Re: Looking for a little support.

[Guest guest]

, you have NO idea how much you and I have in common. I would be happy to talk with you further. Send me an email. You are a strong woman and can get through this. Look how much you have accomplished. You have a bright future ahead of you and 30 lbs. is AWESOME!!!!! Hope to hear from you. Kristi DOB 8/3/08 219/176/145 <bulletnurse@...> wrote: Hi all,I don't know any of you personally, but I think you all might be able to

help me a bit. I've been fat my whole life. I was banded on Aug.13, 07. I just left an abusive relationship and it's very hard. I was with a guy that is a drug addict, in and out of jail and in and out of my life. We got together when we were 18, and I love him so much. He was doing great, so I took him back. As soon as I said I wanted a band, he decided he wanted to lose weight. He started taking diet pills, that it turns out had Methamphetamine in them. Then, he decided that he wanted to grow and sell Medical Marijuana. I gave him a choice, if he does this, the kids and I leave, if he chooses not too, we stay. Well, he felt I was trying to control him, so he said he's growing it. So, after 6 days, we had a fight, he didn't come home. i told him I was going to tell the kids and leave him. He hated that I told them, so we had another fight, he slapped me, pushed me down, etc. Later that day, he pushed me in front of

my 13 yr. old daughter, and called me a "FAT F-ING WHORE." in front of her. That was his favorite thing to call me, FAT!!And for the first time in my life, IT DIDN'T BOTHER ME!!!SO, We moved yesterday and I'm dying inside. I started therapy and the kids will follow. I don't know if I did the right thing by telling the kids, the counselors say yes, but I don't honestly know.I'm so happy I got this band, I've lost 30 lbs, and hopefully will gain some self esteem. Thanks for listening....this is so hard. At least I'm healthy, right?Dob 8/13/07211/181/140

Shape in your own image. Join our Network Research Panel today!

[Guest guest]

Wow ,What a story you have to tell!!! 1st congratulate yourself on leaving, you made the right decision. 2nd congratulate yourself on getting counseling, you WON'T get through this w/out counseling so hang in there through the tough stuff and don't stop until you feel like you can make better choices for a mate 3rd love the kids with all you have right now, as hard as it is to be a mom, I think it is harder to be a kid in all that. We get so wrapped up in trying to heal ourselves that it is easy to forget what the kids have gone through too. And last but not least, you are an amazing woman to have gone through that hell and still had the good sense to do something for you and get the band. Life will not be easy from now on but it will be better! It takes an

abused woman an average of 7 times before she leaves for good. She leaves and goes back, she leaves and goes back. It took me 8 times!! I wanted to throw off the statistics a little. It was easy for me to be abused, hit, talked down to, etc but one night my boyfriend came home drunk and dropped our son. That was the last straw for me, finally I could see, his abuse whether it was indirect or direct, was affecting my child. WOW, I'm just so proud of you for getting out!!! Do everything you can to make that the LAST time!! He won't get any better than what you just left, whether he decides he was wrong for growing pot and wants you back or not, don't do it!!! PLEASE!!! There is hope, 2 yrs after I got out I met a wonderful man that wanted kids and couldn't have any and he took in my son, like his own. We have a wonderful marriage, I don't have to worry about what he is doing when he is away

from me, I don't have to worry about the pain of being hit again, I don't have to worry about what my kids are going to see or live through!! God is good, lean on Him! If you ever need any encouragement or just to talk, don't hesitate to email me and we can call each other, whatever you need!!!Take care! Cyrena WeeksDOB: 1/19/07240/159/150www.cyrenaweeks.blogspot.com Looking for a

little support.

Hi all,

I don't know any of you personally, but I think you all might be

able to help me a bit. I've been fat my whole life. I was banded

on Aug.13, 07. I just left an abusive relationship and it's very

hard. I was with a guy that is a drug addict, in and out of jail

and in and out of my life. We got together when we were 18, and I

love him so much. He was doing great, so I took him back. As soon

as I said I wanted a band, he decided he wanted to lose weight. He

started taking diet pills, that it turns out had Methamphetamine in

them. Then, he decided that he wanted to grow and sell Medical

Marijuana. I gave him a choice, if he does this, the kids and I

leave, if he chooses not too, we stay. Well, he felt I was trying

to control him, so he said he's growing it. So, after 6 days, we

had a fight, he didn't come home. i told him I was going to tell the

kids and leave him. He hated that I told them, so we had another

fight, he slapped me, pushed me down, etc. Later that day, he

pushed me in front of my 13 yr. old daughter, and called me a "FAT F-

ING WHORE." in front of her. That was his favorite thing to call

me, FAT!!

