problems and old solutions that don't

work. That's what happens when one has gone down the

scale of emotions. Also you have validated that the

lower emotions are due to stops (whatever or however

it happened) with the explanation below.

However, there are people trying to get the higher

emotions " back " that they feel they've lost and they

are continuous in the plight too. I think the

positive is a bit more overlooked than the negative.

Sometimes its the positive aspects that hold the

negatives in place.

>

> In trance, this fellow told me about being held back

> from doing a number of

> things that he wanted to do. It was a pattern that

> was being set in that

> lifetime. He was a pilot in that life, and when I

> took him to the end of it,

> it appears his death came as a direct result of

> being delayed from making a

> particular flight. He drew the conclusion that

> delay=death. He felt that had

> he not been delayed he wouldn't have died so soon,

> and he carried that

> conclusion and misbelief into this life.

Don't they say, don't make decisions when under duress

)) ?? I guess its rather hard to not make a

decision when on the verge of dying though.

>

> I say misbelief because when I took him to a higher

> state and had him look

> down at that life with more universal understanding,

> he immediately saw that

> the seeming delays he had been plagued with his

> whole life, each served the

> purpose of placing him in the position where he

> could meet a person he

> needed to meet, move to a place he needed to move or

> finally, to die at a

> time that suited his overall life plan. He finally

> saw and understood that

> " Timing is everything " .

Well, I don't know. Does one really want a new phrase

in place of an old one? What if " timing is

everything " doesn't work in the future. Be rather

frustrating. Just a pondering thought there.

But its great that you had him compare the past with

the present. I've seen a couple of processes that

help people do that. You get some situation, idea,

concept, etc. that you've had for awhile, then

describe it in the present, compare it to when you've

had it in the past and then compare it to what it

might look like in the future. Unwravels things in

an interesting way. Can be used with EFT too .

>

> At this point, I had his present self go back and

> explain this to his past

> life self and then tap on the emotions causing the

> problem. The emotions

> cleared immediately.

>

> Truly it was a combination of understanding from a

> higher perspective and

> EFT that did the trick here. His impatience no

> longer served a purpose,

> albeit a subconscious one, and could be discarded.

> And to be fair, I have

> also seen cases where I've used just EFT and the

> necessary universal

> understanding came spontaneously. So, who's to say

> what will work?

Well done . And I always say, whatever works is

what works so why not use it.

Warmly,

Lyn

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Hi I have been sortof in the background.....reading all that is done with the

EFT.......if life is plagued by things from past lives how does one go about

living this one.......that seems like the cards are stacked against us from the

beginning..........is life just one big healing joruney...I mean do we come into

a new life to heal the past lifes or what......These questions plague me since I

started on this journey.....5 years ago.......and now it seems to coonsume my

life ....trying to fix this or that......keeps em in a state of never feeling

good enoough for anything....sometimes I think I was happier when I didnt know

all that I needed to " fix " ......I would just love to find someone to share my

life with and get on with living.......being alone is not fun or enjoyable al

the time..........just curious about your views......why is there such a focus

on what needss to be fixed or healed......

its late and maybe im not making much sense........what they told you to do 5

years ago seems out dated now and now you start all over again going back and

'fixing " things that are wrong with you........

just curious.

Chey

Grant Connolly <grant@...> wrote: Hey All...

Just wanted to add a little something on this topic.

I've been using EFT for about 6 months now and have had consistently

outstanding results. Prior to adopting EFT I used hypnosis with reasonably

good but with what I see now were limited results. (limited when compared

with EFT)

I also combine the two as in the following example. I had a fellow come to

me recently because he was extremely impatient about almost everything. I am

told that taking a drive with this man in heavy traffic was quite an

experience.

I taught him EFT and had him tap on every aspect of this problem and had

what I thought were limited results. Although improved, the core of his

impatience remained and another appointment was booked.

During the second appointment I placed him in deep trance and regressed him

to a lifetime that appeared to be the root cause of his problem. Then I had

him imagine tapping for this past self on the feelings brought on by this

issue. That cleared it.

He is no longer troubled by this hyper-impatience.

There are no hard and fast rules about what to do in any particular

circumstance. I'm sure that there are any number of different ways that this

particular problem could have been dealt with successfully. However, I am

grateful that EFT was presented to me, and that I can combine it with

hypnosis in ways that powerfully and quickly benefit my clients.

Thank God for EFT.

Grant Connolly

EFT Practitioner

Certified Hypnotherapist

www.mindfulchanges.com

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Being a person with clinical depression...it really pisses me off to know that

without the meds I would be dead. I can tell when they wear off during the night

because I get nightmares. I am tired of living this way....tired. Maybe I will

just say screw the meds and end it all...yeah that sounds good!! So in response

to the other writer...I know exactly how you feel..really I do!!

mike

[Guest guest]

Hi Cheyanne

Yes, the old saying that " ignorance is bliss " may be quite true. And

ignorance is OK for a while, but sometimes we have an inner desire for more

and then the journey to discover who and what you really are begins. Sounds

like this is where you are right now.

Your inner knowing has brought you to exactly the place you need to be. This

newsgroup. Because, along with all of the other things that EFT is, I also

think of it as a spiritual tool that we can use to unlock or uncover that

shining self that exists within each of us right now.

EFT doesn't " fix " you, it eliminates the negative emotions that stop you

from finding your own truth and happiness. It uncovers and reveals who you

already are. You are not broken, you have merely forgotten who you really

are.

So, try this...begin your tapping with " Even though the cards are stacked

against me...

Follow the protocol. If you need help go to my website at

www.mindfulchanges.com and click on the Interesting Links section. The first

item is an excellent explanation of how to use EFT.

With Love

Grant Connolly

EFT Practitioner

Certified Hypnotherapist

Re: [Tap 'n B Free] Mixing EFT with other modalities

Hi I have been sortof in the background.....reading all that is done with

the EFT.......if life is plagued by things from past lives how does one go

about living this one.......that seems like the cards are stacked against us

from the beginning..........is life just one big healing joruney...I mean do

we come into a new life to heal the past lifes or what......These questions

plague me since I started on this journey.....5 years ago.......and now it

seems to coonsume my life ....trying to fix this or that......keeps em in a

state of never feeling good enoough for anything....sometimes I think I was

happier when I didnt know all that I needed to " fix " ......I would just love

to find someone to share my life with and get on with living.......being

alone is not fun or enjoyable al the time..........just curious about your

views......why is there such a focus on what needss to be fixed or

healed......

its late and maybe im not making much sense........what they told you to do

5 years ago seems out dated now and now you start all over again going back

and 'fixing " things that are wrong with you........

just curious.

