Guest guest Posted May 17, 2001 Report Share Posted May 17, 2001 I went to the Bon Jovi concert Sunday night(had a great time, and even got backstage passes to meet SR-71). Anyway, even going to this concert isn't something I would have even CONSIDERED in March. While waiting for the concert to start, I was standing by some guys who said " How does some one get that F***ing fat " . Of course I just knew they were talking about me, and I was crushed, when he continued by saying " Look at that girl in the purple shirt " I knew they weren't talking about me " . Now, I'm BIG, don't get me wrong, and I still cried for the girl they were talking about, but it felt nice not to be pointed out for my weight. Later in the concert, the camera guys even put this girl on the jumbotron. I always knew that obese people were so terribly made fun of, but I guess it is something I was always in denial about, or just didn't like to think about it. Also... I'm about to start feeding my hubby cake. When I had surgery I was abot 30 lbs heavier than JT, now I'm getting smaller, and so is he. Right when I catch up with him, he looses a couple of more lbs. He's lost about 12 lbs since surgery, we're both floating around 255. I WILL BE SKINNIER than HE. No, seriously, I hope that he loses weight right along with me. I've seen before and after pictures of a's husband, and he also looks to have lost a couple of lbs. I do catch myself feeling badly about things I say to . Like the other day, he ate a sub in 2 bites. He's become more aware of what he eats through my experiences. And last night when we went out to eat, I pushed my left overs to him, and he instinctively started eating, and then asked me to remove them. I'm very proud of him. Well, I think that's about it for now...only that I'm still horrible about eating. It's noon, and I haven't had anything to eat today. I'm trying very hard to get out of that old habit, but it isn't working. It seems that something as simple as eating breakfast should be easy compared to altering your digestive system in order to be healthy. in VA 288/253 3/12/01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 17, 2001 Report Share Posted May 17, 2001 amanda, I got chest pains thinking about that girl!!!! That's the reason that most of us stayed in our homes and let people walk all over us, so that we wouldn't direct attention to ourselves. recent experiences I went to the Bon Jovi concert Sunday night(had a great time, and even got backstage passes to meet SR-71). Anyway, even going to this concert isn't something I would have even CONSIDERED in March. While waiting for the concert to start, I was standing by some guys who said " How does some one get that F***ing fat " . Of course I just knew they were talking about me, and I was crushed, when he continued by saying " Look at that girl in the purple shirt " I knew they weren't talking about me " . Now, I'm BIG, don't get me wrong, and I still cried for the girl they were talking about, but it felt nice not to be pointed out for my weight. Later in the concert, the camera guys even put this girl on the jumbotron. I always knew that obese people were so terribly made fun of, but I guess it is something I was always in denial about, or just didn't like to think about it. Also... I'm about to start feeding my hubby cake. When I had surgery I was abot 30 lbs heavier than JT, now I'm getting smaller, and so is he. Right when I catch up with him, he looses a couple of more lbs. He's lost about 12 lbs since surgery, we're both floating around 255. I WILL BE SKINNIER than HE. No, seriously, I hope that he loses weight right along with me. I've seen before and after pictures of a's husband, and he also looks to have lost a couple of lbs. I do catch myself feeling badly about things I say to . Like the other day, he ate a sub in 2 bites. He's become more aware of what he eats through my experiences. And last night when we went out to eat, I pushed my left overs to him, and he instinctively started eating, and then asked me to remove them. I'm very proud of him. Well, I think that's about it for now...only that I'm still horrible about eating. It's noon, and I haven't had anything to eat today. I'm trying very hard to get out of that old habit, but it isn't working. It seems that something as simple as eating breakfast should be easy compared to altering your digestive system in order to be healthy. in VA 288/253 3/12/01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 17, 2001 Report Share Posted May 17, 2001 , That's the exact reason I stayed home too. I haven't done anything that people my age have been doing. I didn't go to clubs in college, I went to an all girls college so not to have to deal with comments from guys. I hated going anywhere. I did eventually go to Mississippi State, and I every day I heard a different comment. I learned which halls to take when so as to not to pass crowds of people. I went to one football game, but after a horrible experience there, I never went back. Now I feel so fortunate. Fortunate that I was able to make a decision to have WLS, so that I can reclaim my life. I can go to clubs, and concerts, and dancing. I will go to the beach, to amusement parks. I will hike the AT, I will get back to repelling, I will go rock climbing. That's