{Fraud?} Re: LIFE!!!

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Tammy,

My Dad did exactually what your Mom did. He split 7/7/70 and was

never heard from again - well not until he ended un in a VA hospital

in Flordia 20 some odd years later dying of self inflicted cancer

(smoking) and cirosis(sp) of the liver (drinking). I got over it and

so will you. She didn'd do it to hurt you - she did it becasue

she's selfish.

Hugs, Liz

- In , tammy irish

<tammyntod@...> wrote:

>

> Hi KIm,

>

> Thank You for the positive comments. You no what? I also started

to go to therapy. I go on Tuesdays and it was originally to work on

my marriage so we both go but as of this past Tuesday I have asked

that I can go by myself to work on me. I was talking to my therapist

on Tuesday about the surgery and she agreed with you. There is a

reason why we are where we are with our weight and eating disorders

is one of her specialties. She was saying I have got to get to the

root of my problems to be really successful with my band and new

life. I know that I have never delt with the fact that my Mom

decided to basically disown her children when she divorced my Dad 30

years ago. And I will tell you I have acted out in many ways in my

younger days. Now I use food to deal with all the pain I feel. Okay,

I am Sorry. I am starting to blab!!!! I get that way sometimes if

you all havent noticed!!

>

> You are doing great with your weight loss!!

>

> Tammy Irish

>

> Kim <bigdiva@...> wrote:

> Tammy: Be positive. Food is a coping mechanism for all of

us. I found working with a counselor has helped me even AFTER the

surgery. I was a basket case the first month after surgery because

I didn't realize HOW MUCH I used food to cope. I thought I'd gotten

rid of all that before the surgery.

> You are normal. You will be ok. The board is a good place to

seek refuge, but sometimes a good counselor is well worth it.

>

> Kim ( the diva)

> 305/282/150 banded 2/8/06, first fill 1.5 cc 3/27/06

>

> On Thu Mar 30 11:49 , 'Tammy' <tammyntod@...> sent:

>

>

> Hi Everyone,

>

> I need to talk to you. Only you all here understand the pain I

feel

> right now. I have gained another 7 pounds since I was approved for

> surgery. I have alot of stress going on in my life right now and I

eat

> to try and make me feel better but we all know that doesnt work.

So

> now I feel like S-IT!! I bring this misery on myself and I dont no

why.

>

> My Husband keeps asking me whats wrong. Nothing!!! He asked me

last

> night if I was sure that I wanted to go ahead with this surgery. I

> looked at him and asked him why he was asking me that? I am so

excited

> about having this surgery and everytime I talk about Dr. A and all

of

> you I know he can see that. I told him for the 1st time in my life

I

> have never been so sure about anything. His response is that he

doesnt

> want me to be disapointed like all the other things that I have

done

> and lost weight only to have it come back. I tryed to explain to

him

> that this is no " quick fix " . It is a tool to help me lose the

weight

> but it is a life long tool that I have to take care of and nurture

so

> I can get healthy and feel good about myself.

>

> I dont want to go out in public right now. I just feel gross!!

These

> are not hormones raging either. Aunt Flo has come and gone!!

(Thats

> what I refer to my time of the month).

>

> Okay, Sorry for dumping my baggage on all of you but I knew you

would

> listen and understand. Everyone here on the boards is so wonderful

and

> I enjoy reading your posts.

>

> I need to get productive now and clean my house! UUGGHH

>

> Tammy Irish

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

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Hi , That is awesome that you are going to save up the money so your stepdaughter can have the surgery. Have you told her that? That should piss the Ex Wife off. Then she will have no leverage to say hateful things. I have to deal with an Ex also and this woman is one of the meanest, most hateful person I have ever met. How old is your youngest stepdaughter? Mine is 14 and I only have one. I have two of my own children. An 18 year old son and a 10 year old daughter. You are so right about food. It doesnt judge us and it is such a comfort when we need it. I wish I knew how to dance! I have two left feet and no rythem!!!! Tammy Irish Spence <V.Spence@...> wrote: Tammy, One thing I forgot to mention in my earlier email…My youngest step daughter is extremely overweight and all that does is give her mom a reason to critize her and me. Once I get my surgery behind me I intend to start saving for HERS….mmm food is a comfort that asks no questions.doesnt complain…etc…so it is a great comfort. I plan to dance. I plan to learn anyways hopefully I can dance away my blues. -----Original Message-----From: tammy irish [mailto:tammyntod@...] Sent: Friday, March 31, 2006 1:49 PM Subject: Re: {Fraud?} Re: LIFE!!! Hi KIm, Thank You for the positive comments. You no

