Re: My family isn't happy for me

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Setje

I'm 51 years old, married and have 3 grandchildren and I didn't tell

my parents or brothers for just this reason!

I did my research and knew Dr A was the best of the best, and I didn't

want anyone giving me any lip or any doubts. In fact they still don't

know. I had my gastric by pass with Dr A on 10 Jan 07, and I've never

looked back, I'm down 30 pounds in 5 weeks, and today I'm joining a

gym, Curves.

You must decide what you want and do what you feel is best.

FL

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Setje,I was right where you are about 6 months ago!! My skinny sister and sis-in-law told me I just needed to work out more and eat less. My overweight mother said that it was unwise to travel to Mexico and didn't I think it odd that EVERYONE who cared about me thought this was a bad idea. I was so hurt and angry. If they had done the research they would have seen that Dr. A was a very acceptable choice. But they didn't do the research, they just called to tell me what a bad decision I had made. Oh and the skinny sis-in-law offered to pay the difference in the cost between US and Mexico so I wouldn't go. UGH. I was so frustrated that my very tight knit family, just stopped talking about it. It became the elephant under the rug in the living room at Thanksgiving and at

Christmas. But I found a friend that would go with me and that was the breaking point for my husband, if she went he was OK with me going. I literally didn't talk about it with anyone other than my husband and 13 yr old. I had to talk to my sister that lived in San Diego about it since I was coming to see her before the surgery and I needed to follow the post-op diet while I was at her house, that was just OK.Anyway, I was banded 1/19/07 and after I sent pics of my trip to everyone - the beautiful fountains at the hotel, the wonderful decor and cleanliness of the hospital, the professional van we rode it to Mexicali and back - my sis-in-law asked how I kept myself from writing a big "I TOLD YOU SO" at the end of my album to everyone.I mean literally my family was discussing ALL the hijacking and kidnappings that were happening in Mexico and that I should fear for my life.Oh, I'm sorry I got so long winded but please feel free to

email directly to me if you need anymore support from someone who has been exactly where you are and is now soooo happy I'm on the other side cyrenaweeks@...Take care, Cyrena WeeksDOB:1/19/07(240)230/210/1405 foot, 4 inches, 32 yrs oldwww.mylapbandjourney.com My family isn't happy for me Hi all! I'm new here. I've been reading your posts for the past few days and you all seem like such a happy group of people! I just got my lap-band surgery date with Dr. A on March 15th. I am so excited, but also a little scared. I'm 35 and 240 lbs. and I finally realized that I just can't take off the weight with diet and exercise alone. Anyway, my family doesn't like the idea of me having this procedure. My skinny sister and mother don't seem happy at all, and my dad just called here worried to death asking me if I am making the right decision. He even offered to pay for my lap band if I just don't go to Mexico. I feel uncomfortable with my father paying an outrageous amount of money for me to do this in the U.S.. Anyway, my question is, did anyone meet with resistance from their

family? The people I thought would be happy and supportive of me seem to be disapproving and judgmental. :-( Setje

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Just remember that it is out of pure ignorance that they speak against going to Mexico. Show them the website. Let them do their own research. YOU make the decision for YOU and they will see how off base their ideas are/were once you get back and tell them of your experience. Many families are against this idea out of fear of the unknown. It makes it difficult to go through with it but you have to do what is right for YOU. They will come around eventually. Jenni DOB 2/23/06 247/231/152/145 3 fills 2 unfills setjesusannah <Setje@...> wrote: Hi all! I'm new here. I've been reading your posts for the past few days and you all seem like such a happy group of people! I just got my lap-band surgery date with Dr. A on March 15th. I am so excited, but also a little scared. I'm 35 and 240 lbs. and I finally realized that I just can't take off the weight with diet and exercise alone. Anyway, my family doesn't like the idea of me having this procedure. My skinny sister and mother don't seem happy at all, and my dad just called here worried to death asking me if I am making the right decision. He even offered to pay for my lap band if I just don't go to Mexico. I feel uncomfortable with my father paying an outrageous amount of money for me to do this in the U.S.. Anyway, my question is, did anyone meet with resistance from

their family? The people I thought would be happy and supportive of me seem to be disapproving and judgmental. :-(Setje

