Guest guest Posted May 30, 2001 Report Share Posted May 30, 2001 Maggi, Sounds like you are normal to me We all have to, sooner or later, realize that we spent too much time and energy with our old bud food. I think I had to face it earlier...about week 2 I had a 2 day I WANT TO RIP THIS SURGERY OUT bout..I wanted that food SOO much. What I did instead of ripping it out was find somewhere to put all that old energy...I started exercising. I gotta say I am glad I did and do not miss my friend too much anymore. Oh, there are still days I think " Geez, it would be nice to be able to strap on a big ol meal " but that is a fleeting thought today, one I laugh away when I realize that that kind of " stinkin thinkin " is what got me so obese!! Morbidly so! We spent SOO many hours thinking, plotting and eatting ...so much HEAD time with food, that it is natural to have an emptiness there. Find something you enjoy doing, be it a hobby, an exercise program or a class and concentrate on it! Hugs and best wishes... in aRk 3-08 322-262 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 30, 2001 Report Share Posted May 30, 2001 Dear Maggi, You're doing just fine. Changing our relationship with food is a trying process. Trying in both senses of the word. Like many good friends, some are better than they first appear, some less so. Food is less so. If it were such a good friend, how'd we get here? But it is necessary, and so it is our best friend in some ways. All this jibberish to say that you've come through the worse part, honest. Now you will begin to experience the pure joy of never having to diet again and the joy of a life where food isn't even close to central. It's just necessary. And it's pleasurable. But not as much as feeling healthy; or looking good; or wearing that cute little size whatever. You've made it through the first 2 months, which I think everyone says are the hardest and definitely were for me. It's almost all uphill from here, and the mourning process will soon resolve. Great job, Maggi. PhillyJude MGB 11-3-00 263/200.5 (you think I will ever get into the 100's?)/144 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 30, 2001 Report Share Posted May 30, 2001 Maggi, Terrific ! Substitute a new " best " friend for your food. Like new size cloths, exercize, etc. I read a lot of women on this list spend a great deal of time looking at, trying on smaller size clothes that haven't been able to wear in years. It sounds like great fun to me. Although I've never been a " clothes horse " , suits & white shirts w/tie for work for 34 years. Now just slacks & shirts. A sport jacket for church - but that's about it. I never did shop for clothes. For the past 25 years I shopped from the " King Size " catalog, and it would just be to pick out what was on sale. Keep up the good work. You'll learn to get over the loss of your friend when you start to feel the advantages of weighing loss - more energy, etc. Warmest Regards, TommyB PS: By the way - I'm now fully over the loss of my friend 'food' either, but it's getting close. Feeling a Little Blue > Well, I finally got back on the Post Op list. Unfortunately, my first post > is to solicit some support. I'm about 2 1/2 months post op and I am grieving > the loss of my best friend -- food. I know that I made the right decision to > have the MGB, but it has forever changed my relationship with food. I find > it strange that I can eat anything my body will tolerate after dealing with a > lifetime of diets and deprivation. I no longer get the sugar highs, can't > eat that much. Foods I used to love are no longer appealing. My therapist > says that I am mourning the loss of an intimate relationship. Makes sense to > me. > > I know that I am not the only one to feel this way, so if anyone can give me > words of wisdom on how you handled this, I would greatly appreciate it. > > Now the good news, I've lost about 32 pounds and can eat just about anything > as long as the texture is soft/liquidy. I am venturing out to more solid > foods with mixed results. > > Maggi > MGB 3/19/01 > 268/236/155 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 30, 2001 Report Share Posted May 30, 2001 MAGGI In time this too shall pass........it will subside. For me I was so frustrated because food would no longer give me the " satisfaction " I was looking for. The head hunger made me very depressed,I wanted more than 3 bites and gezzz was pizza a dissaointment.... so you are not alone. BUT, it will blow your mind in a few more months or maybe weeks for you on how food is no longer the priority of your life. It will no longer be an issue. You will not be planning your life around food. I still have cravings and for some reason I can still eat my favorite and a heaping of it too(crab leggs no butter) I did something the other day that was so " normal " as of a thin person would do, I gave up (something I dont remember I think it was my favorite lunch. My 14 yr old was still hunger and wanted a 3rd helping, well, he's thin he could do and IT DID NT BOTHER ME THAT I WAS FOODLESS!!!! UNREAL!!! THANK YOU MGB!!!!Do it all over again in an hearbeat!!!! Lori one yr tomorrow In @y..., bookimps@a... wrote: > Well, I finally got back on the Post Op list. Unfortunately, my first post > is to solicit some support. I'm about 2 1/2 months post op and I am grieving > the loss of my best friend -- food. I know that I made the right decision to > have the MGB, but it has forever changed my relationship with food. I find > it strange that I can eat anything my body will tolerate after dealing with a > lifetime of diets and deprivation. I no longer get the sugar highs, can't > eat that much. Foods I used to love are no