what? I also started to go to therapy. I go on Tuesdays and it was originally to work on my marriage so we both go but as of this past Tuesday I have asked that I can go by myself to work on me. I was talking to my therapist on Tuesday about the surgery and she agreed with you. There is a reason why we are where we are with our weight and eating disorders is one of her specialties. She was saying I have got to get to the root of my problems to be really successful with my band and new life. I know that I have never delt with the fact that my Mom decided to basically disown her children when she divorced my Dad 30 years ago. And I will tell you I have acted out in many ways in my younger days. Now I use food to deal with all the pain I feel. Okay, I am Sorry. I am starting to blab!!!! I get that way sometimes if you all havent noticed!! You are doing great with your weight loss!! Tammy IrishKim <bigdiva@...> wrote: Tammy: Be positive. Food is a coping mechanism for all of us. I found working with a counselor has helped me even AFTER the surgery. I was a basket case the first month after surgery because I didn't realize HOW MUCH I used food to cope. I thought I'd gotten rid of all that before the surgery. You are normal. You will be ok. The board is a good place to seek refuge, but sometimes a good counselor is well worth it.Kim ( the diva) 305/282/150 banded 2/8/06, first fill 1.5 cc 3/27/06On Thu Mar 30 11:49 , 'Tammy' <tammyntod@...> sent: Hi Everyone,I need to talk to you. Only you all here understand the pain I feel right now. I have gained another 7 pounds since I was approved for surgery. I have alot of stress going on in my life right now and I eat to try and make me feel better but we all know

that doesnt work. So now I feel like S-IT!! I bring this misery on myself and I dont no why.My Husband keeps asking me whats wrong. Nothing!!! He asked me last night if I was sure that I wanted to go ahead with this surgery. I looked at him and asked him why he was asking me that? I am so excited about having this surgery and everytime I talk about Dr. A and all of you I know he can see that. I told him for the 1st time in my life I have never been so sure about anything. His response is that he doesnt want me to be disapointed like all the other things that I have done and lost weight only to have it come back. I tryed to explain to him that this is no "quick fix". It is a tool to help me lose the weight but it is a life long tool that I have to take care of and nurture so I can get healthy and feel good about myself. I dont want to go out in public right now. I just feel gross!! These are not hormones raging

either. Aunt Flo has come and gone!! (Thats what I refer to my time of the month).Okay, Sorry for dumping my baggage on all of you but I knew you would listen and understand. Everyone here on the boards is so wonderful and I enjoy reading your posts.I need to get productive now and clean my house! UUGGHHTammy Irish

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Tammy Irish,

My stepdaughter turned 14 in Jan. No I haven’t

told her about the surgery yet because she will “pester” me and I

feel she isn’t mentally mature enough yet to handle it.

She cant/wont take no for an answer. She

is really immature and I feel it is because of the way her “mom”

has acted/treated her all her life. She is very insecure. You would think she

is 9 instead of 14. I will tell her “after” mine. Not sure if I

will tell her I am saving for her then she wont even try to watch her weight….The

other stepdaughter is 17 and extremely thin…………..oh

well……..that’s life. I know my sister was always thin and me

bigger. Anyways I hope to be able to help her when it comes her time.

Re: {Fraud?} Re:

LIFE!!!

Hi KIm,

Thank You for the positive

comments. You no what? I also started to go to therapy. I go on Tuesdays and it

was originally to work on my marriage so we both go but as of this past Tuesday

I have asked that I can go by myself to work on me. I was talking to my

therapist on Tuesday about the surgery and she agreed with you. There is a

reason why we are where we are with our weight and eating disorders is one of

her specialties. She was saying I have got to get to the root of my problems to

be really successful with my band and new life. I know that I have never delt

with the fact that my Mom decided to basically disown her children when she

divorced my Dad 30 years ago. And I will tell you I have acted out in many ways

in my younger days. Now I use food to deal with all the pain I feel. Okay, I am

Sorry. I am starting to blab!!!! I get that way sometimes if you all havent

noticed!!

You are doing great with

your weight loss!!