why I thank God everytime someone says " I wish this surgery had been available when I was younger " . Just the 30+ lbs I have lost have made HUGE differences in my self esteem. I still can't go out and join a health club, I even made the appointment and didn't go. I feel like the lady who posted that said that she was emabarassed to buy the size 14 jeans. I still feel that I'm not worthy enough, or that I would just be setting myself up for ridicule if I joined one, I'd be thinking about what everyone was thinking about me the entire time. This is why I AM SOOOO proud of . She has been able to take charge of her health, and I'm still waiting to get to that point with as my inspiration. So while I still have problems with self esteem. I took pictures last week to update my MGB friends picture, and I HATED it. I've been trying to scan it to send in to Tricia. My husband and my best friend just Gawk at the difference(at the time i was 28 lbs down). People are starting to notice, but I'm starting to notice the changes in my emotional health already... but I still have a long way to go. > amanda, I got chest pains thinking about that girl!!!! That's the reason > that most of us stayed in our homes and let people walk all over us, so that > we wouldn't direct attention to ourselves. > > recent experiences > > > I went to the Bon Jovi concert Sunday night(had a great time, and > even got backstage passes to meet SR-71). Anyway, even going to this > concert isn't something I would have even CONSIDERED in March. While > waiting for the concert to start, I was standing by some guys who > said " How does some one get that F***ing fat " . Of course I just knew > they were talking about me, and I was crushed, when he continued by > saying " Look at that girl in the purple shirt " I knew they weren't > talking about me " . Now, I'm BIG, don't get me wrong, and I still > cried for the girl they were talking about, but it felt nice not to > be pointed out for my weight. Later in the concert, the camera guys > even put this girl on the jumbotron. I always knew that obese people > were so terribly made fun of, but I guess it is something I was > always in denial about, or just didn't like to think about it. > > Also... I'm about to start feeding my hubby cake. When I had surgery > I was abot 30 lbs heavier than JT, now I'm getting smaller, and so is > he. Right when I catch up with him, he looses a couple of more lbs. > He's lost about 12 lbs since surgery, we're both floating around > 255. I WILL BE SKINNIER than HE. No, seriously, I hope that he loses > weight right along with me. I've seen before and after pictures of > a's husband, and he also looks to have lost a couple of lbs. I > do catch myself feeling badly about things I say to . Like the > other day, he ate a sub in 2 bites. He's become more aware of what > he eats through my experiences. And last night when we went out to > eat, I pushed my left overs to him, and he instinctively started > eating, and then asked me to remove them. I'm very proud of him. > > Well, I think that's about it for now...only that I'm still horrible > about eating. It's noon, and I haven't had anything to eat today. > I'm trying very hard to get out of that old habit, but it isn't > working. It seems that something as simple as eating breakfast > should be easy compared to altering your digestive system in order to > be healthy. > > in VA > 288/253 > 3/12/01 > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 17, 2001 Report Share Posted May 17, 2001 , when I joined my gym, It was just prior to surgery and I did it hoping that my package would more readily be approved. I was 286 that day and when the girl showed me around, I had my 22 year old son accompany me and then when the woman brought me into the middle of the place, I asked her if we could go inside the office because I felt that everyone was staring at me. When I first went there, it was after I lost about 30 lbs and I realized that nobody was looking at me and they were more interested in themselves. There were even gals there as big as I am and that helped. I always keep a hand towel with me so that when I sweat, I can wipe it away so nobody thinks I am sweating because I am " fat " , oh how we have suffered!!!! I hope to God that society changes and/or the medical field can fix this situation for others in the near future so nobody has to suffer like this much longer. Vellucci 286/280/199/135 (God willing) recent experiences > > > I went to the Bon Jovi concert Sunday night(had a great time, and > even got backstage passes to meet SR-71). Anyway, even going to this > concert isn't something I would have even CONSIDERED in March. While > waiting for the concert to start, I was standing by some guys who > said " How does some one get that F***ing fat " . Of course I just knew > they were talking about me, and I was crushed, when he continued by > saying " Look at that girl in the purple shirt " I knew they weren't > talking about me " . Now, I'm BIG, don't get me wrong, and I still > cried for the girl they were talking about, but it felt nice not to > be pointed out for my weight. Later in the concert, the camera guys > even put this girl on the jumbotron. I always knew that obese people > were so terribly made fun of, but I guess it is something