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and Cyrena, thank you so much for your input and for making me

feel like I was making the right decision. I can totally relate to

your experiences with the family! Even my boyfriend, who has been

very supportive and is going with me for my surgery, has started to

sing his " you're going to get skinny and hot and leave me " song. But

hey, a little worry is good in a man sometimes! :-)

Something inside me tells me that I can trust Dr. A and his staff,

and the care they will give me, and I'm going with that gut feeling.

My family seems to be warming up to the idea, but I've already gone

into " I'll show you! " mode. I'm determined to have my surgery and

make this band work for me.

Thanks all!

Setje

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> Setje

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> I'm 51 years old, married and have 3 grandchildren and I didn't tell

> my parents or brothers for just this reason!

>

> I did my research and knew Dr A was the best of the best, and I

didn't

> want anyone giving me any lip or any doubts. In fact they still

don't

> know. I had my gastric by pass with Dr A on 10 Jan 07, and I've

never

> looked back, I'm down 30 pounds in 5 weeks, and today I'm joining a

> gym, Curves.

>

> You must decide what you want and do what you feel is best.

>

>

> FL

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Cyrena Weeks

I think what you said was great and well said!

FL

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Again, I'm with you. That was my husband's first reaction "You're going to get skinny and leave me", I know that this stems from an ex-wife that did that exact thing so I can understand his emotions. We're here to support you the whole way, so write to us anytime!! Cyrena Weeks Re: My family isn't happy for me

and Cyrena, thank you so much for your input and for making me

feel like I was making the right decision. I can totally relate to

your experiences with the family! Even my boyfriend, who has been

very supportive and is going with me for my surgery, has started to

sing his "you're going to get skinny and hot and leave me" song. But

hey, a little worry is good in a man sometimes! :-)

Something inside me tells me that I can trust Dr. A and his staff,

and the care they will give me, and I'm going with that gut feeling.

My family seems to be warming up to the idea, but I've already gone

into "I'll show you!" mode. I'm determined to have my surgery and

make this band work for me.

Thanks all!

Setje

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> Setje

>

>

> I'm 51 years old, married and have 3 grandchildren and I didn't tell

> my parents or brothers for just this reason!

>

> I did my research and knew Dr A was the best of the best, and I

didn't

> want anyone giving me any lip or any doubts. In fact they still

don't

> know. I had my gastric by pass with Dr A on 10 Jan 07, and I've

never

> looked back, I'm down 30 pounds in 5 weeks, and today I'm joining a

> gym, Curves.

>

> You must decide what you want and do what you feel is best.

>

>

> FL

>

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Setje

I did tell some friends and I hate to admit this but I know I've lost

one because of it, but she is the jealous type so I'm ok with that.

Anyone who isn't remaining after surgery is ok with me. They must

have not been true friend anyway.

FL

RNY 10 Jan 07

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Hi Setje,

I would tell your Dad this:

"Great! I will take you up on that offer. If you can find a Doctor in the US that is as qualified as Dr. A I will let you pay for it. By qualified, I mean that this US Doctor has had to have performed about the same number of lp procedures with a similar complication percentage."

So now you have put the ball in your Dad's court. After researching this as much as you and I have, he will come to the realization that this is the absolute best choice you can make. He might even call a surgeon or two or three. Wonderful. Let him! The fact of the matter is this: there just are no US doctors remotely as qualified as Dr. Aceves. I'm sure he does'nt want his precious little girl to be a guinne pig for some Dr. that has performed mayby 200 procedures, when she can go to one of the top surgeons in the world with over one thousand and with such a small complication percentage. The numbers speak for themselves. After researching this, he will back you up (and maybe even pay for you to go to Dr. A!!!).