Chey

Grant Connolly <grant@...> wrote: Hey All...

Just wanted to add a little something on this topic.

I've been using EFT for about 6 months now and have had consistently

outstanding results. Prior to adopting EFT I used hypnosis with reasonably

good but with what I see now were limited results. (limited when compared

with EFT)

I also combine the two as in the following example. I had a fellow come to

me recently because he was extremely impatient about almost everything. I am

told that taking a drive with this man in heavy traffic was quite an

experience.

I taught him EFT and had him tap on every aspect of this problem and had

what I thought were limited results. Although improved, the core of his

impatience remained and another appointment was booked.

During the second appointment I placed him in deep trance and regressed him

to a lifetime that appeared to be the root cause of his problem. Then I had

him imagine tapping for this past self on the feelings brought on by this

issue. That cleared it.

He is no longer troubled by this hyper-impatience.

There are no hard and fast rules about what to do in any particular

circumstance. I'm sure that there are any number of different ways that this

particular problem could have been dealt with successfully. However, I am

grateful that EFT was presented to me, and that I can combine it with

hypnosis in ways that powerfully and quickly benefit my clients.

Thank God for EFT.

Grant Connolly

EFT Practitioner

Certified Hypnotherapist

www.mindfulchanges.com

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Grant,

Can you really help yourself with this EFT. I am in desperate need of something

that will help me...the depression meds help but I know that they are just a

means to help my body attain normalcy. There must be an underlying cause to my

pain and depression that is causing the chemical imbalance....please help!!!!

mike

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Hi Mike

Yes, you can help yourself with EFT. I know this because I've seen it work

wonders in my own life and in the lives of many others. However, you do not

need to take my word for this as you can try it for yourself.

Start to tap with...Even though I feel this pain...

Follow this sequence:

- tap the karate chop point (see diagram

http://www.mindfulchanges.com/pages/tapping.htm) while repeating the

reminder phrase 3 times... " Even though I feel this pain, I deeply and

completely love and accept myself.

- then tap the eyebrow point 6 or 7 times while saying " Even though I feel

this pain. "

- then tap the corner of the eye while repeating " Even though I feel this

pain. "

- then tap under the eye while repeating " Even though I feel this pain. "

- then tap above the lip while repeating " Even though I feel this pain. "

- then tap above the chin while repeating " Even though I feel this pain. "

- then tap at the center of the collarbone while repeating " Even though I

feel this pain. "

- then tap under the arm while repeating " Even though I feel this pain. "

Then stop and pay attention to how you are feeling. Scan your feelings to

see if they are reduced or gone.

If they still remain, do another round of the points including the karate

chop points. (It takes less than 2 minutes to do a round) And so on.

DON'T STOP until the feeling is completely gone and IT WILL NEVER RETURN.

With EFT, you tap on the negative emotions that you feel now, this moment.

You clear that feeling and get relief. One feeling at a time...

Try this and let me know how you make out.

Regards

Grant Connolly

EFT Practitioner

Certified Hypnotherapist

Re: [Tap 'n B Free] Mixing EFT with other modalities

Grant,

Can you really help yourself with this EFT. I am in desperate need of

something that will help me...the depression meds help but I know that they

are just a means to help my body attain normalcy. There must be an

underlying cause to my pain and depression that is causing the chemical

imbalance....please help!!!!

mike

[Guest guest]

Hi Lynn

I wanted to answer some of this post......esp the part where you said we either

didnt alllow the emotionns out or kept them in a closet for whatever reason.,

As a young person and a teenager I used to cry everything out ........or laugh

so hard but I always got them out ......I dealt with them.....then as I grew up

every one told me that I was too emotional........either " too happy " , too angry

too sexual too down " ......I was always " TOO something " . point being I needed to

" control " my emotions more.....but what they really meant is that I should hold

them in .......I realize now this was their problem not mine..but after years of

doing so I am now at the poiint of holding things in .........heck I even gave

myself a heart atack when I was younger holding all this in ........there was no

joy left to life......needelss to say I left that person......

I lived life thru my emotions ........it meant when I felt I was alive

inside..........heck I would get goose bumps looking at clouds at the wonderment

of them.......now it is like a humdrum of an existence sometimes where I neither

feel up or down but as one person told me ......leveled out.....well this

levelled out to me feels like there is noo passion for life.....I just go thru

life on automatic " doiing " things neither enjoyiing or not enjoyiing just doing

things to survive........I know this cant stay this way......I have to change

something soon......

this is not living but existiing.......I need to find a way to put some passion

in my life again and get back to the land of feeling and dealing with life. its

closet cleaaning time...and there is a lot of stuff that people have told me

that I need to clean out and throw away.....some of the stuff in the closet isnt

even mine.....its stuff that I have let others put in my closet......that doesnt

serve me or who I am at all......

anyways Im just rattlling on here and its time to go to work.......Im going to

use the post that sent me and try to use EFT to rid myself of some of this

stuff

thanks for listening

Chey

Laffin Lyn <rayofsunn@...> wrote: Hi Grant:

Well done on your freedom towards flexibility.

Many people think you only do one thing at a time,

which in some cases is a good thing as I wouldn't want

my surgeon juggling oranges during an operation, but

there are several different methods which can be

combined.

I personally feel that there are lots of methods

out there which more or less dance around or miss the

emotions that tie things up. I'm of the belief that

emotions are a glue and an energy that when stored and

not fully looked at will overlay most analytical

thought.

When I found EFT it was the perfect unlock and I

realized what it was that had to be unlocked. We take

our emotions for granted to the point where you don't

see the forest for the trees. Most people don't even

know really what exactly emotions are. Its just one

of those " things " we all do.

There are modes of therapy which mostly go after

" thought " and if emotion comes up, well, that's okay.

It is believed that the original thought is what is

holding something in place. That part is true to some

degree, but without emotions, we could easily look at

an original thought and change it. Emotions occlude

those thoughts.

Now, the " higher " the emotion, the lighter it is

and so then thoughts become easier to look at for the

most part (except when you are blindly in love , but

then its not necessarily a true emotion fit for the

situation. The lower the emotion the more dense it is

and so therefore occludes the situation more. Usually

our thoughts will match the emotion.

To me lower emotion represents to what degree a

person has been stopped in their communications and

actions in life. I haven't found anyone in a lower

emotional band on a consistent basis who hasn't been

stopped in their life from doing what they really

wanted to do in some area of their life.

So, EFT helps to release and let those emotions

flow out along with some of the thoughts that go with

it. To me what has happened in the past or past life

is being held on to for two reasons. The first one is

that they never totally got their communication

fulfilled nor did they end off on whatever actions

they were doing. The second one is that in order for

" beings " to continue to play a game, unfortunately,

they feel that they have to hold on to some problem

which will still let them have a goal. This could be

lifetimes. Plus, they lose sight of the original

game, meaning original goal and barriers to that goal.

