Re: The tone of Post-Op response TJ

[Guest guest]

Morning TJ,

Just had to read the posts before we roll out the door for trip to

Florida. I had to tell you I loved your post on this subject!! You

have a gift of saying the right things. I laughted and though that

was the first time I had read what you wrote about the newbie being

the baby of the family, that was WELL PUT. I think some of the older

post-ops who give advice are so wonderful hanging around helping but

they sometimes do come across as being harsh, frustrated however you

want to put it. Most of them all have a heart of gold and even

thought they are just being helpful and we all have to remember your

BZILLION and one rule!! There will always be a new newbie!!

Talk to you soon.

ne

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> deserves

>

> I've raised three sets of children, two each generation beginning

> with being the surrogate for my working mother from age 11. I

walked

> my sisters everywhere they had to go until I became a chauffer at

16.

>

> While raising the grands, I was grousing to my mother about how

sick

> I was of hauling kids around. One of them needed to be at a school

> for kindergarten open house.

>

> I told my mom " I've been doing this since I was eleven! " And she

said

> to me " She is five years old and she's been doing it since

> September. " She was kid #6 for me, but she wasn't part of the

process

> with the first five like I'd been.

>

> It's all in our perspective, kindergarten or MGB. What is new and

> overwhelming to one is old news and obvious manual dogma to the

more

> experienced. The challenge for me as a post-op is to remember that

> every newbie is New. I may have answered the same question a

bzillion

> times, but the newbie wasn't here to see it until number bzillion

and

> one.

>

> Sometimes I just pass to other post-ops when I feel overwhelmed by

> the sameness of a question, or think I might not respond with

proper

> perspective. I type a lot of responses I never post. That's why we

> need all the post-ops we can get here, to share the load and be

sure

> every newbie gets the fair attention the " baby of the family "

> deserves.

>

> MHO as always! Tj

>