Fwd: DC memorial service for -- Nov 21

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Please post for all to see!!! Thank you, Dee

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Subject: Fwd: DC memorial service for -- Nov 21

Dee <spirit.miller@...>

Dee

Please forward.

Becca

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> Memorial services for in LA and DC have been finalized:

>

> Sunday, November 14, 1:30 pm,

> Los Angeles

> Westside campus of Wilshire Boulevard Temple, 11661 West Olympic Blvd (at the

corner of Barrington) in the Marcia Israel Chapel.

>

> Sunday, November 21, 1:30 pm,

> Washington, DC

> Adas Israel Congregation, 2859 Quebec St NW (at the corner of Porter/Quebec

and Connecticut Ave NW, Cleveland Park metro stop)

>

>

> The girls and I will be traveling to both services and look forward to seeing

friends and family in both locations. Please let others know about the

services, especially if they are in the LA or DC areas and might not see this

CaringBridge update. Many people on the east coast are traveling down from New

York and other locations to attend the DC service. I will post it on Facebook

and several people will distribute the info to various mailing lists.

>

> was a member of the Wilshire Boulevard temple for many years while he

lived in LA, and counted Rabbi Steve Leder among his most trusted friends.

Steve may not remember this, but he gave us some advice that both of us returned

to many times, long after the disagreement that prompted it (we both wanted a

second child, just on dramatically different timetables). He said that what

decision we made was far less important than how we made the decision – that if

one of us got our way by pouting or strong-arming or wearing the other down, it

would erode the fabric of trust – but that if we were able to really listen to

each other’s point of view and consider what was best for all of us, whatever

decision we made would be the right one in the end. I’m sure you can read the

same thing in any number of pop-psych books or negotiation manuals, but the way

he said it really stuck with us and enabled us to get beyond that deadlock.

From then on, we would be reminded of that whenever we argued, and it always

helped us get back to a place of love and respect. So Delia owes Steve

big-time!

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> For the last two years we were in DC, Naomi and I were at Adas Israel nearly

every day for the Gan HaYeled preschool. Many of my warmest memories of her

early childhood are in those classrooms and the huge downstairs room, or at

family services in the sanctuary. Some of our closest and most enduring

friendships were formed with other Gan families. That was our first experience

of what a community of parents and children looks like, and how it can transform

the experience of living in a neighborhood. It was also our first experience of

what being in a Jewish community meant for us as a family rather than as two

adults. When we moved to Seattle, that’s why we sought out the JCC on Mercer

Island for preschool – we wanted that same engagement and spirit, and more than

found it there. We have many good friends at DC’s Temple Micah where we were

members, but were delighted to accept Adas Israel’s offer to host the service.

> Once again, I want to thank the many people who have called, emailed,

facebooked, sent cards or letters or checks, brought food, worked on the yard,

brought gifts for the girls, and most of all, just been there for us and

listened with love. Yes, it's unimaginably hard and I keep thinking will be

back any day now from some extended trip, full of stories and eager to play with

the girls. But he won't, and that's the hardest thing of all. The girls seem to

be coping well, and I'm trying to give them as much attention as I can.

>

> A number of people have sent or posted links to more obituaries, which I will

collect into a journal entry shortly.

>

>

--

Kathleen Dee

Senior Clinical Program Coordinator

Greenberg Center for Skeletal Dysplasias

The Inst. of Genetic Medicine

s Hopkins University

Blalock 1008

600 N. Wolfe Street

Baltimore, MD 21287-4922

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