Guest guest Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 Dear Teri, Your actions are more then understandable! I cant imagine the stress you have been through. I cant even begin to imagine that kind of stress. Just remember, the effects of alcohol in the manual, I dont know if it will help, but maybe after you pour the alcohol down the sink you could find your manual and read that section again. It is not only endangering your pouch, but your liver is very suseptible to damage right now and you wont be able to take care of anyone if you make yourself sick. Personally, I have been dealing with some stress myself, my little sister is battling for her life against Stage four Inflammatory Breast Cancer. She has been in treatment for almost a year and nothing is working and the cancer continues to spread. Although she ahs a good attitude and we talk everyday about everything, and we pray and pray, things still get stressful. I went to my doctor last year and got a zanax prescription, which I take only when I am feeling stressed out. The funny thing is I started taking it before Felicia, she just got a prescription from her doctor last week! It is nice because you do not have to take it everyday, only when you need it. I will keep you and your daughter in my prayers Teri! And pray you have the strength to stop this self destructive behavior before it cause unreversible damage. Please keep posting! We will help you all we can! in Fla 407/384/279/160 hi/preop/now/goal Sept 1, 2005 Dr Walsh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 Teri, My heart goes out to your. I will keep you in my prayers daily. God is good trust him, trust him always. My best to you. Lourdes >From: " teris3 " <teri.seymour@...> >Reply- > >Subject: update and wow >Date: Mon, 20 Feb 2006 18:10:42 -0000 > >Hi everyone, > >I have been away from the group web site for a while. I checked in >today because I was curious and ended up finding an incredibly >relevant discussion. I have had about a 7 lb bounceback also and >I've been struggling with what to do about it. Your advice makes so >much sense I feel kinda dumb! > >I have had some fairly serious life events in the preceding year >which is my 2nd year from surgery. In October, my 17 yo daughter was >changing a flat tire at the side of the road when she was hit by a >drunk driver. Her left leg was severed on impact and resulted in a >mid-thigh amputation. We were very fortunate that a police officer >witnessed the event and was there to save her life. The surgeons >were amazed that there were almost no other injuries given the speed >and force with which she was hit. I have been off work for 6 months >caring for her and helping her recover. She still has a long way to >go with rehab but medically she is now stable. While I am grateful >beyond words that she wasn't taken from us, it has been a >heartbreaking experience, nonetheless. > >I tell you this so that when I say the next thing, hopefully people >will understand the level of stress that I have been under and not >yell at me too much. I'm not using our situation as an excuse - or >maybe I am - but I know I am responsible for my own behaviour and my >behaviour hasn't been particularly good. > >I have been using alcohol as a coping mechanism quite regularly. I >know it is completely against the rules and even dangerous, as Dr. >Rutledge says. My post MGB eating hasn't changed all that much but I >know the extra calories from the alcohol have contributed to the >weight gain. I have decided that tonight when I go home, I'm going >to pour whatever liquor is in the house down the sink and stop. I'm >not an alcholic (alcoholics go to meetings [j/k]) but I know this >behaviour is hurting me and is wrecking my new-found health. Is >there any sort of check up I can or should have w/ my doctor to see >if I've hurt my pouch or the surgery in anyway? > >It's actually scaring me to post this, but I'm hoping that by sharing >my story I can get some support and maybe some advice 'cause I sure >don't seem to be handling this well on my own. > >Thanks, >Teri Seymour >Dr. R & D Apr 8 2004 >290/174/181 > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 Teri, I'm so sorry to hear about this bad past year and how difficult it has been for you. God bless you and your daughter as you deal with this tragic situation. May He give you peace, strength and wisdom in how to best help your daughter recover from this horrible accident. May He bless both your daughter's and your sleep so this it will be healing and restorative. I don't know really know what else to say, except you are in my prayers. in NC pre-op teris3 <teri.seymour@...