And for the first time in my life, IT DIDN'T BOTHER ME!!!

SO, We moved yesterday and I'm dying inside. I started therapy and

the kids will follow. I don't know if I did the right thing by

telling the kids, the counselors say yes, but I don't honestly know.

I'm so happy I got this band, I've lost 30 lbs, and hopefully will

gain some self esteem. Thanks for listening... .this is so hard. At

least I'm healthy, right?

Dob 8/13/07

211/181/140

[Guest guest]

Been there, done that, would never go back. Mine did not involve drugs, but did involve abuse. I finally decided after 16 years of marriage that it was either 1 sick person or 4. It is not easy. Just hang in there and be brave. I look back now and wonder how on earth I thougtht I loved someone who treated me so poorly and was abusive. Was my self-esteem that low? He used " fat " as an excuse. At the time I weighed 165 pounds and am 5'6 " tall. Not exactly obese, would you say. My goal weight is now 165 and will have to lose 150 to get there. I have been married 24 years to the most wonderful man. I have gained the weight since we have been married and he absolutely adores me. I am so tremendously blessed. So, it has nothing to do with the weight, but with self-esteem and respect. Get out while your children are still salvageable. My sons are not 39 and 36 and are very wonderful, responsible, loving, upstanding men. That would not have been the case had we stayed in the abusive relationship. You for certain don't want your daughter to think that is all right for men to treat women that way!

I was banded 9/15 and have not had my first fill yet. I have lost 20 pounds and cannot wait to lose more. It has nothing to do with self esteem, but with health for me.

Keep me posted on how you are doing. I would love to visit with you if you would like.

sk

On 10/15/07, <bulletnurse@...> wrote:

Hi all,I don't know any of you personally, but I think you all might be able to help me a bit. I've been fat my whole life. I was banded on Aug.13, 07. I just left an abusive relationship and it's very hard. I was with a guy that is a drug addict, in and out of jail and in and out of my life. We got together when we were 18, and I love him so much. He was doing great, so I took him back. As soon as I said I wanted a band, he decided he wanted to lose weight. He started taking diet pills, that it turns out had Methamphetamine in them. Then, he decided that he wanted to grow and sell Medical Marijuana. I gave him a choice, if he does this, the kids and I leave, if he chooses not too, we stay. Well, he felt I was trying to control him, so he said he's growing it. So, after 6 days, we had a fight, he didn't come home. i told him I was going to tell the kids and leave him. He hated that I told them, so we had another

fight, he slapped me, pushed me down, etc. Later that day, he pushed me in front of my 13 yr. old daughter, and called me a " FAT F-ING WHORE. " in front of her. That was his favorite thing to call me, FAT!!

And for the first time in my life, IT DIDN'T BOTHER ME!!!SO, We moved yesterday and I'm dying inside. I started therapy and the kids will follow. I don't know if I did the right thing by

telling the kids, the counselors say yes, but I don't honestly know.I'm so happy I got this band, I've lost 30 lbs, and hopefully will gain some self esteem. Thanks for listening....this is so hard. At least I'm healthy, right?Dob 8/13/07211/181/140

[Guest guest]

you and your kids deserve better, be strong for them and yourself. Being in that kind of environment is dangerous for you and your kids, you definitely don't need that. I will pray for you and the kids. Life is good with the band and you can make a happy life for you and your kids. Your self esteem will get better with the weight loss, show your kids lots of love and hug them all the time and tell them how much you love them. Things will get better. Band Buddy, M 299,186,165 sk romines

<skromines@...> wrote: Been there, done that, would never go back. Mine did not involve drugs, but did involve abuse. I finally decided after 16 years of marriage that it was either 1 sick person or 4. It is not easy. Just hang in there and be brave. I look back now and wonder how on earth I thougtht I loved someone who treated me so poorly and was abusive. Was my self-esteem that low? He used "fat" as an excuse. At the time I weighed 165 pounds and am 5'6" tall. Not exactly obese, would you

say. My goal weight is now 165 and will have to lose 150 to get there. I have been married 24 years to the most wonderful man. I have gained the weight since we have been married and he absolutely adores me. I am so tremendously blessed. So, it has nothing to do with the weight, but with self-esteem and respect. Get out while your children are still salvageable. My sons are not 39 and 36 and are very wonderful, responsible, loving, upstanding men. That would not have been the case had we stayed in the abusive relationship. You for certain don't want your daughter to think that is all right for men to treat women that way! I was banded 9/15 and have not had my first fill yet. I have lost 20 pounds and cannot wait to lose more. It has nothing to do with self esteem, but with health for me. Keep me posted on how you are doing. I would