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Setje, No, it is not unusual but it is sad. I find the main problem is that it is MEXICO. Then the problem they don't understand is that YOU HAVE DECIDED YOU NEED MORE HELP THAN JUST DIET AND EXERCISE. Remember, this is coming from your skinny mom and sister. I was originally going to have the bi-pass and talked with my family...big mistake. That was 4 years ago and I did not have the bi-pass for medical reasons. Now I am looking at having the lap-band and only my husband and I know about it. We decided not to tell our kids or family for the obvious reasons. This is your

decision...not theirs. As long as you have done your research and feel comfortable with your decision...go for it!setjesusannah <Setje@...> wrote: Hi all! I'm new here. I've been reading your posts for the past few days and you all seem like such a happy group of people! I just got my lap-band surgery date with Dr. A on March 15th. I am so excited, but also a little scared. I'm 35 and 240 lbs. and I finally realized that I just can't take off the weight with diet and exercise alone. Anyway, my

family doesn't like the idea of me having this procedure. My skinny sister and mother don't seem happy at all, and my dad just called here worried to death asking me if I am making the right decision. He even offered to pay for my lap band if I just don't go to Mexico. I feel uncomfortable with my father paying an outrageous amount of money for me to do this in the U.S.. Anyway, my question is, did anyone meet with resistance from their family? The people I thought would be happy and supportive of me seem to be disapproving and judgmental. :-(Setje

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Hi Setje,

My friends and sister were anxious about my going to Mexico as well. I

am an RN, though, so may have had a little more leverage. I simply

explained that I had done the research and knew what I was getting in

to. If I were you, I would simply tell your family if they love you,

they will trust you to make the decision that's right for you. The

statistics on losing and maintaining with just diet and exercise aren't

good in people who are obese. Just explain that this is a TOOL to help

you do it for life. Tell your Dad if he loves you as much as he seems

to, he'll use the extra $$ he would pay for you to have the procedure

in the US to buy you a new wardrobe when you reach your goal wt (after

having Dr. A. do the surgery)! I had my surgery early this wk and

don't regret it for a minute.

Sincerely,

Andie, Portland, OR.

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Hi Setje, My name is Al and I was banded the same day as Andie. She and her fiancee were well informed about the procedure as well as I. It was a very good experience and I can truthfully say there is no reason to be anxious about going to Mexicali under Dr Aceves and his staffs care.

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Hi Setje,My friends and sister were anxious about my going to Mexico as well. I am an RN, though, so may have had a little more leverage. I simply explained that I had done the research and knew what I was getting in to. If I were you, I would simply tell your family if they love you, they will trust you to make the decision that's right for you. The statistics on losing and maintaining with just diet and exercise aren't good in people who are obese. Just explain that this is a TOOL to help you do it for life. Tell your Dad if he loves you as much as he seems to, he'll use the extra $$ he would pay for you to have the procedure in the US to buy you a new wardrobe when you reach your goal wt (after having Dr. A. do the surgery)! I had my surgery early this wk and don't regret it for a minute.Sincerely,Andie, Portland, OR.

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Thanks - and sorry for the slow response - have been away for a week. Band-day is March 7/07 with Dr A And yes I'm excited/nervous about it. Fortunately my great & patient wife is accompanying me, and I have the week following booked off, with multiple fun sessions planned - 2 day study course, visit w/ sister, 3 day bridge tourney - so hopefully I'll keep busy & distracted.

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Great news Norm. You will so glad Dr. A is your doc. The team is splendid.

All will definitely be well. C Tampa

>From: Norm Facey <nofacey@...>

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>Subject: Re: My family isn't happy for me

>Date: Sat, 17 Feb 2007 23:43:00 -0800 (PST)

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>Thanks - and sorry for the slow response - have been away for a week.

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> Band-day is March 7/07 with Dr A

>

> And yes I'm excited/nervous about it.

> Fortunately my great & patient wife is accompanying me, and I

>have the week following booked off, with multiple fun sessions planned - 2

>day study course, visit w/ sister, 3 day bridge tourney - so hopefully I'll

>keep busy & distracted.

>

>

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