> wrote: Hi everyone, I have been away from the group web site for a while. I checked in today because I was curious and ended up finding an incredibly relevant discussion. I have had about a 7 lb bounceback also and I've been struggling with what to do about it. Your advice makes so much sense I feel kinda dumb! I have had some fairly serious life events in the preceding year which is my 2nd year from surgery. In October, my 17 yo daughter was changing a flat tire at the side of the road when she was hit by a drunk driver. Her left leg was severed on impact and resulted in a mid-thigh amputation. We were very fortunate that a police officer witnessed the event and was there to save her life. The surgeons were amazed that there were almost no other injuries given the speed and force with which she was hit. I have been off work for 6 months caring for her and helping her recover. She still has a long way to go with rehab but medically she is now stable. While I am grateful beyond words that she wasn't taken from us, it has been a heartbreaking experience, nonetheless. I tell you this so that when I say the next thing, hopefully people will understand the level of stress that I have been under and not yell at me too much. I'm not using our situation as an excuse - or maybe I am - but I know I am responsible for my own behaviour and my behaviour hasn't been particularly good. I have been using alcohol as a coping mechanism quite regularly. I know it is completely against the rules and even dangerous, as Dr. Rutledge says. My post MGB eating hasn't changed all that much but I know the extra calories from the alcohol have contributed to the weight gain. I have decided that tonight when I go home, I'm going to pour whatever liquor is in the house down the sink and stop. I'm not an alcholic (alcoholics go to meetings [j/k]) but I know this behaviour is hurting me and is wrecking my new-found health. Is there any sort of check up I can or should have w/ my doctor to see if I've hurt my pouch or the surgery in anyway? It's actually scaring me to post this, but I'm hoping that by sharing my story I can get some support and maybe some advice 'cause I sure don't seem to be handling this well on my own. Thanks, Teri Seymour Dr. R & D Apr 8 2004 290/174/181 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 Teri Maybe you can find a support group for parents in your situation. I know if I were in your shoes I'd look for somekind of trauma support group. You're doing the right thing by choosing to stop drinking. Your daughter needs you healthy. I would worry more about the damage to my liver then my pouch. You have another part of the stomach there waiting if you ever needed it but you don't have a second liver. I think it took a lot of courage to admit where you've been and to become proactive in caring for your body and getting rid of the alcohol. BRAVO to you! I hope and pray you and your daughter both find the strength you need to adjust to the curve that's been thrown your way Blessings Cheri Dr R 10/26/05 -- Re: update and wow Teri, I'm so sorry to hear about this bad past year and how difficult it has been for you. God bless you and your daughter as you deal with this tragic situation. May He give you peace, strength and wisdom in how to best help your daughter recover from this horrible accident. May He bless both your daughter's and your sleep so this it will be healing and restorative. I don t know really know what else to say, except you are in my prayers. in NC pre-op teris3 <teri.seymour@...> wrote: Hi everyone, I have been away from the group web site for a while. I checked in today because I was curious and ended up finding an incredibly relevant discussion. I have had about a 7 lb bounceback also and I've been struggling with what to do about it. Your advice makes so much sense I feel kinda dumb! I have had some fairly serious life events in the preceding year which is my 2nd year from surgery. In October, my 17 yo daughter was changing a flat tire at the side of the road when she was hit by a drunk driver. Her left leg was severed on impact and resulted in a mid-thigh amputation. We were very fortunate that a police officer witnessed the event and was there to save her life. The surgeons were amazed that there were almost no other injuries given the speed and force with which she was hit. I have been off work for 6 months caring for her and helping her recover. She still has a long way to go with rehab but medically she is now stable. While I am grateful beyond words that she wasn't taken from us, it has been a heartbreaking experience, nonetheless. I tell you this so that when I say the next thing, hopefully people will understand the level of stress that I have been under and not yell at me too much. I'm not using our situation as an excuse - or maybe I am - but I know I am responsible for my own behaviour and my behaviour hasn't been particularly good. I have been using alcohol as a coping mechanism quite regularly. I know it is completely against the rules and