love to visit with you if you would like. sk On 10/15/07, <bulletnurse > wrote: Hi all,I don't know any of you personally, but I think you all might be able to help me a bit. I've been fat my whole life. I was banded on Aug.13, 07. I just left an abusive relationship and it's very hard. I was with a guy that is a drug addict, in and out of jail and in and out of my life. We got together when we were 18, and I love him so much. He was doing great, so I took him back. As soon as I said I wanted a band, he decided he wanted to lose weight. He started taking diet pills, that it turns out had Methamphetamine in

them. Then, he decided that he wanted to grow and sell Medical Marijuana. I gave him a choice, if he does this, the kids and I leave, if he chooses not too, we stay. Well, he felt I was trying to control him, so he said he's growing it. So, after 6 days, we had a fight, he didn't come home. i told him I was going to tell the kids and leave him. He hated that I told them, so we had another fight, he slapped me, pushed me down, etc. Later that day, he pushed me in front of my 13 yr. old daughter, and called me a "FAT F-ING WHORE." in front of her. That was his favorite thing to call me, FAT!! And for the first time in my life, IT DIDN'T BOTHER ME!!!SO, We moved yesterday and I'm dying inside. I started therapy and the kids will follow. I don't know if I did the right thing by telling the kids, the counselors say yes, but I don't honestly know.I'm so happy I got this band, I've lost 30 lbs, and hopefully will

gain some self esteem. Thanks for listening....this is so hard. At least I'm healthy, right?Dob 8/13/07211/181/140

oneSearch: Finally, mobile search that gives answers, not web links.

[Guest guest]

Yes you have done the right thing. His power was making you feel bad about yourself, and now that you are on the right track he knows and it scares him. No one , man or woman should treat people that way..I think alot of us have been there..and that is why we are where we are at. Self esteem is great..and you are so on track, dont let anything change that. Your kids will honor and admire you for what you have done..YOU go girl.. keep it up you are fabulous and you know you can make it with out the extra baggage at your feet. Move on to better things .

dob-8/21/07

221/200/140

sandy

Looking for a little support.

Hi all,I don't know any of you personally, but I think you all might be able to help me a bit. I've been fat my whole life. I was banded on Aug.13, 07. I just left an abusive relationship and it's very hard. I was with a guy that is a drug addict, in and out of jail and in and out of my life. We got together when we were 18, and I love him so much. He was doing great, so I took him back. As soon as I said I wanted a band, he decided he wanted to lose weight. He started taking diet pills, that it turns out had Methamphetamine in them. Then, he decided that he wanted to grow and sell Medical Marijuana. I gave him a choice, if he does this, the kids and I leave, if he chooses not too, we stay. Well, he felt I was trying to control him, so he said he's growing it. So, after 6 days, we had a fight, he didn't come home. i told him I was going to tell the kids and leave him. He hated that I told them,

so we had another fight, he slapped me, pushed me down, etc. Later that day, he pushed me in front of my 13 yr. old daughter, and called me a "FAT F-ING WHORE." in front of her. That was his favorite thing to call me, FAT!!And for the first time in my life, IT DIDN'T BOTHER ME!!!SO, We moved yesterday and I'm dying inside. I started therapy and the kids will follow. I don't know if I did the right thing by telling the kids, the counselors say yes, but I don't honestly know.I'm so happy I got this band, I've lost 30 lbs, and hopefully will gain some self esteem. Thanks for listening... .this is so hard. At least I'm healthy, right?Dob 8/13/07211/181/140

Don't let your dream ride pass you by. Make it a reality with Autos.

[Guest guest]

here is a huge cyber {{{{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}. I am so

sorry to hear what your family has been through. and I know it must

be really scary to be getting out on your own. But what doesn't kill

us only makes us stronger! and I am telling you this, that some day

you will rise above all of this and you will look back and you will

be truly amazed at how far you have come! So, please right now just

look forward not back and think of your life as a new beginning! You

have the chance right now to make a new start for you and your kids.