Tammy Irish

Kim

<bigdiva@...> wrote:

Tammy: Be

positive. Food is a coping mechanism for all of us. I found working

with a counselor has helped me even AFTER the surgery. I was a basket

case the first month after surgery because I didn't realize HOW MUCH I used

food to cope. I thought I'd gotten rid of all that before the

surgery.

You are normal. You

will be ok. The board is a good place to seek refuge, but sometimes a

good counselor is well worth it.

Kim ( the diva)

305/282/150 banded 2/8/06,

first fill 1.5 cc 3/27/06

On Thu Mar 30 11:49 , 'Tammy'

<tammyntod@...> sent:

Hi Everyone,

I need to talk to you. Only you all here understand the pain I feel

right now. I have gained another 7 pounds since I was approved for

surgery. I have alot of stress going on in my life right now and I eat

to try and make me feel better but we all know that doesnt work. So

now I feel like S-IT!! I bring this misery on myself and I dont no why.

My Husband keeps asking me whats wrong. Nothing!!! He asked me last

night if I was sure that I wanted to go ahead with this surgery. I

looked at him and asked him why he was asking me that? I am so excited

about having this surgery and everytime I talk about Dr. A and all of

you I know he can see that. I told him for the 1st time in my life I

have never been so sure about anything. His response is that he doesnt

want me to be disapointed like all the other things that I have done

and lost weight only to have it come back. I tryed to explain to him

that this is no " quick fix " . It is a tool to help me lose the weight

but it is a life long tool that I have to take care of and nurture so

I can get healthy and feel good about myself.

I dont want to go out in public right now. I just feel gross!! These

are not hormones raging either. Aunt Flo has come and gone!! (Thats

what I refer to my time of the month).

Okay, Sorry for dumping my baggage on all of you but I knew you would

listen and understand. Everyone here on the boards is so wonderful and

I enjoy reading your posts.

I need to get productive now and clean my house! UUGGHH

Tammy Irish

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Hi , My sister is thin also. She is 5' 6" so she has also 4" on me. But she joined weight watchers when I joined about 1 1/2 months ago (she still goes I dont) and she has lost 15 pounds. She lost it and I found it. She would like to lose another 10 pounds but she looks good right now. BI--H!! Just joking!! My stepdaughter who is also 14 is very immature too. For me I think this is because at her home with her mom she has to be the adult and take care of her mom and younger brother. Her mom has OCD and uses that so she doesnt have to do anything. She always has something wrong. My stepdaughter asked me if she could come for the whole Easter vacation (1week) and I told her absolutely! So when she is here I think she goes back to that childhood that she never had. Well, I think that you have a big heart and love her unconditionally and when the time is right she will get

the surgery too. Tammy I.

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Thank You Liz, I have made all those excuses myself and still am! I really dont have an excuse because I have a treadmill, elliptical machine, weight bench, the abs worker outer (not sure what that thing is called) stepper, stair climber all out in my garage!! My husband set me all up out there with a TV, DVD Player, Stereo and My Urban DVDS! He even gave me eye candy to keep me motivated!! So I really have no excuse for not working out except that I am fat and lazy with no motivation!!! It Sucks!! This will all change for me though. I just know it as soon as I feel I have some control and feel better about myself. I used to camp all the time but as I get older I seem to be more spoiled. I will not do the tent thing anymore. My husband has to get me an RV or I dont go!! Well when your at Yellowstone say hi to YOGI BEAR for me and dont forget BOO- BOO Too!!

LOL Tammy I.

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GEEZ TAMMY IM COMING TO YOUR HOUSE tammy irish <tammyntod@...> wrote: Thank You Liz, I have made all those excuses myself and still am! I really dont have an excuse because I have a treadmill, elliptical machine, weight bench, the abs worker outer (not sure what that thing is called) stepper, stair climber all out in my garage!! My husband set me all up out there with a TV, DVD Player, Stereo and My Urban DVDS! He even gave me eye candy to keep me motivated!! So I really have no excuse for not working out except that I am fat and lazy with no motivation!!! It Sucks!! This will all change for me though. I just know it as soon as I feel I have some control and feel better about myself. I used to camp all the time but as I get older I

seem to be more spoiled. I will not do the tent thing anymore. My husband has to get me an RV or I dont go!! Well when your at Yellowstone say hi to YOGI BEAR for me and dont forget BOO- BOO Too!! LOL Tammy I.

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Everyones welcome to come on over!!! We will make Margaritas and drink them out of shot glasses because our little tummies cant hold that much anymore!! As were drinking we can workout too!! Tammy I.