Re: accepting money

[Guest guest]

Wow,

 

I've never been given money, however I was told I'd never make six figures lol. 

I was at a job fair awhile back and filled out paperwork, etc.  I had received a

call recently from the lady I chatted with thinking it would be a good lead.

Instead she told me how she worked in the corporate world and now did something

with small businesses, (not sure what) and she told me because of my disability

and other minorities like me we'd never make six figures in the corporate world,

she listed spanish workers as well.  Oh I was angry at the audacity she had to

even say something so ignorant.  I just basically smiled and nodded (on the

phone lol) and let the convo ended.  I felt sorry for her and her ignorance. I

really wanted to tell her that I knew a few lp's that make six figures or those

who are successful in the corporate world.  

 

When people ask me what the hardest thing is about being an lp, I've always said

it's not my height or the medical issues that go with it, it's the absolute

ignorance people have that make it hard.

 

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From: rrpsap54 <rrpsap@...>

Subject: accepting money

dwarfism

Date: Tuesday, September 2, 2008, 8:28 PM

I was just wondering what the lp's think of this situation that

happened to me.

As I was coming out of an auto parts store going to my car i noticed

this lady talking on her cellphone walking toward the store from her

car. She then started going thru some cash bills while talking and

walking in the parking lot. I thought it kind of careless to be

handling a noticeable amount of cash in this way. As we got closer she

pulls a dollar out says " here for you " . I said no thanks and I didn't

need any and probably made more than her. I kept walking.

Has anybody been offered money just because someone notice we were a

little person? I was wearing nice jeans and a pocket t-shirt. I make a

good income as an jouneyman electrician at Chrysler and other side

jobs. My pride probably made me seem unthankful but it just seemed

wrong. What would you have done.

roger pouliot

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I have not had money offered but I have, on at least a half a dozen

times,

been offered prayers for a cure and been asked if I want to join a

prayer group.

I will admit I have been ungracious about it - have told them to just

pray for themselves - that they

needed more than I - and boldly have asked did they really think God

was going to make me tall tomorrow?

What are they smoking?

In any case, most likely I would have just what you did in the same

circumstance.

Helene

On Sep 2, 2008, at 9:28 PM, rrpsap54 wrote:

> I was just wondering what the lp's think of this situation that

> happened to me.

> As I was coming out of an auto parts store going to my car i noticed

> this lady talking on her cellphone walking toward the store from her

> car. She then started going thru some cash bills while talking and

> walking in the parking lot. I thought it kind of careless to be

> handling a noticeable amount of cash in this way. As we got closer she

> pulls a dollar out says " here for you " . I said no thanks and I didn't

> need any and probably made more than her. I kept walking.

> Has anybody been offered money just because someone notice we were a

> little person? I was wearing nice jeans and a pocket t-shirt. I make a

> good income as an jouneyman electrician at Chrysler and other side

> jobs. My pride probably made me seem unthankful but it just seemed

> wrong. What would you have done.

>

> roger pouliot

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Well, there's the old English expression, " A fool and his money are

soon parted. "

I would have take the dollar and dropped into a charity jar, hopefully

one at the store so the woman can see you do it.

Once, I was eating dinner with some friends at a local diner, and when

I went to the restroom, a patron who'd been sitting behind us came up

to my friends and said, " I'm a wealthy man. I'd like to help your

friend out. Can I send him a check, or buy him something he needs?

Like a house? "

My friends said, " Oh no, he's got a good job. He's quite able. "

Now, I don't know if the guy was a nutjob or an eccentric rich guy,

but when my friends told me what happened, I said, " What the hell?

I'll take his money! Don't speak on my behalf. "

Just kidding. I probably would have said the same thing... Maybe... <vbg>

Bill

[Guest guest]

Darn! So much for good friends!

> Once, I was eating dinner with some friends at a local diner, and

when I went to the restroom, a patron who'd been sitting behind us

came up to my friends and said, " I'm a wealthy man. I'd like to help

your friend out. Can I send him a check, or buy him something he

needs? Like a house? "

>

> My friends said, " Oh no, he's got a good job. He's quite able. " <

[Guest guest]

This has only happened to me once.

I was waiting for the city bus (my car was in the shop) to go to work.

I'm dressed in a clean, professional, tidy fashion and some gaunt lady

who looks on her last legs, sucking on a cigarette asks me if I need

bus fare? I was taken aback and said " no thank you, I'm fine. " while thinking

lady, I could buy and sell you about 3 times before breakfast. How awful of me.