You are losing weight, and that alone will change your life and you

are going to be trying new things and your life is going to change in

ways you cant wrap your brain around right now. So, this is my

advice to you. Get yourself a support group of people around you

right now. going to counseling is a awesome start. I don't know if

you are a Christian, but if you are get plugged into a good church,

they will be like a family to you. If you are not a religious person

get into a anon or some kind of program for people coming out of

abusive relationships. (and get your kids in that too) Because right

now you need strong positive influences in your life. Because I

guarantee you that this man is not out of your life for good yet.

and you will need to hold strong and not go back to him no matter

what he tells you he will do! stay strong and move forward! You are

doing wonderful by taking the steps you are taking right now! You

will be like a butterfly and you will come out of your cocoon and

then I believe you will be able to help others that are going through

what you have already been through. so there is hope for your

future, hold on to it tightly and don't loose hold of it! You are

going to rise above this and become unstoppable! It is up to you

now, so take charge of your life and go for whatever it is that " you "

want for you and your family! You are worth so much more than being

in a relationship where you are being treated like crap! you are a

special person who deserves to be treated with respect and

admiration. and always know that you can come to this group and we

will lend you support as well!

take care and here's to new beginnings!!! Your life can actually be

quite exciting if you let it, because now you have a new fresh

start!! :-)

take care and big hugs,

>

> Hi all,

> I don't know any of you personally, but I think you all might

be

> able to help me a bit. I've been fat my whole life. I was banded

> on Aug.13, 07. I just left an abusive relationship and it's very

> hard. I was with a guy that is a drug addict, in and out of jail

> and in and out of my life. We got together when we were 18, and I

> love him so much. He was doing great, so I took him back. As soon

> as I said I wanted a band, he decided he wanted to lose weight. He

> started taking diet pills, that it turns out had Methamphetamine in

> them. Then, he decided that he wanted to grow and sell Medical

> Marijuana. I gave him a choice, if he does this, the kids and I

> leave, if he chooses not too, we stay. Well, he felt I was trying

> to control him, so he said he's growing it. So, after 6 days, we

> had a fight, he didn't come home. i told him I was going to tell

the

> kids and leave him. He hated that I told them, so we had another

> fight, he slapped me, pushed me down, etc. Later that day, he

> pushed me in front of my 13 yr. old daughter, and called me a " FAT

F-

> ING WHORE. " in front of her. That was his favorite thing to call

> me, FAT!!

>

>

> And for the first time in my life, IT DIDN'T BOTHER ME!!!

>

> SO, We moved yesterday and I'm dying inside. I started therapy and

> the kids will follow. I don't know if I did the right thing by

> telling the kids, the counselors say yes, but I don't honestly know.

> I'm so happy I got this band, I've lost 30 lbs, and hopefully will

> gain some self esteem. Thanks for listening....this is so hard. At

> least I'm healthy, right?

>

>

> Dob 8/13/07

> 211/181/140

>

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I also have a very similar situation to yours. I left mine about 4

weeks ago. I feel really Crappy, too. Please remember that you did

not create his problem and its not your responsiblity he has a

problem. Please call me if you want to talk 818-524-8971.

Janette

>

> Hi all,

> I don't know any of you personally, but I think you all might

be

> able to help me a bit. I've been fat my whole life. I was banded

> on Aug.13, 07. I just left an abusive relationship and it's very

> hard. I was with a guy that is a drug addict, in and out of jail

> and in and out of my life. We got together when we were 18, and I

> love him so much. He was doing great, so I took him back. As soon

> as I said I wanted a band, he decided he wanted to lose weight. He

> started taking diet pills, that it turns out had Methamphetamine in

> them. Then, he decided that he wanted to grow and sell Medical

> Marijuana. I gave him a choice, if he does this, the kids and I

> leave, if he chooses not too, we stay. Well, he felt I was trying

> to control him, so he said he's growing it. So, after 6 days, we

> had a fight, he didn't come home. i told him I was going to tell

the

> kids and leave him. He hated that I told them, so we had another

> fight, he slapped me, pushed me down, etc. Later that day, he

> pushed me in front of my 13 yr. old daughter, and called me a " FAT

F-

> ING WHORE. " in front of her. That was his favorite thing to call

> me, FAT!!

>

>

> And for the first time in my life, IT DIDN'T BOTHER ME!!!

>

> SO, We moved yesterday and I'm dying inside. I started therapy and

> the kids will follow. I don't know if I did the right thing by

> telling the kids, the counselors say yes, but I don't honestly know.

> I'm so happy I got this band, I've lost 30 lbs, and hopefully will

> gain some self esteem. Thanks for listening....this is so hard. At

> least I'm healthy, right?