I was > always in denial about, or just didn't like to think about it. > > Also... I'm about to start feeding my hubby cake. When I had surgery > I was abot 30 lbs heavier than JT, now I'm getting smaller, and so is > he. Right when I catch up with him, he looses a couple of more lbs. > He's lost about 12 lbs since surgery, we're both floating around > 255. I WILL BE SKINNIER than HE. No, seriously, I hope that he loses > weight right along with me. I've seen before and after pictures of > a's husband, and he also looks to have lost a couple of lbs. I > do catch myself feeling badly about things I say to . Like the > other day, he ate a sub in 2 bites. He's become more aware of what > he eats through my experiences. And last night when we went out to > eat, I pushed my left overs to him, and he instinctively started > eating, and then asked me to remove them. I'm very proud of him. > > Well, I think that's about it for now...only that I'm still horrible > about eating. It's noon, and I haven't had anything to eat today. > I'm trying very hard to get out of that old habit, but it isn't > working. It seems that something as simple as eating breakfast > should be easy compared to altering your digestive system in order to > be healthy. > > in VA > 288/253 > 3/12/01 > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 17, 2001 Report Share Posted May 17, 2001 Try a half cup of raisen bran with skim milk for breakfast. Dr. R recommended this as being healthy for us. It isn't much, but it sure does make a difference. I get Total Raisen Bran for the extra vitamins and minerals as well as the bran in it. And now I don't even want sugar--it is really sweet all by itself. That is a change also. Pat recent experiences I went to the Bon Jovi concert Sunday night(had a great time, and even got backstage passes to meet SR-71). Anyway, even going to this concert isn't something I would have even CONSIDERED in March. While waiting for the concert to start, I was standing by some guys who said " How does some one get that F***ing fat " . Of course I just knew they were talking about me, and I was crushed, when he continued by saying " Look at that girl in the purple shirt " I knew they weren't talking about me " . Now, I'm BIG, don't get me wrong, and I still cried for the girl they were talking about, but it felt nice not to be pointed out for my weight. Later in the concert, the camera guys even put this girl on the jumbotron. I always knew that obese people were so terribly made fun of, but I guess it is something I was always in denial about, or just didn't like to think about it. Also... I'm about to start feeding my hubby cake. When I had surgery I was abot 30 lbs heavier than JT, now I'm getting smaller, and so is he. Right when I catch up with him, he looses a couple of more lbs. He's lost about 12 lbs since surgery, we're both floating around 255. I WILL BE SKINNIER than HE. No, seriously, I hope that he loses weight right along with me. I've seen before and after pictures of a's husband, and he also looks to have lost a couple of lbs. I do catch myself feeling badly about things I say to . Like the other day, he ate a sub in 2 bites. He's become more aware of what he eats through my experiences. And last night when we went out to eat, I pushed my left overs to him, and he instinctively started eating, and then asked me to remove them. I'm very proud of him. Well, I think that's about it for now...only that I'm still horrible about eating. It's noon, and I haven't had anything to eat today. I'm trying very hard to get out of that old habit, but it isn't working. It seems that something as simple as eating breakfast should be easy compared to altering your digestive system in order to be healthy. in VA 288/253 3/12/01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 17, 2001 Report Share Posted May 17, 2001 Hang in there, . It only gets better and better. Pat recent experiences > > > I went to the Bon Jovi concert Sunday night(had a great time, and > even got backstage passes to meet SR-71). Anyway, even going to this > concert isn't something I would have even CONSIDERED in March. While > waiting for the concert to start, I was standing by some guys who > said " How does some one get that F***ing fat " . Of course I just knew > they were talking about me, and I was crushed, when he continued by > saying " Look at that girl in the purple shirt " I knew they weren't > talking about me " . Now, I'm BIG, don't get me wrong, and I still > cried for the girl they were talking about, but it felt nice not to > be pointed out for my weight. Later in the concert, the camera guys > even put this girl on the jumbotron. I always knew that obese people > were so terribly made fun of, but I guess it is something I was > always in denial about, or just didn't like to think about it. > > Also... I'm about to start feeding my hubby cake. When I had surgery > I was abot 30 lbs heavier than JT, now I'm getting smaller, and so is > he. Right when I catch up with him, he looses a couple of more lbs. > He's lost about 12 lbs since surgery, we're both floating around > 255. I WILL BE SKINNIER than HE. No, seriously, I hope that he loses > weight right along with me. I've seen before and after pictures of > a's husband, and he also looks to have lost