So, they keep going, never cleaning out their closet

from all the old gathered up stuff until the closet is

so full you can't fit one more thing in there. Then

they go find another closet and leave that one messy.

I can't imagine how many closets there are for each

person .

The idea of allowing for emotions to flow out the

way they had been intended and to experience those

emotions which were kept at arms length is actually a

simple concept. Sometimes its amazing that something

so simple can then be created in complexities. But

then people are good at that .

Warmly,

Lyn

--- Grant Connolly <grant@...> wrote:

> Hey All...

>

> Just wanted to add a little something on this topic.

>

> I've been using EFT for about 6 months now and have

> had consistently

> outstanding results. Prior to adopting EFT I used

> hypnosis with reasonably

> good but with what I see now were limited results.

> (limited when compared

> with EFT)

>

> I also combine the two as in the following example.

> I had a fellow come to

> me recently because he was extremely impatient about

> almost everything. I am

> told that taking a drive with this man in heavy

> traffic was quite an

> experience.

>

> I taught him EFT and had him tap on every aspect of

> this problem and had

> what I thought were limited results. Although

> improved, the core of his

> impatience remained and another appointment was

> booked.

>

> During the second appointment I placed him in deep

> trance and regressed him

> to a lifetime that appeared to be the root cause of

> his problem. Then I had

> him imagine tapping for this past self on the

> feelings brought on by this

> issue. That cleared it.

>

> He is no longer troubled by this hyper-impatience.

>

> There are no hard and fast rules about what to do in

> any particular

> circumstance. I'm sure that there are any number of

> different ways that this

> particular problem could have been dealt with

> successfully. However, I am

> grateful that EFT was presented to me, and that I

> can combine it with

> hypnosis in ways that powerfully and quickly benefit

> my clients.

>

> Thank God for EFT.

>

> Grant Connolly

> EFT Practitioner

> Certified Hypnotherapist

> www.mindfulchanges.com

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[Guest guest]

Thank you Grant for the info...I will read and try this...I am open minded and

know that the body was designed so it could heal itself...even spiritually. I

get my vitamins from a lady that I believe practices this...I am going to ask

her tomorrow.

thanks again,

mike

[Guest guest]

Hey Chey

A good listener is sometimes worth more than gold

. I can fully understand everything you said.

Three things here. What was told to you in what

emotion. What your thought/emotion was as the

response. Then what the emotional consequences and

actions were as a result of those two items. Since it

was done at different times, you may have to unlayer

those different times because they may have had

different thoughts and emotions. Whatever is the

" hottest " is what you can tap on first.

Rehabilitating the decision of " how " you decided to

emote might help as well and then you can compare that

idea to the present time and see where that puts you.

Hope this helps a bit.

Warmly,

Lyn

--- Cheyenne Rainfeather <rainfeather1@...>

wrote:

>

> Hi Lynn

> I wanted to answer some of this post......esp the

> part where you said we either didnt alllow the

> emotionns out or kept them in a closet for whatever

> reason.,

> As a young person and a teenager I used to cry

> everything out ........or laugh so hard but I always

> got them out ......I dealt with them.....then as I

> grew up every one told me that I was too

> emotional........either " too happy " , too angry too

> sexual too down " ......I was always " TOO something " .

> point being I needed to " control " my emotions

> more.....but what they really meant is that I should

> hold them in .......I realize now this was their

> problem not mine..but after years of doing so I am

> now at the poiint of holding things in .........heck

> I even gave myself a heart atack when I was younger

> holding all this in ........there was no joy left to

> life......needelss to say I left that person......

> I lived life thru my emotions ........it meant when

> I felt I was alive inside..........heck I would get

> goose bumps looking at clouds at the wonderment of

> them.......now it is like a humdrum of an existence

> sometimes where I neither feel up or down but as one

> person told me ......leveled out.....well this

> levelled out to me feels like there is noo passion

> for life.....I just go thru life on automatic

> " doiing " things neither enjoyiing or not enjoyiing

> just doing things to survive........I know this cant

> stay this way......I have to change something

> soon......

> this is not living but existiing.......I need to

> find a way to put some passion in my life again and

> get back to the land of feeling and dealing with

> life. its closet cleaaning time...and there is a lot

> of stuff that people have told me that I need to

> clean out and throw away.....some of the stuff in

> the closet isnt even mine.....its stuff that I have

> let others put in my closet......that doesnt serve

> me or who I am at all......

> anyways Im just rattlling on here and its time to go

> to work.......Im going to use the post that

> sent me and try to use EFT to rid myself of some of

> this stuff

> thanks for listening

> Chey

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[Guest guest]

Hi Mike:

--- mike <mhoy58@...> wrote:

> Being a person with clinical depression...it really

> pisses me off to know that without the meds I would

> be dead.

Actually, this is a good sign. Being angry is higher

than being depressed. Anger has more action in it

while depressed is closer to apathy and then death

(not necessarily body death - but emotional death).

I'd rather see you throw a chair across the room than

be in a fetal position thinking its all over.

I can tell when they wear off during the

> night because I get nightmares.

Sounds like a slow gradual thing is needed here. I

wouldn't go completely off until you start to do the

EFT on a continual basis and can start to look at the

precise areas you are depressed about and what has

stopped you so completely from doing whatever it is

you wanted to do originally. You don't even need to

remember right now what that was. The first thing is

to unlayer the emotions attached to it.

I am tired of living

> this way....tired.

By the way - tired is also an indication of apathy.

Sorry to evaluate like that, but I've done quite a few

sessions that have that with it (other than someone

being tired from physical exertion). EFT really does

help this area.

Maybe I will just say screw the

> meds and end it all...yeah that sounds good!! So in

> response to the other writer...I know exactly how

> you feel..really I do!!

I know this is going to sound really strange, Mike,

and it might offend some people, but when someone

starts to talk about ending it all, they're still in

the game, even if its hanging by a thread. There is

still some little bit of hope left. Its kind of a

last effort to be heard and understood and to give

themselves permission to live. I mean if you don't

give yourself permission who else will.

Thanks for sharing how you felt, Mike.

Warmly,

Lyn

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[Guest guest]

> Can you really help yourself with this EFT. I am in desperate

need of

> something that will help me...the depression meds help but I

know that

> they are just a means to help my body attain normalcy. There

must be an

> underlying cause to my pain and depression that is causing

the chemical

> imbalance....please help!!!!