>

>

> Dob 8/13/07

> 211/181/140

>

[Guest guest]

Dear :

Although I was not obese, while I was married, I had my share of controlling behavior from my ex, both physical and mental. Insecure men always attempt to control others. Only looking back, do I realize that I should have left him a lot earlier. I was the stronger and more successful one in the marriage, but I propped him up to protect the children--what a copout!! My real reason was that I was pushed into a depression by unsuitable medication after the birth of my second child (now 24years old) and I did not think I would be able to handle a divorce. I have no family on this continent, so that was also a contributing factor. But I did handle the divorce and I handled unemployment at the same time. I came out stronger from the experience. We women are very strong and should beleive in our stregth.

Good luck,

Margaret

On 10/15/07, sandy doyle <doylesandy@...> wrote:

Yes you have done the right thing. His power was making you feel bad about yourself, and now that you are on the right track he knows and it scares him. No one , man or woman should treat people that way..I think alot of us have been there..and that is why we are where we are at. Self esteem is great..and you are so on track, dont let anything change that. Your kids will honor and admire you for what you have done..YOU go girl.. keep it up you are fabulous and you know you can make it with out the extra baggage at your feet. Move on to better things .

dob-8/21/07

221/200/140

sandy

Looking for a little support.

Hi all,I don't know any of you personally, but I think you all might be able to help me a bit. I've been fat my whole life. I was banded on Aug.13, 07. I just left an abusive relationship and it's very hard. I was with a guy that is a drug addict, in and out of jail and in and out of my life. We got together when we were 18, and I love him so much. He was doing great, so I took him back. As soon as I said I wanted a band, he decided he wanted to lose weight. He started taking diet pills, that it turns out had Methamphetamine in them. Then, he decided that he wanted to grow and sell Medical Marijuana. I gave him a choice, if he does this, the kids and I leave, if he chooses not too, we stay. Well, he felt I was trying to control him, so he said he's growing it. So, after 6 days, we had a fight, he didn't come home. i told him I was going to tell the kids and leave him. He hated that I told them, so we had another

fight, he slapped me, pushed me down, etc. Later that day, he pushed me in front of my 13 yr. old daughter, and called me a " FAT F-ING WHORE. " in front of her. That was his favorite thing to call me, FAT!!

And for the first time in my life, IT DIDN'T BOTHER ME!!!SO, We moved yesterday and I'm dying inside. I started therapy and the kids will follow. I don't know if I did the right thing by

telling the kids, the counselors say yes, but I don't honestly know.I'm so happy I got this band, I've lost 30 lbs, and hopefully will gain some self esteem. Thanks for listening... .this is so hard. At least I'm healthy, right?Dob 8/13/07211/181/140

Don't let your dream ride pass you by.

Make it a reality with Autos.

[Guest guest]

, I am speaking from inexperience with this on a personal level but I will speak on it from a professional level in working with children. If nothing else, keep reminding yourself that your children learn how to have healthy, positive relationships from you. Your son, if you have one, is learning how to treat women when he grows up by watching how you allow men to treat you. Your daughter is learning what is expected of her from men in your life. No matter how hard it may be for you to leave or how badly your heart aches for what the relationship could or should have been, remember what you are teaching your children. They will be so much better off without witnessing this sort of abuse in their lives. Children have a natural instinct to protect their mama and they need to know and feel that you are safe. Please take care of yourself so you can be the best mom you

can be for them. You are strong and getting stronger with each pound you lose. Hold your head up high, be proud you have taken these drastic measures to get your life on the right, healing track. Having weight loss surgery, getting out of an abusive relationship and going to counseling may not make immediate changes but the long term effects are going to be magnificent. Stay strong and keep in touch here. We are all here to support one another. Take care, Jenni DOB 2/23/06 247/140/145 5 fills 3 unfills <bulletnurse@...> wrote: Hi all,I don't know any of you personally, but I think you all might be able to help me a bit. I've been fat my whole life. I was banded on Aug.13, 07. I just left an abusive relationship and it's very hard. I was with a guy that is a drug addict, in and out of jail and in and out of my life. We got together when we were 18, and I love him so much. He was doing great, so I took him back. As soon as I said I wanted a band, he decided he wanted to lose weight. He started taking diet pills, that it turns out had Methamphetamine in them. Then, he decided that he wanted to grow and sell Medical Marijuana. I gave him a choice, if he does this, the kids and I leave, if he chooses not too, we stay. Well, he felt I was trying to control him, so he said he's growing it. So, after 6 days, we had a fight, he didn't

come home. i told him I was going to tell the kids and leave him. He hated that I told them, so we had another fight, he slapped me, pushed me down, etc. Later that day, he pushed me in front of my 13 yr. old daughter, and called me a "FAT F-ING WHORE." in front of her. That was his favorite thing to call me, FAT!!And for the first time in my life, IT DIDN'T BOTHER ME!!!SO, We moved yesterday and I'm dying inside. I started therapy and the kids will follow. I don't know if I did the right thing by telling the kids, the counselors say yes, but I don't honestly know.I'm so happy I got this band, I've lost 30 lbs, and hopefully will gain some self esteem. Thanks for listening....this is so hard. At least I'm healthy, right?Dob 8/13/07211/181/140

Pinpoint customers who are looking for what you sell.

