RE: [One_EFT Healing Highrise] question on EFT

[Guest guest]

Hi E

It's very likely that EFT will be a BIG help.

I'm rather new at it and EFT has done wonders for me already

You can start by reading this forum and going to http://www.emofree.com/

Read there and look around, download the EFT manual, it's FREE, and begin

reading it. You will learn how to use EFT for yourself and the people here are

very willing to help you when you get stuck or just want to know something.

My BEST to you

Roy

" Endora M. " <endora_2000@...> wrote:

Hello,

I am new to the group and I am willing to learn more about EFT and how to use

it.

I have been having an emotional problem for years and still couldn't find a way

to solve it. I was hoping that EFT will help me remove the problem.

In a few words: my problem is a love one...i was in touch with a guy who was

pretty mean to me..we have a child together...we separated..he seems happy to

be away from the child, enjoying his life....he refused to be a part of the

child's life telling me that he would never let me enjoy his money.....you get

the idea how my heart felt and is feeling about it..i just cannot stand anymore

to see him happy and relaxed because he is free of the child and me. How can I

use EFT? Will EFT help me to stop thinking of how mean this guy was/is? I am

hurt and it is time for me to stop this feeling. I deserve happiness too, not

just him.

Please give me some advices on how EFT could be used on such a problem.

Thank you.

E.

[Guest guest]

Hi Roy,

thank you for your e-mail and suggestions. I have already downloaded

the EFT manual and started reading it.

May I ask you for what kind of problem you used EFT? Talking to people

who had success with this method, could help me with my hopes..I am

tired of all the negative feelings of my past..I cannot even focuse on

another relationship, because my heart is so hurt...and i think i

deserve to try being with someone again..but first i need to heal myself..

Thank you,

Endora

[Guest guest]

Try tapping, " even though I resent the way___ treats me and the children, I

totally love and accept myself. "

Even though he is mad at me and tells me I will never get to enjoy his

money, I totally love and accept myself

Even though he is relaxed, I think, because he is free from me and our

child, I totally love and accept myself

Even though he is mean and heartless, I am ok and I totally love and accept

myself.

First rate the truth of the first part of these statements from 1-10 with 10

being completely true as far as you see it. Then tap until the number gets

to one or zero. This may take ten minutes or ten days. Don't stop tapping

until the numbers get to zero. Don't stop at three or four, go to zero.

Remember that he is a jerk, you don't need him, you don't want him, and you

and the child will be better off without him. Keep telling yourself that you

are ok now and you will continue to be ok.

CAROL HENDERSON

[Guest guest]

Hi Endora :-)

Good to hear you have already started the manual. Remember ... don't skip

around. Go from the front to the back. It's written to be followed just as it's

written.

You have had this HURT for a while so don't skip ahead to get started fast.

Learn to do it RIGHT so it will work for you.

What I did so far.

The first thing I did was eliminate my wife's snake phobia.

Then I went to things (people) that just stay up front in my mind bothering me

and I EFT forgiving THEM and then I did forgiving ME. That action put them away.

I have to think of them on purpose to bring them to my mind now. They are NOT

just always there bothering me. One person I forgave went so well that I could

not remember his name even when I tried. Finally my wife said his mane and then

I remembered it. Sometimes I have to do some of the people again as other things

come to mind about them or what they did (NEW ASPECTS). I EFT the new aspects

and they are gone. I expect this to continue till I have all of them put away or

the rest of them just collapses and disappears in my mind.

I also accidentally smashed my finger tip with a hammer OUCH. After some not

so fine words I remembered EFT. I did three rounds of EFT and the pain was GONE.

The finger should have been throbbing for a day or two and keeping me awake at

night but it just did not hurt anymore and it did not even bruise (no black

nail). It was over .... just like it did not happen.

I am now studying 's Cd's to get a better understanding of how it use EFT.

The Cd's are GREAT.

Now ... what I would do. This is also what I did.

I'm no expert and I offer this as if I were going to do it for myself.