longer appealing. My therapist > says that I am mourning the loss of an intimate relationship. Makes sense to > me. > > I know that I am not the only one to feel this way, so if anyone can give me > words of wisdom on how you handled this, I would greatly appreciate it. > > Now the good news, I've lost about 32 pounds and can eat just about anything > as long as the texture is soft/liquidy. I am venturing out to more solid > foods with mixed results. > > Maggi > MGB 3/19/01 > 268/236/155 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 30, 2001 Report Share Posted May 30, 2001 Hi Lori, Maggi, Food doesn't appeal to me either. If I had my way, I wouldn't eat, but since that is not smart, I have to consciously think about eating. Plus, with working, I find it even harder to keep it in mind. *grin* What a nice problem lol. aW Re: Feeling a Little Blue MAGGI In time this too shall pass........it will subside. For me I was so frustrated because food would no longer give me the " satisfaction " I was looking for. The head hunger made me very depressed,I wanted more than 3 bites and gezzz was pizza a dissaointment.... so you are not alone. BUT, it will blow your mind in a few more months or maybe weeks for you on how food is no longer the priority of your life. It will no longer be an issue. You will not be planning your life around food. I still have cravings and for some reason I can still eat my favorite and a heaping of it too(crab leggs no butter) I did something the other day that was so " normal " as of a thin person would do, I gave up (something I dont remember I think it was my favorite lunch. My 14 yr old was still hunger and wanted a 3rd helping, well, he's thin he could do and IT DID NT BOTHER ME THAT I WAS FOODLESS!!!! UNREAL!!! THANK YOU MGB!!!!Do it all over again in an hearbeat!!!! Lori one yr tomorrow In @y..., bookimps@a... wrote: > Well, I finally got back on the Post Op list. Unfortunately, my first post > is to solicit some support. I'm about 2 1/2 months post op and I am grieving > the loss of my best friend -- food. I know that I made the right decision to > have the MGB, but it has forever changed my relationship with food. I find > it strange that I can eat anything my body will tolerate after dealing with a > lifetime of diets and deprivation. I no longer get the sugar highs, can't > eat that much. Foods I used to love are no longer appealing. My therapist > says that I am mourning the loss of an intimate relationship. Makes sense to > me. > > I know that I am not the only one to feel this way, so if anyone can give me > words of wisdom on how you handled this, I would greatly appreciate it. > > Now the good news, I've lost about 32 pounds and can eat just about anything > as long as the texture is soft/liquidy. I am venturing out to more solid > foods with mixed results. > > Maggi > MGB 3/19/01 > 268/236/155 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 30, 2001 Report Share Posted May 30, 2001 Maggi: Don't worry, I also felt I had lost a friend without my old food habits. But the magic of the MGB is that you will be able to eat almost anything in a few months. You will prefer healthier foods. And you will become thinner and healthier. These advantages will overwhelm any feelings you have about your old " food friend " . It will happen - I promise! Ann Parham Barton Subject: Feeling a Little Blue Well, I finally got back on the Post Op list. Unfortunately, my first post is to solicit some support. I'm about 2 1/2 months post op and I am grieving the loss of my best friend -- food. I know that I made the right decision to have the MGB, but it has forever changed my relationship with food. I find it strange that I can eat anything my body will tolerate after dealing with a lifetime of diets and deprivation. I no longer get the sugar highs, can't eat that much. Foods I used to love are no longer appealing. My therapist says that I am mourning the loss of an intimate relationship. Makes sense to me. I know that I am not the only one to feel this way, so if anyone can give me words of wisdom on how you handled this, I would greatly appreciate it. Now the good news, I've lost about 32 pounds and can eat just about anything as long as the texture is soft/liquidy. I am venturing out to more solid foods with mixed results. Maggi MGB 3/19/01 268/236/155 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 30, 2001 Report Share Posted May 30, 2001 Hi Maggie, I know how you feel, but you have to remember, you ARE NOT greiving your BEST friend. If food were your friend, it would not have gotten you into the body that you are in now. I sometimes feels depressed about what I cannot eat anymore when we're at a social event and everyone's eating. I just keep trying to remember that my metabolism is so much slower than everybody else's and I had this surgery for a reason! Are you seeing a therapist now? If you are, relate some of your fears to him/her to help releive your suffering. Hang in there! It'll all be worth it! Kisses, in Charlotte Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 30, 2001 Report Share Posted May 30, 2001 Dear Maggi-- I too have mourned for food. My favorite was pizza and a steak, cheese, and mushroom sandwich from Grandpa Tony's. Food for me food was comfort. Even though I wasn't a big food lover, I still mourn for these foods--esp. ice cream. Only now if I want ice cream, I go to the local dairy and get a scoop in stead of a big bowl out of the freezer. And that seems to do me. I can take it or leave it. As the days go by (I'm 2 months post-op) I find it easier to say no to food. Mostly because I hate vomiting. Chicken does well with me as does ground round or ground sirloin