[Guest guest]

, Be strong my love. You are a great lady and you deserve someone who will love you and respect you the way you deserve. Love, Jodi <bulletnurse@...> wrote: Hi all,I don't know any of you personally, but I think you all might be able to help me a bit. I've been fat my whole life. I was banded on Aug.13, 07. I just left an abusive relationship and it's very hard. I was with a guy that is a drug addict, in and out of jail and in and out of my life. We got

together when we were 18, and I love him so much. He was doing great, so I took him back. As soon as I said I wanted a band, he decided he wanted to lose weight. He started taking diet pills, that it turns out had Methamphetamine in them. Then, he decided that he wanted to grow and sell Medical Marijuana. I gave him a choice, if he does this, the kids and I leave, if he chooses not too, we stay. Well, he felt I was trying to control him, so he said he's growing it. So, after 6 days, we had a fight, he didn't come home. i told him I was going to tell the kids and leave him. He hated that I told them, so we had another fight, he slapped me, pushed me down, etc. Later that day, he pushed me in front of my 13 yr. old daughter, and called me a "FAT F-ING WHORE." in front of her. That was his favorite thing to call me, FAT!!And for the first time in my life, IT DIDN'T BOTHER ME!!!SO, We moved yesterday and I'm

dying inside. I started therapy and the kids will follow. I don't know if I did the right thing by telling the kids, the counselors say yes, but I don't honestly know.I'm so happy I got this band, I've lost 30 lbs, and hopefully will gain some self esteem. Thanks for listening....this is so hard. At least I'm healthy, right?Dob 8/13/07211/181/140

Don't let your dream ride pass you by. Make it a reality with Autos.

[Guest guest]

, You were put on this earth, and given wonderful children to love and protect. Life is too short not to be happy and to have your children SAFE and Happy... as Jodi said you deserve someone to love and respect you. it is easier said sometimes when we as overweight people have a lower self esteem. We sometime settle and think "love" is whoever will give it to us. I am definately not saying this was like that but from my personal life, i equated "attentention" with love and being cared for. It wasn't until i found my DH at an autoparts store did i really discover what love was. Take care of yourself, your children and the rest will fall into place. I was blessed because I allowed God to heal the hurt from years of abuse, both physical, sexual, and emotional and God was also faithful to me to give me my godly husband who worships the ground i walk on, more often than not to

catch me as a stumble my name should of been grace. Just know that you are doing what is best for your family... good Luck and my God keep and bless you soniaJodi <mermaid_jodi@...> wrote: , Be strong my love. You are a great lady and you deserve someone who will love you and respect you the way you deserve. Love, Jodi <bulletnurse > wrote: Hi all,I don't know any of you personally, but I think you all might be able to help me a bit. I've been fat my whole life. I was banded on Aug.13, 07. I just left an abusive relationship and it's very hard. I was with a guy that is a drug addict, in and out of jail and in and out of my life. We got together when we were 18, and I love him so much. He was doing great, so I took him back. As soon as I said I wanted a band, he decided he wanted to lose weight. He started taking diet pills, that it turns out had Methamphetamine in them. Then, he decided that he wanted to grow and sell Medical Marijuana. I gave him a choice, if he does this, the kids and I leave, if he chooses not too, we stay. Well, he felt I was trying to control him, so he said he's growing it. So, after 6 days, we had a fight, he didn't come home. i told him I was going to tell the kids and leave him. He hated that I