Take each person that is bothering you and do a round of EFT forgiving them

(even if you don't want to) and do a round forgiving yourself and see what

happens. You don't need to re-live what happened just do a general forgive

statement like this. Even though (name) left me ( or whatever happened) I

forgive him.I deeply and completely accept myself. Do it the way the manual says

( repeating the statement three time while rubbing your sore spot).

First measure your bad feelings on a scale of 1 to 10. 10 being the worst,

really bad feelings and hurt. Lets say you feel like an 8, remember that. Do a

round of EFT and re-measure your feelings . Did they get lower? YES ... or...

NO. Do another round to get them lower and see what you think about while doing

it. EFT the things you think about because they are NEW ASPECTS and need to need

dealt with. Keep doing this until you have an intensity level of " 0 " . Now the

problem is gone and may be gone forever.

It's all in the manual and it WORKS.

keep doing what the manual says and your mind will clear and you will have

FREEDOM. :-)

Have FUN doing it and it will work just fine :-)

Enjoy your NEW FREEDOM

Roy

endora_2000 <endora_2000@...> wrote:

Hi Roy,

thank you for your e-mail and suggestions. I have already downloaded

the EFT manual and started reading it.

May I ask you for what kind of problem you used EFT? Talking to people

who had success with this method, could help me with my hopes..I am

tired of all the negative feelings of my past..I cannot even focuse on

another relationship, because my heart is so hurt...and i think i

deserve to try being with someone again..but first i need to heal myself..

Thank you,

Endora

[Guest guest]

Just for the sake of clarity here, Carol does not mean to tap 24/7,

while doing NOTHING else, until you get to zero. She means to keep

going back to it and tap whenever you can....for as long as that takes

to get you to zero.

And if it changes....follow the changes and tap on them, too. Then go

back yet again to the original thing you are working to get to zero. It

helps to keep notes in the beginning.

Regards,

Merriman

Explore the Resonance System

of Holographic Repatterning

Carol wrote:

>This may take ten minutes or ten days. Don't stop tapping

>until the numbers get to zero. Don't stop at three or four, go to zero.

[Guest guest]

True, I didn't mean to tap until your fingers are raw, but just keep at it

whenever you have the time.

CAROL HENDERSON

_____

on EFT

Just for the sake of clarity here, Carol does not mean to tap 24/7,

while doing NOTHING else, until you get to zero. She means to keep

going back to it and tap whenever you can....for as long as that takes

to get you to zero.

And if it changes....follow the changes and tap on them, too. Then go

back yet again to the original thing you are working to get to zero. It

helps to keep notes in the beginning.

[Guest guest]

Dear Roy,

How do you do the " forgive me " part? Here's what I tried, 1 round of each:

1) Even though Lashana lied to me, I forgive her. I deeply and completely accept

myself.

2) Even though Lashana lied to me, I forgive myself. I deeply and completely

accept myself.

Thank you for this new aspect that I haven't tried yet.

Regards,

Dawn

[Guest guest]

>

> Dear Roy,

> How do you do the " forgive me " part? Here's what I tried, 1 round of

each:

>

> 1) Even though Lashana lied to me, I forgive her. I deeply and

completely accept myself.

> 2) Even though Lashana lied to me, I forgive myself. I deeply and

completely accept myself.

>

> Thank you for this new aspect that I haven't tried yet.

>

> Regards,

> Dawn

>

Hi Dawn,

How about this:

-----

" Even though Lashana lied to me, I deeply and completely forgive her

for anything she may have done to contribute to my problem. "

" I forgive Lashana. "

-----

The question is: What are the emotions evoked (e.g. hurt, betrayal,

etc.) when you think about Lashana's lies? Those are the ones you need

to be addressing. I think that the 'Lashana's lies' part is too

global. Work on the underlying emotions and I think you'll see real

progress.

Anyway, I hope that helps...

-Jef

[Guest guest]

Hi Dawn

I'm new to this also but here goes my best shot.

You have it right and it slipped past you as I see it.