>

>

> mike

Mike,

EFT is a great technique but be careful.

If you don't know what is behind your depression and pain, and

youre on medication, could be a real big thing, the kind that

is hard to deal with by yourself.

Might be wise to do it with a practitioner, not on your own.

good luck

VG

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hi Lyn

yes a listener is worth his/her weight in gold......so thank you.....Im not sure

how to do the tapping for any of this

there are many things in this that i can feel the anger rise too......

first as a child I was scared of the basement and when I had to babysit my

sister alone I would cringe going near the basement door......everyone told me I

was being silly......this is a fear today I still have to fight

sometimes......what was in the basement ....daymed if I know......I have tried

many times to figure that one out....I would feel stupid and childish and then

be angry at the people .....now I jsut get angery at myself when this feeling

comes up......and I make myself go into the basement even tho I can feel the

anxiety rise in me.....

another one was when I lost my first baby right at birth......my husband caught

me crying at home the day I came home and told me that " crying wouldnt bring her

back " I remember choking on those tears as I fought them back .......I bucked up

and wouldnt cry over her again and I thought what a cold calous bastard he

was....between the guilt of why I thought at the time she died and not being

able to grieve over her.....well it left me cold...another time was when my

father died and I couldnt attend his funeral......because of my son.....he was

just a 2 month old......well the day I knew my father was being buried I started

to cry and again I got told that the tears were of no use he was gone and I

should get on with my life..........25 years later I finally got to my fathers

grave.and cried like crazy........

I realized then the guys i have married couldnt deal with emotions of any

kind......I learned to just either pop a tranq to squell the tears or numbe

myself out so I wouldnt feel and wouldnt cry.....eventually I left

them......only a part of me died along the way with each one of htem

being told I was too sensous too sexual, to tone it down well, I thought there

was something wrong with me and that I must be sick or something so I toned it

all down until finally there was nothing left....no feeling for it

nothing.....now I dont know how to get back to feeling the passion of it

all.....I even had one girl from the program I was in that I shouldnt have sex

with anyone for at least a year till I was in a stable relationshiop commiteed

and all that.............felt like she had told me I coudlnt breathe for

year......and now here it is 5 years later and the passion in me has fizzled out

completely.....I know I didnt have to listen to her but it went in and went in

deep I guess.....apathy seems to be my best friend.......and passion is the

fleeting butterfly I keep trying to catch.........

my anger......well that one I could understand.....I did work on controlling it

more altho eventually it would over flow and I would burst.....it seemed like

that was the only way anyone would hear me....now i am working at letting it out

but not aiming it at anyone......I just go into the bush and yell and scream or

go to my room and rant and rave.but sometimes it bubbles up so quickly and

before I know it .......its a gusher and I am usually the one that gets hurt

thru an accident of some sort like at work the other nite........I ended up

pinching my hand between two containers and had to be rushed to the

hospital......now i have a black and blue hand that hurts.......I dont hurt

others I end up hurting myself.....

I used to feel really healthy cuz I let it all out ........tears joy happiness

anger sorrow.....all the pain that ever came to me ......but over the

years........I have watched others and they all seem to control it.........one

good example was when I was out with this guy I really liked and I would put my

hand on his knee .......well I guess he didnt like it ......and he grabbed me by

the breast .........totally blew me away....so I withdrew from touching

anyone......I felt really embarrased and humiliated.......

I learned to as they would say " pop a pill (tranquilizer) when ever I felt too

much of any emotion coming up.......and then I became so addicted to them

.......I went thru treatement for it .....and that was a joke cuz they told me to

let it come up and out .....and I thought shit I was healthey before I listened

to all these morons tell me to tone it all down.....then I got really angry as I

realized I had let all these people dictate to me what and how I should be and I

realized I had lost parts of me......and that depressed me greatly......when I

came home from the treatment centre I went into full blown panic attacks and had

to be put back on the pills again......the only difference now is that I dont

use them for everything that comes up and I try to breathe to calm myself

down.....but in the process of this all.......I basically live a life of apathy

as far as i am concerned.......to feel now seems to make people

nervous.......and takes too much energy from me......an example of this is with

my daughter......she is extremely depresed being pregnant and in a strange

town.....I know that feeling too ......but I still try to pick myself up and

find little things to " feel " excited about .........but there she is all bummed

and everything and next thing I know I am down there with her......like she is a

monkey on my back..........I have spoken to her about this and she is trying (so

she says) to change it but its draining me.....

I love to go all out for Christmas decorating cooking shopping and even that

.........my kids told me to tone it down not to do so much........I enjoyed all

that I did......everything I do I do with passion and then I get these twerps

around me that tell me I shouldnt........and I know I can still do it but it

seems like I end up feeling " what for " and in comes the feeling of whats the

use.....no one cares......yet they all bitch and complain how boring life.

is.........I dont know anymore........I wish I could find someone that got

excited about things....

since I was young I have been told to settle down ......yet my belief was that

passion was the driving force behind life......emotions were meant to be felt

whatever they were.......I never did anythign half heartedly .......when I got

into the computer design I went on a spree designing pages till 4 am in the

morning cuz it was exciting to me......when I opened my bridal business I would

spend hours desinging things for brides......

what is it with people.....why do i surround mysellf with people with no drive

to do anything.....but buzz themselves out and sit like morons in front of the

idiot box......even thinking about this now is depressing me.......to live life

like I am is not appealing anymore......something has to change and it seems I

either end up joiinng them or dyammmmm i just dont know anymore.....

sorry this got so long but I guess I realized so many things

tonite...........so many memories came back and not the most pleasant ones....

Im goiing to bed.......at least there I can escape this feeling without taking a

pill............

thanks for listening......

Chey

Laffin Lyn <rayofsunn@...> wrote: Hey Chey

A good listener is sometimes worth more than gold

. I can fully understand everything you said.

Three things here. What was told to you in what

emotion. What your thought/emotion was as the

response. Then what the emotional consequences and

actions were as a result of those two items. Since it

was done at different times, you may have to unlayer

those different times because they may have had

different thoughts and emotions. Whatever is the

" hottest " is what you can tap on first.

Rehabilitating the decision of " how " you decided to

emote might help as well and then you can compare that

idea to the present time and see where that puts you.

Hope this helps a bit.

Warmly,

Lyn

--- Cheyenne Rainfeather <rainfeather1@...>

wrote:

>

> Hi Lynn

> I wanted to answer some of this post......esp the

> part where you said we either didnt alllow the

> emotionns out or kept them in a closet for whatever

> reason.,

> As a young person and a teenager I used to cry

> everything out ........or laugh so hard but I always

> got them out ......I dealt with them.....then as I

> grew up every one told me that I was too

> emotional........either " too happy " , too angry too

> sexual too down " ......I was always " TOO something " .