told them, so we had another fight, he slapped me, pushed me down, etc. Later that day, he pushed me in front of my 13 yr. old daughter, and called me a "FAT F-ING WHORE." in front of her. That was his favorite thing to call me, FAT!!And for the first time in my life, IT DIDN'T BOTHER ME!!!SO, We moved yesterday and I'm dying inside. I started therapy and the kids will follow. I don't know if I did the right thing by telling the kids, the counselors say yes, but I don't honestly know.I'm so happy I got this band, I've lost 30 lbs, and hopefully will gain some self esteem. Thanks for listening....this is so hard. At least I'm healthy, right?Dob 8/13/07211/181/140 Don't let your dream ride pass you by. Make it a reality with Autos. __________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Well said ...jodisonia larimore <kssooner@...> wrote: , You were put on this earth, and given wonderful children to love and protect. Life is too short not to be happy and to have your children SAFE and Happy... as Jodi said you deserve someone to love and respect you. it is easier said sometimes when we as overweight people have a lower self esteem. We sometime settle and think "love" is whoever will give it to us. I am definately not saying this was like that but from my personal life, i

equated "attentention" with love and being cared for. It wasn't until i found my DH at an autoparts store did i really discover what love was. Take care of yourself, your children and the rest will fall into place. I was blessed because I allowed God to heal the hurt from years of abuse, both physical, sexual, and emotional and God was also faithful to me to give me my godly husband who worships the ground i walk on, more often than not to catch me as a stumble my name should of been grace. Just know that you are doing what is best for your family... good Luck and my God keep and bless you soniaJodi <mermaid_jodi > wrote: , Be strong my love. You are a great lady and you deserve someone who will love you and respect you the

way you deserve. Love, Jodi <bulletnurse > wrote: Hi all,I don't know any of you personally, but I think you all might be able to help me a bit. I've been fat my whole life. I was banded on Aug.13, 07. I just left an abusive relationship and it's very hard. I was with a guy that is a drug addict, in and out of jail and in and out of my life. We got together when we were 18, and I love him so much. He was doing great, so I took him back. As soon as I said I wanted a band, he decided he wanted to lose weight. He started taking diet pills, that it turns out had Methamphetamine in them. Then, he decided that he wanted to grow and sell Medical Marijuana. I gave him a choice, if he does this, the kids and I leave, if he chooses not too, we stay. Well, he felt I was

trying to control him, so he said he's growing it. So, after 6 days, we had a fight, he didn't come home. i told him I was going to tell the kids and leave him. He hated that I told them, so we had another fight, he slapped me, pushed me down, etc. Later that day, he pushed me in front of my 13 yr. old daughter, and called me a "FAT F-ING WHORE." in front of her. That was his favorite thing to call me, FAT!!And for the first time in my life, IT DIDN'T BOTHER ME!!!SO, We moved yesterday and I'm dying inside. I started therapy and the kids will follow. I don't know if I did the right thing by telling the kids, the counselors say yes, but I don't honestly know.I'm so happy I got this band, I've lost 30 lbs, and hopefully will gain some self esteem. Thanks for listening....this is so hard. At least I'm healthy, right?Dob 8/13/07211/181/140 Don't let your dream ride pass you by. Make it a reality with Autos. __________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

,

Best of luck. It is hard to do the right thing. Keep strong and positive. Things

will get better!

Take Care,

Kira

---- sonia larimore <kssooner@...> wrote:

> ,

> You were put on this earth, and given wonderful children to love and

protect. Life is too short not to be happy and to have your children SAFE and

Happy... as Jodi said you deserve someone to love and respect you. it is easier

said sometimes when we as overweight people have a lower self esteem. We

sometime settle and think " love " is whoever will give it to us. I am definately

not saying this was like that but from my personal life, i equated

" attentention " with love and being cared for. It wasn't until i found my DH at

an autoparts store did i really discover what love was.

>

> Take care of yourself, your children and the rest will fall into place. I

was blessed because I allowed God to heal the hurt from years of abuse, both

physical, sexual, and emotional and God was also faithful to me to give me my

godly husband who worships the ground i walk on, more often than not to catch me

as a stumble my name should of been grace.

>

> Just know that you are doing what is best for your family... good Luck and

my God keep and bless you sonia

>

> Jodi <mermaid_jodi@...> wrote:

> ,

> Be strong my love. You are a great lady and you deserve someone who will

love you and respect you the way you deserve.

> Love,

> Jodi

>

> <bulletnurse@...> wrote:

> Hi all,

> I don't know any of you personally, but I think you all might be

> able to help me a bit. I've been fat my whole life. I was banded

> on Aug.13, 07. I just left an abusive relationship and it's very

> hard. I was with a guy that is a drug addict, in and out of jail

> and in and out of my life. We got together when we were 18, and I

> love him so much. He was doing great, so I took him back. As soon

> as I said I wanted a band, he decided he wanted to lose weight. He

> started taking diet pills, that it turns out had Methamphetamine in

> them. Then, he decided that he wanted to grow and sell Medical

> Marijuana. I gave him a choice, if he does this, the kids and I

> leave, if he chooses not too, we stay. Well, he felt I was trying

> to control him, so he said he's growing it. So, after 6 days, we

> had a fight, he didn't come home. i told him I was going to tell the

> kids and leave him. He hated that I told them, so we had another

> fight, he slapped me, pushed me down, etc. Later that day, he

> pushed me in front of my 13 yr. old daughter, and called me a " FAT F-

> ING WHORE. " in front of her. That was his favorite thing to call

> me, FAT!!