even dangerous, as Dr. Rutledge says. My post MGB eating hasn't changed all that much but I know the extra calories from the alcohol have contributed to the weight gain. I have decided that tonight when I go home, I'm going to pour whatever liquor is in the house down the sink and stop. I'm not an alcholic (alcoholics go to meetings [j/k]) but I know this behaviour is hurting me and is wrecking my new-found health. Is there any sort of check up I can or should have w/ my doctor to see if I've hurt my pouch or the surgery in anyway? It's actually scaring me to post this, but I'm hoping that by sharing my story I can get some support and maybe some advice 'cause I sure don't seem to be handling this well on my own. Thanks, Teri Seymour Dr. R & D Apr 8 2004 290/174/181 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 I pray for you and your sister Felicia often. God has really given her His grace to go through this with such a beautiful attitude. She's very special! Miracles still happen even if they aren't the kind we " THINK " we need! You hang in there for her ! She's blessed to have such a great sister as her support. Blessings Cheri Dr R 10/26/05 -- Re: update and wow Dear Teri, Your actions are more then understandable! I cant imagine the stress you have been through. I cant even begin to imagine that kind of stress. Just remember, the effects of alcohol in the manual, I dont know if it will help but maybe after you pour the alcohol down the sink you could find your manual and read that section again. It is not only endangering your pouch, but your liver is very suseptible to damage right now and you wont be able to take care of anyone if you make yourself sick. Personally, I have been dealing with some stress myself, my little sister is battling for her life against Stage four Inflammatory Breast Cancer. She has been in treatment for almost a year and nothing is working and the cancer continues to spread. Although she ahs a good attitude and we talk everyday about everything, and we pray and pray, things still get stressful. I went to my doctor last year and got a zanax prescription, which I take only when I am feeling stressed out. The funny thing is I started taking it before Felicia, she just got a prescription from her doctor last week! It is nice because you do not have to take it everyday, only when you need it. I will keep you and your daughter in my prayers Teri! And pray you have the strength to stop this self destructive behavior before it cause unreversible damage. Please keep posting! We will help you all we can! in Fla 407/384/279/160 hi/preop/now/goal Sept 1, 2005 Dr Walsh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 I'm so sorry for all you have been through, Teri, and I commend your honesty. While alcohol is indeed not a great thing after MGB, a bigger concern might be that you are drinking regularly to cope with life. I don't need to tell you that this is a prescription for disaster, regardless of MGB status. Have you considered dropping into a support group? AA is the best known, but there are others, and it might help you to be around people with similar concerns. Just a thought. I've sat in a few AA meetings (as part of a pharmacy class I took) and I found it a very uplifting experience. People were kind and inclusive. Whatever you decide to do, I wish you the very best of luck. Keep us posted!! Hugs, Joanie 5/25/04 Drs. Walsh and Rutledge >From: " teris3 " <teri.seymour@...> >Reply- > >Subject: update and wow >Date: Mon, 20 Feb 2006 18:10:42 -0000 > >Hi everyone, > >I have been away from the group web site for a while. I checked in >today because I was curious and ended up finding an incredibly >relevant discussion. I have had about a 7 lb bounceback also and >I've been struggling with what to do about it. Your advice makes so >much sense I feel kinda dumb! > >I have had some fairly serious life events in the preceding year >which is my 2nd year from surgery. In October, my 17 yo daughter was >changing a flat tire at the side of the road when she was hit by a >drunk driver. Her left leg was severed on impact and resulted in a >mid-thigh amputation. We were very fortunate that a police officer >witnessed the event and was there to save her life. The surgeons >were amazed that there were almost no other injuries given the speed >and force with which she was hit. I have been off work for 6 months >caring for her and helping her recover. She still has a long way to >go with rehab but medically she is now stable. While I am grateful >beyond words that she wasn't taken from us, it has been a >heartbreaking experience, nonetheless. > >I tell you this so that when I say the next thing, hopefully people >will understand the level of stress that I have been under and not >yell at me too much. I'm not using our situation as an excuse - or >maybe I am - but I know I am responsible for my own behaviour and my >behaviour hasn't been particularly good. > >I have been using alcohol as a coping mechanism quite regularly. I >know it is completely against the rules and even dangerous, as Dr. >Rutledge says. My post MGB eating hasn't changed all that much but I >know the extra calories from the alcohol have contributed to the >weight gain. I have decided that tonight when I go home, I'm going >to pour whatever liquor is in the house down the sink and stop. I'm >not an alcholic (alcoholics go to meetings [j/k]) but I know this >behaviour is hurting me and is wrecking my new-found health. Is >there any sort of check up I can or should have w/ my doctor to see >if I've hurt my pouch or the surgery in anyway? > >It's actually scaring me to post this, but I'm hoping that by sharing >my story I can get some support and maybe some advice 'cause I sure >don't seem to be handling this well on my own. > >Thanks, >Teri Seymour >Dr. R & D Apr 8 2004 >290/174/181 > > > > > > > _________________________________________________________________ Express yourself instantly with MSN Messenger! Download today - it's FREE! http://messenger.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200471ave/direct/01/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 I have been thinking about you, Teri, since I read your email earlier this afternoon. I am so sorry that your daughter was hurt so badly and that your lives have changed for both of you. I have great empathy for you and understand that, as humans, we find things to help us cope. It sounds like you understand that alcohol is not the best coping mechanism and is, in fact, dangerous. When my mother was dying I was having trouble coping. My coping mechanism was shopping. It was right before Christmas and I know that my children and extended family got EVERYTHING they asked for. It was the best way to cope with my grief but certainly not for my budget. Shortly after she died, my daughter broke her ankle right in the growth plate (she had to take a lot of time off from ballet), then my other daughter was in a bike accident, and my son was diagnosed with a genetic heart disease. I found a grief group and I was finally able to channel my grief and anxiety in a healthier way. I hope that you take good care of yourself during this time and know that we all care about you. This is our MGB family and hopefully a place where we can share our deepest fears and life tragedies as well as the best of times and greatest feelings. Most of us got heavy because food was our comfort and our coping mechanism.......and we have had to find other things to fill that place in us....and hopefully we find healthy ways to do that. But if life serves up things that are hard to deal with while we are learning how to change our bad habits into good ones, we don't always make the best choices. You are incredibly brave to share this with us and letting yourself be so vulnerable. Here is hug for you and your daughter.....God bless you both. Jill Joan Baird <jbair001@...> wrote: I'm so sorry for all you have been through, Teri, and I commend your honesty. While alcohol is indeed not a great thing after MGB, a bigger concern might be that you are drinking regularly to cope with life. I don't need to tell you that this is a prescription for disaster, regardless of MGB status. Have you considered dropping into a support group? AA is the best known, but there are others, and it might help you to be around people with similar concerns. Just a thought. I've sat in a few AA meetings (as part of a pharmacy class I took) and I found it a very uplifting experience. People were kind and inclusive. Whatever you decide to do, I wish you the very best of luck. Keep us posted!! Hugs, Joanie 5/25/04 Drs. Walsh and Rutledge >From: " teris3 " <teri.seymour@...> >Reply- > >Subject: update and wow >Date: Mon, 20 Feb 2006 18:10:42 -0000 > >Hi everyone, > >I have been away from the group web site for a while. I checked in >today because I was curious and ended up finding an incredibly >relevant discussion. I have had about a 7 lb bounceback also and >I've been struggling with what to do about it. Your advice makes so >much sense I feel kinda dumb! > >I have had some fairly serious life events in the preceding year >which is my 2nd year from surgery. In October, my 17 yo daughter was >changing a flat tire at the side of the road when she was hit by a >drunk driver. Her left leg was severed on impact and resulted in a >mid-thigh amputation. We were very fortunate that a police officer >witnessed the event and was there to save her life. The surgeons >were amazed that there were almost no other injuries given the speed >and force with which she was hit. I have been off work for 6 months >caring for her and helping her recover. She still has a long way to >go