-marty

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[Guest guest]

I too have been given money from a stranger.  It only happened one time about 15

years ago I had an elderly man stop and approach me while I was waiting in line

at Walgreens.  He was mumbling and I have no idea what he said then he patted me

on the head and handed me a dollar bill.  At the time I was a teenager and I

think I was so surprised I responded with " A dollar bill what am I going to do

with a single dollar bil?. "   I handed the money back to him and he stood there

and watched me check out.  I got up to the register, pulled out a $20 paid for

my items and just smiled at him and walked out.  I remember him just standing

there in total awe and watched me drive away.

 April Brazier

[Guest guest]

I've had about it all happen to me for my being an lp.

Money offered.

Prayers offered.

To totally avoided, to the point that if he saw me on the same side

of the street as he was he would cross it so he was opposite me.

Because he thought I was being punished by God in my previous life as

an ap, so rather than God sending me to hell, He sent me back as an lp

to pay for my past sins (whatever they were as he never told me or my

friend who was also a friend of his). BUT, upon my finding this out I

totally avoided him too! lol

To having a young boy (ap), prolly 8, 9, or the 10, flip out and cry

sooo much and sooo loud upon seeing me enter a Pizza Hut and sitting

in a booth opposite his family's table, that his family were sooo

embarrassed by it and that they couldn't calm him down they left the

restaurant. And to this day, I can not figure out why that happen as I

was in a strange town, known by no one there, and obviously it wasn't

never explained to me too. All I could ever surmise is that the little

guy, perhaps, had a bad encounter with an lp in real life, or those

lps he did see were like the creepy/scary ones in movies as it was a

rural town where prolly not many if any lps lived there by genetic

chance alone.

To being mistaken for a 'shrub' by an kid (ap). haha Now, that was

funny, I have to admit myself!

To being at a town's children's Halloween party with my niece who was

4 at the time and being bored, I was sitting on a stairwell waiting

for it to end, haha, and having another female kid (ap), the same age,

come up to and say with the straightest face ever, not laughing, and

sooo adorably ask me, " Was I real? " To which I replied, " Real, what do

you mean? " And she said back, " Was I in costume like the rest of us

(meaning her peers), or was I real... looking the way I did, " that. I

almost fell over! haha Still, even with that, I laughed and said, " No,

honey, I am real, " as I couldn't get mad, she was a kid. And with that

reply of mine, she was happy and walked away as if nothing was even

strange for her to even ask someone that!

To recently being in a southern state in a seaside touristy town

sitting still on a bench, though I have to admit, next to me on the

same bench was a fake mermaid, a little girl walked by with her mom

and said out loud, " Did you see him? He looked real! " haha To which

her mom said, " I was. " haha

To positive things said to me, well, I guess some might call positive

and others maybe not sooo much?

To having people come up to me for advice about their lives, as they

thought I was psychic, or they must've thought all lps had that gift,

I guess?

To thinking just the opposite, not that I was poor and needed money,

but that I was rich and/or famous just from my being an lp, as I was

either in the movies or I was mistaken for one who was in that

occupation. Ten years ago, I was sitting outside nightclub on a curb

and I had 3 ladies (ap), friends to each other, come up to me asking

me for my autograph, swearing that they knew me as some famous singer

lp, and to this day I still don't know who they meant. But, I told

them I wasn't him and they said that I was lying, no joke, and I just

didn't want to be bothered, so they walked away.

To thinking that I was lucky, and they wanted me around them for that.

To sharing anything and everything with me, meaning their personal

lives, as they felt, I guess, that my being an lp, they could open up

to me and share anything... as if I was everyone's universal big

brother. hehe Because we all know that all lps are the most

friendliest and amiable people on the planet!

The only thing I haven't had asked, was if I was willing to be in an

exorcism, haha, because being an lp, again, I must not be right with

God, so I prolly have some demon living in me. Hence, the need for an

exorcism.... But, I'm waiting for even to happen one day too though! haha

I've had about it all ask and/or assumed of me, and it all from just

from my being an lp too:).

luv, grady

[Guest guest]

I didn't want to state the obvious, but maybe this wasn't so obvious

after all..

Has anyone given the thought that there may be LP's who " panhandle "

or beg for money in other not-so-fortunate countries? Can we

really " blame " strangers for wanting to give us money if this is what

they were exposed to? Maybe they're not so educated, but one would

have to look at it in context:

I've seen other disabled people beg for money in the crowded streets

and markets of Taiwan and China, who were not so far off in

disability. So I'm assuming it is likely there are LP's in other

nations, esp. less fortunate ones where LPs do panhandle and are

homeless.