scramble up (like in tacos). Bread doesn't do a thing for me except to come back up. Except if it is grainy bread. Salads and Cole slaw sit well with me also. It does seem to get better. I have good days and bad days. I think most of us do. Peace to all. Caron Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 30, 2001 Report Share Posted May 30, 2001 Maggi, I expected to feel like you do, but it hasn't been too bad for me. I actually look at my reduced food intake as something that makes me more normal. I'm no longer the one who eats the most at meals. I almost always eat the least. When I throw my leftovers away it makes me feel good about myself because I'm no longer compelled to eat every bite. Good luck in changing the way you look at your food intake. Congratulations on your weight loss. Molly 3/15/01 269/221 > Well, I finally got back on the Post Op list. Unfortunately, my first post > is to solicit some support. I'm about 2 1/2 months post op and I am grieving > the loss of my best friend -- food. I know that I made the right decision to > have the MGB, but it has forever changed my relationship with food. I find > it strange that I can eat anything my body will tolerate after dealing with a > lifetime of diets and deprivation. I no longer get the sugar highs, can't > eat that much. Foods I used to love are no longer appealing. My therapist > says that I am mourning the loss of an intimate relationship. Makes sense to > me. > > I know that I am not the only one to feel this way, so if anyone can give me > words of wisdom on how you handled this, I would greatly appreciate it. > > Now the good news, I've lost about 32 pounds and can eat just about anything > as long as the texture is soft/liquidy. I am venturing out to more solid > foods with mixed results. > > Maggi > MGB 3/19/01 > 268/236/155 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 30, 2001 Report Share Posted May 30, 2001 Hi Maggi, I have been there, done that, moved on, and came back! LOL I too mourned food, and still do on occasion. Most days I'm very happy that I can't eat much and other days it really depresses me. Go figure! I especially mourn when I pay for a meal and end up tossing most of it. Funny how you think you can eat as much as you ever did and boom, tummy ache!!!!!!!! after only eating about 1/4 to 1/2 of what you use to think was small portions! I remember going out to eat and thinking, boy they sure don't give you much! and now I find myself thinking what are they doing piling all that food on a plate for one person! Gee, the changes we are faced with. I don't know about other people on this list but I know I found myself feeling sorry for me cause I couldn't eat much and still do sometimes but I did find a cure thanks to some people from the list, popcorn! You can eat huge quantities of it and it lets you chew and chew and chew. If you haven't tried it, give it a shot when you start feeling like you are missing the " lover food " ) It always cheers me up. I guess I missed the enjoyment of just eating and popcorn does the trick for me. Hope you feel better soon, cause blue is not a fun color! I opt for yellow or orange! **smile** Rosemary Locklear Feeling a Little Blue > Well, I finally got back on the Post Op list. Unfortunately, my first post > is to solicit some support. I'm about 2 1/2 months post op and I am grieving > the loss of my best friend -- food. I know that I made the right decision to > have the MGB, but it has forever changed my relationship with food. I find > it strange that I can eat anything my body will tolerate after dealing with a > lifetime of diets and deprivation. I no longer get the sugar highs, can't > eat that much. Foods I used to love are no longer appealing. My therapist > says that I am mourning the loss of an intimate relationship. Makes sense to > me. > > I know that I am not the only one to feel this way, so if anyone can give me > words of wisdom on how you handled this, I would greatly appreciate it. > > Now the good news, I've lost about 32 pounds and can eat just about anything > as long as the texture is soft/liquidy. I am venturing out to more solid > foods with mixed results. > > Maggi > MGB 3/19/01 > 268/236/155 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 31, 2001 Report Share Posted May 31, 2001 No doubt. I agree that food was a comfort till it made me miserable. I can live without what I cannot have. Think of all those bad food habits as an addiction, no more alcohol, no more drugs for the addict. We must deal with life throws us, not overeat to make us forget or feel comfort. We have to say so long and maybe treat the depression that is common to the bad habits. I love having these support groups online and local. I certainly appreciate everyone's advice. O. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 31, 2001 Report Share Posted May 31, 2001 The hard thing about food addiction is that you can't just give up food. Wouldn't life be grand! I always compared myself to a drug addict, but never quit realized that there is a difference until someone pointed it out to me, Ginny I think. > No doubt. I agree that food was a comfort till it made me miserable. I can > live without what I cannot have. Think of all those bad food habits as an > addiction, no more alcohol, no more drugs for the addict. We must deal with > life throws us, not overeat to make us forget or feel comfort. We have to say > so long and maybe treat the depression that is common to the bad habits. I > love having these support groups online and local. I certainly appreciate > everyone's advice. O. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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