a couple of lbs. I > do catch myself feeling badly about things I say to . Like the > other day, he ate a sub in 2 bites. He's become more aware of what > he eats through my experiences. And last night when we went out to > eat, I pushed my left overs to him, and he instinctively started > eating, and then asked me to remove them. I'm very proud of him. > > Well, I think that's about it for now...only that I'm still horrible > about eating. It's noon, and I haven't had anything to eat today. > I'm trying very hard to get out of that old habit, but it isn't > working. It seems that something as simple as eating breakfast > should be easy compared to altering your digestive system in order to > be healthy. > > in VA > 288/253 > 3/12/01 > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 17, 2001 Report Share Posted May 17, 2001 Manda- How was it meeting SR71? You know they used to be " Honor Among Thieves " a band from Baltimore? I think they are awesome (But I wish they still had their long hair!) I know exactly what you mean about the concert thing!! I heard all the comments and stuff. After a while you just want to make yourself invisible! June 9th I am going to my first concert as a post-op. . . The Glam Slam Summer Jam (or something like that) with Poison,Warrant, E'Nuff- z-Nuff, and Quiet Riot. I can't wait to go!!! Enjoy the new experiences!!! I know I am! from PA MGB 10-30-00 372/270/. . . 150-170ish > I went to the Bon Jovi concert Sunday night(had a great time, and > even got backstage passes to meet SR-71). Anyway, even going to this > concert isn't something I would have even CONSIDERED in March. While > waiting for the concert to start, I was standing by some guys who > said " How does some one get that F***ing fat " . Of course I just knew > they were talking about me, and I was crushed, when he continued by > saying " Look at that girl in the purple shirt " I knew they weren't > talking about me " . Now, I'm BIG, don't get me wrong, and I still > cried for the girl they were talking about, but it felt nice not to > be pointed out for my weight. Later in the concert, the camera guys > even put this girl on the jumbotron. I always knew that obese people > were so terribly made fun of, but I guess it is something I was > always in denial about, or just didn't like to think about it. > > Also... I'm about to start feeding my hubby cake. When I had surgery > I was abot 30 lbs heavier than JT, now I'm getting smaller, and so is > he. Right when I catch up with him, he looses a couple of more lbs. > He's lost about 12 lbs since surgery, we're both floating around > 255. I WILL BE SKINNIER than HE. No, seriously, I hope that he loses > weight right along with me. I've seen before and after pictures of > a's husband, and he also looks to have lost a couple of lbs. I > do catch myself feeling badly about things I say to . Like the > other day, he ate a sub in 2 bites. He's become more aware of what > he eats through my experiences. And last night when we went out to > eat, I pushed my left overs to him, and he instinctively started > eating, and then asked me to remove them. I'm very proud of him. > > Well, I think that's about it for now...only that I'm still horrible > about eating. It's noon, and I haven't had anything to eat today. > I'm trying very hard to get out of that old habit, but it isn't > working. It seems that something as simple as eating breakfast > should be easy compared to altering your digestive system in order to > be healthy. > > in VA > 288/253 > 3/12/01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 17, 2001 Report Share Posted May 17, 2001 , Actually I didn't say a word to them. My hubby is a big fan, and I took pictures of him with a couple of the guys. I've got seats to Aerosmith later in the summer, Barenaked Ladies in Bham Alabama in August, and hubby has plans to go to Oz fest in PA with some friends. I almost got tickets to the Poison concert, but decided on Bon Jovi instead. Madonna tickets go onsale tomorrow. They're 250.00 $!!! for good seats!!! I won't be seeing Madonna anytime soon. *lol* Moby is selling right now also, but I'm saving money for the Aerosmith concert. > > I went to the Bon Jovi concert Sunday night(had a great time, and > > even got backstage passes to meet SR-71). Anyway, even going to > this > > concert isn't something I would have even CONSIDERED in March. > While > > waiting for the concert to start, I was standing by some guys who > > said " How does some one get that F***ing fat " . Of course I just > knew > > they were talking about me, and I was crushed, when he continued by > > saying " Look at that girl in the purple shirt " I knew they weren't > > talking about me " . Now, I'm BIG, don't get me wrong, and I still > > cried for the girl they were talking about, but it felt nice not to > > be pointed out for my weight. Later in the concert, the camera > guys > > even put this girl on the jumbotron. I always knew that obese > people > > were so terribly made fun of, but I guess it is something I was > > always in denial about, or just didn't like to think about it. > > > > Also... I'm about to start feeding my hubby cake. When I had > surgery > > I was abot 30 lbs heavier than JT, now I'm getting smaller, and so > is > > he. Right when I catch up with him, he