with rehab but medically she is now stable. While I am grateful >beyond words that she wasn't taken from us, it has been a >heartbreaking experience, nonetheless. > >I tell you this so that when I say the next thing, hopefully people >will understand the level of stress that I have been under and not >yell at me too much. I'm not using our situation as an excuse - or >maybe I am - but I know I am responsible for my own behaviour and my >behaviour hasn't been particularly good. > >I have been using alcohol as a coping mechanism quite regularly. I >know it is completely against the rules and even dangerous, as Dr. >Rutledge says. My post MGB eating hasn't changed all that much but I >know the extra calories from the alcohol have contributed to the >weight gain. I have decided that tonight when I go home, I'm going >to pour whatever liquor is in the house down the sink and stop. I'm >not an alcholic (alcoholics go to meetings [j/k]) but I know this >behaviour is hurting me and is wrecking my new-found health. Is >there any sort of check up I can or should have w/ my doctor to see >if I've hurt my pouch or the surgery in anyway? > >It's actually scaring me to post this, but I'm hoping that by sharing >my story I can get some support and maybe some advice 'cause I sure >don't seem to be handling this well on my own. > >Thanks, >Teri Seymour >Dr. R & D Apr 8 2004 >290/174/181 > > > > > > > _________________________________________________________________ Express yourself instantly with MSN Messenger! Download today - it's FREE! http://messenger.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200471ave/direct/01/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 Teri - I'm not a doctor, but I suggest you see one, tell him/her what you told us and let the professionals help you cope with your stress/depression/etc. I am SO sorry to hear what happened to your daughter - Thank GOD she was not hurt worse and is still here with you! I have three daughters and my heart sank as I read your post. I truly concerned about your alcohol consumption - because it is not only dangerous to your health/liver but it could affect your daily functions and family if it gets out of control. Please take this as loving advice as I am honestly concerned for your health and well being. Take care - please keep me posted and good luck with your daughter - she and you are in my daily thoughts and prayers! Michele in Mid MO 8/3/04 390/195/??? teris3 <teri.seymour@...> wrote: Hi everyone, I have been away from the group web site for a while. I checked in today because I was curious and ended up finding an incredibly relevant discussion. I have had about a 7 lb bounceback also and I've been struggling with what to do about it. Your advice makes so much sense I feel kinda dumb! I have had some fairly serious life events in the preceding year which is my 2nd year from surgery. In October, my 17 yo daughter was changing a flat tire at the side of the road when she was hit by a drunk driver. Her left leg was severed on impact and resulted in a mid-thigh amputation. We were very fortunate that a police officer witnessed the event and was there to save her life. The surgeons were amazed that there were almost no other injuries given the speed and force with which she was hit. I have been off work for 6 months caring for her and helping her recover. She still has a long way to go with rehab but medically she is now stable. While I am grateful beyond words that she wasn't taken from us, it has been a heartbreaking experience, nonetheless. I tell you this so that when I say the next thing, hopefully people will understand the level of stress that I have been under and not yell at me too much. I'm not using our situation as an excuse - or maybe I am - but I know I am responsible for my own behaviour and my behaviour hasn't been particularly good. I have been using alcohol as a coping mechanism quite regularly. I know it is completely against the rules and even dangerous, as Dr. Rutledge says. My post MGB eating hasn't changed all that much but I know the extra calories from the alcohol have contributed to the weight gain. I have decided that tonight when I go home, I'm going to pour whatever liquor is in the house down the sink and stop. I'm not an alcholic (alcoholics go to meetings [j/k]) but I know this behaviour is hurting me and is wrecking my new-found health. Is there any sort of check up I can or should have w/ my doctor to see if I've hurt my pouch or the surgery in anyway? It's actually scaring me to post this, but I'm hoping that by sharing my story I can get some support and maybe some advice 'cause I sure don't seem to be handling this well on my own. Thanks, Teri Seymour Dr. R & D Apr 8 2004 290/174/181 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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