> point being I needed to " control " my emotions

> more.....but what they really meant is that I should

> hold them in .......I realize now this was their

> problem not mine..but after years of doing so I am

> now at the poiint of holding things in .........heck

> I even gave myself a heart atack when I was younger

> holding all this in ........there was no joy left to

> life......needelss to say I left that person......

> I lived life thru my emotions ........it meant when

> I felt I was alive inside..........heck I would get

> goose bumps looking at clouds at the wonderment of

> them.......now it is like a humdrum of an existence

> sometimes where I neither feel up or down but as one

> person told me ......leveled out.....well this

> levelled out to me feels like there is noo passion

> for life.....I just go thru life on automatic

> " doiing " things neither enjoyiing or not enjoyiing

> just doing things to survive........I know this cant

> stay this way......I have to change something

> soon......

> this is not living but existiing.......I need to

> find a way to put some passion in my life again and

> get back to the land of feeling and dealing with

> life. its closet cleaaning time...and there is a lot

> of stuff that people have told me that I need to

> clean out and throw away.....some of the stuff in

> the closet isnt even mine.....its stuff that I have

> let others put in my closet......that doesnt serve

> me or who I am at all......

> anyways Im just rattlling on here and its time to go

> to work.......Im going to use the post that

> sent me and try to use EFT to rid myself of some of

> this stuff

> thanks for listening

> Chey

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Hi Chey

Your posts to this list fill me with sadness, but let me assure you, that peel

by peel with using EFT on EVERY situation you have experienced, you WILL come

out on top.

Ever so gradually we peel each layer off, release a further emotional blockage

until we eventually reach the core.

At the core you will find a beautiful human being.

Been thru it all my friend and have come out on the other side my real self -

a fantastic, caring fun loving, confident, ambitious, successful human being

who can take on any situation thrown at me (well almost ! )

We are here to assist you. I am not a practitioner, just someone who has used

EFT to dramatically change my life.

Cheers

Glyn

[Guest guest]

Hi Glyn and Chey

Been sitting here wondering how I can help, and realize that I can't. Chey,

if you were in my office I would sit you down and guide you through the

tapping process. I would help you help yourself so that you can move beyond

the pain that you are feeling. An EFT session is not a talking session

necessarily, its a doing session.

Chey, all the pain that you are feeling are just blockages that need to be

removed. No more and no less. All the crap that we all put up with in our

lives...are just blockages that need to be removed. Send in the Roto Rooter

Man!

And, until you become so fed up with all the crap that you have to put

with...you won't do anything about it!

So let me ask you Glyn, why did you decide to take the steps necessary to

Roto Rooter yourself? What was it?

Regards

Grant Connolly

Re: [Tap 'n B Free] Mixing EFT with other modalities

Hi Chey

Your posts to this list fill me with sadness, but let me assure you, that

peel by peel with using EFT on EVERY situation you have experienced, you

WILL come out on top.

Ever so gradually we peel each layer off, release a further emotional

blockage until we eventually reach the core.

At the core you will find a beautiful human being.

Been thru it all my friend and have come out on the other side my real

self - a fantastic, caring fun loving, confident, ambitious, successful

human being who can take on any situation thrown at me (well almost ! )

We are here to assist you. I am not a practitioner, just someone who has

used EFT to dramatically change my life.

Cheers

Glyn

[Guest guest]

Hi Chey

Firstly, I read and understood everything you wrote

and actually, its very good to see you can at least

still get in touch with your emotions. Some people

can't even do that too well, or don't want to.

Secondly, I snipped all but left the below because

you have an old " problem " . A problem is where you

have two things countering each other and you have to

make a decision. The idea of course is to make a

decision which is going to create happiness and not

miserableness (just made that word up .

So, a person moves down emotionally the more " stops "

they go into agreement with. Lower emotions are only

the measurements that can be used to give a " clue " as

to the stops in one's life. You went into agreement

that you should not emote (at least this is what I got

from your writing). Usually a person goes into

agreement with stopping something for several reasons.

Could be a threat of some kind which forces the

person to take the lesser of the two evils. But then

it could be a promise of a better situation. Either

way, there was a reason to be in agreement.

What people don't do is clean out their original

thoughts and decisions regarding something that was

most likely a duress situation. They keep them and

hold onto them in hopes that they will eventually win

at whatever it is they are trying to solve. We can

have layers upon layers of those types of problems all

because we never got to the first one and changed our

minds about it.

So, the below is a problem. On one hand you want

to " emote " and be free to do whatever with passion and

then on the other hand you went into agreement with

subduing all of that and finding out it wasn't what

you wanted. So, now the goal was to get back to being

free about the things you want to do and the barriers

became the agreements you made to stop that goal.

I could make it simple and say to simply agree to

your original goal, but you may have a particular

" command " in your head that tells you it isn't okay -

to the point where you cannot simply change your mind.

There are most likely enough emotions on that alone.

So, take one side at a time, Chey. Take the one

that bothers you the most. If its all the emotions

backed up and stored up and jammed up due to thinking

you have to " tone it down " or whatever, then tap on

that. If its the ability to emote freely and feel

passion then tap on that.

Now, I'll give you an affirmation which I actually

call a " Focus " because you are focusing on it as you

tap. It is a sample one and please feel free to

change this at any time. It might not quite be right

since I'm not actually asking you directly, but

dancing around the area.

This is different from what Craig teaches but

I find it very useful because its the person's own and

no one else's guesswork at it.

So, it " might " go something like -

Even though I have this fear about not fitting in,

I deeply and completely love and accept myself and

know that I can achieve happiness and confidence of

who I really am.

If I were sitting in front of you, of course, I'd

take whatever you gave me when I asked you what the

problem was and then would ask you what the contrast

to that was. That's how I would get the other side of

it. But again, the above is only an example and of

course may not be accurate as I'm more or less

guessing here from what you've written.

What the above does is to help get both sides at

the same time and helps the awareness of both so you

can get rid of the built up upsets you've stored away.

By the way, I'd tap on the thing hottest first and

then at the end of each round I'd focus on both sides

and breath deeply about 3 times and then let yourself

just have whatever comes up and check to see how

intense (or SUDs) level on whatever emotion you're

working on. It changes but you just keep on going

until it gets lighter and lighter. Then you can

handle the next item.

Excitement vs. subdued can be ironed out to where

you " can " regain excitement and yet be subdued when

you " want " to be rather than having to be. They're

both okay items and useful. Its just a matter of

getting the emotional " charge " off of it and

establishing a more useful and present time mode about

it.