You said " How do you do the " forgive me " part? "

Maybe that's where you should start, the FORGIVE ME PART. Forgive YOURSELF

first. Then you can forgive Lashana.

" I forgive myself for everything that Lashana did to me. I deeply and

completely accept myself. "

Do this until you feel a little better. It could happen on the first round. I

see by what you write that you are quite angry or hurt or both by what happened.

So find your intensity level and TAP, TAP , TAP. Re-check your intensity level

and KEEP YOUR MIND ON ONE THING LASHANA DID AT A TIME. If you find your mind

wandering to another thing that Lashana did you have probably closed the thing

that you started with and are on another aspect without realizing it.

Dawn ... it may take a lot of rounds to get started. Don't give up ... keep

doing the rounds several times a day ... like 15 if you can fit it in to your

life.

Always find your intensity level FIRST (1 through10) and see what else comes

up as you tap. I feel you are seeing OTHER THINGS come up and relate it to EFT

not working for you or you not doing it right. NOT SO ... EFT WORKS. It's

working for YOU and because you are new and working alone you don't see it.

I don't know so I need to ask.

Are you or have you read the manual (part 1)? Are you doing complete rounds?

Do you repeat the setup phrase three times as you tap your SORE SPOT?

I know you are new to this because you haven't got it working yet.

These are only my thoughts. Maybe someone with more experience will step in

and give a hand.

Dawn ... you are doing just fine. if you weren't you would not be asking

questions.

Keep up the GREAT work. The only way it will not work is if YOU DON " T TAP.

My BEST to you

Roy

D K <dck0329@...> wrote:

Dear Roy,

How do you do the " forgive me " part? Here's what I tried, 1 round of each:

1) Even though Lashana lied to me, I forgive her. I deeply and completely accept

myself.

2) Even though Lashana lied to me, I forgive myself. I deeply and completely

accept myself.

Thank you for this new aspect that I haven't tried yet.

Regards,

Dawn

[Guest guest]

Dear Roy,

Thank you for the great advise. I have been working with EFT successfully since

December. I just realized reading your email that there are at least 2

relationships and ALSO other areas of my life that I have not yet tried EFT on.

I guess I was blocking them off until I cleared other things first. Even though

I know the shortcuts, I tend to do the full Basic Recipe on each aspect.

I've read the manual, Part I and Part II and watched the first 3 videos. I'm so

grateful to everyone here for asking questions and creating answers.

I have been taking a part of my lunch-time and walking around a park. While I am

walking memories come back and I start tapping (1 round per memory aspect). Does

anyone else tap while walking?

Warm Regards,

Dawn (TAP, TAP, TAP,...)

[Guest guest]

Hi Dawn

I'm happy your memory got jogged. :-)

As my mentor tells me " Make a List " , and I do. I find the list a very

important part of EFT. I not only don't for forget what progress I have made I

also have a place to look and see IF any new aspects turn up when I SEE the item

I tapped on and thought it was closed or cleared up. It gives me another chance

to CLOSE the item out.

Just because you asked.... I tap while I'm driving.

Take Good Care

Roy

D K <dck0329@...> wrote:

Dear Roy,

Thank you for the great advise. I have been working with EFT successfully since

December. I just realized reading your email that there are at least 2

relationships and ALSO other areas of my life that I have not yet tried EFT on.

I guess I was blocking them off until I cleared other things first. Even though

I know the shortcuts, I tend to do the full Basic Recipe on each aspect.

I've read the manual, Part I and Part II and watched the first 3 videos. I'm so

grateful to everyone here for asking questions and creating answers.

I have been taking a part of my lunch-time and walking around a park. While I am

walking memories come back and I start tapping (1 round per memory aspect). Does

anyone else tap while walking?

Warm Regards,

Dawn (TAP, TAP, TAP,...)

[Guest guest]

Thank you, Carol.

Your statement examples are very useful...I'll make a list of all the negative

feelings I have toward this guy, and tap on each emotional issue. Is it o.k. to

tap on one problem, and when I am done, even if I didn't get a zero level, to

move to another issue? Or should I focuse only on one problem, and when I feel

that it is completly gone, I could move to the next one?