>

> And for the first time in my life, IT DIDN'T BOTHER ME!!!

>

> SO, We moved yesterday and I'm dying inside. I started therapy and

> the kids will follow. I don't know if I did the right thing by

> telling the kids, the counselors say yes, but I don't honestly know.

> I'm so happy I got this band, I've lost 30 lbs, and hopefully will

> gain some self esteem. Thanks for listening....this is so hard. At

> least I'm healthy, right?

>

>

> Dob 8/13/07

> 211/181/140

>

>

>

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> Don't let your dream ride pass you by. Make it a reality with Autos.

>

>

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Dearest :

So sorry to hear about what you are going through and have gone through. You did the right thing by posting on here. There are so many caring people on this site. Let them lavish you in some much needed love and take these comments with the upmost respect that you deserve. Each day will get better for you and you will grow stronger because of it.

Respect for yourself is the key here and you've all ready taken the biggest step for yourself by having this surgery done. The rest of it will all fall into place as it's supposed to and when it's supposed to.

Sending you peace and love,

Mardy

CC: kssooner@...From: kshosho@...Date: Sun, 21 Oct 2007 10:29:44 -0700Subject: Re: Looking for a little support.

,Best of luck. It is hard to do the right thing. Keep strong and positive. Things will get better! Take Care,Kira---- sonia larimore <kssooner > wrote: > ,> You were put on this earth, and given wonderful children to love and protect. Life is too short not to be happy and to have your children SAFE and Happy... as Jodi said you deserve someone to love and respect you. it is easier said sometimes when we as overweight people have a lower self esteem. We sometime settle and think "love" is whoever will give it to us. I am definately not saying this was like that but from my personal life, i equated "attentention" with love and being cared for. It wasn't until i found my DH at an autoparts store did i really discover what love was. > > Take care of yourself, your children and the rest will fall into place. I was blessed because I allowed God to heal the hurt from years of abuse, both physical, sexual, and emotional and God was also faithful to me to give me my godly husband who worships the ground i walk on, more often than not to catch me as a stumble my name should of been grace.> > Just know that you are doing what is best for your family... good Luck and my God keep and bless you sonia> > Jodi <mermaid_jodi > wrote:> ,> Be strong my love. You are a great lady and you deserve someone who will love you and respect you the way you deserve.> Love,> Jodi> > <bulletnurse > wrote:> Hi all,> I don't know any of you personally, but I think you all might be > able to help me a bit. I've been fat my whole life. I was banded > on Aug.13, 07. I just left an abusive relationship and it's very > hard. I was with a guy that is a drug addict, in and out of jail > and in and out of my life. We got together when we were 18, and I > love him so much. He was doing great, so I took him back. As soon > as I said I wanted a band, he decided he wanted to lose weight. He > started taking diet pills, that it turns out had Methamphetamine in > them. Then, he decided that he wanted to grow and sell Medical > Marijuana. I gave him a choice, if he does this, the kids and I > leave, if he chooses not too, we stay. Well, he felt I was trying > to control him, so he said he's growing it. So, after 6 days, we > had a fight, he didn't come home. i told him I was going to tell the > kids and leave him. He hated that I told them, so we had another > fight, he slapped me, pushed me down, etc. Later that day, he > pushed me in front of my 13 yr. old daughter, and called me a "FAT F-> ING WHORE." in front of her. That was his favorite thing to call > me, FAT!!> > And for the first time in my life, IT DIDN'T BOTHER ME!!!> > SO, We moved yesterday and I'm dying inside. I started therapy and > the kids will follow. I don't know if I did the right thing by > telling the kids, the counselors say yes, but I don't honestly know.> I'm so happy I got this band, I've lost 30 lbs, and hopefully will > gain some self esteem. Thanks for listening....this is so hard. At > least I'm healthy, right?> > > Dob 8/13/07> 211/181/140> > > > > > ---------------------------------> Don't let your dream ride pass you by. Make it a reality with Autos. > > > > __________________________________________________>