I hope the above helps. If you have any questions,

etc. please continue to communicate whatever .

Love,

Lyn

--- Cheyenne Rainfeather <rainfeather1@...>

wrote:

>

> hi Lyn

is.........I dont know

> anymore........I wish I could find someone that got

> excited about things....

> since I was young I have been told to settle down

> ......yet my belief was that passion was the driving

> force behind life......emotions were meant to be

> felt whatever they were.......I never did anythign

> half heartedly .......

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

*****So let me ask you Glyn, why did you decide to take the steps necessary to

Roto Rooter yourself? What was it? *******

That is a long story Grant, but in a nutshell, I came out of an abusive 20

year marriage in 1989 and then " out of the blue " anxiety and panic attacks hit

me in 1990.

I coped with these somehow, never resorting to medication.

Fortunately, I never suffered from depression. Somewhere deep inside me I knew

I would overcome all this sh**

In 1992 I found a Clinical Psych in the phone book and did cognitive therapy

for 14 months, he almost f***** me emotionally and one day I told him to " shove

it " . He became very anrgy and told me I would never get better because I was a

loser. YES, this from a psych.

As you can imagine, this set me back greatly.

His comments made me sooooooooo angry, I searched for a way to overcome all my

emotional turmoil.

I found yet again another psych, a fab guy who was also trained in TFT and

slowly each layer of onion peel started to come off. I worked on the abusive

marriage, the abusive childhood, not meeting my mother until I was 16, never

knowing who my father was, my relationship with my eldest son in particular and

on and on and on it went. I then worked on my many phobias and they too fell by

the wayside. I also worked with Steve Wells who does EFT, this man is an

absolute hoot and brilliant.

Steve's pocket book on EFT is great, I carry it with me and if I have a client

(I am a Feng Shui practitioner) who gets emotional during a consultation and

drags out his/her past hurts, whammo, out comes the pocket book and I get them

to do the tapping. Works everytime.

No way was my abusive past going to ruin my future, I wanted to have a great

and happy life and I wanted to put my demons to rest. I was better than my

abusers and I was going to get on with life. I guess I am very fortunate because

I have a great deal of determination and self esteem.

So here I am today, a pretty contented soul. I will be working again with

Steve on a health phobia I have, but this does not blight my life. Just

something I want to attend to. I find for issues I find hard to deal with by

myself, I buzz off to see Steve. Some of the other stuff I do solo.

Sorry for the long post, but could not condense it further !!

Cheers

Glyn

[Guest guest]

Manoj

I think many problems we have, have their roots in other lives. However,

most times EFT is quite effective eliminating these issues in the here and

now. Sometimes the problem is resistant to quick release, not because its

roots are so far in the past, but because the client can't tune into the

specific aspects that created the problem. Direct knowledge of those aspects

seems to lie within the subconscious, but that doesn't mean they can't be

accessed here and now. Past life regression is just a reasonably fast means

of gaining a window on this information. There are other ways...

Now, if you tapped on " even though this problem may have its roots in a past

life " may serve to uncover the aspects involved. Being truly open to

actually finding the issue may bring it to conscious awareness anyway. Try

it...

Your intuition is you best guide here.

Regards

Grant Connolly

Re: [Tap 'n B Free] Mixing EFT with other modalities

Hi Grant

This is very interesting and is something I've wondered about myself--using

EFT with past life regression. I wonder if it would still work if one didn't

have access to a past life therapist or knew how to view past lives? For

example if one tapped on something like " Even though this problem may have

its roots in a past life... " ? What do you think?

Best,

Manoj

> Hey All...

>

> Just wanted to add a little something on this topic.

>

> I've been using EFT for about 6 months now and have had consistently

> outstanding results. Prior to adopting EFT I used hypnosis with reasonably

> good but with what I see now were limited results. (limited when compared

> with EFT)

>

> I also combine the two as in the following example. I had a fellow come to

> me recently because he was extremely impatient about almost everything. I

am

> told that taking a drive with this man in heavy traffic was quite an

> experience.

>

> I taught him EFT and had him tap on every aspect of this problem and had

> what I thought were limited results. Although improved, the core of his

> impatience remained and another appointment was booked.

>

> During the second appointment I placed him in deep trance and regressed

him

> to a lifetime that appeared to be the root cause of his problem. Then I

had

> him imagine tapping for this past self on the feelings brought on by this

> issue. That cleared it.

>

> He is no longer troubled by this hyper-impatience.

>

> There are no hard and fast rules about what to do in any particular

> circumstance. I'm sure that there are any number of different ways that

this

> particular problem could have been dealt with successfully. However, I am

> grateful that EFT was presented to me, and that I can combine it with

> hypnosis in ways that powerfully and quickly benefit my clients.

>

> Thank God for EFT.

>

> Grant Connolly

> EFT Practitioner

> Certified Hypnotherapist

> www.mindfulchanges.com

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[Guest guest]

HI Lyn

I read this and will reread it over but you hit on something as tears started to

well up inside.....then I felt them quickly squished down again.....and I moved

on ......but I wuill go over it again and do what you suggested.............but

I came up with a good example of what i am saying

It happened at work tonite......last week I pinched my hand at work......pretty

badly too I had swelling the size of a golf ball ......well one of the women I

work with told my boss that I had wanted some time off......and she figured I

found a way to get it......by doing this to myself.....and my boss believed

her.....well that boss moved to another store but the woman is still there and

tonite I wanted to confront her about this....I couldnt even look at her without

feeling so angry......and hurt that she would even think that I would do this to

myself just to get time off..hell I had been working with a bad chest cold for

two weeks I had enough reason to take time off........anyways.....I told the one

girl I was going to confront this woman and she said you better think it over

........this woman is good friends with the new boss......well the anger rose in

me so much .........I thought no I am not keeping my mouth shut on this

one.....I am going to say something to her.....well the girl went on and said be

sure you know what you doing it may cost you your job.......I could feel the

anger being squished down in me and the feeling that I have had to do that all

my life ,,,,,keep my mouth shut and take the crap just so I wouldnt lose my

job......well not this time......if I loose it over speaking up for myself then

I wasnt meant to have the ***t job anyways...I mean I am not going to attack the

woman but I am going to speak to her and ask her why she would say such a

thing......and what right did she have to make that assumpiton about me......

you know whats funny about this whole incident........the nite it happened I was

upset and I wanted to leave work but couldnt bring myself to say anything.....my

emotions were all over the place......I was angry, I felt betrayed by my boss

over something else ,I was chokding back tears, and all I could think of was

getting the hell out of there.....so maybe somewhere deep down inside I did do

it to myself.....I mean I didnt purpose put my hand in and say now im gonna to

smash it.......but with all the emotionnnally crap I was feeling .........I

wasnt paying much attention to what I was doing....still it doesnt give that

woman the right to say anything to my boss........