-Endora

[Guest guest]

Hello Roy,

thank you for all your suggestions. Very helpful!

Your idea of " forgiving " got my attention. It is true that I cannot really

forgive who hurt me, when I saw him/her laughing, happy and never thinking of my

feelings ....I think I should start tapping on " forgiving " those who hurt

me....especially this guy...

Very good suggestion..Thank you!

-Endora

[Guest guest]

Thank you, .

I am wondering if there is a short version of the basic recipe. While working

and people are around, I cannot start tapping on the top of my head, for

example..or singing " Happy Birthday " ..I would like a method that will not give

an idea to people around me on what I am doing.

_Endora

[Guest guest]

Hi Dawn,

I downloaded the manual and trying to finish reading it. Meanwhile I am applying

what I found in a short EFT manual, that I am also attaching with this e-mail,

in case anyone would be interested to see it.

What is the short version of the basic recipe you're using while walking?

-Endora

[Guest guest]

Roy,

I am really curious how you tap while driving...what are the steps you follow

for EFT when you drive, walk and you cannot do the full basic recipe etc?

-Endora

[Guest guest]

Dawn,

I tap while walking, and as if that is not enough, sometimes I cry while I

am walking and tapping. I keep my cards with me so that if anyone ever asks

what I am doing, I can give them my business card and explain what I am

doing, but no one ever has.

CAROL HENDERSON

[Guest guest]

Endora,

It is all right to skip from one thought to another, I do this frequently,

but it is important to keep track on where the numbers are on each

statement, so that when you go back to it you know how far you have to go to

zero. Sometimes tapping on one thought brings the number down on another

similar thought.

CAROL HENDERSON

[Guest guest]

Edora

I falls along the same lines a not being able to LOVE others UNTIL you Love

yourself.

If you forgive yourself for what happened you will be much more OPEN to

forgiving others. If someone slaps you in the face and then say he is sorry will

you be able to stop your feelings about that slap right then? I would not. I

would carry that slap with me. If I forgave that guy for the slap I would be

able to forgive him and forget (put it in the back of my mind) about it and go

on with my life.

:-)

Roy

" Endora M. " <endora_2000@...> wrote:

Roy,

why do you think that first you need to forgive yourself and then others?

-Endora

[Guest guest]

Edora

I have been reading your replies to other emails. I am beginning to be

concerned that you are looking for a quick way out and not learn the whole

system. If you don't learn it all you will be cheating YOURSELF.

Now that that is said here is what I do.

I do the setup and then tap from eye to under arm.

You could also think about tapping and rubbing the spots. If it works for you

.... GOOD ... if not go back to physical tapping and rubbing. Craig talks

and demonstrates that in one of the DVD I have seen.

Have FUN doing it and I'll bet things will work better.

Roy

PS. Edora .... be sure to keep you mind on the problem while you tap. Think

of nothing else. Don't let your mind wander. Stay right on ONE problem ONLY. Be

specific with the problem, don't be general with it.

By that I mean .. Don't think of " Tom abused me " Think of " Tom hit me in

front of my mother " , " then Tom used bad words at me when we were in the

restaurant " . If you do it like that soon you will not be able to think of what

else TOM did as everything will probably collapse.

I went way farther than your question. Sorry.

" Endora M. " <endora_2000@...> wrote:

Roy,

I am really curious how you tap while driving...what are the steps you follow

for EFT when you drive, walk and you cannot do the full basic recipe etc?

-Endora

[Guest guest]

Hi Carol

I need to stick my head in here for my own benefit.

I'm rather new at this.

You say " It is all right to skip from one thought to another, I do this

frequently ... "

Do you do your skipping WHILE you are tapping on a particular item or do you

HOLD your thought to the one item till you finish that round of tapping?

If you answer YES then ...Would you say it's OK for a new person to do this

skipping around or should they stick with the one item per round till they learn

how to skip?