looses a couple of more > lbs. > > He's lost about 12 lbs since surgery, we're both floating around > > 255. I WILL BE SKINNIER than HE. No, seriously, I hope that he > loses > > weight right along with me. I've seen before and after pictures of > > a's husband, and he also looks to have lost a couple of lbs. I > > do catch myself feeling badly about things I say to . Like the > > other day, he ate a sub in 2 bites. He's become more aware of what > > he eats through my experiences. And last night when we went out to > > eat, I pushed my left overs to him, and he instinctively started > > eating, and then asked me to remove them. I'm very proud of him. > > > > Well, I think that's about it for now...only that I'm still > horrible > > about eating. It's noon, and I haven't had anything to eat today. > > I'm trying very hard to get out of that old habit, but it isn't > > working. It seems that something as simple as eating breakfast > > should be easy compared to altering your digestive system in order > to > > be healthy. > > > > in VA > > 288/253 > > 3/12/01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 17, 2001 Report Share Posted May 17, 2001 Manda- I think Mitch is a doll! (from SR71) I am a HUGE Aerosmith fan too! I'm heading to NY this weekend to visit my neice and hope to see some neat bands. Email me offline if you like. . . I think we live relatively close. . . maybe we could meet sometime for dinner or . . .a concert! Email is melissaswatson@.... take care! melissa > > > I went to the Bon Jovi concert Sunday night(had a great time, and > > > even got backstage passes to meet SR-71). Anyway, even going to > > this > > > concert isn't something I would have even CONSIDERED in March. > > While > > > waiting for the concert to start, I was standing by some guys who > > > said " How does some one get that F***ing fat " . Of course I just > > knew > > > they were talking about me, and I was crushed, when he continued > by > > > saying " Look at that girl in the purple shirt " I knew they > weren't > > > talking about me " . Now, I'm BIG, don't get me wrong, and I still > > > cried for the girl they were talking about, but it felt nice not > to > > > be pointed out for my weight. Later in the concert, the camera > > guys > > > even put this girl on the jumbotron. I always knew that obese > > people > > > were so terribly made fun of, but I guess it is something I was > > > always in denial about, or just didn't like to think about it. > > > > > > Also... I'm about to start feeding my hubby cake. When I had > > surgery > > > I was abot 30 lbs heavier than JT, now I'm getting smaller, and > so > > is > > > he. Right when I catch up with him, he looses a couple of more > > lbs. > > > He's lost about 12 lbs since surgery, we're both floating around > > > 255. I WILL BE SKINNIER than HE. No, seriously, I hope that he > > loses > > > weight right along with me. I've seen before and after pictures > of > > > a's husband, and he also looks to have lost a couple of lbs. > I > > > do catch myself feeling badly about things I say to . Like > the > > > other day, he ate a sub in 2 bites. He's become more aware of > what > > > he eats through my experiences. And last night when we went out > to > > > eat, I pushed my left overs to him, and he instinctively started > > > eating, and then asked me to remove them. I'm very proud of him. > > > > > > Well, I think that's about it for now...only that I'm still > > horrible > > > about eating. It's noon, and I haven't had anything to eat > today. > > > I'm trying very hard to get out of that old habit, but it isn't > > > working. It seems that something as simple as eating breakfast > > > should be easy compared to altering your digestive system in > order > > to > > > be healthy. > > > > > > in VA > > > 288/253 > > > 3/12/01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 19, 2001 Report Share Posted May 19, 2001 , You are doing great and getting OUT THERE! I am proud of you! I hate the prejudice we have all felt and I hope the anonymous girl in purple didn't hear those idiots comments. She is probably bigger than them in more ways than one!! Tips on hubby eating... My hubby is king of the leftover. I have had to learn to not make as much...I've cooked for 3 for too long and always overcooked then. This is an ongoing thing, but I DO have a great tip for eating out~~ ORDER ONLY ONE THING! It saves money, sure to appeal to him if he's like my guy, and it makes HIM make wiser food choices and it actually extracts a little from his oversized portion! Let's face it, restaurants serve us WAY too much food, which I personally loved them for in a previous life ) , but now that we KNOW we don't need a full platter to eat just to exist, we should also know that our hubbies don't need one and a half or more, which is what they get if we both order! I love my tubby hubby just as he is, but don't want him to think that because I cannot eat as much means he should eat more...so far, he has thought that. So I am working hard to make sure I don't do what a lot of anorexics do: Love others with the food I myself cannot embrace! LOVE YA~~ Keep up the great fun and go get em spirit! in ARk 3-08 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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