So one would conclude that those foriegners in the U.S. see us in a

far different light than what we are used to in America? (where there

is no TLC, the Mini-Me's and the U.S. media) Or do we condemn them

for not being educated enough and not having to stereotype us as a

diversfied group? As LP's, it is easy to forget how " easy " we have it

in America compared to other 2nd and 3rd world nations.

Irene

> Re:accepting money

> dwarfism

>

> > Oh yea...happened to me. About 2 years ago, shopping on

Michigan

> > Avenue in

> > Chicago. I'm dressed well, in a pretty pricey power chair, with

a

> > shopping

> > bag over my arm waiting for a friend who was inside the store.

> > I'm finishing

> > up a Starbucks and a woman who was not from the U.S. attempted

to

> > give me a

> > dollar. Blew me away.

> >

> >

> > Kate Wolters

> >

> >

> >

> > **************It's only a deal if it's where you want to go. Find

> > your travel

> > deal here.

> > (http://information.travel.aol.com/deals?

ncid=aoltrv00050000000047)

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Hi Irene and all,

 

You do make a great point, we are lucky to live in the ole USA and there is less

education about disabilities in other countries. I think I would give those

people slack if they did that to me.  I think I'd take it more from an American

who seems reasonably smart.

 

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[Guest guest]

It really is frustrating but I think most of the time there is a reason

someone is still behaving in this way. As Irene pointed out there are some

in 3rd world countries that really struggle to stay alive and I think it is

also a generation gap as well. My grandparents referred to me as crippled

pretty regularly which was quite a shock to me and my family. Also, just

last week I was talking to one of my nurses and she told me that many months

ago there was an instance where her son had used the word midget and when

she was telling me that story I had explained to her why that word is no

longer suitable in our day and age. She, like a lot of people, had no idea

and that conversation is very much imbedded in her mind now and she corrects

people when hears the M word used. I was delighted, especially since I

barely remember that original conversation LOL!!!

So, even today with all the educating that is going on via the media we

still have to keep educating where we can. I am shocked to hear about that

costume with Oriental Trading especially since I use their services fairly

often. I hope someone has written them a letter. I know I probably will

since I am one of their patrons. Hopefully, like other instances, it is

just a matter of ignorance, and will be quickly changed, although I am aware

that many not happen.

Keep on keeping on Grady! I like your spirit!

Danette

From: dwarfism [mailto:dwarfism ]

Sent: Thursday, September 04, 2008 8:32 AM

dwarfism

Subject: Digest Number 4113

I didn't want to state the obvious, but maybe this wasn't so obvious

after all..

Has anyone given the thought that there may be LP's who " panhandle "

or beg for money in other not-so-fortunate countries? Can we

really " blame " strangers for wanting to give us money if this is what

they were exposed to? Maybe they're not so educated, but one would

have to look at it in context:

I've seen other disabled people beg for money in the crowded streets

and markets of Taiwan and China, who were not so far off in

disability. So I'm assuming it is likely there are LP's in other

nations, esp. less fortunate ones where LPs do panhandle and are

homeless.

So one would conclude that those foriegners in the U.S. see us in a

far different light than what we are used to in America? (where there

is no TLC, the Mini-Me's and the U.S. media) Or do we condemn them

for not being educated enough and not having to stereotype us as a

diversfied group? As LP's, it is easy to forget how " easy " we have it

in America compared to other 2nd and 3rd world nations.

Irene

[Guest guest]

Since the “M” word has come up I would like to relate and pleasing and

astonishing thing that happened to me last week. As most of you know I’m

an AP married to an LP and am sensitive to the fact that most AP’s have

no idea that the “M” word is not well received by many LP’s.

Anyway, I’m dealing poker and one of the players at the table says

something like “You’d have to be a midget to fit in there (a space).”

Not mean, he just meant short. Before I could say a word another player

at the table corrected him saying, “I don’t think little people are

called midgets anymore.” I finished the hand and then asked him, so the

whole table could hear, why he knew that. He said, “It’s just common

knowledge.” Finally, it’s seeping through. The guy who uttered the

offensive word was silent throughout the rest of my down but tipped well.

Marty, the tall one who deals the right hands.

[Guest guest]

Excuse me, and not to get off topic completely, because it is somewhat

still in line with it. But, can someone on here spare me a dollar,

which I'll gladly pay back next Tuesday, for a hamburger today?

I couldn't resists!

[Guest guest]

LOL Wonderful post Marty! I can just imagine lee though right there with

you saying something back with her awesome wisecracks!

Hope you guys are doing well!

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