A problem is where you have two things countering each other and you have to

make a decision. The idea of course is to make a

decision which is going to create happiness and not

miserableness (just made that word up .

Usually a person goes into agreement with stopping something for several

reasons.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~yes I can identify with this one.......it meant I

lost friendships if I didnt stop the emotional part of me.......which is funny

cuz I gave it up anyways.......figured they werent really a friend if I coudlnt

be myself.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

So, the below is a problem. On one hand you want

to " emote " and be free to do whatever with passion and

then on the other hand you went into agreement with

subduing all of that and finding out it wasn't what

you wanted. So, now the goal was to get back to being

free about the things you want to do and the barriers

became the agreements you made to stop that goal.

I could make it simple and say to simply agree to

your original goal, but you may have a particular

" command " in your head that tells you it isn't okay

-~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~yes there is a big one in there......it tells me all the

time that I am not disciplined and must learn to control my emotions....yup

fear, anxiety....they tell me I will lose everyone if I show my

emotions.....most people cant handle emotional people.....it scares

them.....thats why so many are buzzed out of their minds on drugs and booze....

So, take one side at a time, Chey. Take the one

that bothers you the most. If its all the emotions

backed up and stored up and jammed up due to thinking

you have to " tone it down " or whatever, then tap on

that.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Maybe this is the one......maybe thats why I have constant

pain from all this crap jammed in me......I can feel it as I write to

you.......I just want to scream it all out....and let loose........and just go

nuts ehheheheheheh yup there is even giggles in there.....thats why I love kids

so much you can do anything when you are with a kid and they love you for

it...they dont analyse everything and put on such a fake face.....kids are so

free........I feel like Pan I dont want to grow up.......hehehehehehehhe

If I were sitting in front of you, of course, I'd

take whatever you gave me when I asked you what the

problem was and then would ask you what the contrast

to that was.

OK this part......Im not sure what you mean by " the problem " and then the

contrast.....do you mean like I hate not being able to show what I

feel........?????and then the contrast of what would happen if I showed what I

feel.??? just want to clarify this....

I want people to accept me as I am not what they want me to be......I mean I

dont want to be an angry exploding volcano but if something pushes me so badly

.......I just want to be able to calmly say it and clear the air right then and

there..... I just recently lost a friend?? because I finally spoke my

mind....needless to say she just attacked me back and went on her way.....it

saddens me because I thought friends worked thru thier feelings and came to some

kind of resolve.....instead I feel like I have to say what they want to hear and

I refuse to do that now.....

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~``

By the way, I'd tap on the thing hottest first~~~~~~~~~~~~~~this is what I

need to figure out .....as there are so many that I cant really figure out what

is the hottest....but I will work on it...first i have to learn the tapping

points.......

Excitement vs. subdued can be ironed out to where

you " can " regain excitement and yet be subdued when

you " want " to be rather than having to be. They're

both okay items and useful. Its just a matter of

getting the emotional " charge " off of it and

establishing a more useful and present time mode about

it.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~this is exactly what I am talking about .......even my emotions

bug me sometimes cuz they come so quickly and so charged........I literally have

to walk away and hide in the batheroom sometimes just to chill them out a bit

to where I can handle them myself....

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

I hope the above helps. If you have any questions,

etc. please continue to communicate whatever .

Trust me I will and again thanks for listening and responding.........it jsut

feels good to have someone accept that I am emotional and for to hear it is

ok......

in love nlight

Cheyenne

Love,

Lyn

BE willing to accept the good the Universe has in abundance

Growing old is mandatory.......growing up is OPTIONAL

" Judgement defines YOU more than what you judge "

Listening to others is not always in YOUR best interest

May the sun always shine on your face and the wind be at your back

Change your thoughts and you change your world

---------------------------------

[Guest guest]

When doing past life regressions it seems to me it might be beneficial to have a

back-up person with you to help bail you out of any unforeseen abreactions. In

one experience of my own I got into a very depressed state over the death of

family members in this past life but because my partner 'pulled me out' I was

none the worse for it. Ideally, I suppose, there was some psychological meat

that could have been worked on. Just a thought.

Ken

Re: [Tap 'n B Free] Mixing EFT with other modalities

Hi Grant

This is very interesting and is something I've wondered about myself--using

EFT with past life regression. I wonder if it would still work if one didn't

have access to a past life therapist or knew how to view past lives? For

example if one tapped on something like " Even though this problem may have

its roots in a past life... " ? What do you think?

Best,

Manoj

> Hey All...

>

> Just wanted to add a little something on this topic.

>

> I've been using EFT for about 6 months now and have had consistently

> outstanding results. Prior to adopting EFT I used hypnosis with reasonably

> good but with what I see now were limited results. (limited when compared

> with EFT)

>

> I also combine the two as in the following example. I had a fellow come to

> me recently because he was extremely impatient about almost everything. I

am

> told that taking a drive with this man in heavy traffic was quite an

> experience.

>

> I taught him EFT and had him tap on every aspect of this problem and had

> what I thought were limited results. Although improved, the core of his

> impatience remained and another appointment was booked.

>

> During the second appointment I placed him in deep trance and regressed

him

> to a lifetime that appeared to be the root cause of his problem. Then I

had

> him imagine tapping for this past self on the feelings brought on by this

> issue. That cleared it.

>

> He is no longer troubled by this hyper-impatience.

>

> There are no hard and fast rules about what to do in any particular

> circumstance. I'm sure that there are any number of different ways that

this

> particular problem could have been dealt with successfully. However, I am

> grateful that EFT was presented to me, and that I can combine it with

> hypnosis in ways that powerfully and quickly benefit my clients.

>

> Thank God for EFT.

>

> Grant Connolly

> EFT Practitioner

> Certified Hypnotherapist

> www.mindfulchanges.com

[Guest guest]

Manoj and Ken

Just wanted to clarify something...

It is not my intention that anyone rush off and try something like a past

life regression without proper training. Ignorance of possible pitfalls and

the means to avoid them or handle them is a necessity. In otherwords, " Don't

try this at home kids. "

When I was 18, (I'm now 49) I was involved with a group of like minded

teenagers who played with hypnosis and past life regression. Not knowing any

better, I hypnotized a girlfriend and by accident touched on something that

caused her to cry uncontrollably for more than 4 hours. She was eventually

OK, but that experience terrified me and taught me not to rush in blindly,

but to prepare myself thoroughly before I did anything like that again.

Words to the wise...

