Guest guest Posted June 29, 2004 Report Share Posted June 29, 2004 , I can imagine how disappointed you are about missing so many of Chauncey's firsts, but let me say, you will also be there for a good number of firsts.. it's an ongoing process so there will be a lot of firsts for many months to come. Kind of like a mom who has to return to work and leave her youngster in day care.. she misses some things, but she also gets to see many of them too. Just try not to let it get you down and be happy for what Chauncey is going to gain from all of this, You'll get your rewards down the road and although I know it's going to be disappoiting, I'm just guessing that after the initial adjustment period there will be many more firsts that he will actually understand and you will be there to witness them. Hugs and hang in there. Silly MI In , " " <cherrys_shorty@y...> wrote: > hi all, it's me again. > this whole waiting thing is starting to get to me. > well really maybe the excitement. > i hate that i have to work thursday. > i'm gonna miss so many firsts. > we went and bought a camcorder for wednesdays appointment, > so i asked Cherry if he would tape different things during the day > for me. he was so sweet to tell me he understand it's very dificult > for me to not be there with him, and he will do for me. and maybe he > will come to have lunch with me on my job thursday as he's taking the > day off to relax and play with his equipment, and just get use to it > alone. > i will miss that > and he has to work all weekend including the holiday so u can imagin > my dismay > anyhow, i cant wait to just be home with him. > i cant wait to see it happen for him. > however it happens. > m Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2004 Report Share Posted June 29, 2004 thanks Alice, i will forward this to him so he can understand more what will probably happen. and he's watching his CI video again so he can be ready for tomorrow. i'm sorry you misunderstood me, i am getting a half day off tomorrow to go to the activation, i was more upset about missing his first day at home, on thursday playing with things and hearing them for the first time.(he's taking the day off and i'm stuck working) and i was really disapointed about his having to work all weekend sat, sun and mon. i think i will go out of my mind! his mom is going to the appointment tomorrow, we will share the time in the small room with him, and she will tape when she's in with him and i will do the same. but i know that after the appointment and we get home, he will probably be so exhausted, and go rite to sleep! i guess i was just being selfish and greedy, but i couldn't help it. (pms and all) he did say that he goes every year to see the fire works at the Art Museum, he parks his car far and then walks to see the show and feel the music, and i feel much better knowing that we can share that and i will have camcorder in hand! just spent another $100 on a five hour battery! i can't believe it's actually finally here. what an emotional journey, and really it's just begining. i cant even imagin what it will be like for him. i'm so excited but also so fearful. i'm sure that it will all be so overwhelming for him but if i know Cherry, he will not give up easily! he's so happy to have this chance and i know tht whatever this brings him he will make the very best of it. well, until tomorrow, if i'm not knocked out rite along with him! take care, m > > , > > I can certainly understand your disappointment about this as you have been there all the way thus far and will seemingly miss the reward moment. Let me assure you that these initial mappings are long and tedious. It's only after a couple of hours of setting the comfort zones that you really begin to see what's going to happen. Even then, probably the biggest thrill is the expression on the face of the person who is activated. This can be observed well with the camera. It actually may be a good thing for Cherry to be alone so that he can concentrate on only the mapping. Distractions are not helpful in this case. > > When you get home, he should be somewhat comfortable with his equipment and then you can start the " firsts. " Go for a walk and let him hear the footsteps under his feet. Let him listen to the cars coming down the road. Let him try to hear all the environmental sounds around him. Look at him when you talk to him but speak slowly and clearly - nothing complex. He's like a baby with this new sense and will need to take baby steps. His brain has filled in the area that we are born with for sound with other things and it will take time for his brain to open a spot for hearing. He may tell you he doesn't hear things but instead he feels them in his head. He'll be very tired in a relatively short period of time. If you want to be the first words he hears, have him take a tape recorder with him with a tape you have made saying Hi Cherry - Can you hear me? Maybe even I love you. The audiologist can play this and can tape his reaction. > > There is a lot of time ahead of you and there will be firsts every day. I know you wanted to be there and I wish you could but it will be ok. > > I'm sorry about the weekend too. Will you still be able to see the fireworks? > > Alice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2004 Report Share Posted June 29, 2004 and that's excatly how i thought about it yesterday! i thought how do women do it! it is breaking my heart to have to miss any little first! but i am starting to calm down and realize that we have so much ahead of us, and maybe better if he get a break from my hovering anyhow! we are both so ready and tomorrow will be a day filled with wonder from the time we open our eyes together in the morning to the time we finally give it a rest and take our butts to bed! have a great night, and take care, m > > hi all, it's me again. > > this whole waiting thing is starting to get to me. > > well really maybe the excitement. > > i hate that i have to work thursday. > > i'm gonna miss so many firsts. > > we went and bought a camcorder for wednesdays appointment, > > so i asked Cherry if he would tape different things during the day > > for me. he was so sweet to tell me he understand it's very > dificult > > for me to not be there with him, and he will do for me. and maybe > he > > will come to have lunch with me on my job thursday as he's taking > the > > day off to relax and play with his equipment, and just get use to > it > > alone. > > i will miss that > > and he has to work all weekend including the holiday so u can > imagin > > my dismay > > anyhow, i cant wait to just be home with him. > > i cant wait to see it happen for him. > > however it happens. > > m Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2004 Report Share Posted June 29, 2004 well, we got a digital one that takes pictures too! so no worries about that! and i even took some video of him reading the posts!!! look out, here he comes! > > Whoops.. I'm sorry I misunderstood. I'm glad you can be there. I think his time alone with the new toy will be good for him. He can do a little self testing. Tell him that the computer keys sound like a clicking noise when he sends us his message about the mapping. <grin> > > I'm glad you are bringing the camcorder for yourself but how about the regular or digital camera for us so we can put some pictures on the CI Hear site? > > Good Luck, Cherry !!!! > > Alice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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