Thanks for your help

Roy

Carol <Carol@...> wrote:

Endora,

It is all right to skip from one thought to another, I do this frequently,

but it is important to keep track on where the numbers are on each

statement, so that when you go back to it you know how far you have to go to

zero. Sometimes tapping on one thought brings the number down on another

similar thought.

CAROL HENDERSON

[Guest guest]

There aren't a whole lot of rules on this. I actually meant to finish the

round you are in and then if a new strong thought comes up (this is just

like when Uncle Jack tickled me at the lake) you can start tapping on that

and get those numbers down and return to the original thought or memory or

feeling.

Don't make this harder than it is, Roy. You are trying to get to the bottom

of why you are having these uncomfortable feelings. Anything that points you

in that direction is important to explore.

When my mother was dying, I was driving two hours back and forth to be with

her. The entire four hours I spent tapping. (Karate chop on the steering

wheel) I tapped on all my guilt for not being there more, my fear of living

in the world without my mother, my anger at the way she mothered me, my

sadness at her leaving, her fear of dying (in my mind) and the bother and

the horror of it all. Of course, as I was tapping, all kind of thoughts and

memories would come to me from my whole life. I went from one to the other.

I was crying much of the time. I couldn't keep track of all of the SUDS

numbers while I was driving, so I just relied on my feelings and mental

pictures. If I was still seeing a particular picture which was disturbing, I

would keep tapping until it left.

When she died, I was fine with it. I enjoyed the funeral (really) and all

the people who had things to tell me about how she touched their lives.

CAROL HENDERSON

Do you do your skipping WHILE you are tapping on a particular item or do

you HOLD your thought to the one item till you finish that round of tapping?

If you answer YES then ...Would you say it's OK for a new person to do

this skipping around or should they stick with the one item per round till

they learn how to skip?

Thanks for your help

Roy

[Guest guest]

Dear Endora,

I use the full Basic Recipe while I am walking. I prefer to cover all the bases.

And I don't mind if they think I'm nuts.

Also, when I am at work I go to the bathroom to do the Basic Recipe. Granted our

office space has 4 offices and 1 bathroom (next to my office) so I don't have

far to go.

-Dawn

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" Endora M. " <endora_2000@...> wrote: Hi Dawn,

I downloaded the manual and trying to finish reading it. Meanwhile I am

applying what I found in a short EFT manual, that I am also attaching with this

e-mail, in case anyone would be interested to see it.

What is the short version of the basic recipe you're using while walking?

-Endora

[Guest guest]

Roy,

after downloading the EFT manual, I searched more on the net and found a small

version of the manual, which yesterday I sent by e-mail. In this small manual

the basic recipe is nicely explained, but there weren't any of the shortcuts

everyone was talking about here on the group. I did the basic recipe, following

all the steps as presented also in the full manual. and actually I worked on the

forgiving part..that idea truly got me! probably because I was feeling inside

that this was the main issue to work on first. I significantly felt better, I

had finally a day

without too much bad thinking..but I am still not completely over those

issues...

I am still reading the full version of the manual, and I didn't come to the part

with shortcuts..those will be good while driving, walking...

About those CDs or DVDs: where these CDs/DVDs can be found? only on Graig's

website? I looked there and I saw their prices..and first I wanted to check if

there is another place to find these without paying that much, before buying

them.

Thank you, Roy, for all your suggestions.

-Endora

[Guest guest]

Hi Dawn,

I think it is a little bit difficult to follow the whole basic recipe while

walking...but good for you that you can do it!

Until I am completly familiar with EFT, I'll continue with the whole recipe..but

later I'd like to use some shortcuts.

Thank you,

Endora

D K <dck0329@...> wrote: Dear Endora,

I use the full Basic Recipe while I am walking. I prefer to cover all the

bases. And I don't mind if they think I'm nuts.

Also, when I am at work I go to the bathroom to do the Basic Recipe. Granted

our office space has 4 offices and 1 bathroom (next to my office) so I don't

have far to go.

-Dawn