Grant Connolly

EFT Practitioner

Certified Hypnotherapist

Re: [Tap 'n B Free] Mixing EFT with other modalities

When doing past life regressions it seems to me it might be beneficial to

have a back-up person with you to help bail you out of any unforeseen

abreactions. In one experience of my own I got into a very depressed state

over the death of family members in this past life but because my partner

'pulled me out' I was none the worse for it. Ideally, I suppose, there was

some psychological meat that could have been worked on. Just a thought.

Ken

Re: [Tap 'n B Free] Mixing EFT with other modalities

Hi Grant

This is very interesting and is something I've wondered about

myself--using

EFT with past life regression. I wonder if it would still work if one

didn't

have access to a past life therapist or knew how to view past lives? For

example if one tapped on something like " Even though this problem may have

its roots in a past life... " ? What do you think?

Best,

Manoj

> Hey All...

>

> Just wanted to add a little something on this topic.

>

> I've been using EFT for about 6 months now and have had consistently

> outstanding results. Prior to adopting EFT I used hypnosis with

reasonably

> good but with what I see now were limited results. (limited when

compared

> with EFT)

>

> I also combine the two as in the following example. I had a fellow come

to

> me recently because he was extremely impatient about almost everything.

I

am

> told that taking a drive with this man in heavy traffic was quite an

> experience.

>

> I taught him EFT and had him tap on every aspect of this problem and had

> what I thought were limited results. Although improved, the core of his

> impatience remained and another appointment was booked.

>

> During the second appointment I placed him in deep trance and regressed

him

> to a lifetime that appeared to be the root cause of his problem. Then I

had

> him imagine tapping for this past self on the feelings brought on by

this

> issue. That cleared it.

>

> He is no longer troubled by this hyper-impatience.

>

> There are no hard and fast rules about what to do in any particular

> circumstance. I'm sure that there are any number of different ways that

this

> particular problem could have been dealt with successfully. However, I

am

> grateful that EFT was presented to me, and that I can combine it with

> hypnosis in ways that powerfully and quickly benefit my clients.

>

> Thank God for EFT.

>

> Grant Connolly

> EFT Practitioner

> Certified Hypnotherapist

> www.mindfulchanges.com

[Guest guest]

Manoj

Yes, I do some EFT every day. Sometimes its just 5 minutes first thing in

the morning or I tap on issues that come up during the day, or I tap along

with my clients for their issues.

It is my belief that EFT is a spiritual practice just the same as meditation

is a spiritual practice. I've watched hundreds of people now who I've guided

through EFT and without fail, each of them went into a spontaneous

meditative state just by doing 3 or more rounds of EFT.

Sometimes I watch them going deeper and deeper into themselves and I just

sit quietly waiting for them to show some sign that they are ready to move

on. Often I would like to give them more time to just enjoy the state, but I

balance that with the need to work on the issues they came for.

As I always tap along with my clients, I'm usually quite mellow by the end

of a session myself. If I'm doing hypnosis work, I usually go into light

trance along with my clients and from this perspective guide the session

quite easily. Talk about sleeping on the job!

For me the end result of this are enhanced feelings of wellbeing,

groundedness and spontaneous joy. Sometimes I almost feel guilty making a

living doing what I would do willingly for free. I say almost, because there

is an exchange of energy happening here that is necessary for both parties.

Take care

Grant Connolly

EFT Practitioner

Certified Hypnotherapist

Re: [Tap 'n B Free] Mixing EFT with other modalities

Grant,

>

> Just wanted to clarify something...

>

(snipped for brevity) No, of course you're absolutely right, I agree

totally. I've never been regressed and while I have some do-it-yourself

tapes, haven't listened to them yet. It's just that it's fun to speculate

:-)

Best wishes

Manoj

PS Someone--I think it was you? mentioned that he does, if I recall rightly,

" 5 minutes of EFT every day " . That sounds very interesting. EFT in a

preventive fashion?

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[Guest guest]

Hi Chey:

I'm just back from Las Vegas, NV. (I think I said

that in another post somewhere .

I can understand your anger with the woman. She

may have been correct in her evaluation about you,

however, her actions were incorrect and the idea of

speaking with her in a civil manner might be a good

thing in the long run.

The first thing is to get the " charged up " and

" pent up " feelings flowing again with the EFT and then

you can learn how to channel your thoughts so as to

convey them efficiently to others in order to either

get a job done or get what you want and at the same

time, hopefully, allow for others to have what they

want as well.

--- Cheyenne Rainfeather <rainfeather1@...>

wrote:

>

> HI Lyn

> I read this and will reread it over but you hit on

> something as tears started to well up

> inside.....then I felt them quickly squished down

> again.....and I moved

snipped.......

>

> If I were sitting in front of you, of course,

> I'd

> take whatever you gave me when I asked you what the

> problem was and then would ask you what the contrast

> to that was.

>

> OK this part......Im not sure what you mean by " the

> problem " and then the contrast.....do you mean like

> I hate not being able to show what I

> feel........?????and then the contrast of what would

> happen if I showed what I feel.??? just want to

> clarify this....

The problem is whatever it is you are upset about or

wish to change for the better. The contrast is

something you can compare to the problem. For

instance, you have the problem that the next door

neighbor's cat keeps digging in your garden and try as

you may, you cannot keep the cat out and your neighbor

isn't doing anything about it. Now, you love cats and

you wouldn't want to hurt the innocent pet, however,

its getting pretty annoying.

So, you would tap on the emotions built up around this

cat digging your garden, being anger, frustration,

maybe some resentment and hostility towards the owner.

What would be the contrast to those emotions? I could

have said opposite, but I have decided that contrast

was better as it allows for more flexibility.

So, you decide what would be the contrast to your

problem and then I would use both sides as the

beginning " focus " (affirmation). This allows you to

bring yourself up emotionally, thereby, being able to

make a much better decision or choice as to how to

handle that situation.

We make some pretty dumb choices at times because we

make those choices at a time when we are at a lower

emotional level. The higher emotional levels usually

have a more sane decision attached to them, although,

not all the time.

>

> By the way, I'd tap on the thing hottest

> first~~~~~~~~~~~~~~this is what I need to figure out

> .....as there are so many that I cant really figure

> out what is the hottest....but I will work on

> it...first i have to learn the tapping points.......

Sometimes the " hottest " is the first thing that comes

to our mind .

>

> ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

>

> I hope the above helps. If you have any

> questions,

> etc. please continue to communicate whatever .

>

> Trust me I will and again thanks for listening and

> responding.........it jsut feels good to have

> someone accept that I am emotional and for to hear

> it is ok......

My pleasure and sorry for the delay on this.

Love,

Lyn

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